Do you have a hard time taking compliments from escorts?

[RugbyBen]

I mean compliments I've had from masseurs have usually been in line with stuff other guys have said over the years so I don't overthink it. 

I'm nothing special but have certain points that lots of guys mention so if a masseur says it and also spends a lot of time in those areas I can't see why I should doubt them. 

I did have someone recently say he didn't normally do this but that was only in the context of a first meeting not that he didn't do it ever so it maybe was the case. Certainly I was surprised anything happened as his husband was in another room. 

[+ poolboy48220]

One escort told me I had a nice cock. It's nothing to marvel at in terms of size, but I guess he liked the shape. He did follow it up with "I like all cocks regardless, but yours is pretty". 

[+ purplekow]

I have often been told my cock is a great sucking size.  While some might take that to mean it is a nice way to say it is not choke a horse big, I chose to think that anything that gets someone to want to suck my cock is a positive.  

[Austin Lewis]

One particularly intoxicating provider always begins his messages to me with "Hey handsome." I'm not in fact handsome, or even average, but it's lovely that he says it. Based on a few conversations now with various providers, I'm willing to believe that there are things about me that make me a reasonably appealing client. So I can take compliments in that spirit; they do help me overlook what I see in the mirror.

[HockeyMan]

Providers tell me I'm attractive, more attractive than their average client. I have no problem accepting their compliments. But I keep things in perspective. If I were to message them on a hookup or dating app, I wouldn't get a second look.

[Simon Suraci]

2 hours ago, HockeyMan said:

I keep things in perspective. If I were to message them on a hookup or dating app, I wouldn't get a second look.

A little bit of perspective here. While each dating / hookup app has its own dynamic, something to keep in mind is that you may not be someone’s number one pick, but that doesn’t mean you are their last pick either. Men looking around for partners on apps and websites (especially hookup oriented ones) have limited time and attention to give to their prospects.

The guy you eye wants to make a connection on a timeline that fits within his schedule, with someone who he has a reasonably high level of confidence that he will enjoy spending time with. He can’t entertain everyone all the time. That doesn’t necessarily equate to he “wouldn’t give you a second glance”. You might be #8 on his list, but he is already juggling conversations with picks #1, 2, 3, and 4, and he can’t even meet all of those guys, much less #99, or even #8 for that matter.

Do I know if you are #8 on anyone’s list? No, but a self defeating attitude will attract less success than a confident and mature one.

This is one of the best lessons some of my clients take from hiring me. I’m thinking of one in particular who has really come out of his shell the past couple of years. It’s not all due to me, but I know I gave him a boost that really helped him in his dating and sex life. He now regularly dates lots of men younger (his preference) and more conventionally attractive than himself. He has to turn many of them away because his schedule is full. Before, he was the guy that would say something similar to, “he won’t give me a second glance”. Now he approaches apps completely differently and attracts the men he likes to see. 

I’m glad he still sees me on a somewhat regular basis, but he does so for different reasons now. Mostly convenience, but lots of other good reasons to hire a provider like exploring niche interests, zero complications, no attachments, reliability, and consistency. Recently he has been practicing his topping game with me so he can top his dates with more skill and confidence, rather than always defaulting to his main preference as a bottom. Among other reasons.

It’s not all about the way you look. And even so, my clients have lots of attractive qualities that they don’t believe about themselves. I hesitate to shower compliments or comment on their appearance in particular because it gives them the false impression that I am either being disingenuous, or only treating them well because I have some personal physical attraction. I don’t want them to get the wrong idea, either way.

Some of them are more attractive to me, for sure, but that’s not why I see them or treat them well. It’s business and they are good clients. I wouldn’t hook up with them on an app, attractive though they may be. Number one because they are clients, but even if they weren’t, I wouldn’t hook up with a lot of them for other reasons, many of which have nothing to do with their appearance.

I encourage clients here to use your hiring to boost your self confidence and self esteem. It’s not all lies. Many of you are lovely people, inside and out. A good provider has your best long term interests at heart. I do. Even when that means the client doesn’t hire me anymore, because he has a more active and fruitful personal dating life. Sometimes it’s fulfilling working myself out of a job.

Edited Monday at 03:53 AM by Simon Suraci

[Monarchy79]

I used to find it difficult to take compliments from anyone in any topic. 
 

Always felt like they were blowing smoke up my ass. 
 

about 10 years ago, I just learned to say “thank you”, and keep it moving. 
 

There are only specific compliments I believe to be true. 
 

The rest of them, I take like a grain of salt. 

 

 

[buckguy]

I tend not to spend a lot of time thinking about compliments from anyone I don’t know well. Giving compliments is, to some extent, just being polite. Yes. It may keep you as a client but you shouldn’t assume every compliment is simply manipulative. The polite response is to thank the person giving the compliment. Beyond that, I think you move on to whatever happens next.

[Thelatin]

On 11/27/2025 at 10:05 AM, DrownedBoy said:

Escorting is basically acting

And some of them are actually actors, or have taken classes.  They can be convincing lol.

[LuckyLechon]

22 hours ago, Monarchy79 said:

I used to find it difficult to take compliments from anyone in any topic. 
 

Always felt like they were blowing smoke up my ass. 
 

about 10 years ago, I just learned to say “thank you”, and keep it moving. 
 

There are only specific compliments I believe to be true. 
 

The rest of them, I take like a grain of salt. 

 

 

I think this is what I’m feeling too. It’s been a work in progress for sure. What does help is hearing other make the same compliments so I tend to chill out. 

[Nightowl]

If I hear it from multiple providers, I’ll start to believe it.  One masseur complimented me on one particular attribute every time I saw him. When he started to make a point of sucking it at the end of each massage while he jerked off, I believed him.  Most of the time I assume it’s something the provider/masseur says to all of his clients.

[+ Alabastrine]

I'm sort of struggling on what the best way and most polite way to deal with this. I don't wanna kill the mood or shit all over the providers effort to do a good job, but they can probably tell on the inside I assume they're little white lies.  I want to believe the compliments, but I just can't trust it. Unless the provider decides to fuck me for free (which never happens as we all know).

Edited yesterday at 02:42 AM by Alabastrine

[Nue2thegame]

While I don’t have a lot of patience for “white lies“ in other aspects of life, I don’t see any harm in this context. If it contributes to the mood and experience, I don’t really care if it’s sincere or not. I go with the flow, so to speak. 

[GentJ]

On 11/27/2025 at 1:02 AM, Vegas_Millennial said:

I read somewhere from one provider who focused in one thing he found attractive about each client, in order for him to stay hard and deliver.  That may be his hair, or his arms, or his cologne, etc.  

This is absolutely a thing! You can always find something you love about a guy (or at least I can). The compliments are probably true, maybe a bit exaggerated, but true nonetheless.