The Commonplace Expectation of $100 Massage/$200 Escort?

[pubic_assistance]

8 hours ago, TallMuscl37 said:

...they expect Black sex to be free...

Where do you come up with this nonsense ?  Do you seriously believe that white people assume because you're black that you should be doing freebies ? 

I personally have met some black male providers who rocked my world. I'd pay them EXTRA for the honor of their company.

Your problem isn't racism. It's personality. Your negative energy is so saturated in your posts here, I can only imagine it shines through every communication you have with clients.

[TallMuscl37]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Well I’m glad you clarified because it wasn’t what you said originally. You implied you’d lower your normal rate if you were busy enough and the booking was additional.

The difficulty with offering a range of services at different price points is clients want the ‘large size serving’ whilst paying for the ‘medium size serving’ so to speak. I avoid offering a range of price points based on content, I simply base the price on duration. The price is set to include everything I’m comfortable offering. If someone wants just a therapeutic massage for example the price is the same as for sensual. It may mean I lose therapeutic only clients who want to pay less but oh well, so be it. It reduces the likelihood of someone booking therapeutic and then asking me to be naked and waving his hard on in my face asking me to finish him off! 

This business is all about discipline: having a clear defined business model that works for you and sticking to it. 

Babe, you don’t have to tell me what I did or didn’t say earlier. I know exactly what I said and what I meant. You just misinterpreted it differently and thought I was applying that in the manner you described. Listen carefully:

I rather offer different levels of options because I know that different clients have different needs and desires. I don’t necessarily think it’s fair to charge a client who’s just looking for less, the same as another who’s looking for more. You may feel you rather charge 1 hourly price for everything, but that’s not always real world what’s happening. And yes I can say no, no, no to anything less than a certain amount: but I know from experience that it doesn’t always equate to lowering my value or worth. They may just be seeing my ad in town for the first time, and don’t have the budget for my higher sessions.

I know of people who be like: “my rate is $300”. That’s ALL they offer. Is just $300. And guess what? It offers no flexibility. RentMasseur offers all these options, which I’ve left unchecked to show all the choices:

 

This is the new updated RentMasseur. So obviously they thought about it enough to realize providers CAN AND SHOULD, have the option to list multiple rates. Now if you think I’m just going to go down the list and put the same rate for every option: you have me mistaken. 

Edited December 13, 2024 by TallMuscl37

[TallMuscl37]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Where do you come up with this nonsense ?  Do you seriously believe that white people assume because you're black that you should be doing freebies ? 

I personally have met some black male providers who rocked my world. I'd pay them EXTRA for the honor of their company.

Your problem isn't racism. It's personality. Your negative energy is so saturated in your posts here, I can only imagine it shines through every communication you have with clients.

Mister: you are a piece of work (and I’m censoring that A LOT) You know that? 

If you’re going to ask me a question, at least have the decency to let me respond to it. To go and answer it for me yourself, and then try to make some comparison: you sound hella vindictive, #1. And #2, I said nothing specific about WHITE people expecting something for free. The point wasn’t an issue about racism, it was about accessibility. Again: you’re so quick to make presumptions about me, that you put your foot in your mouth. Let me educate you, genius:
 

Most of my clients are White. However, I also know that Black clients don’t always book us in the same proportion as White clients do. I live near a city that is about 28% Black. That sounds like a small number, but the actual Black population of the U.S. in general is:

And notice where most of that concentration lies: mainly in the south and east. 

 

There’s an entire south side section of the city nearest to me, that is majority Black. Guess how many clients have booked me in those areas? Next to non. Most who book me tend to be the White or Hispanic guys who live in the adjacent suburban area to the west. They are the ones often booking me, sending deposits, showing up, or traveling thru. I don’t even work in the main city, because the Black population is so high to the extent that many of the potential clients, have already gotten to meet willing Black guys who are willing to hookup with them for free.

