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He has no one he knows he can borrow some money from? He has no clients where he lives where he can book some business and make some money? Assuming the guy is legit, if he is living that much on the margin I'm not inclined to believe that a stranger should send him money. He needs to get a regular job, work on his skills so he is making money as an escort, work on his budgeting skills so he isn't broke, or whatever else he might need to do. But I'm with most of the others who've chimed in so far. The guy is likely just a con man. If you are a sucker and send him a deposit, you will likely not see him or your money again.

I'm in the middle. I agree that your first text is a bit off-putting. Instead of asking for a vague availability, ask for what you want (tonight or tomorrow, for example). I also agree that asking whether an escort barebacks in the first text seems odd. If their RM profile indicates "anything goes," you probably have your answer already anyway but you could certainly confirm what you want in a later text. But as with asking about availability, your inquiry might come across as more genuine if you had written, for example, "I like to top without a condom. Are you okay with that?" Or, conversely, "I only have anal with condoms. Is that okay with you?" I'm basically saying your approach might make someone who's already a bit weary of prospective clients to react with skepticism because you aren't asking for what you want but rather asking, in a curt way, for the escort to divulge details about himself. All that said, the escort should have handled your inquiry better. Had he simply replied, "Sorry, didn't get your text until now. I'm available today. If you are still interested, let me know a time that works for you and let me know what you are looking for." That would put the ball back in your court in a friendly way. Neither of you contributed to a successful exchange of information after that. You were put off by the escort's demeanor, and he was put off by yours. Last night was history, so there wasn't much point in saying, "I was looking for last night" when the guy asks what day/time works for you now. Rather than be vague, why not just ask "Are you available tonight at 8pm for an in call?" But given that this guy is self-employed, he's certainly clueless when it comes to attracting business. He was very quick to assume you were just wasting time and did nothing to actually advance his agenda (book an appointment). Seems like he was more interested in playing a victim and feeling indignant than he was trying to succeed at scheduling a prospective client. I would 100% understand that stance if your texts had been going back and forth for a lot longer, but he basically copped an attitude with you so fast that it didn't really offer an opportunity for success on either of your parts.

I mostly watch porn where there isn't a story and the performers aren't playing roles other than top or bottom.

Wanting one's partner to have a steady income doesn't mean that one expects to be taken care of. It might just mean that they don't want to have to take care of their partner. Just because one has a steady income doesn't mean that that income is sufficient to support two people anyway.

As someone recently reminded me in another thread, some people have a lot more disposable income. I guess this guy has his sights on a market of men wealthy enough that they won't think twice about spending $1K to be with someone for an hour. Based on the photos I don't think I'd spend that much even if money was no object for me, but as I was reminded in yet another thread recently "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." If this guy is able to charge that much and have as much business as he wants, congratulations to him.

Since I bought a Cuisinart combo air fryer/convection oven 3 years ago, it's been my most used kitchen appliance.

I'm not watching the series, but even taking at face value the things that "bunny mother" or whatever she called herself claimed in the stories linked above the picture is very strange. She's basically saying that she knows of occasions where women were sexually abused by Playboy VIP clients and that nothing was done about it. Also note, however, that she worked there and did nothing to stop what was going on. She kept working there, helping to train new "bunnies" that she presumably knew could very well be sexually abused in the same manner she claimed she knew was happening. If her claims are true, she's basically admitting to being akin to Ghislaine Maxwell. Look, I am not claiming that no women who had employment connected to the Playboy empire was ever sexually abused. This woman's claims are very odd, though. Women were being told they had to go to private events with VIP clients where everyone but the women who were victimized knew they would be sexually abused but everyone just went along with it? Not one of the victims and no one who knew what was going on ever went to the police? Everyone just agreed to keep silent about it to "save face" for Playboy? I just find that hard to believe. Even with Scientology, which goes to extraordinary lengths to keep members from defecting and talking about their experience with Scientology, some people have escaped and told their stories. We're to believe that even though there was a "revolving door" of women working at these Playboy clubs that everyone decided to keep silent until now?

I'm not a creator so I don't know how it works, but given that sites like Onlyfans collects the money, takes a cut, and then distributes the rest to the creator, doesn't Onlyfans have to issue that provider a 1099 at the end of the year? I don't see how it would be possible for someone to avoid claiming that income to the IRS. Well, maybe they can simply avoid filing a tax return for a short while but surely that will catch up with them eventually.

