+ BOZO T CLOWN Posted June 28 Posted June 28 "Am I being misled or does the escort care about me" He doesn't care about you. Period. End of story, There is a reason they are called "hustlers". BTC 🤡 + glutes, + Italiano, Whippoorwill and 2 others 1 1 3
+ José Soplanucas Posted June 28 Posted June 28 3 hours ago, baseball6 said: Its interesting you say that...not only because you are right, but if I can ween my way away from the guy who is involved, I THINK Id be ok. I m not sure everyone who gets into this situation needs "therapy," ....(sit down psychoanalysis)....;...The bottom line is that regardless of the lonliness and need I felt which allows for me to "put up" with disrespect, and really shit treatment , I mean I thought I was in "Love.")Im really most of the time not a DOORMAT. I should have been direct on what I wanted...and ...there ya go. Frankly, once Im through with the guy, I dont know if Ill jump back in to meeting an escort. I have a fault maybe with wanting to be getting "invoved" with escorts..cute guys....the fantasy.........(thats MY involvement....not the escorts)..........(hes the first and only escort Ive ever seen.) I just gotta get away and move on. The prob is Ive known him 4 years. And its gotten worse as far as the previous mentioned treatment from him) (it was totally MY fault for not walking OUT when he said "I need you to get hard FOR ME , or this shows me you are not physically attracted to me!!...and I take it personal..) I mean frankly I didnt know how to react....I figured I was at "fault." I mean WHAT THE FFFF ! It was a shock.....like you are over here with feelings of what I thought was mutual respect and the other starts taking it to a different level. If my freakin feelings were not involved, it would be easier. Oh welllllll....most people may think Im just pitiful. You know....you DO learn alot about yourself when these things happen. The friendship and openness here has made me able to SEE the truth. Licking my wounds and getting life again (cuz this aint been easy guys!) will happen. And for that I am extremely grateful !!!! You are not a teen ager learning to cope with his emotions. You are a grown up man who fell in love within a transactional relationship. You do need counseling, urgently. spidir, pubic_assistance, Whippoorwill and 3 others 5 1
ShortCutie7 Posted June 30 Posted June 30 On 6/28/2025 at 5:13 PM, José Soplanucas said: You are not a teen ager learning to cope with his emotions. You are a grown up man who fell in love within a transactional relationship. You do need counseling, urgently. I have to counter that a bit by saying that (at least in my experience, and I know I’m not alone) as a gay man, I missed out on many of the formative experiences of being a teenager. I never dated, never got to fall in love, etc. I’m in my 30s and have still not truly had these experiences. So while @baseball6 is not a teenager in biological/chronological age, his life experience could very well be equivalent to that of a teenager learning to cope with his emotions. Yes, he needs counseling, but his being a grown up man is irrelevant in this context. Lookin, + Vegas_Millennial, Wings246 and 5 others 5 1 1 1
baseball6 Posted July 1 Author Posted July 1 Cutie, you are so correct ! Its not simple and you hit in on the head with me developing my formative experiences. I was too closeted and only now.....so thanks for the understanding. Im going out there in 10 days. ( I know,,,,why??) Its like I want to see what he says now...where he doesnt know Ive seen the light.........So Ill see.....funny, I am quite at peace and I am happy I was such a help to someone in need . I paid alot of stuff for him etc....some therapy, lots of "tokens of my appreciation)" but I can justify it helping someone in real severe neeed....but then the truth hurts. MAN I never in my life would have thought I would have been so blind..... MscleLovr, Lookin, ShortCutie7 and 3 others 4 1 1
Lookin Posted July 1 Posted July 1 You're sure not the first person who got involved with the wrong guy. Spend an evening at the Grand Ole Opry and you'll hear dozens. Some folks seem to chase the heartache and you may be attracted to it. It would be good to have a discussion with a therapist and figure out if you want to change and how to go about it. This particular guy you're involved with is presenting a different problem. You will never know whether you're talking with him or with the drugs. My suggestion would be to ask him to get back in touch with you when he's clean and sober. If you never hear from him again, you'll at least be free to find someone to take his place. I admire your efforts to help him get off drugs. Please don't beat yourself up. You're not a professional and that's what he needs. In my opinion, your $1500 is better spent elsewhere and losing that income and your company may help him wake up. Best wishes to both of you! baseball6, spidir and Whippoorwill 3