 

I’ve seen it first hand myself. I go out to the bars in my local Midwest area, many of the Black guys are with White partners. What I don’t see is a whole lot of openly out Black couples together. Which goes to show, it’s not JUST “white people being racist”. I never said that in the first place, but you’re another person here who needs context to understand what I am referring to. It’s an accessibility thing, and I have seen how accessibility can make businesses more or less productive. 
 

I do better in Minneapolis with 10% Black population, than I have in Chicago with over 30%. Since you’re so smart, maybe you can figure out why that might be the case. And FYI, the only thing “shining thru” is my many reviews and content posted that clients love and enjoy. Why you are stuck on playing thorn on my side all the time, I don’t know why. And people like you, I don’t trust too much anyway because you’ll go and praise some Black guys or name drop, but then turn around and put another one down when they speak their mind or talk about something you don’t want to hear. 

[pubic_assistance]

13 minutes ago, TallMuscl37 said:

I don’t trust too much anyway because you’ll go and praise some Black guys or name drop, but then turn around and put another one down when they speak their mind or talk about something you don’t want to hear. 

You keep referring to black men as if they are always judged for their blackness and not as individuals. If I sing the praises of a black man it's becasue of his individual merits, as a human being. That's not going to prevent me from criticizing another person who also happens to be black.

Your constant complaining here is epic and I am not the only person here who feels that we can literally TASTE the misery in your every sentence. You constantly make ridiculous claims of your customers being racist when it's more likely they are just disappointed in your personality and/or performance. You keep hiding behind your race as a way of ignoring your inherent struggles which have less to do with your blackness and more to do with a nasty personality.

Edited December 13, 2024 by pubic_assistance
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[TallMuscl37]

3 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

You keep referring to black men as if they are always judged for their blackness and not as individuals. If I sing the praises of a black man it's becasue of his individual merits, as a human being. That's not going to prevent me from criticizing another person who also happens to be black.

 

You could have just stopped here.

Once again, you are still saying I’m talking about Blackness. You keep addressing what’s convenient for you to address, but totally ignore or skip over everything else I said. Did you read ANYTHING I posted above? You can’t even say anything relevant about the info I posted. If you actually took the time to read it, instead of being a vitriol queen all the time; maybe you can learn something. And then maybe you could leave your personal qualms elsewhere. But if you just keep coming on here, and keep talking the same noise everytime I say something about Black: then you aren’t getting the message. 

 

For all the talk about me complaining, you come on every thread I post and say something negative or contradicting. If you don’t like it, leave. I’m giving you permission and the option, to leave. If you don’t like what I post so much, you don’t have to come on. I’m really bewildered. If you feel a certain way about things I post, then exclude yourself. 

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, TallMuscl37 said:

Babe, you don’t have to tell me what I did or didn’t say earlier. I know exactly what I said and what I meant. You just misinterpreted it differently and thought I was applying that in the manner you described. Listen carefully:

I rather offer different levels of options because I know that different clients have different needs and desires. I don’t necessarily think it’s fair to charge a client who’s just looking for less, the same as another who’s looking for more. You may feel you rather charge 1 hourly price for everything, but that’s not always real world what’s happening. And yes I can say no, no, no to anything less than a certain amount: but I know from experience that it doesn’t always equate to lowering my value or worth. They may just be seeing my ad in town for the first time, and don’t have the budget for my higher sessions.

I know of people who be like: “my rate is $300”. That’s ALL they offer. Is just $300. And guess what? It offers no flexibility. RentMasseur offers all these options, which I’ve left unchecked to show all the choices:

 

This is the new updated RentMasseur. So obviously they thought about it enough to realize providers CAN AND SHOULD, have the option to list multiple rates. Now if you think I’m just going to go down the list and put the same rate for every option: you have me mistaken. 

There are no solutions only trade offs. My trade off is as I described and it saves me the trouble of handling clients who want to pay for A but get B. I offered it as my tactic not as advice to you. I’m aware Rentmasseur offers different rates…I’m on the platform myself. I know how it works. I don’t use that feature. 

