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    Bokomaru got a reaction from + Mrprofessional in What's considered acceptable medical care in your country?   
    Back on the topic, I wanted to mention how struck I was by my NHS care in the UK as it compared to the US. Here it seems doctors are often very rushed and don’t take time to really dig into the issue. Especially if it’s something difficult to pin down. 
     
    In the UK I had the (admittedly anecdotal) opposite experience. With two separate heath issues, the doctors I encountered took the time for very thorough questions about medical history and symptoms. A 30+ minute discussion is a rarity in the US and it seems I’m often suggested a pill to take to see if it helps… “come back if you’re still having trouble.” But in the UK, careful discussion  yielded great results for me. 

    I’m generalizing of course about US care. And I will admit that the many Brits in my life seem to have a low opinion of NHS. They all seem to have private insurance. 
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from MscleLovr in What's considered acceptable medical care in your country?   
    Back on the topic, I wanted to mention how struck I was by my NHS care in the UK as it compared to the US. Here it seems doctors are often very rushed and don’t take time to really dig into the issue. Especially if it’s something difficult to pin down. 
     
    In the UK I had the (admittedly anecdotal) opposite experience. With two separate heath issues, the doctors I encountered took the time for very thorough questions about medical history and symptoms. A 30+ minute discussion is a rarity in the US and it seems I’m often suggested a pill to take to see if it helps… “come back if you’re still having trouble.” But in the UK, careful discussion  yielded great results for me. 

    I’m generalizing of course about US care. And I will admit that the many Brits in my life seem to have a low opinion of NHS. They all seem to have private insurance. 
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from Marc in Calif in What's considered acceptable medical care in your country?   
    Back on the topic, I wanted to mention how struck I was by my NHS care in the UK as it compared to the US. Here it seems doctors are often very rushed and don’t take time to really dig into the issue. Especially if it’s something difficult to pin down. 
     
    In the UK I had the (admittedly anecdotal) opposite experience. With two separate heath issues, the doctors I encountered took the time for very thorough questions about medical history and symptoms. A 30+ minute discussion is a rarity in the US and it seems I’m often suggested a pill to take to see if it helps… “come back if you’re still having trouble.” But in the UK, careful discussion  yielded great results for me. 

    I’m generalizing of course about US care. And I will admit that the many Brits in my life seem to have a low opinion of NHS. They all seem to have private insurance. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to MscleLovr in What's considered acceptable medical care in your country?   
    It’s very sad but I’m not surprised by this. Generally I find both Portuguese and Spanish people to be very polite, but those living in rural areas tend to be rather more conservative.
    I can relate two direct experiences of life in rural Catalonia (the province of which Barcelona is the main city).
    First, I had a younger Catalan partner and we had a house in the countryside. I made a big effort (trying to speak Catalan, sharing produce from our fruit trees, inviting neighbours to dinner etc) - my point is that I was expected to make the effort because I was the foreigner. There was an Englishman (40s) living nearby but he made no effort to be nice to his neighbours, so they neglected to invite him to various gatherings.
    Second, there was a rather handsome young police officer (20s) in the rural force. He was friendly and I had a sense that he might be gay. So we invited him to dinner one night and he confided in us. He, locally born and raised, lamented how difficult it was to find a partner. We urged him to move into Barcelona: he did and joined the police there, and now has a partner.
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from secgoo in A fair price Vs a guilty secret   
    Of course it could be an insult to him. It just depends on how it’s presented. 
    I think the advice so far hasn’t taken into account just how young, naive, and inexperienced guys in that age range can be. 

    Do what you already know is the right thing to do. Gingerly mention it to him in case he’s not aware of market conditions and what he’s worth. 
     
    You do not want to “educate” him but rather to (actually) educate him. One way is condescending. The other is an offer of information that might be useful. Then he can decide what to do. 
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from pubic_assistance in A fair price Vs a guilty secret   
    Of course it could be an insult to him. It just depends on how it’s presented. 
    I think the advice so far hasn’t taken into account just how young, naive, and inexperienced guys in that age range can be. 

    Do what you already know is the right thing to do. Gingerly mention it to him in case he’s not aware of market conditions and what he’s worth. 
     
