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Yes you should have told him your roommate was there. Reverse the situation. Would you be comfortable if you were going to his place and unexpectedly found his roommate there?

I take the opposite approach.  I tell all my escorts/masseurs/hookups to "close the door so my upstairs roommate won't be disturbed", even when I have no roommates in the house.  For my safety, I like having them think someone else is in the house.

I’ve done that before as well…walk past the shut door to guest room and said “don’t worry we won’t bother my roommate”.

He doesn't know any single thing about that person, and seems like you did not inform him about having a roommate when making arrangements. To me that looks like a personal safety thing.
Yes, you should have told him. He's coming to a home of a stranger, that alone has a degree of risk, then he's surprised by seeing another stranger hanging out in the house, without knowing who that person is or what the intentions are.
I don't find the actions of the provider unreasonable.
I've had unpleasant experiences with opposite roles. I've been to the place where the provider is set, and I have found people there hanging around, and it does not feel comfortable and pleasant. In fact, one of them had the roommates passing back and forth in front of me while I was getting the massage.
IMO, both the client and the provider should be aware of other people present in the place where the event will take place, regardless of how "open minded" the people around are. The "I'm ok with it" thing or "I'll be a fly on the wall" thing is not the issue; it's a comfort and personal safety issue.

This is especially true from providers that view themselves as models.

Or perhaps being able / willing to fake that interest regardless of orientation 
I think “straight” in this context gives an out to act totally disinterested and even rude - and that does actually attract some people … in terms of signaling what the attitude will be during the session 
I’ve met self-defined straight, bi and gay providers who act like they’re doing humanity a favor by allowing a modicum of interaction to those who they see as bottom of the league - the orientation is less important than how they see themselves vs the client in this case 

I'm not a provider, but I'm a gay man who hooks up with other people. I don't see the point of you bringing that up to him. If there's any interest in you on his part, he will mention it at the time when he feels ready and appropriate. It could be a different situation if he lies about it, or sustains a position against escorting while you know that he escorts. But if it's just a person that you met and hooked up with, if you have a real inteterest in that person, let him disclose at his pace. If otherwise you get a cheap thrill by brining people's information (not exactly secrets if he advertises), then act accordingly. Just keep in mind that who knows how many things we hide when we hook up with others. We all have our own things to tell or keep quiet. The fact that he's a provider doesn't make him any less of a human being. Just my thoughts, not law.

What's the standard price in New York for 2 hours right now? That's like asking what's the standard price in New York for a new car right now.
It all depends on the model.
You don't pay the same price for a new BMW as you would for an '86 beaten up Chevy. Correct?
What does the model look like? Young or old? Well-built/Muscular or skinny/flabby? Handsome or unattractive/average? Tattooed or ink-free?
Also, how interactive is the guy? Then we all have our personal preferences/dislikes for which we would be willing to pay more fore or pay less, i.e. hairy/smooth, cut/uncut, tall/short, Black/White/Latin, etc.
There are some guys Bozo sees on Rentmen that he wouldn't pay $20 bucks to be with, and others for whom Bozo would empty out his bank account to be with.
BTC
 

Depends who you are and what you’re offering
I have rarely proactively sought more than 1 hr (unless things going really well and I don’t feel tricked into extendibg) - and I’m noticing more providers throwing in an incentive to book in the first place by offering discounted rates for the 2nd hour - and if been quoted as low as 350 or so. By those well reviewed on RM and here. Of course they might not have started with that if I started my inquiries at 2 hours.
now I fully recognize there are those that charge 500+ for just one hour, but they wouldn’t be on my shortlist 

Depends who you are and what you’re offering
I have rarely proactively sought more than 1 hr (unless things going really well and I don’t feel tricked into extendibg) - and I’m noticing more providers throwing in an incentive to book in the first place by offering discounted rates for the 2nd hour - and if been quoted as low as 350 or so. By those well reviewed on RM and here. Of course they might not have started with that if I started my inquiries at 2 hours.
now I fully recognize there are those that charge 500+ for just one hour, but they wouldn’t be on my shortlist 

Depends who you are and what you’re offering
I have rarely proactively sought more than 1 hr (unless things going really well and I don’t feel tricked into extendibg) - and I’m noticing more providers throwing in an incentive to book in the first place by offering discounted rates for the 2nd hour - and if been quoted as low as 350 or so. By those well reviewed on RM and here. Of course they might not have started with that if I started my inquiries at 2 hours.
now I fully recognize there are those that charge 500+ for just one hour, but they wouldn’t be on my shortlist 

But surely that can happen on text as well?

I confirm the rate each time whether they are regulars or not. Mainly because I often schedule more than just the standard hour. For a short session I really prefer one and a half hours so that entails a small negotiation anyway. And some I might see after a year or so has passed so it’s best to check if the rate is the same.

Why do they assume that?
Do you correct them (assuming you don’t identify yourself that way?)

100% agree.  I've never had a bad exchange with a provider.  Anyone I have hired I am respectful to and I get the same in return.  How can you even have a good time with someone if that contempt exists?   I want to have fun and I want the provider I hire to know I respect and value their time, and I have always been provided a great time in return.

I’m skeptical on the explanation often given “I rarely check RM messages” - why wouldn’t you check the source of the enquiry in the first place - how many other sources of business does the average provider have?

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 
Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 
A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.
But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 
Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 
A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.
But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

As discussed here in other contexts, good guy providers offer some temporary fantasy relief here, bad guys can  pounce on this dynamic for all sorts of mind games and scams 

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 
Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 
A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.
But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 
Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 
A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.
But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

Rates seem to be coming down in NYC
Providers seem more proactive trying to convert enquiries to a booking.  Seems less “I don’t have time for these basic questions” and more “did I answer everything?”’and “you said you might be interested, just checking” a few days later …

Rates seem to be coming down in NYC
Providers seem more proactive trying to convert enquiries to a booking.  Seems less “I don’t have time for these basic questions” and more “did I answer everything?”’and “you said you might be interested, just checking” a few days later …

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 
Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 
A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.
But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

Then again, I reached out to a new provider twice and “crickets”. Some must be doing well.