Making an offer instead of asking for rate?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

13 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

On 9/30/2024 at 7:14 PM, Danny-Darko said:

$230 wouldn't be considered lowballing in my opinion

this made me LOL

immediate block. 

What if I counter with $233.  Perhaps I could steal you away from the man who offered $230 🤑 💰 🤑 

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 11/24/2025 at 6:15 PM, SecretProvider said:

this made me LOL

immediate block. 

 

 

That's what I do if someone quotes me an hourly rate of $400 or higher.

They have to ask for 500 before I'd actually laugh directly at them. Which I have.

Edited November 27 by DrownedBoy

[SecretProvider]

1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said:

They have to ask for 500 before I'd actually laugh directly at them. Which I have.

No doubt they would laugh at you too buddy.  

[mrkileen]

On 9/30/2024 at 7:14 PM, Danny-Darko said:

Since you put it like that, $230 wouldn't be considered lowballing in my opinion, unless escort in question has very high rates or an inflated since of self. Business is business! I've never understood people that chase away legitimate business, potencial clients who very well may become repeat client and/or make referrals, or the opportunity to make "reasonable money" (it's not like you offered $20 buck for a BJ from a Pro escort!), unless they are doing SO WELL that they just can't be bothered, or a reasonable offer just insults them! That said, I have only made offers in the past when I've casually encountered men who were not necessary working or if so, I wanted to extend another hour beyond what was quoted. It really depends on the circumstances for me to just make an offer vs ask a quote. But that's just me. I'm sure others see it differently. Good luck though, all he can say is no, or not reply which is the same as "FUCK NO".

I always considered my previous wages at prior jobs in this regard. They have a set rate they work for. These guys constantly get flaked on and lowballed. If you were looking for employment and your offers were even slightly lower that wouldn't exactly get you excited right. I am very thorough with who I hire and when I do I take care of them. I pay upfront and have been doing so for years, I have seen they can't truly relax and focus on me when they are thinking in the back of their mind whether someone is gonna try to rip them off or not. 

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I've never made an offer, but one provider told me to make one.

He was one of those hot straight guys who only lets guys blow him, and there's a long thread in the deli bashing him over it.

I understood why he would have me make an offer.

(Some of these types will only let you take them out to eat, so I appreciate that he was at least open to something more.)

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 11/26/2025 at 9:35 PM, SecretProvider said:

No doubt they would laugh at you too buddy.  

My husband and I started hiring in 2019. Our first time was in Spain. I believe the rate was 150 euros. After COVID, when it was safe to hire again, we were getting $300-$350/hour. Now, it's not uncommon to come across relatively new guys (with recent profiles and no reviews) asking for $500/hour. That's a 40% increase in rates in about 4 years. Over the same period, cumulative inflation is about 25%. And that inflation affects clients and providers alike. 

It's not for me to say how much a provider charges, but it's not surprising that some clients are turning their noses up at such a steep rate increase. It's definitely deterring us from trying new guys. First, because our regulars have kept their prices consistent. Second, because a lame $500 appointment feels worse than a lame $300 appointment. 

[SecretProvider]

1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

It's not for me to say how much a provider charges. 

Correct. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

12 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

Correct. 

Increasingly convinced you're not a provider. You don't engage meaningfully with clients. You just post snark, which isn't doing you or your colleagues any good. If you represent what "providers are too scared to admit to your face," it's a real turn off to hiring in general. Thankfully, there are real providers on here who counteract your bad faith posts. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

10 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

26 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

Correct. 

Increasingly convinced you're not a provider. You don't engage meaningfully with clients. You just post snark, which isn't doing you or your colleagues any good. If you represent what "providers are too scared to admit to your face," it's a real turn off to hiring in general. Thankfully, there are real providers on here who counteract your bad faith posts. 

And it begins!

[SecretProvider]

16 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Increasingly convinced you're not a provider. You don't engage meaningfully with clients. You just post snark, which isn't doing you or your colleagues any good. If you represent what "providers are too scared to admit to your face," it's a real turn off to hiring in general. Thankfully, there are real providers on here who counteract your bad faith posts. 

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

3 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

 

Girl... I'm not watching all that. If you have something to say, just say it. 

[Rudynate]

I pay whatever is asked. i have never had a guy quote me a rate that I found unreasonable.

[Danny-Darko]

2 hours ago, Rudynate said:

I pay whatever is asked. i have never had a guy quote me a rate that I found unreasonable.

Lucky YOU! 😲

[Rudynate]

2 minutes ago, Danny-Darko said:

Lucky YOU! 😲

What I've been seeing is typically $300 for an hour and $500 for 2 hours.  $300 for a single hour is more than I like to pay but $500 for 2 hours is right in my sweet spot. 

[Rudynate]

19 hours ago, Danny-Darko said:

Lucky YOU! 😲

That's actually not completely true. Once, I had a provider quote me a rate of $350, now that I think about it.  I could imagine paying the right guy $350, but not this guy.

[Braziliancutee]

I mean if in nyc is impossível to charge only 300. Any hotel in ny is charging 300/350 per night. 

[Kuppusami]

Personally,  I don't try to haggle. If I ask for a rate, and it's more than I'm willing to pay,  I just say so and move on.  I very rarely reconsider when the rate lowers as a counter offer and for the most part have regretted it when I do. Plenty of fish in the sea.

[+ Jamie21]

The endless debate about rates 🙄. “I won’t pay more than x”….”he’s asking too much” etc. If a guy wants to work at a rate of $500 per hour that’s entirely his prerogative. You don’t have to pay it, no one is forcing you. Just move on to someone who’s charging what you’re prepared to pay. His price is his estimation of his worth, not yours. 

 

[LaSanta]

On 11/30/2025 at 6:44 PM, Braziliancutee said:

I mean if in nyc is impossível to charge only 300. Any hotel in ny is charging 300/350 per night. 

In New York a regular budget hotel was 150-200-ish dollars a night during the pandemic the time I booked. It was a tiny ugly cheap room. 

[Braziliancutee]

51 minutes ago, LaSanta said:

In New York a regular budget hotel was 150-200-ish dollars a night during the pandemic the time I booked. It was a tiny ugly cheap room. 

Idk honey. I have been plus then 6 times this year has weeks and weeks. And I am very good tracking the price of hotels 

Edited Friday at 09:54 PM by Braziliancutee

[LaSanta]

4 hours ago, Braziliancutee said:

Idk honey. I have been plus then 6 times this year has weeks and weeks. And I am very good tracking the price of hotels 

I never said you were wrong. I only mentioned my experience back in the pandemic when they were supposed to be "on sale" or at a lower rate. NYC is very expensive. 

[Chien Andalou]

Providers’ rates are not published; even on RentMasseur the vast majority say “Ask Me.” I see no harm in making an offer instead. Your initial communication can say what you’re looking for and when, then you finish with, “My budget is $X. Does that work for you?”

You should be prepared to be ghosted or told no–and your choices at that point are to pay whatever he’s countered or never contact him again. But it does often work. (Sometimes your offer is even higher their normal rates.) If they do not explicitly say yes to the rate you quoted, I suggest asking them to confirm: “And you’re okay with $X?” to avoid any nasty surprises later on.