My favorite provider - straight or gay?

[WestLA]

I am very fond of my favorite provider, Jack, who I have seeing monthly for nearly a year. He is incredibly hot, the sex is fantastic, he is easy to talk with, and always makes me feel comfortable in his presence. When I hired him, his ad said he was straight. That is not why I hired him. In fact, he is the only provider I have ever hired who listed himself as straight.  When I have been eating his ass, Jack will ask me “do you like that straight guy’s ass.?”  When I have asked him to jerk off for me, I have encouraged him to watch’s straight porn if wants, and he has done so on a couple of occasions. 

A few weeks ago, I was surprised to see a post from him in my Instagram feed. I don’t know how or when I started following him, but I follow a lot of hot guys, including models, influencers, OF performers and local providers, many of whom seem to follow each other. We have about 20-25 IG friends in common, so I assume I started following him based on an IG suggestion. in looking at his profile, I think he might be gay. There are almost no pictures of him with women, there are plenty of pics with him with hot men, and he is often hanging out with a crowd of some of LA’s hottest 30something gay guys.  One of his few female followers tagged him in a photo, describing him as her “gay BFF.” It is so confusing because I usually have exceptional gaydar, and there is nothing about that sets off my radar.

I’m am not sure what to make of this. I admit that the thought that he is straight is kind of a turn on, and I think I feel so comfortable with him in part because I feel a straight guy is less likely to be judgmental about my age, weight, or dick size. But I also really enjoy him as person and don’t want him have to play a role as straight if he really is not. My biggest turn on is servicing and pleasing another guy and making him cum, so I prefer to know what really turns him on. Should I tell him I’ve seen his IG and ask him if he is gay? 

 

[SecretProvider]

Just enjoy the fantasy. Play into it. 

It is probably turning him on that you believe he is straight, as much as it was for you being with a straight guy. 

[jeezifonly]

Self-reporting one's sexual orientation is as reliable as self-reporting weight and penis size.  It doesn't matter unless you think it does. 

[+ sniper]

I see more downside than upside here ...i.e. either you kill the fantasy for yourself or you make him upset that "you don't believe him."  Ultimately this is an acting gig you've hired him for, best not to pay too much attention to the man behind the curtain. This isn't Pretty Woman and you're not gonna marry him. Let it be.

[ShortCutie7]

As others have said, his “escort persona” is a straight guy.  Now, there are two possibilities:

1- This instagram account is dedicated to his escort business and the people he meets through it.  Thus, he will appear gay on this escort account, even though he is “straight”, and he could have a separate Instagram account he uses for his personal/family life.

2- He actually is gay (or bi).

[+ SirBillybob]

If you really wanted to know you’d have greenlit lesbian porn. 

[Nue2thegame]

12 hours ago, WestLA said:

  One of his few female followers tagged him in a photo, describing him as her “gay BFF.” It is so confusing because I usually have exceptional gaydar, and there is nothing about that sets off my radar.

 

 

I think that it’s very much like the blind men and the elephant. People see (feel) what they want to see and to reinforce their reality. The many facets of sexuality defy labels for many. In this case, I would encourage you to let your little head do the thinking and enjoy your moments with him. 

[+ JamesB]

First, it’s important to get clear on your own motivation. Do you want to know because you feel misled or confused? Because you’re hoping for a more genuine connection with him? Or because part of the appeal for you was the “straight” element has been part of the fantasy and you are not sure how to feel if that’s not true?.

Even though you’ve built a personal rapport, he’s still working in a professional setting. Many providers, regardless of orientation, create personas that are partly based on what helps clients feel most at ease or aroused. So even if he is gay, listing himself as straight might just be part of creating that fantasy.

My suggestion? Let it go. Respect how he chooses to present himself and keep enjoying the experience for what it is. There’s not much to gain from confronting him about it and plenty of ways it could make things awkward for no real reason.

[+ sync]

"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

[+ ProGay]

On 11/7/2025 at 4:35 PM, sync said:

"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

Excellent advice! And applicable in many, many situations. 👌