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Posted
11 minutes ago, BoyGeorgeandMarilyn said:

Really???? That Marilyn thing is  a human detritu these days! 

Yes, although I expect there’s lots of his ex bf running around!  I’ve not seen what Marilyn is up to these days. 

Posted
5 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Yes, although I expect there’s lots of his ex bf running around!  I’ve not seen what Marilyn is up to these days. 

Nothing really! Only drugs and social benefits! That thing is convinced he is a legend of UK MUSIC....LOL

 

Posted
2 hours ago, DMonDude said:

Objectification to some just means there isn't an emotional/romantic connection, which is what is at play when clients work with providers. We go to them for a physical experience and then we both go about our lives after. We pay, they provide a service/specific experience and that's all it is and that's ok. This is not the scenario of victimization or treating them like they are less than a person.

This is not what objectification is, though. Objectification is the act of "degrading someone to the status of a mere object", which removes their humanity. It's not role playing or engaging in dom/sub activities or even having sex with someone whom you've just met or hired. It's treating someone as if they are not human, not a feeling, thinking person, but rather a tool. 

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It seems like you're new here @DMonDude. I can see how you might think this is a disagreement over definition or interpretation. If so, @pubic_assistance's definition is incorrect. But, really, it's that over the past couple of years there's a pattern of him sexually objectifying providers to the extent that if he does not find them personally attractive, he makes dehumanhizing remarks about them. He also regularly opines that men on here who are older, overweight, out of shape, etc., "have to" pay to get anyone to touch them. That is also objectification. If these man are not sexually desirable in his eyes, they're worthless. 

And as you can see below, my insistence that every person deserve to be accorded basic dignity and respect is met claims that I'm full of "righteous indignation" based on an "elevated view of" myself. Not that I'm a sexual assault survivor, who is sensitive to providers feelings, or that I was raised to treat everyone with respect until they show themselves unworthy of it. Or that I'm extremely learned and well-read in social sciences, particularly with respect to the queer community. No, it must be that I'm trying to be a woke scold or some nonsense. 

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Just keep in mind, that @KensingtonHomo never misses an opportunity to find righteous indignation in everything that doesnt suit his elevated view of himself. So the concept of an Asian man allowing himself to be objectified is instantly going to be interpreted as some sort of ABUSE of "White Privilege", so he can call it out and feel good about himself for doing so. Its what he does. 

You'll note that "white privilege" is in quotes because PA doesn't believe it's real. But I became aware of my white privilege before that was a regularly used term. In high school, everyone else who was out was black and latino. So those were my first queer friends, and I noted how we were treated differently whether shopping or in line for a club. 

Finally, a person cannot objectify themselves. Objectification happens in a social context and one cannot treat oneself as an object. At best, it could perhaps be argued that an Asian escort would accept that he's going ot be objectified or fetishized by clients. That doesn't make it right, nor does it make it healthy for either party. 

Posted
1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Oh no, I was agreeing with you.

Then forgive me for taking that the wrong way. I don't recall you ever being rude.

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Selling sex is the same as selling any product.

Well I wouldn't go quite that far. There are legal ways of selling sex. Everything depends on the details.

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

when I’m in a restaurant I always look my waiter in the eye

I learned long ago to do that from my hairdresser husband.

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

They (waiters) don’t have the opportunity to take advantage of a vulnerable naked client like sex workers do.

Waiters don't have the power that sex workers do.

Posted
10 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

At best, it could perhaps be argued that an Asian escort would accept that he's going ot be objectified or fetishized by clients. That doesn't make it right, nor does it make it healthy for either party. 

Choosing to be objectified can be a very empowering sexual connection. Its a way of exploring emotional trauma in the safety of your own volition and rewarded with a fantastic orgasm.

I completely disagree with @KensingtonHomo on this subject.

I may be wrong, but he seems to be very vanilla in his personal bedroom repertoire and therefore misconstruing a very common sexual interest.

Posted
2 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Although when I’m in a restaurant I always look my waiter in the eye …unlike my client today who couldn’t look me in the eye. I don’t know why, maybe he was shy? 


 

He doesn’t know what he missed.  The hottest experiences I’ve had have been when client and provider have their eyes locked as things get heavy.  Looking to see what the genitals are doing is great but you can’t beat seeing the reaction in the eyes as things unfold.