    You do not want to “educate” him but rather to (actually) educate him. One way is condescending. The other is an offer of information that might be useful. Then he can decide what to do. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to Decatur Guy in Rentmen made newer and tougher rules for advertising providers   
    Maybe this will all catch up to me at any minute. But as of 4 p.m. ET Monday, I can still see full frontal in public pics. Private pics are still a thing in some profiles. And I can access videos. I'm on a premium membership at $19.95 (which is a recent big increase; I've also had an issue a couple of times with the credit card not going through).

    And please don't shout at me in boldfaced, enlarged type. I'm just reporting what I can see at the current time and what has been happening in my account. I'm not responsible for these decisions, the mess ups at RM or anyone's frustrations over them happening.

    Perhaps by tomorrow, it will be different on my screen. It's hardly the first time in the history of the internet that different people in different places on different browsers and on different plans see different things. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to NJF in Rentmen made newer and tougher rules for advertising providers   
    It seems that rear view of naked body is fine. Is this a ploy to favor bottom providers?
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    Bokomaru reacted to + José Soplanucas in Rentmen made newer and tougher rules for advertising providers   
    Indeed, it is an excellent example of Capitalism—a monopoly running with no competition. It was not hard to predict this would happen. That is why when I was still hiring in the US, I did everything I could (very little) to support new companies that could rise to be their competition. They didn't.
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from kyleham in Rentmen made newer and tougher rules for advertising providers   
    Seems like a plausible possibility. But I’m not sure what the point would be. You can easily create a shortcut on your Home Screen and it then functions separately from your browser, like an app. If going into the Apple App Store they’d have to give Apple 30% of in app purchases. I agree with others. The new policies read as a cash grab. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to RamPoundAss in Rentmen made newer and tougher rules for advertising providers   
    They might think that more visibility will grow the subscriber base substantially, at least in certain markets. I kind of think it’s a market that finds it on its own, but maybe not, especially in certain countries where the internet may be censored. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to pubic_assistance in Two for the Price of One   
    Clearly you are fond of this client because for most providers this situation borders on the disrespectful.
    Inviting a second person (b.f.or not) without prior discussion of this being the occasion for such a visit is unprofessional.
    Kind of you to keep an open mind...but you have a right as a professional escort to have limits to what goes down in a session.
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from + jessmapex in Gay friendly financial advisor   
    I implore you when you hire a financial advisor to go with a fiduciary advisor. Perhaps this is obvious, but since you say you’re worried about having inappropriate financial products pushed on you, this suggests that you’re not aware of the difference. A fiduciary advisor is required by law to act in your best interest (not their own). And they tend to be less expensive anyway. 
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from mrdonaldlam in Mind control   
    True story
    I was in the early stages of dating a sub guy and as we lay in bed he mentioned that he got in trouble for being late to work that morning. “It’s your fault, I didn’t want to leave you this morning,” he said.  I asked if his clothes were prepared for tomorrow morning. He said no. So I made him drag his ass out of bed and iron his clothes for the morning. 
     
    He was rock hard the entire time. Ah, young love….
     
    We’re still together. I haven’t done my own laundry once in the last two decades. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to Jarrod_Uncut in Why is so hard to get reviews as a new escort?   
    Patience grasshopper…
    2 months is hardly long of a time. I probably waited 2 years before seeing my first review, and for awhile even after it still took some time. 
     
    probably better to keep your profile and just update it, versus getting a new one. You want to stay consistent. Also try to feel the person out, before asking for a review. The last minute wham bam, thankyou sir, might not be into reviews. But someone you planned ahead with may be moreso. I also don’t ask for it in person, as I don’t want to corner anyone. Better to let it seem “suggested” but highly appreciated.
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from + Italiano in Apollo/ RealMangnum (...) 411   
    The only review on RM of this guy comes from a member of this forum. 
     
    @Fahayek care to enlighten us on your encounter?
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from thomas in Mind control   
    True story
    I was in the early stages of dating a sub guy and as we lay in bed he mentioned that he got in trouble for being late to work that morning. “It’s your fault, I didn’t want to leave you this morning,” he said.  I asked if his clothes were prepared for tomorrow morning. He said no. So I made him drag his ass out of bed and iron his clothes for the morning. 
     
    He was rock hard the entire time. Ah, young love….
     
