Providers less and less willing to unlock private pics

[ThirdEye]

Hi all,

Do you all find that providers are being less willing to open private pictures on RM these days?

One provider flat out told me “I only do that for those with a premium account”. 
 

Why is this trend occurring? Note, I did go get a premium account and I actually do notice more providers being willing to open the private pictures.

[Venite]

My guess is that RM is indeed full of “clients” who wish to jack off to provider’s pictures without actually paying to meet- as well as actual scammers who make client profiles.
 

A provider who declined my request at first told me exactly that.

A premium account is a possible sign that you aren’t a time waster/ you’re possibly actually interested in meeting them.

Edited Monday at 12:58 PM by Venite

[soloyo215]

Too many people trying to get pictures for pleasure and not for business reasons. Just my guess.

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I still have providers who won't unlock their privates, and I'm a Premium member. My guess is they see that I'm not in their location.

Some will redirect me to their OF. I like OF, so I'm okay with that.

[ThirdEye]

27 minutes ago, Whoisyourdaddy said:

I still have providers who won't unlock their privates, and I'm a Premium member. My guess is they see that I'm not in their location.

Some will redirect me to their OF. I like OF, so I'm okay with that.

I believe this is to be expected, as maybe they don’t think a meeting is likely given that you’re in different locations.

 

I’m more concerned about when I’m in their location and even message them before requesting. It seems premium has helped me gain access in that situation. 

 

[BuffaloKyle]

There was a provider who didn't have a face pic and when I inquired he said he only sends face pics for guaranteed bookings. That's why I need the face pic though to see if I wanna book. 

[Nightowl]

I get enough information to determine whether to hire based on what is available from a basic membership.  Getting a glimpse of the dick I’m hiring is nice but not something I’m willing to jump through hoops or pay premium fees for. As for jacking off, there’s enough free porn out there to satisfy that purpose.

[jackcali]

7 hours ago, Nightowl said:

I get enough information to determine whether to hire based on what is available from a basic membership.  Getting a glimpse of the dick I’m hiring is nice but not something I’m willing to jump through hoops or pay premium fees for. As for jacking off, there’s enough free porn out there to satisfy that purpose.

I completely agree, but I think it would be good marketing for a provider to include in his unlocked pics one where you can get a sense of his dick through underwear or a towel.  Even a draped pic would give more info than the less-than-reliable dick size they post in their ads.  

[+ DrownedBoy]

20 hours ago, Whoisyourdaddy said:

I still have providers who won't unlock their privates, and I'm a Premium member.

Ditto. That results in me immediately blocking them for rudeness and lack of financial acumen.

[ThirdEye]

53 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

Ditto. That results in me immediately blocking them for rudeness and lack of financial acumen.

What do you consider rudeness? Saying no to a private picture request?

[DMonDude]

Yeah i see this more and more as well, for the reasons and it 100% is for the reason @Venite said. I see more and more profiles that explicitly (and with attitude) say "don't bother asking me to unlock my pics unless you're a real client". And i get it, because i've seen a friends Provider profile DMs/notifications before. They get HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of picture unlock requests. He just ignores them now, it's impossible to go through every single one of them and say yes, especially when only say less than 10% of those are going to turn into an actual booking. It's not worth the providers time to bother unless they are getting an easy to manage (low) number of pic unlock requests.

[Wings246]

22 hours ago, DMonDude said:

"don't bother asking me to unlock my pics unless you're a real client"

Then what's the point of posting some "desirable" pics, locking them, and with little to zero intention on unlocking them for potential real clients?  Are they just thirst traps to begin with?  And what's the definition of "a real client"?  Is someone who is willing to book and/or pay a deposit a real deal?  Scammers can fake book appointments, get the pics, and then cancel at the last second.  Just the thought of that game is exhausting.

On 9/1/2025 at 6:53 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

There was a provider who didn't have a face pic and when I inquired he said he only sends face pics for guaranteed bookings. That's why I need the face pic though to see if I wanna book.

Which came first: the chicken or the egg?  