And how I interpreted your comment about offering lower rates is I think how most readers would have interpreted it. If I misunderstood your point I’m sorry but it does seem to happen regularly that you make a point, someone responds and you refute their reply by saying they didn’t understand your point. It’s happened every single time I’ve engaged with you! If you want to vent your frustrations into an echo chamber this probably isn’t the place to do it. 
 

[TallMuscl37]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

 

And how I interpreted your comment about offering lower rates is I think how most readers would have interpreted it. If I misunderstood your point I’m sorry but it does seem to happen regularly that you make a point, someone responds and you refute their reply by saying they didn’t understand your point. It’s happened every single time I’ve engaged with you! If you want to vent your frustrations into an echo chamber this probably isn’t the place to do it. 
 

 

I reserve the option to correct something if I feel it didn’t represent what I said. A discussion forum shouldn’t be a one way street. I think this is where you and others get offended: you want to say something, and then for me to say nothing. How is that resolving anything? I’m not going to yes and agree with every comment, IF it’s taking something I say out of context.
 

You said, what YOU thought I meant. And I corrected you. That’s not what I said. I’m not just going to say, “oh okay, I won’t do that anymore”. On top of that, people are giving conflicting advice, so I have to reply back. You have one guy telling me, “lower your rates if you’re not busy”, then I have you telling me, “don’t ever lower your rates even if you’re not busy, leave the business instead”.

Everyone has the option to give opinions. I don’t know why some people here act like they’re paid professional advisories for the society of escort affairs. Everybody has an opinion, and I can trade my thoughts as I please. I’m tired of people thinking they can dictate my decisions and circumstances, as if I have no sense or experience of my own to know how to make things work.

This whole topic was simply me discussing a common price naming observation, namely the $100-$150-$200 realm. People took the opportunity to get offended and throw out personal statements and rumors about multiple accounts that have no basis.. 

[Boaxxx]

On 9/24/2024 at 6:07 AM, Shawn Monroe said:

Definitely makes the business tough. Also hard when RM took the rates off the site, so no one (providers or clients) know what anyone’s going rate is without invasive investigation. It’s tough out there. 

I don't understand why they took that away. 🤷

[marylander1940]

Just now, Boaxxx said:

I don't understand why they took that away. 🤷

they were concerned about law enforcement

[TallMuscl37]

5 minutes ago, Boaxxx said:

I don't understand why they took that away. 🤷

 

4 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

they were concerned about law enforcement

 

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Edited December 13, 2024 by TallMuscl37

[+ Jamie21]

11 minutes ago, TallMuscl37 said:

 

I reserve the option to correct something if I feel it didn’t represent what I said. A discussion forum shouldn’t be a one way street. I think this is where you and others get offended: you want to say something, and then for me to say nothing. How is that resolving anything? I’m not going to yes and agree with every comment, IF it’s taking something I say out of context.
 

You said, what YOU thought I meant. And I corrected you. That’s not what I said. I’m not just going to say, “oh okay, I won’t do that anymore”. On top of that, people are giving conflicting advice, so I have to reply back. You have one guy telling me, “lower your rates if you’re not busy”, then I have you telling me, “don’t ever lower your rates even if you’re not busy, leave the business instead”.

Everyone has the option to give opinions. I don’t know why some people here act like they’re paid professional advisories for the society of escort affairs. Everybody has an opinion, and I can trade my thoughts as I please. I’m tired of people thinking they can dictate my decisions and circumstances, as if I have no sense or experience of my own to know how to make things work.

This whole topic was simply me discussing a common price naming observation, namely the $100-$150-$200 realm. People took the opportunity to get offended and throw out personal statements and rumors about multiple accounts that have no basis.. 

