Do I help the provider to finish?

[Somewhere Else]

This often happens when I get a sensual massage.  Things got heated near the end, he is stroking me, I may be sucking or fingering or stroking him. He is moaning, I am excited.  Here is the thing, I am never sure if he is “acting” or genuinely turned on. Usually how it ends is that I finish and he helps me clean up. He never finishes. (Which I really want him to).  If this was a hook up, I would want to be a considerate lover and see what I can do for him to finish. But this kind of arrangement I am not sure what to do. Any one have suggestion? 

[theplayerking]

1 hour ago, Somewhere Else said:

This often happens when I get a sensual massage.  Things got heated near the end, he is stroking me, I may be sucking or fingering or stroking him. He is moaning, I am excited.  Here is the thing, I am never sure if he is “acting” or genuinely turned on. Usually how it ends is that I finish and he helps me clean up. He never finishes. (Which I really want him to).  If this was a hook up, I would want to be a considerate lover and see what I can do for him to finish. But this kind of arrangement I am not sure what to do. Any one have suggestion? 

Just ask him. He may assume that you don’t want his load or he may be saving his energy if he has more clients that day. If his dick is down your throat you’ve already crossed a line. 

[Whippoorwill]

I experience the same thing with my massage boy. Once he seemed so into it...me sucking him for ten or more minutes, him groaning and moaning appropriately, I asked him, "What do you want me to do?" He replied, "What do you mean?" I said, "Do you want to cum?" He said, "I have clients to x o'clock, and I have to be able to stay hard." End of conversation. He may or may not be really excited, or he may just be acting well. But no, he doesn't want to cum. 

With another masseur, when traveling, I came, and then he finished himself off on me. It was so great for a number or reasons, I did a repeat a couple of days later. As soon as i arrived, he said, "I can't cum this time because I have another client later tonight and I have to be able to stay hard." So one strategy might be to be sure you book the last appointment of the night. 😃

[Nue2thegame]

14 minutes ago, theplayerking said:

Just ask him. He may assume that you don’t want his load or he may be saving his energy if he has more clients that day. If his dick is down your throat you’ve already crossed a line. 

I agree with your advice but it’s hard to ask him what he wants if his dick is already down your throat. 

[WorcesterTony]

I mean I would def finish him😘. At least for me part of the whole experience is him cumming, preferably in me😏 but if not at least somewhere. I just feel as if it also makes their profession more rewarding ☺️. I also agree thou, just chat with them about it.

Who knows maybe he doesn’t wanna cum cuz he did earlier or maybe he’s tired 🤷🏻‍♂️. Communication is never bad😘.

[jeezifonly]

Honest negotiations between client and provider, about the provider's release, begin with the client hiring an escort as opposed to a masseur. 

[+ Act25]

One of the things I like about sensual massage is that it's about me.   With an escort I feel sort of an obligation to help them finish (and it's rare they haven't wanted to).   Not so with a masseur.  If I'm sucking dick or stroking a cock when I come, that ends it for me and I bask in the afterglow.   I've never had a masseur indicate they had wanted me to keep going. And, I had one stop me once as he said he was getting close. 

[+ Jamie21]

I saw two clients today. First client wanted me to cum, fairly early into the massage, so I did. Then he wanted me to cum again later on. He hadn’t cum yet and he struggles to get hard …I’ve seen him a few times, it’s always same….he gets semi hard, overthinks, and then goes soft. I faked the second cum; not sure if he noticed but if he did, he didn’t let on. In the end I did manage to get him to cum, once I’d managed to stop him thinking about getting hard and cuming. With guys like him he really should just slow down and let me massage him and build slowly but they can’t do that because they are never in the moment. I knew it would be a challenging session and so it was. He’s a nice well meaning guy so the only challenge is trying to slow him down. 

The second client was an hour later, a new client who had told me he’s seen my films. That sets a level of expectation that means it will almost certainly be quite interactive (for example he’d told me he was vers, neg and on prep lol). I knew he’d probably want me to cum. The massage panned out exactly how I’d expected, including me cuming. Client came twice. 

Don’t take this as a complaint. I know that offering sensual or erotic massage, and having porn videos out there will inevitably result in clients having expectations. It’s understandable, but I do think that it’s very difficult to always live up to those expectations. Frankly if the client doesn’t want me to cum then that’s ideal for me, even if that’s the only client of the day. 
 

 

 

 

[Nue2thegame]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

I saw two clients today. First client wanted me to cum, fairly early into the massage, so I did. Then he wanted me to cum again later on. He hadn’t cum yet and he struggles to get hard …I’ve seen him a few times, it’s always same….he gets semi hard, overthinks, and then goes soft. I faked the second cum; not sure if he noticed but if he did, he didn’t let on. In the end I did manage to get him to cum, once I’d managed to stop him thinking about getting hard and cuming. With guys like him he really should just slow down and let me massage him and build slowly but they can’t do that because they are never in the moment. I knew it would be a challenging session and so it was. He’s a nice well meaning guy so the only challenge is trying to slow him down. 

The second client was an hour later, a new client who had told me he’s seen my films. That sets a level of expectation that means it will almost certainly be quite interactive (for example he’d told me he was vers, neg and on prep lol). I knew he’d probably want me to cum. The massage panned out exactly how I’d expected, including me cuming. Client came twice. 

Don’t take this as a complaint. I know that offering sensual or erotic massage, and having porn videos out there will inevitably result in clients having expectations. It’s understandable, but I do think that it’s very difficult to always live up to those expectations. Frankly if the client doesn’t want me to cum then that’s ideal for me, even if that’s the only client of the day. 
 

 

 

 

Kudos to you. It’s a hard job in every way and we are grateful that men like you stay in the game and do it well.