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I get that inflation affects everyone. I can tell you that I didn't get a 25-33% raise recently, though, so trying to rationalize an increase from $300 to $400 per hour or $400 to $500 per hour doesn't make sense. That being said, this is a market where providers can charge whatever they want and clients can decide to hire or not. Sadly, my recent salary increases haven't even kept pace with inflation.

I'm not saying that bottoms cannot enjoy looking at, touching, or rimming a hot ass, but I'm amused that whenever Rafael Alencar is discussed the topic typically drifts to whether he's had butt implants. As a nearly-100% bottom, I can tell you that I don't care whether his ass is due to exercise or surgical enhancement. It's the rest of him that catches my interest -- the handsome face, the nice torso, the big dick, his ability to pound a bottom, and his seemingly "chill" attitude while still being dominant in bed.

If staying at a hotel, insist on meeting in the lobby instead of giving the provider your room number. If you don't see the guy in the ad show up and some scammer starts texting you, there's your answer. I suppose that if it's a large lobby, maybe you just aren't seeing the guy so it would make sense to reply by text when you know you cannot be seen by anyone else to ask exactly where he is so you can identify him. At an apartment/condo building, meet outside. I hired over 100 guys when living in apartment buildings and for every visit from a first-time provider, I always waited outside for them. Typically I'd see the guy approaching before he'd even reach my building, so I could wave or nod so he'd know who I was. If no one ever shows up who matches the guy who advertised, there's your answer. As to someone threatening to post a video of him knocking on your door and then barging in and demanding money, how is that potentially damaging to you? Who cares what story he says he is going to post along with it. Unless the video includes a conversation before that where you are agreeing to pay him for sex, how is that video incriminating? Just because you opened your door to a stranger? Don't let some thief exploit your concern about being exposed -- unless you are so fearful for some reason (cheating on a spouse, would cause some professional problem if you are exposed) I wouldn't even give it a second thought. And if you have that much to lose, you really need to be more cautious about hiring anyway: Use a burner phone number, don't meet guys where you live, use a fake name, don't use an email address that you use for any other purpose, etc. And, of course, you can stick to well-reviewed guys. Even then, though, there have been some stories here of guys who had good public reputations who did terrible things to some clients so that isn't a 100% guarantee.

I assume you mean KarlKang? If so, maybe you can edit your post or ask an admin to do it if you can't. I'd say that based on previous discussions here, Karl is certainly interactive but it also seemed to me that not everyone got the same level of interaction. That's probably true of the vast majority of masseurs, though. I know that I enjoyed my few times with him, even if I got the sense that some other clients received a bit more than I had.

Actually, some nurses and physicians are counselors, but not those working in an ICU. At any rate, there are medical social workers working at health care facilities. I think the point of the presentation makes sense: It isn't that concern for the patient is wrong, it's that people should remember that family members/important friends might also need support.

I was prepared to side with the escort, thinking that you were just wasting time asking about things that were already addressed in his profile. Then I clicked the link and saw that he doesn't list what he's into and only says he's available for "modeling." Maybe he's chosen to market himself that way to minimize legal risks, but he should be smart enough to know that not saying much in his ad is going to result in more random contacts from potential clients trying to figure out if they are a match.

If I'm not mistaken, Burt wrote the music to all of those great songs, not the lyrics. The lyrics were mostly written by Hal David.

Just remember that a butter face is, to a great extent, in the eye of the beholder. I've seen some guys gushed over here whose faces I don't find attractive. Conversely, there are some guys in porn whom I find hot whom others have described as unattractive facially. Being attracted to someone's face is important to me, but I find a wide range of guys attractive. Sometimes it's the little quirks about someone's looks that turns me on the most.

I'm disappointed with you, Jamie. I was sure you'd have a funnier response than that, something along the lines of a fake advertisement for your face sitting school. 😉

Nothing listed under "I am into..." always gives me pause.

That's horrible that this hasn't received much media attention. I agree that one shouldn't accept pills or drinks from a stranger. Also one shouldn't leave one's drink unattended. And also, maybe difficult for some people, don't drink so much that your judgment is seriously impaired.