Oh I wasn’t offended. Nor do I want you to say nothing. Nor do I offer you advice. I put my opinion.  There’s no right or wrong there’s just different opinions based on different experiences and beliefs and circumstances. 

Your observation about people in the $100 -$150 - $200 realm is one I recognise. I expressed how I deal with it. There’s things I can control, which I take action on, and things I can’t control which I ignore so that they don’t wear me down. I can’t control how you respond so it doesn’t offend me. I won’t offer any more thoughts on it because I think you just want to be heard rather than engaged with (and you’ll probably tell me I’ve misinterpreted that too!). Good luck with everything. 

 

 

[+ JamesB]

1 hour ago, marylander1940 said:

they were concerned about law enforcement

 

“concerned about law enforcement” in the US. Outside the US you can see the rates if the provider chooses to post them. At least that has been my experience.

[marylander1940]

1 minute ago, JamesB said:

 

“concerned about law enforcement” in the US. Outside the US you can see the rates if the provider chooses to post them. At least that has been my experience.

of course, it's only here and because of the Rentboy raid!

[TallMuscl37]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Oh I wasn’t offended. Nor do I want you to say nothing. Nor do I offer you advice. I put my opinion.  There’s no right or wrong there’s just different opinions based on different experiences and beliefs and circumstances. 

Your observation about people in the $100 -$150 - $200 realm is one I recognise. I expressed how I deal with it. There’s things I can control, which I take action on, and things I can’t control which I ignore so that they don’t wear me down. I can’t control how you respond so it doesn’t offend me. I won’t offer any more thoughts on it because I think you just want to be heard rather than engaged with (and you’ll probably tell me I’ve misinterpreted that too!). Good luck with everything. 

 

 

Now see, I was with you 100%, about to mark your reply as the “solution”, until the last sentence. Was the snippy exit necessary? Probably not. Like I told someone else, no need to answer on my behalf. And also don’t assume you know what I want to hear. I’m just responding to your posts that’s all. 
 

When it comes to opinions, it’s easy to say don’t do this and don’t that PERIOD. But what’s the alternative? If I were to turn down a $200 booking (hypothetically speaking), who’s going to pick up on the phone bill? The hotel for the night? The automo-bill insurance?
 

No I do not, like to accept less than what I know I have to offer for a session.

Yes I understand what my value and worth is. 

No I don’t encourage haggling.

Yes I am willing to walk away from money sometimes.

No I’m not desperate and willing to see anybody for any dollar. 

Yes I’m aware there’s plenty of clients out there that, even if one can’t pay the rate, another may very well be able to. 

But with all that said: at the end of the day, if I can make something work and the person is willing and serious about the booking: I reserve the right to take it, if it suits the situation. I don’t necessarily have the privilege to turn down every booking that isn’t my rate though.

 

[+ Jamie21]

10 minutes ago, TallMuscl37 said:

But what’s the alternative?

A different job?

Edited December 13, 2024 by Jamie21

[TallMuscl37]

26 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

A different job?

Well that’s your alternative to someone else, but it’s not a solution to someone actively in the business. We’re talking about within a business. If I wanted to talk about other job possibilities, I’d be on a whole other website. 

But what about helping that person in ways that could help the industry as a whole? Instead of it being all about you and what you do or don’t have to do: I said it earlier, I suggested RentMen and Masseur allow us a more customizable approach when clients click our number. They’ve done the right thing by providing a message, but it’s the same old message every escort has on their profile. 
 

How about coming together and coming up with solutions for better change on the websites and other avenues. But if you’re too busy playing devil's advocate, you’re not going to see how things could be improved. 

[+ Jamie21]

10 minutes ago, TallMuscl37 said:

Well that’s your alternative to someone else, but it’s not a solution to someone actively in the business. We’re talking about within a business. If I wanted to talk about other job possibilities, I’d be on a whole other website. 