I haven't. But I have to ask: Why would anyone pay $200 for a single video of someone? Does the guy float your boat that much? I will admit that when I first heard of Bryan Hawn long ago, I thought he was hot. But there a lot of hot guys who do porn. Why not just subscribe to one of their channels? Maybe I'm just out of touch. There seems to be a market for these guys who tease but don't really deliver the goods given the number of them that seem to be making at least some sort of a living doing that.

This just goes to show that we all have our tastes. I'd take Channing before Joe, and I'd take Alex Pettyfer before either of them. And I'd definitely throw them all aside for Matt Bomer (was he in the first Magic Mike, or just the sequel?)

I'm still waiting for someone to explain the difference between forum members who hire escorts and Hefner, apart from the scale of the operation. Forum member hires escort. He expects sex in exchange of money. If he isn't satisfied, he doesn't hire that escort again. If the escort absolutely refuses to have sex with anyone in exchange for money, he will be labeled a thief here since he advertises one thing but instead is just looking to take clients' money. Is the difference that the women who moved in Hefner's mansion are presumed to not be sex workers? Like they thought they were just moving in to be eye candy, but there would be no further expectations/demands placed on them? Again, I'm simply struggling with that suggestion. I'm not straight at all, so I hardly paid attention to Hefner's empire. But even I assumed that the women who hung around Hefner, particularly those who lived with him, were basically his paid companions aka escorts. I just don't see how any woman would have pursued this situation if she didn't want to do sex work. So, again, if an escort one of us hired later says he felt pressured to have sex with us when he didn't want to, and all he was trying to do was survive, are we supposed to look in the mirror and say we were wrong to hire that guy with the expectation of physical intimacy? He really was a victim and not a willing participant? Or are there simply different rules because our behavior involves two (or more) men and Hefner's involve a man and a bunch of women? It's precisely because I believe in equality of genders that I believe women have the right to work as whores, just as men do. Women have the right to choose not to work as whores, just as men do. A woman or a man who previously did sex work who later regrets it is just that -- someone whose viewpoint has changed -- not someone who was necessarily a victim of anyone other than their own choices. To bring another public figure into this as an example: Boy George O'Dowd's hiring of male escorts -- no problem. George's chaining an escort to a wall and then beating him -- big problem since he removed the escort's ability to refuse what George wanted to do.

I haven't been to PV for a few years, but during my many previous visits I think the biggest problem is not encountering escorts. By that I mean it's difficult to interact with locals and then not find yourself after a few minutes with someone who is expecting that your friendliness is going to lead to a money making situation for themselves. I'd say that the vast majority of "working men" there don't advertise. They just work the beach, some bars, strip clubs (of course) and the "gayborhood" in general. Many even speak English well enough that you can negotiate what you want even if you don't speak Spanish well enough to have a meaningful conversation.

FreddyPrince's pictures are Nick Ford, right? Is Nick just advertising under a different name now?

There is a big difference between being sexually harassed when going for a mainstream job. If you are seeking a part on a non-X rated movie, you shouldn't have to put up with harassment as part of the casting process. I recently started watching some videos of a guy who did some mainstream modeling in his 20s and he also talks about harassment and unwanted physical touching by photographers. It isn't just women who get put in a position of wondering whether they should go along with something they don't want to do in order to get work. All of that is deplorable, and I acknowledge that this likely does happen to women a lot more often than men. I think what some of us are struggling with here is that we're not talking about trying to get work as a mainstream actor or model. Anyone who wanted to live/work in the Playboy mansion who didn't understand what she was getting into wasn't thinking about reality. How old does someone need to be before we can expect them to have a reasonable level of intelligence such that they wouldn't even pursue an "opportunity" like that unless they wanted to subject themselves to being treated as a sex object? To complain afterwords just seems disingenuous; the time to not find yourself in that position is to avoid it from the get-go. Again, I'm not saying that Hefner was a role model but, absent evidence that he actually forced women to do things against their will, I don't see his behavior as any different than many of us here who have hired men apart from his much larger stash of cash that allowed him to do it on a much grander scale.

Oops. That should have said "entirely subjective," not "objective."

I started hiring in my twenties, but I didn't hire very often back then not only because I had much less money and it was pre-internet but also because I got more of my needs met by dating which was much easier for me in my twenties and thirties (and even into my forties) than into my fifties and now sixties. To be honest, even when guys do match their descriptions that's no guarantee that the session will feel "worth it" since that's entirely objective. Sounds like you've figured out that, at least at this point in your life, hiring isn't for you. Don't get hung up on regretting your past choices; just most forward.

