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A lot of providers have left A4A. In San Francisco there used to be several pages of "Pros." Currently there is about 1 1/2 pages of providers within San Francisco, and then some other ones in other Bay Area locations.

I'm not necessarily recommending this guy since (a) I hired him 15 or 20 years ago and (b) it wasn't the most satisfying encounter I ever had, mostly due to the guy's aloofness, but I still remember how large his cock was -- length and girth. WestCoastMike

I agree with that. It's why I reply with a "it's been too long for me to tell you much" statement when I get a PM about someone I met years ago.

Not for me. Does this guy really change his name that often?

Well, unless he was joking (and it doesn't sound like that was the case), it sounds like he at least finds your body sexy. I'd interpret his unsolicited compliment as flirtatious, but depending on what you mean by "hitting on me" that may or may not have been happening. Sometimes people make flirtatious comments but they don't want to actually follow through with any sexual interaction.

I don't live in the EU, but given that VPN hides location information that might be a work-around. As to why this is happening, it's actually the US websites that are blocking traffic from the EU because they don't want to abide by Europe's stricter privacy laws. https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/25/business/media/europe-privacy-gdpr-us.html

Just worked for me using Chrome on a Windows 10 laptop, wifi at home.

Well, if she knew who I was and kept stalking me I might have pursued that. Given that this occurred in a neighborhood I don't frequent, I wasn't worried about her continuing to harass me once I got far enough away from her that she couldn't keep following me.

I would change that to "Don't talk to the police if there is a chance you broke the law." Getting paid by someone and having sex at the same time is illegal most everywhere in the USA, so it's obviously good advice for an escort or masseur to not discuss their work with the police. Tangential story: A couple of years ago, I was a "suspect" in the police's eyes because some delusional woman accused me of stealing a change purse from her. The situation was actually very odd. I had just stepped off a bus and suddenly this crazy woman confronted me, saying I had bent over and taken the change purse she had just dropped. I assured her that I didn't bend over, didn't pick up anything, and had no idea what she was talking about. I went to dinner with a friend, and then to a bookstore. In the bookstore, my friend said to me: "Isn't that the woman who accused you of stealing her purse?" I looked over and, sure enough, it was her and she was on the phone with the police giving a description of me. We left the store and a police car pulled up with their lights flashing. I knew what was going on, so I stopped and just told the cop exactly what happened. It was odd to be put in a position to be frisked on a busy public street, but I understood they were just doing their job. They took my driver's license and discovered I had no record. When they decided to let me go, I told the policeman that I wanted to make sure that they let my friend and I get far enough away before they let the crazy woman go as it creeped me out that she had managed to follow us for over an hour while we walked around a neighborhood with neither my friend nor me noticing her. I think the cop was a little surprised by my request, but I explained that I didn't want to leave the theater my friend and I were on our way to in a couple of hours only to find her again. Who knew that what lengths this crazy person would go to retrieve her change purse from me that I didn't have?

It isn't that person's position to prove anything. That's the responsibility of police in terms of the arrest, and then prosecutors if it goes to trial. As I speculated up thread, we don't know what other information law enforcement has on this masseur. If there is no evidence of a crime other than the client's statements, I doubt this will get very far in the legal justice system.

While I'm inclined to join the chorus of outrage and assume that the masseur did nothing wrong, I'll play devil's advocate: Suppose the client really did just want a therapeutic massage. He used an app not known for erotic massages, not Rentmasseur. Even if the client got an erection while being massage (and we don't know whether that happened), that doesn't mean the client wanted sex. Physiological arousal doesn't always mean someone's mental status is congruent with that. So maybe the masseur just misread the situation or, worse, charged ahead without any indication that the client wanted more than a therapeutic massage. As to it taking so long to arrest the guy, that could mean a lot of things. It sounds like the client reported the incident to police right away, so perhaps they didn't make it a priority right away. Or maybe the police were attempting to set up a sort-of sting to catch the same masseur doing something similar with a different client so the case wouldn't be just the word of two people. As to holding the guy without bond, there may be other factors involved in that decision such as criminal history. I think we are all inclined to think that nothing wrong could have happened other than the client freaking out because we are members of a site that discusses escorts and masseurs. And while I'm inclined to view the client's reaction as way overboard and am skeptical of the treatment of the masseur (i.e., is he being treated differently because this involved gay sex?), I'm also not willing to just jump to conclusions based on the very little information presented in that article.

Your last paragraph is interesting. Assuming it involved a client, I'm not sure I understand your response. Surely some guys hire because they have some sexual issues and it's easier for them to be with a professional who (hopefully) will help them figure things out. It sounds to me like this guy was into you (he wouldn't have resumed repeatedly otherwise), but for whatever reason had a hard time letting go and just enjoying the moment. If his discomfort was due to bottoming, maybe that's something he's still working on. If it was just discomfort being with someone in an intimate way in general, that's an even bigger struggle. I guess I don't understand why any provider would get annoyed with a client like that instead of simply recognizing that he was in a position to help a guy explore intimacy in whatever way he could. I could understand getting annoyed and wanting to end things if it was a hookup. In a provider-client situation, though, I'd suggest that having an open mind and heart when with someone who seems to be struggling is just part of an escort's job. Unless, of course, you don't want to provide a service to clients like that and simply view your service as giving a "wham bam thank you man" to horny men.

