Your preferred age for a service provider?

[CuriousByNature]

13 hours ago, purplekow said:

I invited him in to my house and out the patio and gave him a beverage.  I told him that I had just moved in and was not interested in solar panels at this time.  Turns out I have solar panels, which I thought I did but never checked until after he left.   He then started to thank me for inviting him in.  He got quite emotional and thanked me as he was feeling unseen and disrespected by the people he had call upon.  It is door to door sales and rejection is to be expected but he seemed to be taking it hard.  He stood up to leave and I filled his water bottle and gave him a  Powerade and an insulated lunch box with ice and made hm a PBJ sandwich.  As he was starting to leave he asked to use the bathroom and he left the door open while he washed his face and then he started crying.  I talked to him a bit more and at that point he gave me a big bear hug.  I was taken aback by that.  He said he was only here for a few days.  He was from Louisiana, Baton Rouge, and he felt that there were very few people who were at least courteous in their rejection.  He then went to wash his face again.  I gave him a bit of a pep talk and that is when he mentioned that he was a Christin and that he felt as though god was testing him.  I was hoping for a gay confession but none occurred.  At that point I said that if he wanted to have dinner in the next few days he was here to give me a call.  We exchanged numbers.   I  texted him the next morning and he did respond briefly and then at night I texted again and he replied in the morning.  

So as you can see, this did not lead to a porno scene.  He was just a nice good looking muscular kid trying to make a living.  I was not going to add to his tribulations by coming on to him any more strongly than holding that hug a little longer than necessary.   

I know some here will say that I had him on the line and it was just a matter or reeling him in, but sometimes you just do not want to be that guy.  

It sounds like you were in exactly the right place and the right time to make a meaningful difference to this guy.  Many people might have tried to take advantage of the situation, but you rose above carnal desire and showed him what true kindness means.  I bet that will be much more memorable for both of you than any sexual encounter.

[Constantine]

I set my rentmen/sleepyboy filters to 18-23. If there isn't a good selection then I'll go up to 25.

[+ purplekow]

19 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

I absolutely love this story and desperately need a Part 2. I think you should call him up and ask if he can inspect your existing solar panels—just to make sure they’re in good working order, of course. And while you’re at it, casually drop, “What other services do you provide?” The fact that you made him a PBJ, filled his water bottle, and gifted him a Powerade has hearts written all over it. This is basically the Hallmark version of a door-to-door sales romance. Make it happen, Purplekow. You can do it!

One tiny little thing I would have done differently—two texts in one day? The next day no less? That may have been a bit much. 

I texted him the same day and then only responded when he responded.   The same day text was basically, I thought about our conversation and I am glad I could help.  I hope things went better for you after you left.       He responded the next morning and I responded in the evening.  

I am never sure what proper protocol for texting and responding but I just went with what felt right without being a dirty old man.  Of course, I am a dirty old man so it was a bit of a challenge.  

[Rod Hagen]

This is so fun to read.  When I started escorting in '99 any escort, other than Robert Patrick, admitting to be over "39" was unheard of, and collectively we usually rolled our eyes at those even 35.  I've said it before:  Dane Scott and Steve Kessler, and likely others I'm forgetting, changed the landscape.  We owe them a lot.

Edited March 5 by Rod Hagen

[+ purplekow]

On 3/1/2025 at 7:48 PM, Archangel said:

I mean…I’m Christian, quite devout in fact. So let’s not paint with broad brushstrokes here!

I did not intend to imply that there are no gay Chritsans, just that I was more hesitant to move forward lest I offend his religious beliefs.  If he said he was an Orthodox Jew, I would have taken the same precaustion knowing full well there are members there too who are gay or bi.  

[Archangel]

2 minutes ago, purplekow said:

I did not intend to imply that there are no gay Chritsans, just that I was more hesitant to move forward lest I offend his religious beliefs.  If he said he was an Orthodox Jew, I would have taken the same precaustion knowing full well there are members there too who are gay or bi.  

It’s that kid glove approach that sometimes keeps me from saying I’m a faithful Christian - even if Jesus says if I deny him he’ll deny me. (Mea culpa. Kyrie eleison!) I appreciate you not wanting to offend. I do. But not every Christian is offended by an advance! I have never been advanced upon, by a woman or a man, and that’s independent of them knowing my religious disposition. Now add that if they did know, that would add yet another layer of barrier. Yikes! 

[+ purplekow]

4 minutes ago, Archangel said:

It’s that kid glove approach that sometimes keeps me from saying I’m a faithful Christian - even if Jesus says if I deny him he’ll deny me. (Mea culpa. Kyrie eleison!) I appreciate you not wanting to offend. I do. But not every Christian is offended by an advance! I have never been advanced upon, by a woman or a man, and that’s independent of them knowing my religious disposition. Now add that if they did know, that would add yet another layer of barrier. Yikes! 

Don't forget, this is a much older man coming onto a 24 year old door to door salesman.  I did not want to offend nor did I want to rush him.  Was hoping for some sign from him of interest.  Even if he is gay or bi, an old geezer coming on strong is probably not the most likely to succeed.  Alas, I did not succeed anyway.  

[moonlight]

Not to get too far off topic but fwiw... the door-to-door solar panel industry can be pretty...(wait for it)... dark. A lot of these young guys are recruited in gyms and are lured in with promises of crazy income from commissions. And then they might be put on the hook for travel expenses if they can't meet goals. Wired had an article on it recently.

