My friend found out I escort

[MeatHead]

He had the nerves to text me a screenshot of my profile and called me out telling me that he cares about me and that he can't believe I'm doing it. I was in shocked. It shows that anonymity it's not a thing on the RM platform.

He's the second person I know that finds out and tell me (the other one was a gym buddy who also escorts but doesn't have a profile on RM).

[+ FrankR]

What was your friend doing on Rentmen?  🤔 Offer him a discount, maybe that way he will be more supportive! 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Jesus. If I ran across someone I knew on RM, I’d probably block them so we’d both maintain our privacy. If it was a close friend, I’d probably say I stumbled across their profile and they could count on my discretion. 

[BonVivant]

What’s the link to your RM profile?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Your friend is an asshole and not a real friend

[pubic_assistance]

13 hours ago, socurious said:

he cares about me and that he can't believe I'm doing it.

So he's shaming you for being on a website that he's obviously shopping on.

Loads of hypocrisy coming out of your friend's ass.

"Can't believe" you're working but he's above it all becasue he's only shopping?

🤔

You need to dump that friend.

[MeatHead]

13 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Jesus. If I ran across someone I knew on RM, I’d probably block them so we’d both maintain our privacy. If it was a close friend, I’d probably say I stumbled across their profile and they could count on my discretion. 

Exactly. That's actually what I've done with the few friends I discovered on RM. He wants me to get out of the business. 

[MeatHead]

11 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Your friend is an asshole and not a real friend

He told me he cares about me. He is gay and parties a lot. I'm surprised he sees escorting that way. 

[MeatHead]

14 hours ago, FrankR said:

What was your friend doing on Rentmen?  🤔 Offer him a discount, maybe that way he will be more supportive! 

That's exactly what I told him.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

5 minutes ago, socurious said:

He told me he cares about me. He is gay and parties a lot. I'm surprised he sees escorting that way. 

Ike told Tina he cared for her too.

What he's doing is pulling a variation of the ol' do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do routine.  Classic hypocrite move.

What he's also doing is infantilizing you, thinking you have no clue what you're doing.

If it were me, I'd feel comfortable telling a close friend to kindly fuck off.  You can handle it as gently as you see fit.

 

 

[+ Jamie21]

My true friends don’t have a problem with what I do. In fact they’re supportive. It’s a nice test of friendship. It’s so normalised that it’s hardly even discussed when we talk. 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

15 hours ago, BonVivant said:

What’s the link to your RM profile?

he’s been asked for the link to his RM profile dozens of times in various threads - not happening for whatever reason 

providers can present themselves however they want here - most realize it’s good for business since COM members hire

 

Edited June 23, 2024 by SouthOfTheBorder

[Stormy]

Your friend is no friend.  He’s a giant douche.   Friends don’t shame you 

[+ augustus]

Your "friend" is a judgmental a-hole.  

[Becket]

Yea that sucks. I know an escort who this happened to. It was a "lifelong" friend and the friend cut him off, never speaking to him again. It broke his heart. I had a "bestie" who told me to "f*** off" when he found out I was gay. I bet we've all had something like THAT happen. It's heart breaking. But you finally realize he was never really my friend. And you move on.

[Becket]

Sorry, don't mean to change the subject. This is about the escort, not me.

[soloyo215]

23 hours ago, socurious said:

He had the nerves to text me a screenshot of my profile and called me out telling me that he cares about me and that he can't believe I'm doing it. I was in shocked. It shows that anonymity it's not a thing on the RM platform.

He's the second person I know that finds out and tell me (the other one was a gym buddy who also escorts but doesn't have a profile on RM).

First, sorry that you have such judgemental friend. Quite hypocritical since the fact that he found you means that he was looking. That attests to what he thinks of providers in general. Second, you should know that you can search in RM without having an account, so you are findable in RM by the general public.

I have the feeling that this might open a flood of information door in your circle, so be prepared. Actually, have you prepared for the possibility of this happening? I hope so. If not, there's a high chance that by now rumors have started.

I hope you know how to handle it.

Best.

Edited June 23, 2024 by soloyo215

[MeatHead]

1 minute ago, soloyo215 said:

First, sorry that you have such judgemental friend. Quite hypocritical since the fact that he found you means that he was looking. Second, you should know that you can search in RM without having an account, so you are findable in RM byt the general public.

I have the feeling that this might open a flood of information door in your circle, so be prepared. Actually, have you prepared for the possibility of this happening? I hope so. If not, there's a high chance that by now rumors have started.

I hope you know how to handle it.

Best.

I don't consider him a very close friend to be honest and he doesn't know a lot of people in my circle anyways. 

[MeatHead]

8 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Ike told Tina he cared for her too.

What he's doing is pulling a variation of the ol' do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do routine.  Classic hypocrite move.

What he's also doing is infantilizing you, thinking you have no clue what you're doing.

If it were me, I'd feel comfortable telling a close friend to kindly fuck off.  You can handle it as gently as you see fit.

 

 

He kept telling me "You are not that". I agree that he's infantilizing me.

We fucked a few times and ended up becoming friends. But we aren't that close. I ghosted him at one point because he was only texting me when he was horny. I also found out he does a lot of drugs. 

[MeatHead]

6 hours ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

he’s been asked for the link to his RM profile dozens of times in various threads - not happening for whatever reason 

providers can present themselves however they want here - most realize it’s good for business since COM members hire

 

I rather sharing my profile by DM for privacy concerns. 

 

[CuriousByNature]

I'm going to take a different approach here.  Just to clarify, was he being judgemental, or do you think he might actually be concerned about your safety/wellbeing?  It sounds from what you've shared that he's the last person who should be judging anyone, so perhaps he's genuinely concerned about you?  I once saw someone I knew advertising on RM, and my first reaction was concern for him.  It was not a moral judgement at all, just concern for his safety.  He wasn't on the site for very long and I'm not sure what happened to him, but I hope he's doing well well with whatever he's doing.

[MeatHead]

4 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

I'm going to take a different approach here.  Just to clarify, was he being judgemental, or do you think he might actually be concerned about your safety/wellbeing?  It sounds from what you've shared that he's the last person who should be judging anyone, so perhaps he's genuinely concerned about you?  I once saw someone I knew advertising on RM, and my first reaction was concern for him.  It was not a moral judgement at all, just concern for his safety.  He wasn't on the site for very long and I'm not sure what happened to him, but I hope he's doing well well with whatever he's doing.

This.

I got this impression from him too. 

[+ jessmapex]

Most of the folks here have a healthy point-of-view toward non-exploitative escorting. Overall LGBTQ community also tends to not particularly look down upon sex work.  But as I have mentioned in another post in another thread, even the supposedly liberal / progressive LGBTQ friends can get jealous and ultimately tell you in a heat of an argument that "you have to pay to get laid". This is, of course, from a client's point of view. But the point is, even the most (outwardly) progressive folks can be judgemental about the world of escorting. They just dont know any better. 

There are risks in this profession, but most escorts are careful and have a common sense about what they are getting into. Escorts also tend to be more careful about their sexual health than your avg partying promiscuous guy. 

Your friend needs some education. Let him know you understand his concerns, but you have carefully considered all the pros and cons before getting into this profession.

Edited June 25, 2024 by jessmapex

[TonyDown]

 

If he cares about you he would have waited for a more appropriate time to bring it up, rather than texting you your profile.

I get the sense he's not a worthwhile friend.

He cares about you?  Sounds like that claim does not fit with his history.

[jeezifonly]

Difficult conversations can’t help but pop up for anyone here who fits “provider” or “client”