Posted
51 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Choosing to be objectified can be a very empowering sexual connection. Its a way of exploring emotional trauma in the safety of your own volition and rewarded with a fantastic orgasm.

I completely disagree with @KensingtonHomo on this subject.

I may be wrong, but he seems to be very vanilla in his personal bedroom repertoire and therefore misconstruing a very common sexual interest.

That is not objectification. It’s role play. Your failure to not understand what words mean is not my issue. One cannot consent to objectification nor can one objectify oneself. I am confident that you do objectify the men you hire. I suspect it’s necessary for you to get off. If they were people, you might have to be respectful of them and treat them as human beings. 

Regarding my one proclivities, I’m not remotely vanilla. But I don’t objectify or dehumanize the people I have sex with. 🤷🏻

Posted (edited)
On 8/12/2025 at 9:42 PM, charmasianman said:

If you generally like young good looking atheletic asian men, shoot me a message with your location. I love being serviced by older men. 😁😄

Own it!

To many, being famous or sexually desired is a fantasy.  Just like many of us transform the term "slut" from insult to badge of honor, join the ranks of people asking to be on object of people's focus and desires.

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You only live once.  Coulda, shoulda, woulda, but I would blur my face photos at least for any nude shots.

Edited by Vegas_Millennial
Posted
On 8/17/2025 at 1:20 PM, BOZO T CLOWN said:

You are a guest in this country, and as such, you are expected to follow the rules, much like when you are a guest at someone's home. If you don't follow the rules, expect to get booted out.
If your student visa doesn't allow you to work in this country, there is nothing to think about or discuss - YOU SHOULD NOT WORK. PERIOD.
If you do, and get caught, be prepared to face the consequences. That could include spending time at Alligator Alcatraz or similar detention center, deportation, and the possibility of never being allowed back into this country.
Bozo noticed your reference to future job opportunities. Is that employment in the USA? Do you really expect to be here on a student visa, violate the conditions of the visa, and still be allowed to remain here AND be allowed to seek employment legally?
Remember, you are a guest in this country.

BTC
🤡

 

I’m in agreement with you. However, I’ve seen many escorts in NYC who are “illegally” working as they are often tourists visiting or Brazilian escorts on fake student visas making $$$.  One of my favorites was a Turkish guy who entered into a fake marriage with a woman to get his greencard. 

Posted
6 hours ago, d.anders said:

Waiters don't have the power that sex workers do.

Have you been to Paris? 

6 hours ago, d.anders said:

Then forgive me for taking that the wrong way. I don't recall you ever being rude.

I’m British, being rude is an art form. You probably wouldn’t recognise it unless you’ve been immersed in the culture. We can be rude with the slightest gesture, an intonation or just one apparently innocuous word. It’s even better when the recipient of said rudeness is oblivious to it because it means we’ve been so deliciously subtle that only a fellow Brit (or someone who has lived here and learned the culture) would notice it. We can then all have a laugh at the poor chap’s ignorance without obviously causing offence. 

Posted
38 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Have you been to Paris? 

I’m British, being rude is an art form. You probably wouldn’t recognise it unless you’ve been immersed in the culture. We can be rude with the slightest gesture, an intonation or just one apparently innocuous word. It’s even better when the recipient of said rudeness is oblivious to it because it means we’ve been so deliciously subtle that only a fellow Brit (or someone who has lived here and learned the culture) would notice it. We can then all have a laugh at the poor chap’s ignorance without obviously causing offence. 

How interesting!

Posted (edited)
On 8/13/2025 at 12:42 AM, charmasianman said:

 

I know several people who work as an escort on rentmen because I saw their profiles on the website. I am envious of them. I am a broke Asian student who can't afford to do many things outside school. I am an international student.

 

So I seriously think of working as an escort. I am gay and it will be a good gig because I can make money while having fun. 

 

I am also a little worried about the risks. There are mainly 2 things.

 

○ identity. 

I need to upload my ID and my selfie photo for my holding my ID. This seems to be very risky.

I have no plans to put my face pictures.

 

 

○ career opportunity.  

Im a little worried about risking a good career after school. Im concerned about losing good job opportunities after a background check. Do you think putting up a profile on rentmen can make me not able to pass employment background check?

