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I think this guy is very sexy. Also goes by Steve Q/Steve Quin. I'm kind of surprised he would place a Rentmen ad since I assume he makes a good living creating porn. I notice his list of "intos" includes muscle but not daddy or bear, so maybe he's just looking for jock types who might agree to film with him?

I know tans aren't healthy and I couldn't get a decent tan if I tried, but I do like seeing men's asses when they have that classic Speedo tan line.

I'm not sure, but it might be Oliver Marks.

Here's my take on it from a client's perspective: You don't live and work in places where sex work is legal, so I'd be circumspect with some answers. Hell, I wouldn't volunteer specific information with respect to the economics of being a sex worker regardless of legality. I've watched some YouTube videos where the interviewee was doing sex work but obviously not doing so well. I assume your success in this business will prevent you from coming across that way, but I always feel bad when watching someone's video where their misery is palpable and I imagine the only reason they are baring their soul is they are being paid to do so.

Some people definitely have thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are in conflict without seeming to suffer too much cognitive dissonance. I wouldn't assume that someone having a strong connection to an organized religion to be free of behaviors that that religion might rail against, which still includes being gay (not just working as an escort) for many religions.

Odd with respect to the date. My post was based on an eBay listing for this magazine, so clearly that seller got it wrong.

Correction -- I think it's October 2024.

Sad. It wasn't clear from the article (unless I missed it) whether he was the one murdered or the one who shot himself.

I don't frequently see retirement mention in ads, but I do remember that two escorts I never met but who had excellent reputations on this forum retired within the past year or so and both of them announced their retirement in their ads on Rentmen for several months prior to their ads disappearing. (One was Nicolas Mixx and the other -- whose name I don't remember -- might have been his partner.)

It's new to me as well. I looked up "lemonade drug reference" and am still confused because it seems like it could refer to more than one thing, but I guess the most common meaning is a mixture of lemonade powder and dextromethorphan (DXM). If that's what Axiom was referring to, that sure sounds like PNP to me.

Only use porn sites with some heavy duty pop-up blockers. I use a Windows pc, not Apple, so your options might be different but I use both Ghostery and an ad blocker. If a porn site requires me to turn off blockers to work, then I simply don't use that site. In the event a pop up makes it through, I've learned that if you cannot close the window normally that it's important to use the operating system to force close the window. Never click on any button that presents itself as "close" or something like that because it very well might execute a command to install a virus, not close that window.

I will say first that I've always thought you were very attractive and, based on these photos, you still are. I'm not sure why you have so many new photos with your tongue sticking out. That look isn't particularly attractive to me, so maybe only one or two of those would be better and definitely don't use one of those as the first photo displayed in the ad. I think all of the other photos are fine with a couple of exceptions. Maybe get rid of the ones that look too amateurish (e.g., like the last one that is a grainy selfie). If you don't want to spend the money on a professional photographer, I assume that you have a friend that could take some photos or that some client would agree to photograph you during an appointment. (I am not suggesting bartering that service; a few times I took a lot of photos of a guy I hired regularly and I was simply happy to do it in order to have a lot more photos of him for my collection. )

I couldn't read the article, but two thoughts come to mind on the subject: I can understand a couple remaining married after one realizes they are gay, and not just duplicitously. I had a therapist decades ago who was gay but still married to his wife of a couple of decades because they had a strong friendship and didn't want to disrupt their family. Some people marry for reasons other than sex and love. I knew a gay man and a lesbian who -- again decades ago -- married each other to get their families off their backs and to ensure they wouldn't be cut out of their parents' wills due to being gay. If this article is about two people getting married where he already knows he's gay and she's straight, unless it's done for some practical reason it does seem odd to me.

I haven't met the guy, but even the photos he uses reveal that he cannot possibly be 43. He could probably claim 53 and not raise too much suspicion (again, just based on the photos), but there's no way that's the face of a 43-year-old.

I wonder if it just seems creepy to us as gay men. I can imagine that whoever made this decision back then simply didn't even think about whether either the younger or older men were gay, so to them it just seemed like two men sharing sleeping quarters with no notion that sexual attraction/attention would enter the picture.

Yes, I thought about it after I posted. I didn't mean to give the impression that the guy has no standards. I just meant that I've seen content he's filmed with guys who aren't especially lean and whom he described as "older," though I have no idea what his upper age limit is.

