EYE CATCHING PROFESSIONAL CLOTHING

[ICTJOCK]

Late last year one of my regular clients was chatting with me about my clothes and started quizzing me about my daytime professional job and what clothes I wear.

I responded that I mostly wear athletic dress shirts and Ralph Lauren custom fit polo shirts and typically Ralph Lauren chinos and suits during the winter.

He tends to be very trendy and suggested an overhaul.     Told me to forgo the older Ralph Lauren chinos and consider something like slim fitting Banana Republic  Chinos or even American Eagle.     They are much trimmer and tend to show off my ass and body in a way the Ralph Lauren chinos did not.     This was a bit of an educaiton for me.    A couple of things he stressed:

1.  Dress for success in a professional  setting means showing off your bod and showing what you have.     Marketing yourself all the time can be a good thing.

2. Be willing to change things up and keep a new and fresh appearance,  whether it be for casual clothes or work.

 

I did make some major changes.    I do like the refresher.    Comments on this client's thoughts and his thoughts of "marketing yourself"    no matter what the venue?

[+ Trebor]

If you’re pleased with how you look, WONDERFUL!  That’s all that ultimately matters😉

Edited August 6, 2023 by Trebor

[+ Coolwave35]

Pics or it didn’t happen. 

[maninsoma]

There is a fine line between wearing clothes that reveal an athletic physique and wearing clothing that clings to the body such that it's obvious what kind of shape one is in.  In a lot of work environments, the former is fine but the latter is a no-no.  Of course, if you are referring to dressing for work as an escort I don't think the clothing one wears can be too provocative unless you are going to be seen in public with a client in an environment where more modest attire is the norm.

[+ purplekow]

Unfortunately my physique has never been one which was easy to dress well.  When I was fit I had too much shoulder and thigh and when I was not, too much gut.  In order to look really put together I had to wear tailored clothes and ultimately, I grew tired of the expense and the time needed to do that. I believe not dressing the part probably cost me several different ways professionally.   So, I definitely think that if you have a body which is difficult to fit, spend the time and the money and get a clean professional look.  Off the rack and ill fitted will be judged and at times speak much louder than the good work you have done.  .

As for escort attire, well fit but not so tight as the appear to be ready to burst.   shorter sleeves to emphasize the biceps but not cut off sleeves as they tend to look obviously sexy and cheap.  Well fit on the butt and around the crotch.  Sexy underwear or if requested, commando.  

[dbar123]

In any environment, “Always be selling.”

People always treat you better when you are…

[Bokomaru]

I know it’s cliche but at work, dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Even though most places have gone casual it’s still true. Simply putting effort into one’s appearance can make a person stand out, ie never wearing scuffed, dirty shoes, being relatively wrinkle free, throwing out that worn looking belt, etc. 

[nate_sf]

I had something similar happen with a client about 10 years ago. He picked me up after work from my office job, and was horrified with what I was wearing. I was surprised, I thought it was a nice shirt but he said that the fit did not do me any favors. When we got back to his place he had me try on a really well-fitting blazer and I saw what he meant.

As others have mentioned, you want clothes that fit well and are flattering, but you don't want them to be crazy tight. 

[+ goosh69]

Uhhhhh Ralph Lauren ALSO makes slim fit and athletic fit clothes. Aka your client is clueless. It’s not the brand, it’s the fit. And he’s correct that slim fit is more in even for business clothes. But overly slim fit makes you look like a Love Island contestant.

[+ Pensant]

RL ruins even his high-end clothes by putting his label on it.

[+ goosh69]

19 minutes ago, Pensant said:

RL ruins even his high-end clothes by putting his label on it.

There are tons of RL items with no outside label. 

[blck37]

I wear t-shirt and chinos (plus sneaker) for work....i guess i am the odd man out here 🤣

[+ Pensant]

22 hours ago, goosh69 said:

There are tons of RL items with no outside label. 

Perhaps not overt, but a close friend ordered a $4000 shearling jacket from RL and sure enough the RL was on the buttons. He sent it back. I ordered an even nicer one, hand finished, from Orvis, for $500 less and it had superb horn buttons.

[ICTJOCK]

On 8/6/2023 at 5:33 PM, dbar123 said:

In any environment, “Always be selling.”

People always treat you better when you are…

Well said,   I've had a friend of mine remind me of that again and again.     Thanks for the reminder.

[samhexum]

No matter what, always strive to look professional and serious at all times.

 

[rvwnsd]

On 8/6/2023 at 11:03 AM, ICTJOCK said:

Late last year one of my regular clients was chatting with me about my clothes and started quizzing me about my daytime professional job and what clothes I wear.

I responded that I mostly wear athletic dress shirts and Ralph Lauren custom fit polo shirts and typically Ralph Lauren chinos and suits during the winter.

He tends to be very trendy and suggested an overhaul.     Told me to forgo the older Ralph Lauren chinos and consider something like slim fitting Banana Republic  Chinos or even American Eagle.     They are much trimmer and tend to show off my ass and body in a way the Ralph Lauren chinos did not. ...

I agree with and disagree with your client.

Regarding Ralph Lauren, I am not a fan of his polos, chinos/khakis, dress shirts, or dress pants. I do like some of his blazers, specifically the Lauren line, because they consistently have enough material in the sleeves for me to have them lengthened. (I wear a 37" sleeve) Many other labels do not include enough extra fabric to have sleeves lengthened. As others have pointed out, RL has slim fitting shirts and pants if you are loyal to the brand and don't wish to find a different one.

Banana Republic, in my experience, prices their merchandise well above its quality and workmanship. They are great if you can catch a sale.

On 8/6/2023 at 11:03 AM, ICTJOCK said:

1.  Dress for success in a professional  setting means showing off your bod and showing what you have.     Marketing yourself all the time can be a good thing.

 

While I don't think you should hide behind oversized or frumpy clothes, I also don't think a professional setting is the place to "show off your bod and what you have." Maybe your client meant "don't hide behind..."

 

On 8/6/2023 at 11:03 AM, ICTJOCK said:

2. Be willing to change things up and keep a new and fresh appearance,  whether it be for casual clothes or work.

This is good advice. You don't want your attire to look dated. After working remotely for three years, I will likely be working in a hybrid or in-office model in the near future. My professional wardrobe, slacks in particular, needs a refresh.

[ICTJOCK]

5 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

 

Regarding Ralph Lauren, I am not a fan of his polos

 

This is good advice. You don't want your attire to look dated. After working remotely for three years, I will likely be working in a hybrid or in-office model in the near future. My professional wardrobe, slacks in particular, needs a refresh.

Thanks for taking the time and for such good advice.    My only point we'd disagree is on the Ralph Lauren polos.    LOVE   RL polos and have been wearing them since I was a kid.   Today I wear the mesh,  slim fit  cut all the time.   I look great and feel comfortable.    I have made an effort "diversify my position"  and include some great form fitting T shirts and a larger variety.

Banana Republic chinos were a great addition.   I get mine off of their "Banana Republic factory" site,  guessed the right size and actually really like them  (miracles never cease).   LOL.      Thanks again.   Your input is always appreciated!