 

 

○ am i overthinking and overanalyzing?

There might be people who just offer massage or some companion experience on the website. Not everyone there is an escort. Putting up a profile doesnt necessarily translate to working as an escort. So employers might not take an issue with that.

 

can you guys give me opinions on these? Would you upload your ID and photos? Would you risk your career? You can send me a message if you dont feel comfortable leaving a comment publicly. I wonder if there is anyone who had to go through some consequences after working as an escort in terms of career and friendship and future opportunities. 

 

If you generally like young good looking atheletic asian men, shoot me a message with your location. I love being serviced by older men. 😁😄

 

Thank you.

 

 

 

What I remember of US student visas is that you are not authorized to work.  When I was in your situation, a long time ago, I could make a little bit of money tutoring other students or working on research at the university.  That was it.

I appreciate the comments made on this forum about declaring your income and paying taxes.  However, with your student visa, if you do that, you are basically providing hard evidence to the authorities that you are working.  This administration is eager to cancel international student visas.

I would be very careful.

 

Edited by BaronArtz
Posted
On 8/18/2025 at 6:28 AM, charmasianman said:

I do have a legal right to study in the US. I am a US citizen. I was born in the US when my parents were a grad students in the US and moved back to my asian country when I was 2. I do have 2 passports. 

7 minutes ago, BaronArtz said:

What I remember of US student visas is that you are not authorized to work. 

BaronArtz, I think you may have misread the situation. As I read what has been posted here, @charmasianman is not in the US on a student visa, he's there by right as a US citizen, but he sees some of his situation as being the same as being an international student because of the time he's spent in his other country of citizenship. Despite being a US citizen, that he feels as if he is something of an outsider there.

My apologies if I am the one who has misread things.

Posted (edited)
2 minutes ago, mike carey said:

BaronArtz, I think you may have misread the situation. As I read what has been posted here, @charmasianman is not in the US on a student visa, he's there by right as a US citizen, but he sees some of his situation as being the same as being an international student because of the time he's spent in his other country of citizenship. Despite being a US citizen, that he feels as if he is something of an outsider there.

My apologies if I am the one who has misread things.

OK! When he said 'I am an international student', I figured he was here on a student visa.

I should have read the entire thread.  My bad!

Edited by BaronArtz
Posted
9 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Are you gunning for a job on Fox News? You cannot disagree with facts. This is the equivalent of me saying "the earth revolves around the sun," and you saying "I think the sun revolves around the earth. Agree to disagree!" 

Apparently the sun revolves around YOU ! 

We aren't going to debate the use of the English language anymore. Give it up. 

 

Posted
1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Apparently the sun revolves around YOU ! 

We aren't going to debate the use of the English language anymore. Give it up. 

 

LOL - the amount of projection you're capable of is wild. 

And, no, we're not going to debate the use of the English language because you're not equipped for the task. 

Posted
9 hours ago, Jamie21 said:
10 hours ago, mike carey said:

How interesting!

How dare you be so rude to me…

As a fellow Brit, I would opine that Mike Carey's words were in fact not rude within British culture.  Not when written, nor indeed when spoken - unless accompanied by a slight hint of undue emphasis, or other subtle innuendo of facial expression.

Now, if he'd said "How very interesting!", it would be a different matter altogether ... 😉 

Posted
10 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Have you been to Paris? 

I’m British, being rude is an art form. You probably wouldn’t recognise it unless you’ve been immersed in the culture. We can be rude with the slightest gesture, an intonation or just one apparently innocuous word. It’s even better when the recipient of said rudeness is oblivious to it because it means we’ve been so deliciously subtle that only a fellow Brit (or someone who has lived here and learned the culture) would notice it. We can then all have a laugh at the poor chap’s ignorance without obviously causing offence. 

Now you are scaring me 😂.

Posted
3 minutes ago, Occasional said:

As a fellow Brit, I would opine that Mike Carey's words were in fact not rude within British culture.  Not when written, nor indeed when spoken - unless accompanied by a slight hint of undue emphasis, or other subtle innuendo of facial expression.

Now, if he'd said "How very interesting!", it would be a different matter altogether ... 😉 

I think both @Jamie21 and I knew exactly what the other was saying.

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