I haven't hired much over the past few years, so most of the guys I used to like are no longer advertising. As for men who are still available, I can recommend: Billy Rhodes. He's definitely flexible with respect to massage types, but he definitely has good technique and knowledge of the human body. Karl Kang. Maybe he's too much of "the pretty muscle-y IG type" for you since he's definitely muscled and cute (not that Billy isn't cute, but he's more lean than muscle-y), but Karl definitely gave me a very good therapeutic massage the few times I saw him in 2019.

I just read an article which should give us all some pause -- and might cause some to reconsider using something like a fingerprint or facial recognition to unlock their phones. Reportedly three men who visited the Eagle in New York on separate occasions were somehow incapacitated by the people who robbed them. The thieves used facial recognition on the men's phones to gain access to their devices and their funds. Scant details in any of the articles I've seen online, but I thought this story was nonetheless worth bringing to everyone's attention.

I've only ever had extended appointments with one escort. We also developed a friendship. The boundaries were always clear: I typically hired him for overnight appointments, and a couple of times for a few days. During those occasions, most of the time we spent was obviously just "hanging out" time but I was paying him our agreed-upon rate for the appointment (not just an hourly rate with a bunch of no-cost time on either end of the session). When we hung out "off the clock," it was not connected with an appointment. We might go to dinner or a movie together, and then part ways. In other words, we didn't mix the business appointments with the purely friendly get togethers. I paid him for the former, not the latter. And it was clear that we weren't dating; we were just friends hanging out.

You don't really have much information on which to base a conclusion at this point, so if you want to see him again I suggest you simply have an open conversation with him. You should state your perceptions (e.g., our last meeting wasn't as passionate) rather than attempting to draw conclusions (e.g., it's because you're straight, isn't it?). Who knows whether it's sexual orientation, covid, you said something that bothered him, or something else. But if you like the guy, just politely communicate your feelings and see what he has to say.

I agree that the ad seems creepy. I guess the "dad" (who is not shown in any of the photos) is the "handler" and the two of them only work together. Apart from the fact that the guy looks extremely young, there's just too strong of a predator vibe in that ad to intrigue me.

I haven't met him, but didn't DavidSF move to Palm Springs many years ago?

I hired him several times about a decade ago, but all I can tell you is that I wouldn't have hired him more than once had I not been satisfied. I suspect the age listed in his ad is lower than reality because I don't think he was only mid 30s when I hired him, but I could be mistaken.

I doubt Only Fans is actively cutting back on said accounts, but I have no trouble believing that a lot of guys would rather just sell content online than meet with clients in person.

If you want to become a masseur or escort, then do it instead of making the same general inquiries repeatedly.

I assume you are at least 60 years old if you recall a time when only women were being objectified in advertising? Using partially naked men to sell products has been going on for decades now.

I've discussed it frequently with a few other friends who also hire on occasion. I don't even recall how the conversation first came up. I think I've also discussed it in passing with a couple of other friends, but it wasn't a topic of ongoing conversation. I haven't discussed it at all with most people I know.

In terms of physical appearance, if the photos are basically accurate I'm okay. I assume anyone seriously interested in hiring an escort is going to look at all of his photos, and if some are him at a younger age and some are more recent it's really on the client to pay attention and not just latch onto the older photos. As far as age shaving, I understand a lot of still-youngish guys do it so searches that use an age filter don't exclude them from consideration. So, for example, a guy who is 44 might say he's 39 so his ad will still be seen by people looking for someone under 40. I say that if the guy looks like he could still be in his thirties, that's a "white lie" that can be overlooked. What's fraudulent is someone who is clearly well beyond his thirties still using 39 as an age. I don't care how well preserved someone is, a man who is in his late fifties is never going to be confused for a man in his thirties. In terms of providing what was advertised, while I understand the YMMV situation when it comes to erotic masseurs (i.e., some guys whom the masseur is more turned on by will get more than other clients) with an escort I think it's reasonable to expect someone to perform in a manner consistent with his ad. So if he says he's a top and that's what you indicated you wanted when you hire him, he should come prepared to top. The only caveat I have is that I'm sure there are occasional circumstances where the escort simply cannot perform as advertised, like if the client is so obese that he cannot be penetrated or if the guy is so dirty that the escort simply cannot follow through on what was planned.

You sound like a real sweetheart. Your post would definitely put you at the top of my list of "must hires" if I lived in the same area as you.

No, one doesn't need to provide the names of people who are paying for your services. For example, there's no way a psychotherapist could do that and not run afoul of confidentiality laws.