This. This isn't an either/or situation. I have no doubt that Hefner was a lech. I have no doubt that some women involved with him found that involvement disturbing, and once they were involved I'm sure some of them felt trapped because they didn't know what else to do. However, that's very different than actually being trapped because one is either physically or psychologically tormented in a manner in which to coerce them to stay. I'm not defending Hefner because I don't have the details. But I think those who want to assume that because, on the surface, it seems "creepy" that an older man had sex with all of these young men better look in the mirror and ask themselves, "What about all of the providers hired by forum members? Are all of them 100% happy engaging in sex work, not just at the time of the engagements but after they are no longer working as escorts?" I assume that many people outside of this website would automatically judge a lot of clients here in the manner in which some seem inclined to judge Hefner -- wealthy older men, frequently white, sexually exploiting younger men who clearly wouldn't want to have sex with them were it not for the money. (Yes, I know that doesn't describe all escort/client hires; not every provider is young and not every client is old, white or even wealthy.) I guess I'm trying to say that if Hefner was simply a horndog and used his position in life to surround himself with young women who were willing to be with him in exchange for money, I'm certainly not going to judge that. Maybe the young college student I hired regularly 20 years ago looks back with disgust at his time doing sex work, but in the moment both he and I were willing participants. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with prostitution as long as both parties are willing participants. Now if evidence comes out that Hefner took steps such that the women no longer had a choice in the matter, I'll join the chorus of contempt. What's funny about trying to frame this as patriarchy or misogyny is that the same charge might be leveled by a pro-sex feminist. There are women who engage in sex work because they want to, and to suggest that we automatically assume that they are victims is patronizing and a clearly sexist.

You're troubled and confused? Is that because you are trying to figure out how to help these friends develop healthier behaviors that they say they want your help with? If so, I'd say the "why" is less important than the "how can I help you?" People do all sorts of things that aren't the best choice. Many people live beyond their means -- not because they don't have the funds to meet their basic needs but because they spend money on things they don't actually "need." Many people have risky sex when, if judged from an intellectual, detached point of view, seemingly should be easy for people to avoid. There's no denying that true monogamy (i.e., not one where one or both partners is actually having outside sexual contact) eliminates the spread of STDs; are we to judge everyone who chooses to have a different kind of sex life? Basically, everyone who participates on this website engages in some sort of "troubling" and "confusing" behavior if one believes that humans should always behave in a manner which best supports their physical health. I'd rather not go down that slippery slope.

I also prefer to give than receive...assuming the guy is clean and, for me, not very hairy down there. One of my favorite former providers was a young man who loved getting rimmed as much as I liked rimming him. I still fondly remember lying on my back with him spreading his cheeks open for me, jerking off as I touched him all over and probed him with my tongue. At the right moment, he'd pull back and shoot his load in my mouth. Never failed to get me off at the same time. We rarely went beyond oral, but I enjoyed that "routine" we had so much that I wasn't dissatisfied.

Didn't Liberace's lover get plastic surgery at Liberace's request to make him look more like Liberace did in his younger days? Similarly, hasn't Calvin Klein required some of his high profile boyfriends to get "work done?" Sure, maybe the number of men willing to put up with nonsense like that is smaller but it isn't unheard of.

I assume you mean this guy? https://rentmasseur.com/JCMassageVisitor The pictures are very familiar. Not sure under what name he previously advertised, but my memory is that he's been discussed here in the past. (I just Googled his phone number and it brings up listings for JuanLatinStud and Latino_Omar.)

I don't know what "dark side" this docuseries will show, but I am frequently perplexed when some models complain about how they were treated after entering the world of pornography. Attempting to limit someone's outside success is deplorable. Forcing someone to have sex is deplorable. But sometimes the complaints seem to be more akin to regret about having gotten involved in pornography. Assuming the person was of legal age and sound mind to consent, their decision to enter the pornography business was their own. At any point -- again, assuming they aren't being forced to do things against their will -- they can decide they don't like what they are doing and leave the business or work for a different studio or, for that matter, themselves now that Fans sites have taken over the industry. Did anyone not involved with Playboy really think that Hefner was just some grandfatherly figure to these models? I certainly didn't. I assumed he had sex with most of them.

Also has an escort ad: https://rentmen.eu/hungsd

The scene linked above is available to watch on ColbyKnox. Maybe it's on his fans pages, too. Easy enough to save a copy of the video while streaming it if you are so inclined. I don't know that anyone still manufacturers and sells porn on dvd. I think most people switched to watching online many years ago.

Apparently he'd like us to believe he's still 26, according to his website ColbyKnox.com. IAFD.com indicates he's 30, turning 31 this year, with his start in porn in 2013 at 22 years old.