[DMonDude]

41 minutes ago, Wings246 said:

Then what's the point of posting some "desirable" pics, locking them, and with little to zero intention on unlocking them for potential real clients?  Are they just thirst traps to begin with?  And what's the definition of "a real client"?  Is someone who is willing to book and/or pay a deposit a real deal?  Scammers can fake book appointments, get the pics, and then cancel at the last second.  Just the thought of that game is exhausting.

I think it's largely about them just being upfront about the fact that the sheer volume of unlock requests they get is one they will no longer be dealing with and that they have to have some sense of feeling like you are actually going to book for them to bother to take the time to unlock. This doesn't automatically mean a 100% success rate at ruling out all potential scammers, pic collectors, and time wasters, but that's still better than them sitting there clicking yes to all 100 a day unlock requests they get when realistically like 10% of those might turn into a conversation and even less than that will turn into a booking. I've also seen some clients get pissy and send mean messages to providers who don't unlock in a timely manner too so i think the message is mainly to those people to get those people in particular to not even bother to engage. A lot of stuff like this made sense to me after i saw the DMs of a provider friend. Lot of clients are entitled assholes, to be perfectly honest.

[BuffaloKyle]

1 hour ago, Wings246 said:

Which came first: the chicken or the egg?  

Nothing came at all, 😅 I told him sorry I'll pass

[Wings246]

37 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

the sheer volume of unlock requests they get is one they will no longer be dealing with

The scam is totally expectable and the providers' pain is completely understandable.  That said, why not just do 1 of the followings: 1. Make everything viewable for free  2. Only send the goodies after arrangements are finalized.  Then, there will be no incessant approval requests to clear.  Honey that is kept in a closed jar will only attract wandering bears.  😁

[ThirdEye]

 

15 minutes ago, Wings246 said:

The scam is totally expectable and the providers' pain is completely understandable.  That said, why not just do 1 of the followings: 1. Make everything viewable for free  2. Only send the goodies after arrangements are finalized.  Then, there will be no incessant approval requests to clear.  Honey that is kept in a closed jar will only attract wandering bears.  😁

Some things are presumably sensitive- such as facial pictures or genitalia pictures (the provider may not simply not want their hole or dick to be viewable by strangers). Minimizing the amount of people who do see these things is understandable for certain providers.

Making everything viewable also means acknowledging that some people are jacking off to your sensitive photos for free, which might feel too disrespectful or exploitative-for-free to  allow.

I wouldn’t agree with sending face or private pictures after, though. I would recommend providers try to get a feel for whether someone is interested in meeting, based on conversation. 

Edited Thursday at 02:00 AM by ThirdEye

[DMonDude]

17 minutes ago, Wings246 said:

The scam is totally expectable and the providers' pain is completely understandable.  That said, why not just do 1 of the followings: 1. Make everything viewable for free  2. Only send the goodies after arrangements are finalized.  Then, there will be no incessant approval requests to clear.  Honey that is kept in a closed jar will only attract wandering bears.  😁

Like @ThirdEye said. Posting those pics/videos for free doesn't make sense for everyone. Especially in a world where OnlyFans/selling content exists. Honey that's free for everyone to taste means a lot of those people are going to take their free taste and keep moving and never buy the jar cause they can just get full on everyone's freebies. And yeah sending photos or doing video call verification while/after agreeing on booking details is already what a lot of these guys are doing rather than unlocking their pics for anyone that asks.

[Wings246]

5 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

a lot of those people are going to take their free taste and keep moving and never buy the jar

This reminds me of some people having a full meal for free at Costco..........     😆

[MottoTtony]

So many lookie-loo's and picture collectors out there, I don't blame them.

[Boink]

I generally don't ask to view the private pics unless I'm seriously considering hiring. When they DO unlock the gallery, I make it a point to thank them and THEN start a dialog and take it from there.  When my request is met with a big red box that screams "Request Rejected" with no other communication or reason, whether intentional or not, it comes across as hostile and unfriendly. Like they're not interested in my business.  So goodbye potential hire.  I get tired of trying to prove my sincerity of interest.

