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It helps if you post the link to the guys ad. https://rent.men/Roxas_caelum

This sums it up for me. They've got to actively be touching my dick, hole, or rubbing their whole body on mine for me to start getting aroused usually. Otherwise, i feel like the pressure needed for a thorough massage draws blood and my mental attention to the area/muscle being addressed and away from my dick. So i don't get hard usually until it gets more overtly sexual.

If it's important to the safety of your college sports career/etc or if you're gay/bi and not out. One thing you might want to do to protect your identity, in addition to what @nate_sf said about showing less face, is also only use photos in your ad that are also publicly available. Like from your Instagram or other social media. That way, if someone reverse image searches your Provider ad, only images from your Instagram come up. Which gives you plausible deniability to say "oh that's just someone catfishing as me using my Insta photos" if it ever became an issue or if someone who shouldn't see it found your Provider ad and confronted you asking if it's you for example. You also can put on your profile that you can FaceTime/video call verify you are you. Because if a potential client sees your ad with no face pics, or reverse image searches your photos and sees it's all from some Instagram account, they also might think you're catfishing/scamming. So being willing to verify it's you is good. Other advice coming from a client perspective: If you happen to have a big social media following or an OnlyFans with a lot of subscribers. Don't let that go to your head and let it give you an attitude/ego, clients do not care about your Insta/OF follower count. Some guys your age who have social media clout get into providing thinking that they don't have to put in much effort to being a Provider and think that them being social media famous is everything. Clients pick up on this and it usually results in you giving them a bad experience. Just being hot and recognizable from social media and letting them touch your abs is not enough and is not the only thing you need to bring to your client. You still have to truly perform for them and give them a nice full experience with you like other Providers who aren't social media famous do. Similarly, a lot of guys your age have a "hustle grindset mindset" vibe that isn't always very attractive in the context of a client/provider meeting. Obviously Providers are doing this to make money, it's work. But don't let your clients feel that vibe from you. Don't let your client feel like they're just a check box on your financial goals spreadsheet or like you don't give a damn about them. They want to have a nice interaction with you and feel like you're into them and having a good time with them or at the very least like they have your full attention. Like @Mark_fl said, you should hopefully really enjoy doing this, or at least learn to be good at faking it (especially if you're doing this as a straight guy) so the client doesn't see the "mechanics" of what you're doing in order to work with them. A lot of college age guys start this and make these mistakes and then get bad reviews and have to spend time repairing their provider reputation. So if you can get this stuff right from the start, that'll put you ahead of competing providers the same age as you. So pay attention to the client, don't be on your phone a bunch during a meeting trying to set up your next meeting, don't be looking at what time it is every 5 minutes waiting for the meeting to be over because the client will notice. Don't over book yourself, give yourself time to get ready and get to each meeting. If you have a meeting setup and you're running late or need to reschedule/cancel, let the client know as soon as possible. If you set up multiple meetings in one day, don't schedule them too close to each other because the first meeting maybe could make you late to the second meeting. And especially with you being in college. You have classes, practice/training for your sport, games/matches for your sport, and your own personal/social life to plan around. So i would say just don't spread yourself too thin. Communication and time management are huge when doing this.

Just want to clarify, no one here is actively against it. Some of us just use RM/CoM in a way where post titles having city or not doesn't matter. We're just saying "you don't need the city in the post title if you do XYZ". We're not saying city names shouldn't be in the post title ever at all. Now that i know other members here have the preference to not want to do the XYZ, i don't really know what solution there is for them. Maybe it should just be an actual forum rule, rather than suggestion, that Deli posts require city in the post name 🤷‍♂️. Long as it's just a suggestion, many will simply not do it.

Then why suggest it as a good thing to do when the site already has that function at all?

