Why I rather go to cities mainly for pre-booked visits…

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I reserved a room for 2 days (and usually even that’s rare, as I often book rooms only one day at a time). I had one person pre-booked, but then another who was contacting before I arrived, but he was reaching as if I was available and in town right then. Overly eager to come over to me, before even asking if I was actually hosting much less: in town. Like umm, why am I supposed to show up to a city, before I even have anyone confirmed? Do clients all think we just pack bags, book hotels and travel out of our own pocket before we even get a client? It may make sense for some, but doesn’t make sense to me.

And as I have to explain all the time: “seeing my ad in a city does not necessarily mean I’m in town and available  now”. But then, lot of times when that is the case, some still bullshit and flake. Another guy act like he was going to come to my hotel yesterday afternoon: flaked. Him and the other guy. Only the 1 pre-booked client showed up. It’s annoying, because usually I would have just booked the room 1 night….and either went home, or on to the next destination. But: as previously discussed, one night in a hotel room often doesn’t feel long enough. 
 

It’s like there’s a caveat to both methods: if I try to plan a trip for pre-booked clients only, the ones who think I’m there now won’t be available when I get there. If I show up unannounced, then I’m relying too heavily on the possibility of a client, or enough clients will book during the time I’m there. 
 

But I wish there was a universal way to convey, not everyone wants to gamble going to a city, booking a hotel and waiting around for clients: knowing that most of the inquiries out here are often flakes anyway. That’s why sometimes people ask me to meet in a city listed in my ad: “hey are you in XXX city today/tomorrow?” And I have to be like yes, I’m available to come for 2 hour  minimum. Then they’re shocked.  I never implied that I’m in a city at that moment. Most cities I only go for special request only, because I hate sitting around all day waiting on people to show up.

 

Same thing when I’m at home, I never book a hotel unless a client has booked and confirmed. Most every time I’ve tried to do it otherwise, it’s been a waste. Only way not to, is if you have a standing incall place to host regularly. 
 

Also the reason it often gets mixed up and something to note: With RentMen if we don’t set our “home location” to a city, it will not show up in the main listings. Idk if clients realize that. So, lot of times I move my ad to a city before going, so I make sure clients notice and can the ad before I arrive. But they wrongly assume I’m already there. Also my home area sucks for bookings, and I don’t like to waste my RentMen days advertising in a city where I’m getting hardly 0 bookings Day after day after day. I rather advertise in different cities. 

Edited April 10 by Jarrod_Uncut

[jeezifonly]

Duly noted. 🍸

[Jarrod_Uncut]

3 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Duly noted. 🍸

I started to title this: “how often do you see an escort’s ad (one who’s not normally posted in the area) and (correctly) assume they’re already there and ready to meet now?” But not enough space in the title 🙃 

 

[Trick]

Escorting is a very complicated business. Ever consider working in retail instead? 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 4/9/2024 at 10:43 PM, Trick said:

Escorting is a very complicated business. Ever consider working in retail instead? 

I have before, and I do not. Besides, that has to do with traveling how? 

Edited April 11 by Jarrod_Uncut

[DWnyc]

On 4/9/2024 at 12:53 PM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Do clients all think we just pack bags, book hotels and travel out of our own pocket before we even get a client? It may make sense for some, but doesn’t make sense to me

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 

Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 

A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.

But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

[Trick]

1 hour ago, DWnyc said:

I don’t think most stop to think about all this and they don’t need to. If an as implies a provider is in a city now or in the future, the client will assume the provider has all that worked out. 

Do we think about how a piece of clothing is made, where a chicken nugget comes from or how a song is produced? 

A little empathy would certainly help and it’s helpful to know pressures providers face in different markets.

But how about thinking a little more about clients and what may be going on in their heads too? They’re not all out designing ways to be flaky etc. They have real situations driving their behavior often falling into clear categories. Perhaps it might help to incorporate some of that into a providers strategy. So for instance understanding some clients only plan last minute, some in advance. Some for whom this is a once a year treat others who may book more regularly etc 

This providers treats clients with contempt.  We are nothing but cash cows for him.  I get it that this is a business but I’m offended by the disrespectful ways clients are described.

[BostonDadType]

Once again Jarrod shows his true colors.   He has such great contempt for clients it's hard to believe anyone would want to hire him.    I have to believe that his reputation on this board as a complaining crank follows him on RM and any socials he might be active on these days.   If I ever contacted a provider and got the replies he seems to send (send me $$ for a conversation, I'm not in your city yet - chill out, do you actually want to meet or just bugging me, etc.,etc.,) I would run for the hills and tell any potential clients to not waste their money.

 

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

20 hours ago, BostonDadType said:

Once again Jarrod shows his true colors.   He has such great contempt for clients it's hard to believe anyone would want to hire him.    I have to believe that his reputation on this board as a complaining crank follows him on RM and any socials he might be active on these days.   If I ever contacted a provider and got the replies he seems to send (send me $$ for a conversation, I'm not in your city yet - chill out, do you actually want to meet or just bugging me, etc.,etc.,) I would run for the hills and tell any potential clients to not waste their money.

 

It's not simply contempt, but it's the constant kvetching and whining, whining and kvetching....Oy! 

BTC

[socurious]

On 4/9/2024 at 11:43 PM, Trick said:

Escorting is a very complicated business. Ever consider working in retail instead? 

Sooo damn rude. 

A lot of us are educated. I graduated with a decent GPA myself. Many just escort as a side job for extra income or because they simply like to travel and think is good money where you can take several breaks. 

[DWnyc]

To be fair many clients including on this website show general contempt for providers as a whole and it can come out when they engage.

Doesn’t justify bad behavior by anyone.

Would be easier if there were efforts on both sides to be more empathetic and respectful (while still calling out bad behavior by individuals).

Clients and providers should take advantage of hearing out the arguments and reasoning on here even if they disagree. They may leave real life interactions less frustrated as a result. 

 

 

[jmichaeliii]

13 minutes ago, DWnyc said:

To be fair many clients including on this website show general contempt for providers as a whole and it can come out when they engage.

Doesn’t justify bad behavior by anyone.

Would be easier if there were efforts on both sides to be more empathetic and respectful (while still calling out bad behavior by individuals).

Clients and providers should take advantage of hearing out the arguments and reasoning on here even if they disagree. They may leave real life interactions less frustrated as a result. 

 

 

100% agree.  I've never had a bad exchange with a provider.  Anyone I have hired I am respectful to and I get the same in return.  How can you even have a good time with someone if that contempt exists?   I want to have fun and I want the provider I hire to know I respect and value their time, and I have always been provided a great time in return.