Asking for face pics

[+ Pensant]

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

[+ azdr0710]

(**azdr bookmarks this thread for use in future forum inquiries about face picture requests and resulting hand-wringing and agonizing**)   

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, Pensant said:

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

Move on!

sooner or later he'll realized it's not a good policy for this kind of business. 

[soloyo215]

9 hours ago, Pensant said:

I know this subject has been covered ad nauseum, but I wanted to share my response to a hottie who’s now asked twice for a pic.

”I’m a potential client who doesn’t send pics to strangers. This isn’t Grindr; it’s Rentmen.”

I'd be curious about what his reply is, including getting ghosted. Please, do tell.

[+ Pensant]

8 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

I'd be curious about what his reply is, including getting ghosted. Please, do tell.

His response: Okay, I am also willing to FaceTime prior to meet up, it’s for both sides (sic) safety.🤞

[soloyo215]

1 minute ago, Pensant said:

His response: Okay, I am also willing to FaceTime prior to meet up, it’s for both sides (sic) safety.🤞

So he still wants to see you before booking, for "safety". Interesting. He seems smart.

[+ Pensant]

No doubt; but he’s a novice and I don’t want to go through his interview process. He’s like my 5th choice in Seattle right now.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

As a client, I sometimes feel like other clients minimize an escort's concern for safety. Sure, a texted face pic could be BS and doesn't guarantee safety. But, how many of us we welcome a stranger into our home or hotel room sight unseen? Of course, we don't want to feel like a provider is screening us out (though I often think that's for the best), but I'm sure providers also get cat fished and deal with nutty clients. So perhaps we can all be a bit more empathic? 

[+ Pensant]

10 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

But, how many of us we welcome a stranger into our home or hotel room sight unseen?

True, though I planned to host as I always do.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

10 minutes ago, Pensant said:

True, though I planned to host as I always do.

Sure, but would you enter a home of someone you don’t know? Especially another man? Again, I’m not saying some providers aren’t screening and I do respect people’s desire for discretion. But if I put myself in a provider’s position, I’m confident I’d want to know who is coming over or who I am visiting. Plus, unless the client is using a burner phone, a provider can easily find out your name, address, etc. 

[DWnyc]

17 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

sooner or later he'll realized it's not a good policy for this kind of business. 

No because there will be enough people including in this forum validating the ask saying it’s a providers right etc 

 

[marylander1940]

5 hours ago, DWnyc said:

No because there will be enough people including in this forum validating the ask saying it’s a providers right etc 

 

Do you send your pics to providers? 

[DWnyc]

7 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Do you send your pics to providers? 

As a rule no.

 

[ICTJOCK]

I like your response,  but is he wanting to evaluate you or just gain confidence as to who you are before a booking?

Asking questions isn't a bad idea,  from either party.   The better each knows the other before meeting the better the result may be.

Edited January 7, 2024 by ICTJOCK

[SirBillybob]

I give to get; they’ll get what they see. The laxity of escorts’ screening never ceases to amaze. I find that most Grindr images sent directly thru chat are spread cheeks not subject to facial recognition or reputation-doxxing risk, so I don’t quite grasp the comparison to Rentmen reference. 

Edited January 7, 2024 by SirBillybob

[Jeff Meuller]

I had one do this recently in Berlin. Guy was hot, my type and was highly rated. It's a pain for me to find a suitable picture so usually I am not motivated to comply but this time I did. He was very good, no attitude and met all expectations. I had to meant to ask him why he asked for a photo but forgot about it in the moment.

 

[TorontoDrew]

I've been asked for a pic once...by a provider who doesn't share his.

[marylander1940]

21 hours ago, TorontoDrew said:

I've been asked for a pic once...by a provider who doesn't share his.

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 1/9/2024 at 10:13 AM, TorontoDrew said:

I've been asked for a pic once...by a provider who doesn't share his.

That was bad enough when I encountered it on Grindr.

Guess they were selling a "surprise " session.