So i think this is coming down to different ways people use this forum. It seems you use this forum as your main method of browsing providers. If that's what you're doing then i see how you are coming to this conclusion because you aren't seeing the providers profile first. You are seeing the CoM Deli most recents page, you're using the CoM Deli page kind of like the Online Now and in your city search (which is not it's function, but whatever, that's how people seem to be using it). So I can see a bit more why you are wanting what you want because you're using this as your main place to browse in addition to see reviews. However, it's at odds with how another portion of us are using this forum, which is we come here after browsing on RM or other site and then we search a specific provider of interests handle here, because to us, why would we want to sift through a bunch of posts for providers we aren't interested in when we can use the much more robust profile search function on RM or other site first? So we come here already knowing what city they are in at that present moment because that's how we're seeing them come up on RM in the first place. Searching the handle here brings up any new and old posts that often say cities that Provider is likely no longer located in. So that's why we largely see it as useless or redundant info to include in the post title. We are seeing the providers location from the start because we are starting from their listing and not here first. It's not rocket science, but it is a matter of different use cases and perspectives. To both of us, our way is "easier" cause it's what we're used to doing.

Adding month/year isn't needed, all posts are already time stamped.

I've definitely seen lower prices for the newer guys (i agree, largely due to economic reasons like Nue2TheGame said), but for the more experienced guys i've seen their prices hold or a few of them I've seen list price increases for new clients. Plenty of higher priced escorts see multiple guys in one day too. That's not exclusive to charging less.

Listing city is meaningless for the huge chunk of providers who are sometimes/always traveling. Even ones who don't travel super often sometimes move. It's outdated info within a matter of days or weeks for traveling providers and sometimes even out of date after X time for fairly static providers if they move or visit somewhere for vacation and take clients where they are visiting. I don't think there's really any real logical solution for this. The only possible solution is if the developers of the forum added a feature that somehow real time tracks the listed location of a provider in RM and auto updates posts with their name to change location. And i think that'd be very infeasible. I don't know. This has never really crossed my mind as being an issue personally. Most providers I've hired in the past are traveling providers, and when i came here to look providers up i already had a name to search from browsing RM first. I'm generally not browsing the Deli and looking for my city in the titles because i already had it in my head from the start that many providers move around a lot. So i could be the odd one out in that way and this wouldn't ping as an annoyance for me.

I get that you wished they replied to you sooner but you are GROSSLY overreacting to the fact he didn't. It's not as big of a deal as you are making it out to be. You sound like the stereotype of the crazy woman who gets mad when someone she's dating doesn't reply in 5 minutes. Obviously this isn't the same time frames, but you are coming at a situation that doesn't actually matter with the energy of a situation that is highly important or like he wronged you personally. It's just an RM DM, it is objectively not this serious. Most of us here do not feel the same way as you are feeling, you are having a HUGE over reaction over what is basically nothing. And yes the dude was thirsty, he asked if you were around that night. He wanted you now, and you freaked out and came here to bitch to us instead of making your money or just trying to schedule a different night with him. Jesus christ, just do that from now on and save yourself the frustration and crazy ranting.

The principle didn't fly over me, I'm just not a psycho who cares this much about reply times or the optics of saying yes to a job. You sound crazy in all of your replies here.

Literally no one would ever give a shit about how you being available to work would look. That's what a prospective client would hope for! They're the one thirsty for you! This is such an absurd and vain thing to be concerned about. Holy crap you need to chill man.

Not sure i agree on the latter half. Depends on your definition of using AI agents anonymously. Every centralized one i know of requires you to sign up with an email and make an account. And any of the ones that are actually anonymous or private require you to do a proper manual setup on your computer. You have to know MCP and APIs and this and that. Most people do not know how to do this and don't want to know, that's the whole reason why people want AI in the first place is to not have to be bothered with technical stuff because the AI does it for you. As far as privacy stuff goes, i wouldn't put those two things on the same level. Mobile carriers use ephemeral storage for messages. They only keep the content of texts for up to a couple months at most, but they maintain metadata like who you text and when but not the content of the messages. When law enforcement subpeona's them they are mainly handing over metadata unless it's within that couple weeks to months time frame. Now that Apple's iMessage is encrypted, and Android's RCS is encrypted, and messages between the two also are now encrypted. There's no message content leaking without a hacker or law enforcement getting direct access to your device. It's inherently harder to get into someones texts with how many different layers there are between the content and a bad actor. It's why usually when mobile carriers do have a data breach, it's almost always only your info you used to setup your account with them and not the content of your texts or recorded phone calls because they generally just don't have them anymore. There's multiple accounts to bypass, SIM card activations, physical access needed usually, etc, etc. Meanwhile, ChatGPT is not encrypting anything you input into it and anything they have could leak tomorrow either due to some intern hitting the wrong button or by them being targeted by North Korean hackers or whatever else. Let alone law enforcement/subpoena where they're compelled to hand over preserved chat log content and not just metadata. It's already happened actually https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2025/11/oddest-chatgpt-leaks-yet-cringey-chat-logs-found-in-google-analytics-tool/ A misconfigured Share feature led to private chat logs of users to be leaked and scraped by Google Search and be publicly accessible. So yeah it's just, not the same level at all. Especially when all these AI companies are still in "move fast, break things, make money at all costs so we don't cause another Dot Com Crash, apologize and settle out of court later if needed" mode and more or less are completely unregulated still. The notion that the ship has sailed already isn't true and that sentiment is how they make us be ok with them encroaching on us more, but there are multiple ships in the dock and some of them haven't gone anywhere yet till we let them.

