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1. You should request that his reviews be removed. 2. He really put you in a horrible position. Many years ago a new boss did the same to me and I'll admit that I was less patient with him than you were with this client. I basically told him that I wasn't equipped to help him with his wanting to kill himself and said that if he was serious then I would have to call 911 right then so a crisis team could come assess him and take him to the hospital if need be. He didn't want me to do that and told me that he was just upset. I was sympathetic but told him he needed to seek out professional counseling. In the end, he was just an emotionally manipulative SOB for whom I had the misfortune of working for a year or so.

Given the lockdowns that began in early March 2020, I'm not surprised to see a lot more escorts two years later.

That posting does sound like a specific event. I assume if it's successful, they would repeat it. I'm not sure what the problem is unless the schedule becomes so unpredictable that customers stop patronizing the club because they never know what that night's event will be. In other words, if a guy only wants to show up on a male only night it makes sense for that to be a predictable night. I assume others won't mind attending mixed gender nights even if they aren't bisexual. I never went to San Francisco's Power Exchange sex club, but from what I heard there was a male only floor, a mixed gender floor, and a female only floor, offering patrons the ability to check out different scenes. I think they were quite successful with that model, though they did ultimately close for some reason.

I agree. He looks attractive in the photos in his Rentmasseur ad, but somehow they don't really capture how sexy he is. I remember having that "wow" feeling when I first met him, and I wouldn't say I've had that feeling with most escorts and masseurs I've hired.

No, he's just chosen a new name on Rentmen. I cannot remember exactly what it is, but it's something that conveys the notion "I'm the hottest guy on here." So humble.

At $800/hour as an escort and $500/hour as a masseur, I suspect most of us aren't willing to take a risk. I can understand a well known guy commanding that rate, but not some garden variety (albeit attractive) young man.

Cutie, but he looks a bit more twunkish than twinkish to me. That isn't a criticism as twunks can be appealing, too. My favorite twink hire ever was a UCLA student who only occasionally advertised on Craigslist 20 years ago. I responded to one of his posts and he became a regular for a few years. He had a very cute face, a very nice body for a twink (a little muscular, but still small enough to remain in the twink category), a nice personality, and was fun in bed. I offered to post a positive review of him on the old site but he wanted to remain on the DL, only having a few regular clients to see when he was on breaks from school. I still occasionally look at the photo I took of him fresh from the shower and fondly remember all of the loads I swallowed from him.

I assume Mileage May Vary, though I have usually heard it as "your mileage may vary." Typically it means that if the escort is into the client then that client will receive good service but others to whom the escort has no physical attraction will receive lesser service.

I don't know where anyone got the notion that all drag queens do is lip sync. Even the ones that focus on that in terms of their performances also put together their looks. Part of a drag show is the visual. Beyond that, however, there are many drag queens who have started making music. To my ears, most of them shouldn't be singing but that's true of many people making pop records. Others focus on their comedic skills. I saw Ru Paul's Drag Race Season Six winner Bianca Del Rio in person and she had me laughing nonstop for over an hour. San Francisco based drag queen Peaches Christ has long been doing drag parodies of cult favorite films. Of course, if someone is "tired of" drag queens the simple solution is to change the channel or go to a different bar if what's on offer is a drag show.

Most providers I've hired haven't counted money in front of me. I'll admit that it does feel kind of tacky to see someone counting the bills after I've handed them to him, only because the service is so personal. I have to remind myself that I expect a store clerk or a bank teller to actually look at what I hand them, so it certainly isn't unreasonable for an escort to count what he's being paid or even for them to use one of those markers that easily identifies fake currency. What I wouldn't do is accept someone's statement after the fact that he was given counterfeit bills by me. Why should I acquiesce to someone's request for more money on the basis that I gave him counterfeit bills unless I have reason to believe that's true (such as looking in my wallet and discovering that I have more counterfeit currency). Even if the guy is honest, he may have gotten the counterfeit bills from someone else. Or maybe he's just a scammer and figures this is a good way to get paid more. Unless he's a regular, I have no reason to trust him more than I trust my bank to ensure that only legal tender is in its ATMs. I did underpay a regular once. He told me about it after he left since he never counted my payment in front of me, and I made good on my "balance due" the next time I saw him.