But what about helping that person in ways that could help the industry as a whole? Instead of it being all about you and what you do or don’t have to do: I said it earlier, I suggested RentMen and Masseur allow us a more customizable approach when clients click our number. They’ve done the right thing by providing a message, but it’s the same old message every escort has on their profile. 
 

How about coming together and coming up with solutions for better change on the websites and other avenues. But if you’re too busy playing devil's advocate, you’re not going to see how things could be improved. 

Firstly I’ve solved the problem for myself in my operating model. I don’t want or need to spend energy trying to change things that are likely beyond my ability to change, such as human nature, the laws of economics or Rentmasseur’s website (I prefer their earlier version to the recent ‘upgrade’). 

Secondly, when I did suggest solutions none of them fitted your specific circumstances (after you’d clarified your circumstances). So it seems rather pointless to engage if the problem keeps morphing into ever more nuanced descriptions of your particular issues. Feels like chasing chimera. 

I think it was Bruce Lee who said ‘be like water’. I like to be like that and adapt myself to the situation rather than try to adapt the situation to me. It works better in my experience. 

 

[TallMuscl37]

2 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Firstly I’ve solved the problem for myself in my operating model. 

Secondly, when I did suggest solutions none of them fitted your specific circumstances (after you’d clarified your circumstances).
 

Well don’t forget: you’re overseas in a legalized area. So you have to #1: acknowledge that. Firstly. 
 

I thank you for your advice, but as you’ve said: it’s more specific to how you operate and do things. Unfortunately, the business doesn’t just exist with you. Between you and some other guys on this thread: there is a tendency to say what works for you, but then ignore others specific circumstances. I’m not morphing anything, the variables have already been established by default. I even said it to what’s his name, the troll from earlier: city by city and state by state, there are demographics in place that can’t easily be mitigated.
 

But I’m trying to do the best to my ability. And funnily enough, I’m still getting 150 offers. Instead of getting upset, I’m assessing whether it’ll be worth it…or if I could customize a session that may work for them, without losing my value and worth. But, the 800 session I had the other day, whew…that was NICE. I’m hoping 2025 is a year of greater prosperity 🎺 

[josh282282]

DEAR MODERATORS

I genuinely feel that TallMuscl37/Mocha is not contributing in a positive or helpful manner to this community.  Instead, my fear is his epic rants, hostile attitude, & bizarre ideas PUSH people,  both client & escort, away.  This is not productive in my opinion to the overall goals of this board, nor does it further its prowess or stature in the community. Yes, people respond to his posts, and he angrily responds back, but I suspect these abrasive discussions push 10x the people away rather than increase the boards membership.   

Please end this person's contribution privileges.

At least for a 60 day period.  

I thank all moderators for their tireless work. It is ever so appreciated. 

Josh  

 

Dear TallMuscl37, 

First, I wish you good health &  hope for a better future.

From a professional prospective (I'm a physician), I recommend:

1) Find a therapist to work thru the issues you have brought to this website.  Your feelings & frustrations are absolutely valid. Therapy would be safe & therapeutic place to work on them. This website is not.

2) Talk to your doctor about a SSRI medication like celexa or venlafaxine. It will will help with mood & anger. 

I say NONE of this to harm or mock you, but to help you. I fully accept you may not appreciate my advice.  I also apologize for anger or sadness my words bring to you.  Nevertheless,  I stand by them. 

Regards 

Josh

 

[TallMuscl37]

10 minutes ago, josh282282 said:

DEAR MODERATORS

I genuinely feel that TallMuscl37/Mocha is not contributing in a positive or helpful manner to this community.  Instead, my fear is his epic rants, hostile attitude, & bizarre ideas PUSH people,  both client & escort, away.  This is not productive in my opinion to the overall goals of this board, nor does it further its prowess or stature in the community. Yes, people respond to his posts, and he angrily responds back, but I suspect these abrasive discussions push 10x the people away rather than increase the boards membership.   

Please end this person's contribution privileges.

At least for a 60 day period.  

I thank all moderators for their tireless work. It is ever so appreciated. 