I've mainly used any of the 3 main payment apps in the U.S. (CashApp, Venmo, or Zelle). Have also used cash before or when requested but same as Pensant said, i use BoA and their ATMs dispense $100 bills (and i was never a big enough spender to need more than a few of those $100s either), so that's never really been an issue either luckily. Yeah i'll never fully understand why Venmo took off when that was it's only differentiating feature. CashApp should have the popularity/wide spread use that Venmo does in my opinion. CashApp is so straight forward and no non-sense. Going off of this. I do wonder sometimes what clients/providers would do as financial surveillance increases. We're already barreling toward a cashless society while at the same time seeing the further digitization of money with how crypto and stable-coins are attempting to be implemented into the financial system. There are privacy focused crypto coins out there that are largely untraceable. Signal app, and i'm sure other encrypted messaging apps, has a privacy coin for example you can send back and forth to other users. But that obviously has a technical hurdle/learning curve to it. Maybe we go back to bartering 😆

Agreed. I actually find height makes many positions difficult, or at the very least, need to be done differently to still work/reach what you need to depending on what heights are involved. All can be worked around, but in my opinion it's definitely not all the same once horizontal as the saying goes.

It's not really that black and white anymore. Unless the guy is an actual certified massage therapist, there's just a ton of gray area and crossover between masseurs who also "go further" and only charge masseur rate and escorts who do massage as foreplay for escort rate. There are guys who do full massage with escort fun at the end for masseur prices, vice versa, and everything in between. But yes, communicate with the provider and make sure you're on the same page with them about what you're doing and the rate. My recommendation for OP is MikeChris/Piko though: https://rentmasseur.com/MikeChris

To add on to these comments. I definitely think there's a certain amount of mutually assured destruction behind why they don't truly crack down on this hobby/profession the way they could if they really wanted to in the U.S. In addition to the resource management, practicality, and crime priority level aspect of it. A not insignificant amount of cops, politicians, and high profile/high power people also are clients. Some of whom are fairly known in an "open secret" kind of way in some circles. If they really tried to come down on this with indiscriminate full force, they wouldn't be able to protect the massive amount of themselves/each other who also engage in this and they'd be at high risk of exposing themselves and people having their secrets get out. And i think that is part of why they tend to mostly go after this in such a targeted manner mainly when it serves other purposes like the reasons Soloyo215 listed. I think the powers that be would love to have the law be the same as how it is in the U.K., but because of how the U.S. has been culturally for so long it'll effectively be impossible to ever pass any true State or National level legalization for a long time.