I don't think it's appropriate for anyone to suggest what treatment this guy needs (or doesn't need) based on his Rentmen ad and speculation here. For the sake of argument let's assume that what he is reporting is delusional and has no basis in reality. That could be entirely due to substance abuse; remove the drug use and the psychosis might resolve itself. Or maybe he's sober and has had a psychotic break. The point is, we don't know what's going on because, even if we have professional experience working with mental illness, we haven't personally evaluated this person and know next to nothing about him.

He believes the FBI is involved in his being trafficked? Or am I misunderstanding him? I don't know what to make of his ad. Assuming that he is actually being trafficked and hasn't yet been connected with any organization that will help him, I hope he finds the help he needs. He's in Chicago, not some small town, so I assume that he should be able to find assistance. The notion that people who "used him while unconscious" should submit a report to the police and Department of Homeland Security is just bizarre. Clearly anyone who would take advantage of someone sexually when they are unconscious is not going to self-report that to any law enforcement agency. I guess he thinks that if the police get reports that corroborate his claim that he's being trafficked versus willingly doing sex work, maybe that will benefit him somehow (maybe legally)?

I just don't understand the premise of your story. These two brothers don't want to do this, but they came up with the idea and presented it to you -- presumably out of the blue because you said the thought of being with them together hadn't even entered your mind? Assuming what you wrote is true (not calling you a liar, but what you wrote does read more like the beginning of a bad erotic short story than a telling of real life events), if you want to go through with it then go ahead. How are you making them do something they don't want to do if they came up with the scenario, including the limits? None of it sounds particularly exciting to me as I've never had the fantasy of doing it with brothers or twins.

Actually, she was uncharacteristically quiet which was fine with me. She probably couldn't bring herself to be nice, so she said very little of note beyond acknowledging the natural beauty in the Bay Area and wine country in the north bay in particular.

I haven't taken that kind of sh** from anyone since I was 18. When my stepmother was bad mouthing me at the Thanksgiving table, I told her to mind her own business since she raised a daughter and son to be thieves. When she raised her hand to slap me, I stood up and told her I would beat the sh** out of her if she laid a hand on me. (Anyone who knows me knows how uncharacteristic that is of me. This was a truly horrible woman.) Many years later, shortly before her death, when my father discussed them visiting me in California I told him point blank that at the first negative comment I would leave them on their own, wherever we were, and I wouldn't see them again the rest of the trip. I told him to only make the travel plans if he knew he could convince her to not be her usually nasty self. I came out while still in high school in the 1970s in a very small town in the midwest. I'm not interested in allowing someone else's bigotry into my personal space. I'd rather become estranged from family members if their thinking is so twisted that they think it's loving to insult and harass me.

Guess what? Most people who work are "controlled" by others to some extent, whether it's their boss, a legal system that dictates appropriate behavior in their profession, the customers/clients who pay them, etc. I'm sure I wouldn't continue to get paid if I told management where I work that I was now going to only do what I wanted because I was no longer interested in being "controlled" by them. I know that escorting is a much more personal line of work so the "controlling" might be perceived as even worse, but personally I have to chuckle at the notion that someone would think a request to remove nail polish is an attempt to control. It's a request, one that can be denied. If you're a provider who wants to keep his nails polished, then simply tell the client you won't do that and then the client can choose to move on. It really isn't that hard. "Controlling" to me conveys something a lot more significant -- like coercing someone to do something they don't want to do by threat, intimidation, or inducing some mind altering substance to the scene. Like a pimp exploiting someone sexually, or someone attempting to blackmail the other party, or someone forcing or manipulating someone to put their health at risk. There sure is a lot of histrionics here, attempting to equate a rather benign request (can you remove nail polish, not can you take a knife and slash your torso 10 times because I like the sight of blood) to some hugely offensive act that requires castigation.

If you are referring to Rentmen reviews, I don't put much stock in those. Maybe a lot of those reviewers didn't leave comments because they cannot see them in other reviews they've read (i.e., they don't know they can use a VPN as a work-around to see the written reviews), so they just assume it's standard practice to leave a rating and that's it. At any rate, I'm much more likely to give weight to feedback here unless it's posted by someone with no history of commenting on other providers.

I agree that it's petty to send someone on his way, after he's prepared himself for an appointment and traveled to a client's residence/hotel, simply due to something like nail polish. I agree that if that issue is so important to a client that he should screen for that in advance, not at the moment someone shoes up in person. Or pay for the service you requested if you decide to cancel at the last minute. The rest of it is just intellectual nonsense. Unless we're going to start arguing that all sexual preferences are wrong, that we should all find every person potentially sexy, then just accept that people have their likes and dislikes and that sometimes those are congruent with dominant culture messaging but other times they are not. Kudos to those who truly are more open to a wide variety of people, and I think the best escorts are those who are able to see the sexiness in a much wider array of people than most of us can.

