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There is a big difference between being sexually harassed when going for a mainstream job. If you are seeking a part on a non-X rated movie, you shouldn't have to put up with harassment as part of the casting process. I recently started watching some videos of a guy who did some mainstream modeling in his 20s and he also talks about harassment and unwanted physical touching by photographers. It isn't just women who get put in a position of wondering whether they should go along with something they don't want to do in order to get work. All of that is deplorable, and I acknowledge that this likely does happen to women a lot more often than men. I think what some of us are struggling with here is that we're not talking about trying to get work as a mainstream actor or model. Anyone who wanted to live/work in the Playboy mansion who didn't understand what she was getting into wasn't thinking about reality. How old does someone need to be before we can expect them to have a reasonable level of intelligence such that they wouldn't even pursue an "opportunity" like that unless they wanted to subject themselves to being treated as a sex object? To complain afterwords just seems disingenuous; the time to not find yourself in that position is to avoid it from the get-go. Again, I'm not saying that Hefner was a role model but, absent evidence that he actually forced women to do things against their will, I don't see his behavior as any different than many of us here who have hired men apart from his much larger stash of cash that allowed him to do it on a much grander scale.

Oops. That should have said "entirely subjective," not "objective."

I started hiring in my twenties, but I didn't hire very often back then not only because I had much less money and it was pre-internet but also because I got more of my needs met by dating which was much easier for me in my twenties and thirties (and even into my forties) than into my fifties and now sixties. To be honest, even when guys do match their descriptions that's no guarantee that the session will feel "worth it" since that's entirely objective. Sounds like you've figured out that, at least at this point in your life, hiring isn't for you. Don't get hung up on regretting your past choices; just most forward.

This. This isn't an either/or situation. I have no doubt that Hefner was a lech. I have no doubt that some women involved with him found that involvement disturbing, and once they were involved I'm sure some of them felt trapped because they didn't know what else to do. However, that's very different than actually being trapped because one is either physically or psychologically tormented in a manner in which to coerce them to stay. I'm not defending Hefner because I don't have the details. But I think those who want to assume that because, on the surface, it seems "creepy" that an older man had sex with all of these young men better look in the mirror and ask themselves, "What about all of the providers hired by forum members? Are all of them 100% happy engaging in sex work, not just at the time of the engagements but after they are no longer working as escorts?" I assume that many people outside of this website would automatically judge a lot of clients here in the manner in which some seem inclined to judge Hefner -- wealthy older men, frequently white, sexually exploiting younger men who clearly wouldn't want to have sex with them were it not for the money. (Yes, I know that doesn't describe all escort/client hires; not every provider is young and not every client is old, white or even wealthy.) I guess I'm trying to say that if Hefner was simply a horndog and used his position in life to surround himself with young women who were willing to be with him in exchange for money, I'm certainly not going to judge that. Maybe the young college student I hired regularly 20 years ago looks back with disgust at his time doing sex work, but in the moment both he and I were willing participants. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with prostitution as long as both parties are willing participants. Now if evidence comes out that Hefner took steps such that the women no longer had a choice in the matter, I'll join the chorus of contempt. What's funny about trying to frame this as patriarchy or misogyny is that the same charge might be leveled by a pro-sex feminist. There are women who engage in sex work because they want to, and to suggest that we automatically assume that they are victims is patronizing and a clearly sexist.

You're troubled and confused? Is that because you are trying to figure out how to help these friends develop healthier behaviors that they say they want your help with? If so, I'd say the "why" is less important than the "how can I help you?" People do all sorts of things that aren't the best choice. Many people live beyond their means -- not because they don't have the funds to meet their basic needs but because they spend money on things they don't actually "need." Many people have risky sex when, if judged from an intellectual, detached point of view, seemingly should be easy for people to avoid. There's no denying that true monogamy (i.e., not one where one or both partners is actually having outside sexual contact) eliminates the spread of STDs; are we to judge everyone who chooses to have a different kind of sex life? Basically, everyone who participates on this website engages in some sort of "troubling" and "confusing" behavior if one believes that humans should always behave in a manner which best supports their physical health. I'd rather not go down that slippery slope.

I also prefer to give than receive...assuming the guy is clean and, for me, not very hairy down there. One of my favorite former providers was a young man who loved getting rimmed as much as I liked rimming him. I still fondly remember lying on my back with him spreading his cheeks open for me, jerking off as I touched him all over and probed him with my tongue. At the right moment, he'd pull back and shoot his load in my mouth. Never failed to get me off at the same time. We rarely went beyond oral, but I enjoyed that "routine" we had so much that I wasn't dissatisfied.

Didn't Liberace's lover get plastic surgery at Liberace's request to make him look more like Liberace did in his younger days? Similarly, hasn't Calvin Klein required some of his high profile boyfriends to get "work done?" Sure, maybe the number of men willing to put up with nonsense like that is smaller but it isn't unheard of.

I assume you mean this guy? https://rentmasseur.com/JCMassageVisitor The pictures are very familiar. Not sure under what name he previously advertised, but my memory is that he's been discussed here in the past. (I just Googled his phone number and it brings up listings for JuanLatinStud and Latino_Omar.)

