socurious Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 (edited) Well, in the first place, I haven't bottomed for anyone yet and it's likely the result of procrastination. But it's also that I like the idea of finding "the right one". I'm just always too busy. Long story... Right to the point, it hurts. My dildo is extra-large though. But I just can't emulate sex... It only feels good after a while and when I'm excited jerking off watching some movie before reaching orgasm. I was wondering if real dicks feel different and not as hurtful. It really makes me horny the idea of getting fucked by someone I like. I'm interested in reading what the experts think. Edited February 20 by socurious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samhexum Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 1 minute ago, socurious said: Is bottoming really not for me at the end? I love a good pun. + bashful, + Pensant, soloyo215 and 2 others 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 30 minutes ago, socurious said: Well, in the first place, I haven't bottomed for anyone yet and it's likely the result of procrastination. But it's also that I like the idea of finding "the right one". I'm just always too busy. Long story... Right to the point, it hurts. My dildo is extra-large though. But I just can't emulate sex... It only feels good after a while and when I'm excited jerking off watching some movie before reaching orgasm. I was wondering if real dicks feel different and not as hurtful. It really makes me horny the idea of getting fucked by someone I like. I'm interested in reading what the experts think. you should know by now. + Pensant 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bokomaru Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 I found it impossible to enjoy bottoming until my early 30s. Believe me I tried. I wanted to know what the big deal was. Bodies change, yours can too. If you are able to enjoy it in a self-love session, you can learn to enjoy it with a guy. My suggestion, get a smallish plug. Leave it in for an extended period (an hour or so). Do this on a regular basis. Eventually you learn to get much more comfortable with the sensation, so it helps to relax oneself, both physically and mentally, so that a cock is possible. And poppers. Lots of poppers. + Charlie, marylander1940 and Just Chuck 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShortCutie7 Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 I have only engaged in anal at all a handful of times, and bottomed all of those times except once… being a little guy means that the vast majority of suitors want to top me. Bottoming was painful every time I tried it, despite being very turned on by it. Part of the reason I’m interested in providers is to do a few “test runs” of topping before I have to worry about the bottom enjoying it. I chickened out on my one and only session with a provider (last week) but will try to go for it next time. Just Chuck 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 If you get anxious about it then you tend to tense up and then it does become difficult. The trick is to relax. After the initial pain if you can relax a little then you’ll find it becomes easier, and enjoyable. Find a top who is considerate and who is versatile because he’ll understand better how it feels. I rarely bottom because I prefer to top but if I do bottom (whether that’s in porn or for a client - I don’t bottom recreationally) I find it’s best to try different positions because some are more comfortable than others. I also prefer to be in control of the depth and pace etc if I bottom (but that’s probably just me preferring to take the active role!). I hope you manage to try it because it can be amazing! 56harrisond and + Charlie 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 Agree that it’s about relaxing, and for me that comes from simple lust. If I really want it from a guy, it feels great; if not it’s just a pain in the ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soloyo215 Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 5 hours ago, socurious said: Well, in the first place, I haven't bottomed for anyone yet and it's likely the result of procrastination. But it's also that I like the idea of finding "the right one". I'm just always too busy. Long story... Right to the point, it hurts. My dildo is extra-large though. But I just can't emulate sex... It only feels good after a while and when I'm excited jerking off watching some movie before reaching orgasm. I was wondering if real dicks feel different and not as hurtful. It really makes me horny the idea of getting fucked by someone I like. I'm interested in reading what the experts think. Definitely not an expert in bottoming, but(t) being in the business of learning, I can recommend the book "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men". Right away, I can tell that if you don't bottom then try an oversized dildo, there might be an issue there. As for "the right one", yes, I think that's a real thing. The times I've bottomed has been because the right person has led me to it, not because I deliverately want to. Not an expert in bottoming, but an expert in learning, and as such, I'd say look for good, reliable information resources on the topic, that is in addition to info from people who are experienced. Just Chuck and thomas 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ nycman Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 1 hour ago, Km411 said: Agree that it’s about relaxing, and for me that comes from simple lust. If I really want it from a guy, it feels great; if not it’s just a pain in the ass. Yes, yes, yes. You have to WANT the other man inside of you. Desperately WANT. + Charlie, + Vegas_Millennial, musclestuduws and 3 others 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeezifonly Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 17 hours ago, nycman said: Yes, yes, yes. You have to WANT the other man inside of you. Desperately WANT. Hunger. It’s essential for bottoming, especially at first. Your own fingers with lube are the best way to learn what pleases the palate. + nycman 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 21 Author Share Posted February 21 Do real dicks feel better or different? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 21 Author Share Posted February 21 But why when I move the dildo in and out my pussy to emulate sex it hurts? It's just not enjoyable. It only feels good right before the orgasm. At that point I just want the big artificial dick to break my hole. The climax is truly 10x stronger than cumming from topping. Anyways, as it currently is, I would day 80% of the time is pain and 20% is pleasure. My hole is more lose now. I've done it several times. The whole act takes me 2 hours at least. + Vegas_Millennial 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 21 Author Share Posted February 21 Maybe I just don't want to accept the fact that bottoming is not for me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 I would not enjoy toys; for me it’s the connection with a giy and the passion in the moment. Like I said…lust. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 3 hours ago, socurious said: Do real dicks feel better or different? "Dildo" is a very general term for a lot of different size sex toys to shove up your ass. An actual dick will feel different as much as the whole encounter will be. But the first few minutes of getting anything inside your butt ranges from uncomfortable to painful. (Unless you're a huge bottom slut). It's a lot of mental/emotional stimuli that make it pleasurable. Doing it yourself is good practice but not a great representation of the actual act. thomas, socurious, 56harrisond and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 22 Author Share Posted February 22 2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said: "Dildo" is a very general term for a lot of different size sex toys to shove up your ass. An actual dick will feel different as much as the whole encounter will be. But the first few minutes of getting anything inside your butt ranges from uncomfortable to painful. (Unless you're a huge bottom slut). It's a lot of mental/emotional stimuli that make it pleasurable. Doing it yourself is good practice but not a great representation of the actual act. Good to know! I just don't think about anything when I put the big toy in my hole! Sometimes at the very end I watch a movie of a hot top I like. But that's all about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 22 Author Share Posted February 22 But sometimes I also crave something in my butthole and when I start using the dildo is just pain and not what I was expenting. I know I know. OMG. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 Maybe your "toy" is too big for a beginner socurious 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 22 Author Share Posted February 22 1 minute ago, pubic_assistance said: Maybe your "toy" is too big for a beginner It's a replica of Jason Vario's cock. Supposedly it feels like the real thing. I bought it for 80 dollars a couple of years ago. + Vegas_Millennial 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 No dildo feels like the real thing. + Vegas_Millennial, thomas, socurious and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted February 22 Author Share Posted February 22 1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said: No dildo feels like the real thing. Why? Can you give details? I want to know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 9 minutes ago, socurious said: Do real dicks feel better or different? Yep. Dick-shaped sex toys, no matter how far they've developed, still feel nothing like the real thing. desertguy1954, 56harrisond, + Vegas_Millennial and 3 others 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Chuck Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 4 hours ago, socurious said: Why? Can you give details? I want to know... They can get the shape right. But I've never seen one with the right combination of soft and stiff. socurious, pubic_assistance and Bokomaru 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 13 hours ago, socurious said: Why? Can you give details? I want to know... Dildos are more rigid than a real penis. Therefore it's always going to be a little more difficult to jam up the soft tissue of your asshole. + Axiom2001 and marylander1940 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertguy1954 Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 13 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said: Yep. Dick-shaped sex toys, no matter how far they've developed, still feel nothing like the real thing. I agree, I am a bottom and I love my toys, but nothing compares to the real thing. The feeling of his dick pushing against my hole slowly opening me up as he gets ready to give me the ride of a lifetime. Yeah, nothing comes even close to that feeling pubic_assistance, socurious and thomas 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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