+ José Soplanucas Posted July 1 Posted July 1 14 hours ago, baseball6 said: Im going out there in 10 days. ( I know,,,,why??) Exactly. You know. Why? You should not go. MscleLovr, pubic_assistance, + Vegas_Millennial and 4 others 3 3 1
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted July 1 Posted July 1 19 hours ago, baseball6 said: Im going out there in 10 days. ( I know,,,,why??) Its like I want to see what he says now...where he doesnt know Ive seen the light 4 hours ago, José Soplanucas said: Exactly. You know. Why? You should not go. @baseball6is now seeking drama. I find there's 2 types of people: those that seek drama and those that avoid it. As one who avoids drama, I agree with @José Soplanucas advice to not go. Spend the airfare on anything/anyone else. + ApexNomad, pubic_assistance, + JamesB and 3 others 1 3 2
spidir Posted July 2 Posted July 2 On 6/30/2025 at 5:18 PM, baseball6 said: Cutie, you are so correct ! Its not simple and you hit in on the head with me developing my formative experiences. I was too closeted and only now.....so thanks for the understanding. Im going out there in 10 days. ( I know,,,,why??) Its like I want to see what he says now...where he doesnt know Ive seen the light.........So Ill see.....funny, I am quite at peace and I am happy I was such a help to someone in need . I paid alot of stuff for him etc....some therapy, lots of "tokens of my appreciation)" but I can justify it helping someone in real severe neeed....but then the truth hurts. MAN I never in my life would have thought I would have been so blind..... I admire your kindness and care for someone else. In my opinion, the kindest thing that you can do for him now is to let him go. You are at peace and happy and aware. Have fun with the next guys that you choose to meet. ShortCutie7, + purplekow, thomas and 5 others 2 1 5
BeHappy Posted July 3 Posted July 3 On 6/26/2025 at 11:23 AM, maninsoma said: Yes, you might happen to cross paths with someone where an actual friendship develops (unlike a psychotherapist where this is unethical), but the only way to know that that has happened is if you are doing things outside of your client/escort relationship that don't require you to spend money on him. I have crossed the line a couple of times and actually thought a real connection was happening! I think this quote puts it perfectly in perspective! pubic_assistance and thomas 2
MiamiLooker Posted July 3 Posted July 3 You'll never know unless you try. Hope for the best, plan for the worst. BeHappy 1
+ purplekow Posted July 14 Posted July 14 On 6/30/2025 at 5:18 PM, baseball6 said: Cutie, you are so correct ! Its not simple and you hit in on the head with me developing my formative experiences. I was too closeted and only now.....so thanks for the understanding. Im going out there in 10 days. ( I know,,,,why??) Its like I want to see what he says now...where he doesnt know Ive seen the light.........So Ill see.....funny, I am quite at peace and I am happy I was such a help to someone in need . I paid alot of stuff for him etc....some therapy, lots of "tokens of my appreciation)" but I can justify it helping someone in real severe neeed....but then the truth hurts. MAN I never in my life would have thought I would have been so blind..... So ten day have come and gone. My hope is that you did not go. My guess is that you did go and that he managed to seduce you back into thinking that there is something real between you. I sincerely hope that is not the case. If it is, please seek professional help. If he did not succeeded in luring you back, I hope you have clarity and though there is probably a bit of remorse, the future is bright and this will soon be just something that happened. Do not waste your time and emotions and money on a man who only wants one of those things....the money honey. Good luck. Act25 1
baseball6 Posted July 14 Author Posted July 14 Did not go. Its rough. But I did the right thing. pubic_assistance, + purplekow, + JamesB and 8 others 2 2 1 6
+ nycman Posted July 14 Posted July 14 5 minutes ago, baseball6 said: Did not go. Its rough. But I did the right thing. I know it’s hard bro, but you did the right thing. It will get easier with time. And when you’re ready, jump back in the saddle. There’s hundreds of the good guys who can’t wait to meet a man like you! thomas, baseball6, + ApexNomad and 1 other 2 1 1
+ purplekow Posted July 15 Posted July 15 4 hours ago, baseball6 said: Did not go. Its rough. But I did the right thing. Now, go out and get yourself completely and thoroughly laid. That will go a long way in getting this episode behind you. + ApexNomad, Johnrom and baseball6 2 1
wsc Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Blanche Deveraux once said, "The only way to get over a man is to get under another one." [A wise slut, that one!] mike carey, + muscleboyinsd, + ApexNomad and 6 others 1 8
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