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I generally think relying on Rentmen reviews makes no sense unless you can look at the individual reviewers and determine that they are legit. Two reviews is definitely too little to mean much of anything. That being said, I think the risk of a Rentmen ad being law enforcement entrapment is lower than the risk of it just being a con man trying to extract money from people without performing any service.

I hadn't previously heard of "MassageBook," but it turns out it's a specific site where some people advertise. Interestingly, in my area at least, it isn't the same providers who advertise on other massage sites. It very well may be a legit provider and that's just how the site MassageBook works (collecting $$$ upfront and a percentage goes to the site?), but I don't see anything on the site which would cause me to think that every provider there is necessarily honest and thus can be trusted. By that I mean it seems to me a complete scammer could use that site just like he could any other. Since I also have a no-deposit rule, I wouldn't book through that site.

It depends on how far out the misrepresentation was. If the guy is reasonably similar (maybe just slightly heavier or older or something), I've frequently just gone through with the appointment. If the misrepresentation is more significant, I simply tell them that they don't resemble the person I contacted and I leave without paying anything. Fortunately I have only had to do that a couple of times. I want to address one of the things you mentioned, though: rotten teeth. This is the kind of thing that I think deserves extra consideration on the part of the client before hiring someone if the straightness of someone's teeth is going to turn them off such that they want to cancel the appointment. I'm not referring to literally rotting teeth that would make someone's breath horrible. I think that if this is important to you then hire only guys who have at least one photo showing their smile with an open mouth, or ask them about it before hiring them. I don't think it's a misrepresentation for an escort to fail to mention in his ad that he could benefit from orthodontia; he might not really be bothered by his teeth and doesn't really think about how others might perceive them. This isn't like how much body fat someone has; that's going to be somewhat apparent, even if the guy is clothed, as long as he has recent photos.

Here's a summary from the previous thread that's linked above: The men who've met Alex report that he's very good, attentive, versatile, etc. There were a number of people who reported that he either never replied to their texts or that he initially responded but then stopped replying. I'm guessing with a guy this well known that he has so many inquiries that some people will end up being ignored. I really like a lot of his porn and am happy to see that clients report that he's engaged with them as he appears to be on camera.

First of all it's important to remember that just because a post about an escort purports to be from a client doesn't necessarily make that true. I was researching a provider yesterday and found a thread from a year ago where one person chimed in to offer high praise. Another member responded, "Welcome to the forum," which is an indirect way of questioning the veracity of the post since it might actually just be the provider or someone who's friends with him creating an account here to drum up business. Turns out that person made no other post on this site after that first one. How likely is it that someone would join a site like this just to post one glowing review of one provider? As to being skeptical about legitimate praises posted by genuine clients, as others have written it may just be that they had great chemistry with someone that won't necessarily translate to every client that provider sees. This is true for everything in life. I might love a particular restaurant and someone else will find it lacking; it doesn't make either of us right or wrong. One of my biggest disappointments in hiring was with someone who had glowing reviews on the previous site (back in Hooboy's days). For me he showed up a bit late, sweaty and couldn't get hard. I suspect he was coming down from a meth binge. I didn't review him since my experience was such an outlier.

I can sort of understand his perspective if at the outset you had a clear negotiation to see him on a discounted basis due to your economic situation at the time; he may feel like you continued to take advantage of a discount that you no longer needed, and at the same time paid another provider more. That being said, as others have written it's this guy's responsibility to set his rate and if he wasn't satisfied to be paid the discounted rate by you on an ongoing basis he should have communicated to you that you'd have to start paying more. As others have written, it does seem like this is about more than money, though. It sounds like he has a fragile ego and your behavior (paying a discounted rate to him while paying more to someone else) has been interpreted by him as an indication that you think he's less worthy. I stepped on a weird land mine once while trying to schedule a first time appointment with someone. We were having what I considered to be a pleasant back-and-forth chat online in anticipation of meeting and I made some comment about how I liked one of his porn scenes a lot because his scene partner was so sexy. I guess he took that as me saying he wasn't as sexy as the other guy and blasted me for insulting him. He then blocked me. I could sort of understand my faux pas after the fact, but I really wasn't trying to convey that he was less sexy than the other guy. I wouldn't have been pursuing an appointment with him if I didn't find him sexy.

While I agree that paying up front is never wise, I also don't think that the suggestion that this can allow someone to withhold payment after a session has completed is ethically wrong. If you get on someone's table and he has no skills, then get up relatively quickly, tell him you aren't satisfied with his skills, pay a portion of the fee and leave. If you stay, however, and endure whatever the provider has to give then you should pay the agreed-upon rate. When it comes to the "extras," that's where it can get more murky. If you really want the extras, it's best to just hire an escort. If you want specific extras but want them from someone advertising as a masseur, it's best to clearly address expectations up front so you can focus your hiring on guys who are willing to give you what you want.