[Cretus]

17 minutes ago, Boink said:

I generally don't ask to view the private pics unless I'm seriously considering hiring. When they DO unlock the gallery, I make it a point to thank them and THEN start a dialog and take it from there.  When my request is met with a big red box that screams "Request Rejected" with no other communication or reason, whether intentional or not, it comes across as hostile and unfriendly. Like they're not interested in my business.  So goodbye potential hire.  I get tired of trying to prove my sincerity of interest.

I mean, your last sentence says you get tired of trying to prove your sincerity, but you didn’t message beforehand; you yourself made no communication before requesting. Requesting without messaging wouldn’t necessarily signal to the provider any conversation-worthiness at all, and in fact is probably what a lot of time-wasters do. The provider doesn’t know you, and is not able to differentiate between you and the sea of bad actors.
 

What is a provider (who gets lots of time-wasters and scammers requesting) to assume about you, someone they do not know, and someone who hasn’t started a conversation with them? 

Edited yesterday at 04:37 AM by Cretus

[mike carey]

11 minutes ago, Cretus said:

I mean, your last sentence says you get tired of trying to prove your sincerity, but you didn’t message beforehand- you yourself made no communication before requesting. Merely requesting wouldn’t necessarily signal to the provider any conversation-worthiness at all.
 

What is a provider (who gets lots of time-wasters and scammers requesting) to assume about you, someone they do not know, and someone who hasn’t started a conversation with them? 

I didn't see anything in @Boink's comment where he said that his requests were automated button clicks that were sent without any sort of text to explain why he had asked. Perhaps that's what he does, and if so your point would be fair, but I wouldn't have assumed that. Maybe I misread or misunderstood his post here.

[Boink]

2 minutes ago, Cretus said:

I mean, your last sentence says you get tired of trying to prove your sincerity, but you didn’t message beforehand- and you yourself made no communication before requesting. Merely requesting wouldn’t necessarily signal to the provider any conversation-worthiness at all.
 

What is a provider (who gets lists of time-wasters and scammers requesting) to assume about you, someone they do not know and someone who hasn’t started a conversation with them? 

Well then it's a "Mexican stand off", to use an old phrase. The whole RM system is set up to simply push a button and ask for pics that I assume the provider willingly makes available and uses as an enticement. THAT is my way of opening a conversation with them. And I've had plenty of providers using that opening salvo as a reason to bombard ME with requests to close a deal. My time is valuable, too.

If they don't want someone using the simple push button request provided on RM, they could say in their ad "please contact me directly to see more photos" or something to that effect. 

[Cretus]

30 minutes ago, Boink said:

Well then it's a "Mexican stand off", to use an old phrase. The whole RM system is set up to simply push a button and ask for pics that I assume the provider willingly makes available and uses as an enticement. THAT is my way of opening a conversation with them. And I've had plenty of providers using that opening salvo as a reason to bombard ME with requests to close a deal. My time is valuable, too.

If they don't want someone using the simple push button request provided on RM, they could say in their ad "please contact me directly to see more photos" or something to that effect. 

I mean, I would assume providers who don’t have a private album STILL get contacted by time wasters and scammers looking to either jack off from sensitive pictures or, worse, use any received photos against the provider. 
 

For you, your general way of opening the conversation is by pushing the private pic button. I’m just noting that many escorts in the environment of exploitation, time wasting, and scamming, will not differentiate between you and bad actors. 
 

Indeed, for you and some others, it will end up being a Mexican standoff. However, those same providers will encounter clients they deem trustworthy for various reasons and successfully finalize a meeting with them. Providers on RM (like any other money generating gig I’m assuming) would not stay on RM if they didn’t turn a profit, and this means getting reached out to by clients who they find trustworthy, direct, and respectful from initial encounters.

Edited yesterday at 05:07 AM by Cretus

[Cretus]

10 minutes ago, mike carey said:

I didn't see anything in @Boink's comment where he said that his requests were automated button clicks that were sent without any sort of text to explain why he had asked. Perhaps that's what he does, and if so your point would be fair, but I wouldn't have assumed that. Maybe I misread or misunderstood his post here.

I took the quote below by Boink as implying that he starts a dialog only after the provider agrees to unlock the gallery.
 

“When they DO unlock the gallery, I make it a point to thank them and THEN start a dialog and take it from there.”

Edited yesterday at 04:47 AM by Cretus