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I know for fact all of my regulars (who advertised as a T only) do bottom (for the right guy or right price). Doesnt negatively affect my experience with them (me as a B). I think key point should be their technical skill. So long as he perform great, I couldnt care less what is his preference in his personal time.
If any, I always try to get them to bottom in a 3s for me to watch.

I know for fact all of my regulars (who advertised as a T only) do bottom (for the right guy or right price). Doesnt negatively affect my experience with them (me as a B). I think key point should be their technical skill. So long as he perform great, I couldnt care less what is his preference in his personal time.
If any, I always try to get them to bottom in a 3s for me to watch.

Second this. Had many of these perks, in various forms. And for obvious reasons, I would never speak of them in details to others. 
IMO membership/loyalty program works best in a non-interpersonal relationship. 

I agree.  I've certainly gotten some perks (extra time, etc) from a few of the guys I hired the most, but I never posted that on the forum or included it in a review.  I considered those expressions of appreciation to me as a frequent customer, not something that provider was necessarily going to offer everyone.  It's on them when and if to communicate some "bonus" to a repeat customer.  
I will add that most guys that I hired more than once never offered me anything extra; these extras only came from providers I had hired many, many times over more than a year, which means a small amount of men for me since I rarely found someone I wanted to hire more than a couple of times.

I think many escorts (at least the older and savvier ones) have some kind of "loyalty" perks for regulars, but for obvious reasons neither provider nor client should or would talk about it. It's kinda tacky putting a "10% off" sticker on your ass, although I've seen some desperate ones do that.

Some of these guys need to feel physical attraction in order to perform, and requesting a photo is their way of ensuring that they can provide the service you want. Sending a G-rated photo is very low-risk. If that scenario isn’t acceptable to you, there are other providers who can do the job without regard for your appearance. Hire them. 

This usually lands me in all sort of drama. Had to cut off 2 of my regulars. Arranged a 3s with them (say A and B - both advertised as a T only), notice heavy chemistry between them that evening. Fast forward couple weeks, met with A who told me that he had actually went back to B's place after the 3s and B had bottom for him. A went on to spill tea on B. Being curious myself, I book B for the week after, surely right on cue B start babbling about A (including that A had bottom for him). All fun drama until B snitch on A for whatever he told B about my personal life (go as far as showing me A's texts). 
One other instances, arranged a 3s with my new regular (C) and this one other provider (whom I have never met (D), recommended by C). Again, heavy chemistry between C and D, though expected as D was recommended by C. C was booked for 3hrs and D only for 1hr (his booking ends on the 2nd hr of C). C ended the evening early (at the same time as D) saying he is double booked with other client and C promised to replace that 1hr for the next day. Annoying but since I was spent and tired that evening, fine with me. Fast forward weeks, I booked D and to my surprise D let it slip that he had actually went home with C that evening (hence C ended his booking with me early). Had to cut off both of them.
 

This usually lands me in all sort of drama. Had to cut off 2 of my regulars. Arranged a 3s with them (say A and B - both advertised as a T only), notice heavy chemistry between them that evening. Fast forward couple weeks, met with A who told me that he had actually went back to B's place after the 3s and B had bottom for him. A went on to spill tea on B. Being curious myself, I book B for the week after, surely right on cue B start babbling about A (including that A had bottom for him). All fun drama until B snitch on A for whatever he told B about my personal life (go as far as showing me A's texts). 
One other instances, arranged a 3s with my new regular (C) and this one other provider (whom I have never met (D), recommended by C). Again, heavy chemistry between C and D, though expected as D was recommended by C. C was booked for 3hrs and D only for 1hr (his booking ends on the 2nd hr of C). C ended the evening early (at the same time as D) saying he is double booked with other client and C promised to replace that 1hr for the next day. Annoying but since I was spent and tired that evening, fine with me. Fast forward weeks, I booked D and to my surprise D let it slip that he had actually went home with C that evening (hence C ended his booking with me early). Had to cut off both of them.
 

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IMO (as a client), depending on your financial condition, do consider requiring a deposit (noting ofc such practice might undeliberately deter legit customers). Pick your battle I reckon. 