The reality is that most men will respond sexually if their genitals are being manipulated (assuming they don't have any sort of erectile dysfunction), even if they aren't attracted to the person doing the manipulation. It's just biology. As to whether you're bi, only you know. Were you turned on by the woman (her face, her body) or were you just horny and anyone would have sufficed?

I was only addressing the issue of how to respond to a fire, not any behaviors that would start a fire in the first place.

Flailing a towel at a fire has to be the worst thing one could do apart from throwing an accelerant like gasoline on it.

That's absurd that he uses that. I cannot imagine what clients think unless the actual massage is minimal and it's mostly being used as a lubricant.

Do you actually mean Vaseline as in petroleum jelly by itself, or one of their moisturizer/lotions that also contains other ingredients? I can imagine someone using the latter, but the former sounds like it would be exceptionally greasy when used all over. (Great for a sexual lubricant if you're not using condoms and even recommended by dermatologists to cover small wounds while they are healing, but I've never heard of someone wanting to use it on the entire body.) Not that it matters, I guess, because the other negatives would make me stay away anyway.

Almost everything about his ad, other than his photos, is unappealing.

I clicked on this video because the object owner looked so hot. Once the video started playing, I immediately recognized him as Ryan Reynolds. I didn't know he had done a film where there was an Antiques Roadshow spoof in it.

I wouldn't expect a "new" filter to show "new to that city," only actually new ads. If you think about the complexity of what you think "new" should do, it would not only have to rely on a data field like "date ad created" (which it does) but also keep track of every ad that's ever appeared in any given location and then only show ads that have never been displayed in that city in the past.

Money is another thing to consider. Just reading between the lines, it doesn't sound like your partner is the kind of escort who developed a highly successful career and then managed to invest his proceeds to secure his future. (I am writing this just based on him having stopped escorting but then going back to it because "his circumstances" prevent him from doing anything else.) Are you okay with him being financially dependent on you as you grow older? I obviously don't know you or your partner, but is substance use part of the picture? Is that a factor in why he chooses to escort (for some, drugs and sex go hand-in-hand) or in the "circumstances" that make it difficult for him to get other employment?

Wow, tough crowd. I don't find his answers that off-putting. Very rare is the interview portion on Rentmen interesting and this guy's is no exception, but I find his answers pretty standard "I have to write something and this is Rentmen, so I'm going to write about my physical appearance, traveling, and partying." I guess I'm saying that if I was interested in hiring him, his answers wouldn't sway my decision.

I'll ask the obvious (at least to me) question: How does one get to the point of being engaged without knowing something as basic as what each other does for a living, or even as a side-hustle?

Happy birthday to Dick Van Dyke. BTW, the kid who played the son was Larry Mathews and he is still alive (and 70 years old).

If you want warmth in California during the winter, better not to risk northern California. Yes, sometimes we get nice weather during the winter (I remember my first Christmas in San Francisco since I was able to sit outside in a short-sleeved shirt and not feel cold), but lately it's been a chilly mid 50s for a high and a chilly mid 40s for a low. Sure, that isn't Chicago cold but it feels cold to me now, particularly anywhere near the water with the cold wind blowing in. I contrast that to Los Angeles right now, where the high today will be around 80.

I agree with the above suggestions, should you find yourself in this position again: Arrange for him to leave as soon as possible, tell him why you are dismissing him early, and then leave a negative review. If he was just being entitled but not threatening to withhold service that's the basis of your engagement, I would suggest just having a frank discussion. With someone like this, though, that's just throwing good after bad since I doubt he would perform well once his demands weren't being met. I'm puzzled that anyone would hire someone he's never met before for a longer than overnight session (and even that is a risk for an unknown escort). Or, at the very least, it seems like a more detailed discussion regarding expectations needs to happen before the trip is even scheduled.

On a more serious note, what's the angle of this scam? Are they hoping you'll give them your bank's routing number and account number because you believe they'll send you money and then they steal from you?

One of my least erotic massages was from a guy who had multiple paragraphs of highly suggestive text, plenty of provocative photos, and a rate that was close to what an escort would charge. He left his shirt and shorts on the entire time and recoiled when I made any attempt to touch him (such as his legs as he stood by the table). I figured out that he was a con artist when the session ended after a poor therapeutic massage and nothing more. Maybe had I been the guy's "type" he would have provided what he advertised, but I'll never know. On the other hand, I hired plenty of masseurs who had oral sex with me (and sometimes even anal) who just placed run-of-the-mill erotic massage ads. So, to echo the above, don't make assumptions based on what a masseur writes in his ad.

No, my regulars just have online loyalty apps where I can download coupons and accumulate points for discounts on future visits.

Play it by ear. You have no reason to doubt that he was genuinely interested in you, so go with that assumption until/unless you get an indication otherwise. If you don't hear from him and you do reach out to him, it would be best for you to just be direct about your last interaction and ask him if he's interested in seeing you in a non-professional capacity as he indicated. You definitely don't want to find yourself there at the end of whatever transpires with him expecting payment and you thinking you had a date.