Josh  

 

Dear TallMuscl37, 

First, I wish you good health &  hope for a better future.

From a professional prospective (I'm a physician), I recommend:

1) Find a therapist to work thru the issues you have brought to this website.  Your feelings & frustrations are absolutely valid. Therapy would be safe & therapeutic place to work on them. This website is not.

2) Talk to your doctor about a SSRI medication like celexa or venlafaxine. It will will help with mood & anger. 

I say NONE of this to harm or mock you, but to help you. I fully accept you may not appreciate my advice.  I also apologize for anger or sadness my words bring to you.  Nevertheless,  I stand by them. 

Regards 

Josh

 

Jesus Christ. I don’t normally say that in vain but…whew. I can’t. You are taking things above and beyond the level of seriousness required.

First of all, I’m not afraid to admit I’ve been to therapy/counseling. It worked, but it didn’t necessarily change the dynamics of how life as a single, gay, Black man who does sex work in America….works. Sorry. I simply was able to understand things more. And my counselor happened to be a married, gay Black man himself. 

I got a whole lot of anger in your post. To petition the moderators to ban me for 60 days, are you on medication yourself? Because that’s pretty harsh. I could see if you wrote me privately but to say it in front of everyone? That’s bitchy. You have some audacity trying to suggest prescribing medications, without even knowing my health history or doing any in person evaluation on me. How about you include the side effects of taking such medications, before you use that as a way to shut me down without actually addressing a single issue in this thread. Goodbye. GTFO 👋🏾 

Edited December 14, 2024 by TallMuscl37

[TallMuscl37]

And it’s so funny that people rather resort to making me out to blame, but then when I give real world evidence of the type of stuff that MAKES me feel a certain way to want to discuss it…where’s the suggestion to those clients to get on mood medication?

Why can’t clients here just encourage others to man up and just do better? Why does it always have to turn against the escort? I have a screen shot of a separate line I use for a website: it’s so proliferate with nonsense that, I can’t even give my 2nd AD phone number out. I have to use a 3rd number, which I only check sparingly. This is the type of stuff I get:

 

Yes, people not speaking in complete sentences means I need to see a therapist? By all means, sign me up 🤣 

[TallMuscl37]

What’s funny is, I have in this ad: please text me the following details direct at the number shown on my card.

 Name:

 Host or Travel:

 City You’re In:

 Time desired:

Which goes to my regular message number. What do they do? Read nothing. And instead text me at this number. It’s a filter that tells me: “They didn’t read anything in my ad. They’re just attention farming 🐄 🌽 .” In continuation:

This is exactly why my RentMen and RentMasseur ads do not have phone numbers publicly visible. This particular website these numbers are coming from, there isn’t the option to not have a phone number. Many inquiries don’t follow directions. They don’t introduce. I appreciate the ones who do but, idk what’s up with these lately. 

[+ ApexNomad]

42 minutes ago, josh282282 said:

DEAR MODERATORS

I genuinely feel that TallMuscl37/Mocha is not contributing in a positive or helpful manner to this community.  Instead, my fear is his epic rants, hostile attitude, & bizarre ideas PUSH people,  both client & escort, away.  This is not productive in my opinion to the overall goals of this board, nor does it further its prowess or stature in the community. Yes, people respond to his posts, and he angrily responds back, but I suspect these abrasive discussions push 10x the people away rather than increase the boards membership.   

Please end this person's contribution privileges.

At least for a 60 day period.  

I thank all moderators for their tireless work. It is ever so appreciated. 

Josh  

 

Dear TallMuscl37, 

First, I wish you good health &  hope for a better future.

From a professional prospective (I'm a physician), I recommend:

1) Find a therapist to work thru the issues you have brought to this website.  Your feelings & frustrations are absolutely valid. Therapy would be safe & therapeutic place to work on them. This website is not.