Another guy whose photo needs to display here (and the original link didn't work for me anyway). What a hunk!

Just cuz I think he's cute and his photo deserves to be seen by people who don't want to click a link that doesn't indicate where it leads, here's an embedded photo of meteorologist Shane Hinton.

A lot of guys advertise on both Rentmen and Rentmasseur, and I've always viewed it as this: Rentmen is for men who know they want a full service experience. Rentmasseur is for men who want a more than spa type of massage but aren't necessarily looking for full service. If a guy's base rate for massage is the same as his escort rate, then clearly his focus isn't massage. A guy with a lower rate on Rentmasseur than on Rentmen is likely providing a different service depending on where the client found him. I'm not bothered by this at all. What is bothersome to me are ads that clearly focus on the erotic aspect of the massage that end up being both a poor therapeutic massage and lacking in any sort of eroticism.

You pay for a VPN service because you want all of your internet activity to use the service to which you subscribe. As others have written, you don't need to pay for the Hide.me proxy service.

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Do you have a source for that data other than your hunch or belief based on men you have had sex with? I am asking because I couldn't find anything recent with respect to prep use among sexually active gay men, and the most recent data I could find (which is about five years old) indicated around half of white men who have sex with men were on prep but far, far fewer men of color were. I'd frankly be surprised if it's anywhere near 99% since no health initiative reaches that level of success. We couldn't even reach that level of compliance with occasional mask wearing.

I occasionally am in the Tenderloin because there are some good restaurants there. When I first moved to San Francisco, I lived in the Tendernob. Some blocks are definitely sketchier than others, and in general the entire area is much worse now than it was 20 or 30 years ago.

I live just south of Market, not far from city hall. I'd say that San Francisco has declined significantly in many neighborhoods. I still generally feel safe walking around during the day, but sometimes I do encounter someone who is either in some sort of mental health breakdown or active substance use reaction that makes them act aggressively. It's definitely best to pay attention to your surroundings and do something simple like cross the street if your sense is that someone ahead of you is agitated. That being said, it isn't like residents or visitors are being attacked left-and-right so I don't want to create an inaccurate picture that this is an incredibly dangerous place to be. I do think that burglaries -- particularly auto break-ins -- are out of control. That really isn't anything new here, though; it's just even worse than it used to be. If you rent a car for your visit, you must remember to never leave anything in your car. Don't even leave an empty bag or something of minimal value. If someone who is inclined to "smash and grab" sees something in your car, they will break your window and snatch your item first, and then just toss it if it's worthless. They don't care that they caused hundreds of dollars of damage only to find out that they stole your dirty gym clothes.

I don't find it puzzling. There are all sorts of reasons why someone would be willing to bareback when making porn: It sells better. They can, if they desire, make sure everyone does a rapid test before filming. They have an opportunity to know their partners better. There are all sorts of reasons why someone might not choose to bareback with a client: No economic benefit to it. Don't know the other person's health/sexual history. Don't want to have bareback sex with 100 men per year, just a chosen few other performers. Besides that, just because someone claims he uses condoms with clients doesn't mean that he always uses condoms with clients. I've had escorts who selected "Safe Sex Only" in their ad try to bareback me. I've seen ads where that selection is changed frequently between "Safe Sex Only" and the other two options, "Ask Me" or "Anything Goes." I'm not sure what that's about. Testing the market to see if one response leads to more inquiries? Knowing that they currently have something so they want to use condoms temporarily? Fluidity with respect to their adherence to wearing condoms for anal sex?

Your story reminds me of my first trip to Puerto Vallarta. I'll skip the irrelevant details. I'll just say that the person who showed me to my room showed me a lot more once his shift ended a half hour later. I've dated a few guys I met in non-gay-focused places. One while waiting for a bus. One in a straight bar (my two female friends were convinced he was straight and was looking in our direction because he was interested in one of them, so they were disappointed when he ended up coming on to me). A few at work.

The prepubescent me definitely liked some of the young male pop idols my sister liked, but I couldn't speak that to anyone at the time. I really had a crush on Donny Osmond at the same time she did. Fast forward a few years when I entered puberty and I definitely had the hots for the middle boy on The Brady Bunch -- Peter, played by Christopher Knight -- who was about two years older than me. Looking back on it, though, I kind of wonder whether some of my favorite TV shows had more to do with the handsome male actors than the shows themselves. Could Kent McCord have been why I liked Adam 12 so much? Why was I so drawn to Don Grady's "Robbie Douglas" character on My Three Sons when there were kids on that show much closer to my age? Ditto Wally, played by Tony Dow, on Leave It To Beaver. Now, some of these shows have aged well enough that they are still shown regularly today, so one might argue that I simply liked these shows. But when I look back on my early childhood it really does seem that my favorite actors on my favorite shows were all visually compelling.

Is it necessarily a waste of time to have a conversation with another man when it doesn't ultimately lead to sex?

This thread about Cade was started about four and a half years ago. Clearly he holds some people's interest that he's still being discussed nearly half a decade later. I've personally always found him hot. I've seen him in a couple of scenes where he seemed detached, but mostly he looks like he'd be a fun top to spend time with. The fact that his rate is too high for my budget doesn't change that.