Maybe, but i don't think it'd go as far as suggested. I could see it maybe screening initial inquiries if a provider so chooses. But if i was a provider, i personally would still want to have viable client candidates given to me by the AI and give the final ok on which one i take and when for myself. I just would want it to weed out time wasters or incompatible clients. I wouldn't want it accepting meets and booking my calendar for me. As someone who's tried implementing AI into my job and found a lot of it's limitations and where it falls short of the over hype/marketing. There's things it's just not ready for yet and it still needs lots of hand-holding and double checking it's work. AI/LLMs (Large Language Models) despite all the marketing, are not sentient, aren't aware of what they say to you, will spit out incorrect information confidently, and AI agents have done things like accidentally delete a users hard drive and other dumb stuff. When it comes to reply delays. I kind of see it like when people text you and don't get a response, so then they call you thinking that will make you pick up and it's like, if I'm not available to reply to a text I'm also not available to answer a call haha. But like in the scenario a provider is busy working and can't give the final ok to a meet the AI setup and passed along. There's still going to be a delay till the provider gets back to their computer/phone or whatever to give the final ok. Both clients and providers really need to just accept that people aren't staring at their inbox or obligated to be reachable 24/7 and get over it, in my opinion 😆. Another big issue AI use in this raises is discretion/privacy. Unless the provider is using their own self hosted implementation of an open source AI. Things like ChatGPT are logging everything you input to it and sending it home to OpenAI for further training model use (some AI platforms claim to let you opt out of this, but do they really with how this space currently has zero regulation, no one actually knows). Things you put into ChatGPT are held in record and can be used against you in court for example. And in places where what we all engage in here isn't exactly legal, it'd be very not smart to use AIs in this way unless you setup a private one. Which the average person wouldn't know how to do and would just default to ChatGPT. We already can't even get everyone who does this to use encrypted messaging apps like Signal as is 🤣

Yeah i think that rule will have a huge impact. There's more details to that 5 years of social media history thing too. It's not just social media history. They're also proposing requiring "the gathering of an applicant's telephone numbers and email addresses used over the last five and 10 years respectively" and similar information about their immediate family members... It's in a 60 day public comment period, but if it's enacted as originally proposed it will have a devastating impact on tourism (and thus providers who may want to come to the US from elsewhere). https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c1dz0g2ykpeo

Yes, they do. Do some stings and arrests happen? Sure, but it still is not a top priority for police the way murders and assaults or robberies are. Finding one random recent case of a sting operation doesn't change anything said above. Every now and then some local precinct will have a quota to hit and they'll do something like that and they do what they gotta do. And then they go right back to mostly ignoring it.

It's the rise of hot guys with big social media followings and OnlyFans over the last 10ish years, yeah. Sex work is the next logical step and/or next logical side hustle for many of them.

I used to have a provider i hired regularly who had a 9-5. I also work during the day. We'd always meet sometime between 9pm and midnight on weekdays, or any time on a weekend. Was never a problem.

If it were me, i'd personally go to a big city like New York City, New York. Los Angeles, California. San Francisco, California. Austin, Texas and such. Big cities usually have plenty of people who don't celebrate/travel back to their home towns for the holidays. So should be plenty of people who would hire. Big cities never sleep. But also you probably could still do well in a small city too. Lot of people who may fly to their home towns for the holidays also may be the people who want to sneak away and hire for a bit to get away from dealing with family drama/stress that naturally comes with the holiday season for many. And if you just are thinking of stuff to do on your own. Big cities i feel have better holiday festivities. Like Orlando, Florida and Los Angeles, California both have a Universal Studios theme park and both have a Disney World/Disney Land (respectively) theme park that are Christmas/holiday themed at this time of year if you're into that kind of thing.

It's definitely a more mainstream thing now. It has a lot to do with Gen Z guys being much more likely to have porn addictions these days. Gen Z guys make jokes about (because they do it in their private time for real) what they now call "gooning", which is just their new slang term for edging (though there technically is supposed to be a difference where gooning is endless teasing with no intent to orgasm and edging is prolonged play that ultimately still ends in orgasm, but young guys largely use the terms interchangeably). So the rise in popularity of edging is due to that, plus like OP said, it's easy fairly low effort OF content anyone can do and is content guys who otherwise maybe wouldn't do OF with their face shown can get into and have it be a thing they do on the side for fun or for pay (either as the guy doing the edging or the guy getting edged, the latter of which is also very easy entry for gay4pay straight guys). All of this has always been the case, the porn studios have always had edging content. It's just that much more mainstream and democratized now because of OF, Twitter, and Instagram/TikTok memes referencing it.

Other than RentMen and RentMasseur, the main place i see people advertise is Grindr, Sniffies, and even Tinder.