Asking someone to change a feature like nail polish or even facial hair where the provider has photos posted that shows both states (polish and no polish, clean shaven and with beard/mustache) is reasonable. If the provider states he doesn't want to remove the polish or shave, though, the client should just politely move on. The reason why I think it's a reasonable request is that the provider is marketing himself with different looks, so presumably he isn't wed to looking one specific way. It would be entirely different if the provider's photos only showed him looking a specific way. I certainly wouldn't support contacting someone who has facial hair in all of his photos with a request to shave. The alternative for a client who cares is to simply ask the provider to describe what he looks like in the moment, and then simply pass if he has attributes the client doesn't like. I assume a provider would prefer clarity ("Oh, you have a beard right now? If you're willing to shave, I'd like to meet you but I am not interested in men with beards") rather than the client simply saying, "No thanks" and then ending the conversation. The former at least gives the provider some information he can use in his business, i.e., how much business he might be losing due to certain choices he's made, and then he can decide whether that matters to him. The latter tells him nothing other than that someone called him and then decided not to book. I don't understand the notion of "fragility" on either person's part here. The client is a client, spending money for an experience of his choosing. The provider is marketing a service. Surely both parties can simply accept that not all clients are going to be compatible with all escorts. There's no reason to get upset that someone isn't interested unless the person is a jerk about it.

I hired him once many years (a couple of decades?) ago. I remember being satisfied but not much else.

I don't know whether these calendars are still being made, but I know that for at least a few years there were calendars featuring handsome priests.

It's true that if the underwear comes off, it really makes little difference what the guy was wearing when he arrived. I was thinking more of some porn scenes I've seen, where guys keep on stockings and garter belts during the entire scene. I know some will respond sexually to that, but not me.

Do I like the look of nail polish on men? Not particularly. Would it be a deal breaker for me? Absolutely not. I'm definitely less turned off by nail polish than I am when I see men wearing undergarments designed for women. It isn't misogyny. It isn't that I don't think men should be allowed to express their gender identity however they want or, for that matter, simply wear whatever clothes they want. It just doesn't fit in with my sexual fantasies, though. I'm definitely more into a jock or hot-guy-next-door image, so a guy presenting as more femme just doesn't turn me on.

I do think that changing one's name repeatedly in response to negative comments made on this forum is a mistake and only makes him look worse. I know nothing of the guy and don't even know who's being discussed, but one of my biggest red flags is a provider who changes his name repeatedly. I'll give an example of another way an escort can handle this, without naming names. There's an escort where some clients posted that the escort had bad body odor. A few clients replied that they had hired the escort in question and didn't notice any body odor. Whenever this escort's name came up over a period of years, there would be another post either stating he had bad b.o. or asking whether his b.o. was still an issue. The escort in question never changed his name. I don't think I've ever seen him post here (at least not under his escort name), so I don't know how aware of this forum he is. I don't know whether he asked certain clients to defend him here, but I was one of the clients who posted that I had hired him and hadn't encountered any body odor; I did not do so due to a request from him but rather to give my perspective that that wasn't an issue the couple of times I hired him. Years later I still think this "does he or doesn't he have bad b.o." reputation haunts him, but it hasn't ruined his business since the majority of posts about him are positive. I can only imagine how different the outcome for him might have been had he just kept changing his name every time someone asked about him on this forum since that would just saddle him with a second attribute: someone who is attempting to hide from some clients' negative experiences. If an escort is generally well liked because he pleases his clients, I don't think it matters if there are stray, negative comments or questions. It's only when someone doesn't have clients who are going to post contrasting positive experiences that an escort has to worry about the clients who were dissatisfied for whatever reason.

Offer to reimburse him for his room (that way you won't be on the hook for damages/extra costs), and then tell him you will only be paying for one hour of his time per day since he obviously doesn't understand the concept of being hired for multiple days. Sure, guys need time off to go to the gym, reply to emails, etc, but requesting that you pay for a separate room for him is beyond the pale when, presumably, you are paying a fair amount to be with him for multiple days. He's either hoping you are a sucker and will go for it, or he simply isn't cut out for the type of escorting work where the escort and client actually spend time together just hanging out. Actually, I am just joking. I wouldn't offer to pay the guy's room at all. I'd just move on.