[+ purplekow]

18 hours ago, moonlight said:

Not to get too far off topic but fwiw... the door-to-door solar panel industry can be pretty...(wait for it)... dark. A lot of these young guys are recruited in gyms and are lured in with promises of crazy income from commissions. And then they might be put on the hook for travel expenses if they can't meet goals. Wired had an article on it recently.

That is true.  On follow up, he texted me yesterday and said he had returned to Palm Springs.  I told him I already have solar panels so I would not be a client, but if he wants to have lunch or dinner text me and it will be my treat.  So far no reply.  Previously he responded to texts the next day so we shall see.  Frankly, I think the fact that this is a no sale situation that I will not be hearing back but hope, like a young man's cock, springs eternal.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Ages 25-75

[+ purplekow]

On 3/11/2025 at 1:02 PM, purplekow said:

That is true.  On follow up, he texted me yesterday and said he had returned to Palm Springs.  I told him I already have solar panels so I would not be a client, but if he wants to have lunch or dinner text me and it will be my treat.  So far no reply.  Previously he responded to texts the next day so we shall see.  Frankly, I think the fact that this is a no sale situation that I will not be hearing back but hope, like a young man's cock, springs eternal.  

No response.  An old man's fantasies remain just that.  Well it is better to have aspired and failed then never to have aspired at all.  

[+ purplekow]

No need to feel sad James.  One needs to be turned down numerous time before one has success.  This puts me one turn down closer to success.  

[TeddyBear]

Slightly off topic but still age related.  Recently, I contacted a local provider to set up a date.  Someone on Rentmen in whom I had been interested.  He asked for my stats which I gave.  When he saw my age (79), he nicely begged off.  He was afraid that I would trigger PTSD.  I didn't ask for the details.  I'm guessing that he had a client die on him or something else traumatic.

Anyone else provider or client have this experience?

[TeddyBear]

So, now I'll reply to the topic.  Again, I'm 79, 80 in September.  Age is not a factor.  Since my husband passed away 5 years ago, I'm not looking for a partner.  He was 14 years older and I miss him dearly and think of him constantly.  He would be 94 in October.  He was in better shape than me.  No one believed his age.

Moving on.  I rely on providers for intimacy.  When looking at their photos, a smile will get me all the time.  Opposites attract.  I'm a bottom and want tops (I'm also a size queen).  I have no real body hair and like hairy guys.  If they have a sex video and are laughing and having fun that's very attractive.  Nothing better than a sex partner who enjoys sex.  An example is Gabriel Cross.  I'm heading to London in May for a Theater tour and have extended my trip to engage Gabriel for three days.  I like innocent looking guys and guys not so innocent with tattoos.  My husband could never understand my broad interest in guys.

[sandcastle12]

You'll have a fantastic time with Gabriel Cross Teddybear. I hired him on my last trip to London (though for a few hours, not a few days!) for the first time and couldn't rate him more highly......I also couldn't agree more with you that someone who enjoys sex is a must. Age is less important for me than attitude.

[BSR]

On 3/12/2025 at 8:22 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

Ages 25-75

There are 75yo providers??

For me, I’d say 25-45, although I’m certainly flexible.  The last guy I saw was 21, and there’s a guy in his mid-50s I’m hoping to catch when I return stateside.

Continuing the theme @purplekow started, I had dinner tonight with a smokin’ hot ~40yo cop from Treviso (just north of Venice).  He’s here in Madrid for 2 weeks vacation, studying at the same school.  When I asked him after the school’s tour of medieval Madrid if he wanted to grab dinner, he jumped at the chance.  I think he agreed because he’s quite eager to have any chance to practice his Spanish (he’s just at A2 level).  As much as I fantasized about having my way with him, my gaydar was pinging 0 on the Kinsey scale and I was happy just to drink in his spectacular sex appeal.

If I had to pin down just one number, I’d say 40 is the sweet spot.

Edited March 17 by BSR
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[+ purplekow]

4 hours ago, BSR said:

There are 75yo providers??

For me, I’d say 25-45, although I’m certainly flexible.  The last guy I saw was 21, and there’s a guy in his mid-50s I’m hoping to catch when I return stateside.

Continuing the theme @purplekow started, I had dinner tonight with a smoking’ hot ~40yo cop from Treviso (just north of Venice).  He’s here in Madrid for 2 weeks vacation, studying at the same school.  When I asked him after the school’s tour of medieval Madrid if he wanted to grab dinner, he jumped at the chance.  I think he agreed because he’s quite eager to have any chance to practice his Spanish (he’s just at A2 level).  As much as I fantasized about having my way with him, my gaydar was pinging 0 on the Kinsey scale and I was happy just to drink in his spectacular sex appeal.

If I had to pin down just one number, I’d say 40 is the sweet spot.

One can never tell 100$ so certainly continue to observe and perhaps his standing on the gaydar will move into a friendly zone.  Unfortunately, my 24 year old solar panel salesman did not.  

Edited March 18 by purplekow

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

One can never tell 100$ so certainly continue to observe and perhaps his standing on the gadar will move into a friendly zone.  Unfortunately, my 24 year old solar panel salesman did not.  

Still no word from the solar panel guy?

[mtaabq]

I am a 61 year-old chub. I love men with a smile who possess a quiet confidence, maybe a hint of an “IDGAF” attitude, and just enough body hair and “squishy-ness”, from 30’s to 50’s. Younger boys? Lord knows they are pretty and the parts are firm but they can be vapid. (Garry Shandling said it best - “I don’t want someone who’s pretty and knows it and will use it to hurt me.”)