2) Talk to your doctor about a SSRI medication like celexa or venlafaxine. It will will help with mood & anger. 

I say NONE of this to harm or mock you, but to help you. I fully accept you may not appreciate my advice.  I also apologize for anger or sadness my words bring to you.  Nevertheless,  I stand by them. 

Regards 

Josh

 

While I’m sure your intentions are well-meaning, your decision to publicly recommend therapy and medication under the guise of being a physician—without disclaimers or a direct professional relationship—is highly unethical. This is especially problematic in a forum where most users are anonymous, while the individual you’re addressing is a visible provider with their reputation and livelihood at stake.

Publicly recommending SSRIs and therapy, without knowledge of the person’s medical history or context, could easily be seen as overstepping professional ethics. At the very least, such recommendations should be private and accompanied by disclaimers that no formal patient-doctor relationship exists, which I’m sure you know.

I don’t agree with much of what TallMuscl37 says and have previously urged him to take his frustrations offline, away from a platform primarily made up of clients. That said, your approach here feels more punitive than constructive, as evidenced by your public blast to moderators. You’re not available to help him after making those recommendations, and by doing so, you walk a very dangerous line.

[TallMuscl37]

6 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

While I’m sure your intentions are well-meaning, your decision to publicly recommend therapy and medication under the guise of being a physician—without disclaimers or a direct professional relationship—is highly unethical. This is especially problematic in a forum where most users are anonymous, while the individual you’re addressing is a visible provider with their reputation and livelihood at stake.

Publicly recommending SSRIs and therapy, without knowledge of the person’s medical history or context, could easily be seen as overstepping professional ethics. At the very least, such recommendations should be private and accompanied by disclaimers that no formal patient-doctor relationship exists, which I’m sure you know.

I don’t agree with much of what TallMuscl37 says and have previously urged him to take his frustrations offline, away from a platform primarily made up of clients. That said, your approach here feels more punitive than constructive, as evidenced by your public blast to moderators. You’re not available to help him after making those recommendations, and by doing so, you walk a very dangerous line.

It’s showing me more and more, people around here can’t handle discussions. I’m actually going to leave here after this year. I can handle disagreements, but I can’t handle people who want to stoop so low and judge people’s character or in this case: cross examine someone’s mental capacity.

We’re in a time of crisis right now. I don’t want to get political or in detail, but the evidence is all around. People don’t know how to talk to each other or hash out their disagreements, without firing shots. It’s amazing some people get bent out of shape, when the discussion isn’t even singling them out. 

[+ purplekow]

23 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

While I’m sure your intentions are well-meaning, your decision to publicly recommend therapy and medication under the guise of being a physician—without disclaimers or a direct professional relationship—is highly unethical. This is especially problematic in a forum where most users are anonymous, while the individual you’re addressing is a visible provider with their reputation and livelihood at stake.

Publicly recommending SSRIs and therapy, without knowledge of the person’s medical history or context, could easily be seen as overstepping professional ethics. At the very least, such recommendations should be private and accompanied by disclaimers that no formal patient-doctor relationship exists, which I’m sure you know.

I don’t agree with much of what TallMuscl37 says and have previously urged him to take his frustrations offline, away from a platform primarily made up of clients. That said, your approach here feels more punitive than constructive, as evidenced by your public blast to moderators. You’re not available to help him after making those recommendations, and by doing so, you walk a very dangerous line.

While I would not have chosen to address this in public, recommending seeking out help from therapy and medication from an anonymous person on line does not, in my opinion cross any ethical boundaries.  Clearly the two people involved do not have a therapeutic relationship.  Therefore, it seems to me that Josh's advice is nothing more than a recommendation from a person on line to another.  There is no professional relationship and if indeed Josh is a physician he is not acting in that capacity and in stating that he is he is only attempting to give his advice some weight.  

What he did is nothing different than if a lawyer suggested on line that one was stepping close to an illegal or possible litigious  area and suggested seeing a lawyer about it.