I'm sure most of us have been rejected many times. One that stands out in my mind occurred about 30 years ago -- in other words, shortly before the internet started to get used by the masses. I don't remember how we first communicated, but it was probably via a personal ad in a gay newspaper. At any rate, I don't think we had exchanged photos but we had a nice, long conversation and the phone and agreed that we had a lot in common so we might become friends even if we didn't click physically. We set a date for him to come over to my apartment to pick me up to drive to the beach. When I opened the door to walk down the steps to meet him, he immediately said "this isn't going to work" and he walked away. I remember laughing because it was so absurd, even though my ego was obviously also bruised a bit. He was attractive but not exceptionally so, so that softened the blow. That was one of my early lessons as a gay man that even if a guy on a dating app or platform says he's open to making friends, he likely won't actually be interested in becoming friends unless he also wants to have sex with you.

I've seen a lot of his videos and they feature a variety of looks in terms of scene partners (including some older bears), so even though the guy isn't available to hire he may be approachable in terms of collaborations as long as you're willing to be filmed. Some of his videos features guys wearing masks/hoods, so one wouldn't even necessarily reveal one's face in order to become a content creator.

I'm confused as to why he agreed to come over with an exit plan already in place since you wrote that you had already met for an extended coffee date. I think most men would simply decline the second date. Did something happen during your half hour breakfast that would make him want to leave? I mean, you yourself wrote that you were "glad that he left," so it sounds like things weren't going as well as during your initial coffee date.

The relevance of how long someone has been a member is simply that others here have little idea who you are. For example, you could be someone who's been active on the site for a long time but decided to create a new profile simply to promote a specific point of view or specific provider while not having your posts tied to your well known identity. At the end of the day, this deposit or no deposit issue will never be resolved to everyone's satisfaction. It's clearly in the provider's benefit as long as he has sufficient business to make up for the loss of some clients who never pay a deposit. For a variety of reasons (privacy and concerns about being scammed being the top two) some clients will never pay a deposit. It isn't like either side is incorrect, even if some of the arguments for requiring a deposit are far off the mark. But I think even the "no deposits ever" clients here will acknowledge that a provider can run his business how he wants to (charge a higher than market rate, require a deposit, require a face photograph, etc), and they can simply book a different provider if they don't like those policies.

1. A client might also lose money if the escort flakes -- travel expenses and hotel expenses if he is hosting but cannot host where he lives. You might argue that losing money you already earned is not as bad as not getting income you were promised, but they're basically the same thing in the sense that both are losing money. The main difference would be for a provider that has no savings so the loss of income might result in him not being able to pay his bills. 2. For some of us, we don't have partners and it might not be that easy to open a hook-up app to find someone who interests us and is interested in us. Even the suggestion that a client can just hire another escort at the last minute isn't really true as lots of providers aren't available at the drop of a hat.

Same here. I think it's worse for the party that's planning to bottom -- all of that prep for a no show is irritating. Not that it isn't irritating anyway, but to have spent time preparing to bottom only to be ghosted is so frustrating.

The problem with that advice is that there are a lot of legitimate clients who won't pay a deposit unless it's for an extended booking, so that strategy will likely result in far fewer clients.

It isn't just clients' opinions about providers that aren't private. Anything you post here isn't private, unless the forum has changed since it moved to "companyofmen.org." I remember years ago that I showed a provider how his real identity could be figured out because he disclosed so many details of his private life here that if someone searched for that information (for example, I was the CEO at XYZ company in the 2000s) one of the search results would be that escort's postings about having held that job, connected, of course, to his escort persona here. He had no idea. So, as others have written, PMs aren't even necessarily private since they can obviously be shared, but at least they aren't searchable (to my knowledge). Anything that gets posted publicly here or anywhere isn't private and never has been.

Your thread title already has the answer -- it's a scammer profile. The very last text bubble you included reads, in part, "we can build a good home together as one" wouldn't be written in an initial text by any individual who is actually seeking a relationship. It's just a classic come-on, hoping to find someone desperate and naive enough to fall into fantasy land quickly and then respond affirmatively when asked for money. The extensive list of what they are allegedly looking for is another clue, compiled to attract the highest number of men but which breaks down a bit when analyzed. For example, the guy is looking for a chub or super chub but is also looking for a chaser; does that mean he's a chub and wants another chub? So, he's looking for both a sir and a boy, and a pup and pup handler. Don't men typically want to play a certain role in a relationship if they are into role playing like this, or is it common that a guy will want to be the boy or pup one moment and then the sir or pup handler the next?