I don't know what "dark side" this docuseries will show, but I am frequently perplexed when some models complain about how they were treated after entering the world of pornography. Attempting to limit someone's outside success is deplorable. Forcing someone to have sex is deplorable. But sometimes the complaints seem to be more akin to regret about having gotten involved in pornography. Assuming the person was of legal age and sound mind to consent, their decision to enter the pornography business was their own. At any point -- again, assuming they aren't being forced to do things against their will -- they can decide they don't like what they are doing and leave the business or work for a different studio or, for that matter, themselves now that Fans sites have taken over the industry. Did anyone not involved with Playboy really think that Hefner was just some grandfatherly figure to these models? I certainly didn't. I assumed he had sex with most of them.

Also has an escort ad: https://rentmen.eu/hungsd

The scene linked above is available to watch on ColbyKnox. Maybe it's on his fans pages, too. Easy enough to save a copy of the video while streaming it if you are so inclined. I don't know that anyone still manufacturers and sells porn on dvd. I think most people switched to watching online many years ago.

Apparently he'd like us to believe he's still 26, according to his website ColbyKnox.com. IAFD.com indicates he's 30, turning 31 this year, with his start in porn in 2013 at 22 years old.

I know you meant "got dressed," but your typo gave me a laugh. The idea that all of the boys got in drag after showering amused me.

Calling this a "gay sex scene" is like saying any scene that shows suggested sex in a non-X-rated movie a sex scene. Okay, I'll admit I didn't watch the whole thing so maybe I just missed the more explicit parts, but all I saw was a close-up of mostly clothed bodies bumping against each other with no penis in sight.

I will add that I always search escort's/masseur's phone numbers prior to contacting them. It isn't that I'm trying to find out personal information about them (though it's surprising when providers use the same phone number that's linked to other businesses they have or their personal social media accounts), I'm just trying to weed out known scammers. I assume an escort might do the same search for prospective clients. Where he crossed the line was using that information as soon as he got annoyed by you; I would definitely steer clear of anyone who seems inclined to weaponize personal information that they found online.

I can understand how the escort in question perceived it as disrespectful. You should have just asked him for the duo price if you weren't interested in hiring him alone. He's right that you should have contacted the other guy to ask his rate for a solo session. Did he overreact? Probably, but it isn't like there's no justification for his response. This reminds me of a time I contacted someone for a session, mentioned I had seen a particularly hot porn scene of his and said something along the lines of being jealous that he had sex with that other guy because I found him so hot. Well, he interpreted this as a slight since I was contacting him, not the other guy. He then said he didn't want to meet me and that was the end of that. I really hadn't intended to convey to him that I wasn't attracted to him -- if that was the case, I wouldn't have contacted him -- but I think he received my communication that way when I expressed enthusiasm about someone other than him.

On the one hand, I'd say go for it if you are intrigued. However, as I assume you would do, I would require him to share more information about himself before sharing anything more about yourself. On the other hand, Rentmen seems like an odd place for someone who claims to be straight to be looking for a date with a man. I would be concerned that it's actually just someone playing games or, worse, wanting to get more information about you in order to harass you.

I am so sick of all of these attention seeking people. Let's assume for one minute that the mom's discovery of his fleshlight actually happened by accident, and let's assume for one minute that the mom's boundaries are so poor that she not only addressed her son but the entire family about her discovery. Why would that spill over into the public arena, though? If the young man is so embarrassed by all of this, surely he wouldn't take to Instagram to complain about it. And if the mom was truly horrified by all of this, surely she wouldn't continue posting about it after the man shared the story on Instagram. No, I am interpreting this as yet another "staged" event designed to get more attention.

Bisexual means one enjoys having sex with both men and women. It's a term to describe one's sexual orientation. Non-binary is a term to describe one's gender identity/expression. It basically means that one does not identify strictly as either masculine or feminine.

Maybe he just enjoys presenting as a female sometimes. Without knowing him, there's no way of knowing whether this is strictly a business decision (make more money, attract different clients) or is satisfying some other personal motivations.

I think a city in the thread title makes sense, and if someone is traveling and the home base is known, including both would be helpful. More than that, having at least the name in the thread title makes sense. I don't even click on threads where the title is so vague that I have no idea what it's about. I agree that this isn't likely to change since some probably don't think it's an issue and others might simply want to do things that they know bother other people.

I'm not a moderator, so I cannot speak for why that question would elicit a warning when others didn't. The reason I replied that he had/has a Rentmen ad was simply to point out that he's available to hire as an escort so if someone wants to hire him for oral sex he's clearly available for that at whatever rate he charges as an escort. Or one can hire him as a masseur and then roll the dice to see how far he'll go with you during a massage session.

Is there any indication this guy is an escort? I see he has an OF page, but didn't find an escort ad after a brief search. I'm just puzzled why this is in the Deli.

I don't know whether Rainer currently has a Rentmen ad, but he has in the past.

I drank like a fish in my twenties. I still drank a fair amount in my thirties. My usage dropped off considerably in my forties, and in my fifties I probably went months at a time with no alcohol. At 60 I still occasionally enjoy a drink but usually it's just wine with a meal. It isn't that I lost the taste for good Scotch/bourbon/whiskey, but I'm just not that motivated to drink very often. Maybe it's because no one I spend time with regularly likes to drink very much. Congrats for abstaining for a period of time in order to make yourself feel better.