    We’re still together. I haven’t done my own laundry once in the last two decades. 
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from Marc in Calif in Mind control   
    True story
    I was in the early stages of dating a sub guy and as we lay in bed he mentioned that he got in trouble for being late to work that morning. “It’s your fault, I didn’t want to leave you this morning,” he said.  I asked if his clothes were prepared for tomorrow morning. He said no. So I made him drag his ass out of bed and iron his clothes for the morning. 
     
    He was rock hard the entire time. Ah, young love….
     
    We’re still together. I haven’t done my own laundry once in the last two decades. 
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from + DrownedBoy in Mind control   
    True story
    I was in the early stages of dating a sub guy and as we lay in bed he mentioned that he got in trouble for being late to work that morning. “It’s your fault, I didn’t want to leave you this morning,” he said.  I asked if his clothes were prepared for tomorrow morning. He said no. So I made him drag his ass out of bed and iron his clothes for the morning. 
     
    He was rock hard the entire time. Ah, young love….
     
    We’re still together. I haven’t done my own laundry once in the last two decades. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to 56harrisond in Mind control   
    The real BFE
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    Bokomaru reacted to GTMike in Once-in-a-lifetime hookups?   
    I had one this summer that I'm praying to any deity or spiritual entity listening, that it won't be just that one time!!   (Admittedly the initial intro/connection was through SA) yet all we did was chit-chat about generic stuff without any specifics related to SA type situations. So not sure if this counts as a hook-up?
    He's finishing College far away this year but grew up ~hour away and we randomly discovered we were close by each other one random evening.
    He was out with a "girlfriend"( legit long-legged hot model beach blonde) though insisted I meet them out with the flimsyiest of cover stories i'd ever heard of.
    He's literally the prototypical great looking 21/22 year old uber athlete hot jock college frat bro.  Early on after meeting, when we had a brief private moment he tells me he want's to fool around.
    I'm so skeptical to the point that i literally laughed out loud.
    We all legit have a blast time out at dinner and bar hopping but the entire time I'm thinking i get it, they'll just fleece me for dinner and drinks and ditch me later. That's the hustle. So I'm going with the flow but totally resigned to that fate.
    We do all end up organically splitting up in the mayhem of bar hopping.
    As Bar's are closing I run into him. Says he's annoyed that hours earlier I didn't take him seriously about hooking up.
    I'm literall confused af.
    Then i think oh i get it, i busted him as he thought i had already left and he needs to update his "ditching" excuse.
    Turns out after more drunken clumsy misunderstandings we end up in my bed blissfully fooling around the rest of the night way past sunrise. In fact he introduced me to awesome things I've never done prior or after.
    Next morning as he's leaving I awkwardly have to brooch the subject that since we met over SA yet never discussed anything specific what were his expectations?
    He looks at me and says, "what are you talking about?" 
    I'm like wtf!!
    Given being on summer break from school and college student I did feel completely obligated yet happy to donate for his books. He never looks at what i gave him and asks me repeatedly am I sure and he didn't expect anything and am i ok with it.
    He never once looks at what i gave him and as he's leaving he never looks back but says "That was great, i had a blast, text me sometime" and 2 weeks later goes back to school for Senior year.
    I'm way more excited for him to graduate college than i was for myself 3 to 4 decades ago! 
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    Bokomaru reacted to ICTJOCK in "Large" client shopping providers on basis of abilities   
    He just seemed resentful  that he was told they could handle him and come to find out they could not.    What he wanted from me was some assurances.    Well  I'm very capable,  but how would I know for sure.....LOL
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from Marc in Calif in PA campgrounds?   
    I’ve been to The Woods a couple of times recently. There’s no history of outsiders coming in to bash the homos, as far as I’m aware. 
    I was disappointed but not surprised to find out that someone had posted a sign at the entrance saying “Stop grooming our children.”  It was of course taken down immediately. 
    Anyway, the Woods is a wonderful, open, friendly community with a wide variety of types.  And there’s tons of sex. 
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    Bokomaru reacted to DWnyc in Question on "ask me" or "anything goes" bottoms on RM   
    Could be different rules for trusted partners who some film with vs someone new though 
     
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    Bokomaru got a reaction from + Pensant in Stalking   
    Is this true? I’ve never had a problem using a burner number (that I’m aware of). I’ve tested burner numbers by using them to call and text my real number, and I don’t see how they could be identified as such. I’d appreciate more on this, if anyone knows. 
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