I don't want to add to the stress and strains you're obviously having in this relationship, and I truly feel for you. But look above at what you previously wrote (with my added emphasis), then say, "Miss Watson, please read that back to me." Then do a Google search for "denial".
You cannot live your truth if you cannot tell yourself the truth, and you cannot lose what you never really had. Let this thing die under its own weight then go and find that which makes you truly happy and fulfilled. There will always be a lingering pain, but that pain will be in your past, not your future. Make your best life ahead of you, knowing you're the only one who can.
With my best wishes for what's next in your story!
 

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I’ll speak strictly as a client—so I defer to the professionals who actually do this for a living, but I’ll say this: If you’re offering a service, especially one where people are paying you for your time, body, and energy, then you need to communicate why someone should choose you.
Right now, this reads more like a fantasy than a business. You mention being turned on by the idea of getting paid, but from a client’s perspective, that doesn’t tell me what I’m getting in return. What makes you good at this? What’s your style, your vibe, your niche? Is it sensual, therapeutic, deep-tissue, connection-based? Are you intuitive, strong-handed, good with nervous clients? Etc.
This might be a side hustle for you, but to a client spending real money, it’s not a side experience. So if you’re serious, advertise with intention. Let us know what makes you worth booking—beyond the fact that you enjoy it.

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Porn creates unrealistic expectation, so does provider. They are professional for a reason. Hire them long enough you will get a peek of their true thought.
I wouldnt do it but if you were desperate enough, lower your standard. Date any joe however they look. 

I would pass if you were looking for a top. Stunning to look at, a dissapointment in bed. Reckon he is more of a bottom. A good kisser tho.

You may want to try hiring an escort to just go on a date, with absolutely no sex.  Once you learn to enjoy the human connection in public without nudity, sex, cuddling, etc., then dating and making friends with men you don't pay should be easier.   But remember, learn to be invested in the other person and make him feel good first, even when his story is not that interesting to you.  That's what the paid escort is doing with you when you talk with each other.

Business worthiness varies. Its not uncommon for thriving business to not chase potential client for myriad of reasons. That aside, your last response ia deff a conversation stopper. I would have propose alternative timing instead of waiting for a proposal from him. He is unlikely to 'move mountain' for a potential one hour booking. 

To majority untrained straight ppl, way way easier to spot MF provider/client than MM ones. And even that, 99% hotel staff wont care apart of some gossips.
To be frank, hotel staffs gain nothing from calling the police....the hotel management would rather not be put in that kind of publication. They hence will turn blind eyes - unless of course you start a gang bang party and making hella noise 🤣 even in that event police escalation is last resort.

I’m pretty easygoing in these matters and I can let a lot roll off my shoulders—and I have! That said, the one thing that really gets to me is when a provider isn’t fully present, or when there’s an unspoken vibe that I should feel lucky just to be with them. It’s rare, thankfully, but when it happens, it leaves a pretty shitty feeling. Mutual respect and genuine connection—however brief—go a long way.

Do you tip your lawyer (on top of their hourly rate)? Doctor? vet? Therapist? 

Do you tip your lawyer (on top of their hourly rate)? Doctor? vet? Therapist? 

If your main aim is to impress a provider, THE sure way is by giving him excessively massive cash tips - or a high end jewelry or a watch. No one will say no to a Patek.
Otherwise, its him, the provider, who should strive to impress you - your job is to be respectful and pay for his service. His job is to peform within agreed parameter.
That said, I would always go for places with great food, doesnt have to be a michelin, just gotta be great food. Or new resto that I wanted to try. Went to dessert bars couple times - had even bought ice cream to eat whilst walking on beach, spent hours just waking and talking. Its all about the connection. My reguler would sometime meet me on super casual clothing, tee and gym short at public park.
As far as accomodatiob, now this is where I would splurge. Pick your accomodation based on what you plan to do in the evening....do you need a bathtub? Jacuzzi? King size bed (for obvious reason)? Balcony (for late night talk before bed or smoke)? Extra spacey room (for 3s)? 24hr room services? Good sound proofing (especially for rough play)? Good room service (for extra towels)? Full set kitchen (I once cook late night snack after play with provider)? Or private pool (for overnight)?
IMO for consideration, a suite in a 4 stars might be a better option than a standard room in a 5stars. A service apartment (that operates like a hotel) is also often a great option.