Providers also on Hookup Apps

[pubic_assistance]

2 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

If someone genuinely can’t separate fantasy from reality, I agree, that’s on them. But most clients understand exactly what the arrangement is. That doesn’t mean they’re not allowed to consider how well the illusion is maintained in their hiring decision. After all, that’s what they’re paying for.

I agree, that the illusion should be professionally maintained within the confines of a session. But if you're busy stalking an escort's personal life and you're sad to discover he doesn't actually crave the company of old, fat men, thats on you. NOT his fault.

[+ claym]

21 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

I agree, that the illusion should be professionally maintained within the confines of a session. But if you're busy stalking an escort's personal life and you're sad to discover he doesn't actually crave the company of old, fat men, thats on you. NOT his fault.

@pubic_assistance Since I became a member here, I have looked forward to your comments as your observations are keen and the life experience of which you speak interests me.  However you disparagingly throw out the phrase "old, fat men" with some regularity,  and it sends a shock wave through my system.  To me it radiates disgust.  And I wonder how someone can be so dismissive of senior members here who come in all shapes and sizes.

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[aiseeya]

Wait until y'll find out that many providers who advertised as 'top only', would often 'bottom' in their personal life 🤯

[aiseeya]

39 minutes ago, claym said:

@pubic_assistance Since I became a member here, I have looked forward to your comments as your observations are keen and the life experience of which you speak interests me.  However you disparagingly throw out the phrase "old, fat men" with some regularity,  and it sends a shock wave through my system.  To me it radiates disgust.  And I wonder how someone can be so dismissive of senior members here who come in all shapes and sizes.

He aint wrong though in principle. Whilst not all clients are 'old fat man', his point highlights the core nature of this business. No money no honey. 

[Mark_fl]

I think the problem is that suspension of reality can only be possible under certain circumstances. I had a provider who had never seen me start calling me sexy shortly after we started communicating. Maybe some guys are into this and can start the fantasy, but for me it had me rolling my eyes. Yes, I want the fantasy that he's into me when we're together, but that seems a bit over the top. 

After we meet, if he acted interested when we were together, and told me how he was looking forward to seeing me again, or that he found something about me sexy, great. I can work with that.

But if I read a profile of his where he said how much a hairy guy was a turnoff, for example,  I would never be able to get into the fantasy that our relationship was mutually enjoyable or a real BFE. Of course I know it's not, but you just can't unring that bell.

That said,  I don't have any dating apps, so I'll never be in that situation, but I certainly see where the OP is coming from. 

[pubic_assistance]

13 minutes ago, aiseeya said:

He aint wrong though in principle. Whilst not all clients are 'old fat man', his point highlights the core nature of this business. No money no honey. 

Thank you @aiseeya

No idea why reality radiates "disgust" for some people.

If I weren't getting older and losing my fit physique,  I certainly wouldn't need to pay for the company of attractive young men. Instead of disgust  I feel DELIGHTED that for the mere contribution of a few hundred USD$, I can still meet beautiful men and have my way with them, inspite of the fact that I am now past my prime and past my fitness years

[marylander1940]

On 4/23/2026 at 12:18 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

That's not unexpected.  He has his preferences for whom to date and communicates that up front.  He could change his pictures to not use the exact same photographs for his professional and personal profiles, to better keep the two worlds separate.

As long as he gives a good massage, then it wouldn't bother me with whom chooses to see in his personal life.  I've even hired masseurs who I know prefer women in their personal lives (which many on this forum detest and wouldn't hire), but it hasn't stopped them from providing me a great service 😊 

I wish we had a common sense emoji to rate this post 

[+ ApexNomad]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I agree, that the illusion should be professionally maintained within the confines of a session.

Agreed.

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

But if you're busy stalking an escort's personal life and you're sad to discover he doesn't actually crave the company of old, fat men, thats on you. NOT his fault.

No one’s talking about stalking. If something is publicly visible and it affects a prospective client’s fantasy or illusion, it’s perfectly reasonable to take that into consideration. That’s not about blame, it’s just a consumer choice.

For example, I believe you prefer your providers under 35. It’s no different than if you were considering a provider, let’s say he’s aged 28, and then came across his hookup app where he wrote something like “guys over 40 don’t even bother.”

Maybe you’d still reach out, maybe you wouldn’t. Either way, the choice as a prospective client is yours in how you want to spend your money and enjoy that experience, and more importantly, whether the fantasy and illusion feels worth the gamble of your time and money.