Kindness can never be overrated - who is the kindest?

[CuriousByNature]

4 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

They want money. They have little incentive to be hostile or negative, just like in any other business. 

I'm not sure it can be boiled down to something so one-dimensional.  There are some people in every line of work who do the job only because of money, but for most people, I think there is usually more to it.  Enjoyment of the work, making a difference in the lives of others, and seeing value in a job well-done.  I also think that true kindness will carry over into an individual's personal life, and vice-versa.

[+ RyanDean]

In any customer service, I think of kindness as among the things that can distinguish "merely good/fine" from "truly excellent/memorable" so I don't think it's irrelevant (or entirely mercenary). 

And it is a feature I notice and value when hiring.

Some gents whose kindness has impressed me include:
Tristan Baldwin
James DuMont
Ryan Chambers
AlexanderMullerr
RomanLA

 

[CuriousByNature]

2 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

Any kindness is a means to an end, to get more money, which is ultimately their job. 

That is sad to me on a number of levels.  We clearly have very different perspectives.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

8 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

That is sad to me on a number of levels.  We clearly have very different perspectives.

That poster is always very negative about providers. I blocked him a while ago because he just makes the board miserable. 

[CuriousByNature]

2 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

I’m stating a fact. An escort isn’t a friend. 

This keeps going around in circles - let's stop the merry-go-round

[+ Jamie21]

On 1/21/2023 at 3:39 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

In my experience, these are among the kindest guys. I would also say that this feels correlated to whether or not the providers seem to enjoy their work. E.g. they really like people, they really enjoy sex, and they tend to have a lot of varied interests. For me, those include: 

Jonah Wheeler

Dominus

Mike Gaite

NY Wolfman

MrSensual on RentMasseur

Definitely agree. You need to truly enjoy the work and enjoy the people you meet through doing it. If you don’t enjoy it then it’s easily apparent to your client. At its essence the work requires kindness and humanity, it should never be purely transactional (although of course there’s a transactional element to it).

When I stop enjoying doing this kind of work I’ll stop. 

[CuriousByNature]

3 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

I was stating my opinion. We all hold the right to do this. Accept my right to do such. Since I’m a human like you apparently. That’s a right for everyone and unlike you I know what everybody means. 

As I mentioned in a previous reply to you:  

Our conversation here seems to reinforce the fact that everyone has their own priorities when it comes to relationships - even those relationships that may be more transactional in nature.  It's always good to hear others' points of view, in my opinion. 

So... no argument here about everyone's right to their own opinions.

[+ glutes]

I'm surprised, no one has mentioned A.J. Irons.

[CuriousByNature]

Just now, glutes said:

I'm surprised, no one has mentioned A.J. Irons.

He was mentioned, but I don't think there was additional discussion.

[CuriousByNature]

2 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

Then don't bully people for posting negative opinions on providers, when you do and everybody has the right to complain. and? lool. don;t get offended when people use spaces that are open to all. 

We evidently have a different idea about what a bully is, as well.  Nothing you have written has offended me in any way because we are all free to express our ideas and should be able to without judgement or name-calling. 

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

8 minutes ago, CuriousByNature said:

We evidently have a different idea about what a bully is, as well.  Nothing you have written has offended me in any way because we are all free to express our ideas and should be able to without judgement or name-calling. 

 

Yeah. He thinks disagreeing with him and calling him out for being very nasty about providers is “bullying.” 🙄

[CuriousByNature]

11 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

you and your friend are bullies. do you stop people you "don't like" from entering supermarkets, or other public spaces? tha'ts not your place. If anybody leaves an opinion, feel your face blank and control your input, unless it's something directly harshly at you. simple. tha'ts what most adults do. I don't care what peple post here. if it's bad i ignore them, or let the mods do their job and address it. 

No, I have never tried to stop anyone from entering a supermarket.

[+ glennnnn]

Agree. To. Disagree.? 

[CuriousByNature]

4 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Yeah. He thinks disagreeing with him and calling him out for being very nasty about providers is “bullying.” 🙄

I guess everyone has their own definition for what constitutes bullying.  I think this may be the first time in my life I have been called a bully.

  

[CuriousByNature]

Just now, glennnnn said:

Agree. To. Disagree.? 

100%.

And thank you to everyone who has provided feedback on those you have found to be particularly kind!  

[Kevin Slater]

Moderator's note:  the topic of this thread is kind escorts.  Any further off-topic replies (including discussions of other members) will be hidden.

      

[Guest]

18 minutes ago, Kevin Slater said:

Moderator's note:  the topic of this thread is kind escorts.  Any further off-topic replies (including discussions of other members) will be hidden.

      

Sorry I saw this after your admin note. 

[+ glennnnn]

Thank you, Kevin Slater 😌

[Walt]

On 1/21/2023 at 12:23 PM, arnemgreeves said:

An escort would welcome a client and treat them well due to wanting money. Maybe it's just me - but I don't get the context of kindness here. A restaruant waiter will be "kind" be being pleasant since the owner of the place wants customers and revenue. Maybe that's a cold way of looking at it, but maybe I'm wrong in interpreting this question. 

A person's actions can be "welcoming," "pleasant," or treat a customer well because the person is obsequious, desperate for money, operating from a "script", gritting their teeth to play a role, a decent actor, or even a sociopath -- all of those are personality traits or personal motivations/qualities that simply don't include being kind.  Kindness includes a sense of the person's motivation and ability to connect with another as experienced by the other person..

[But we all need to be careful, the biggest sociopaths can be great actors and easily convince someone their motivations are pure and admirable.  😉   ]

[jtwalker]

These guys are very kind:

https://app.rent.men/MattAnthony

https://app.rent.men/Hotbra

https://app.rent.men/JamesHall

https://app.rent.men/Eliflow

[cruiserdude1234]

11 hours ago, glutes said:

I'm surprised, no one has mentioned A.J. Irons.

I already mentioned AJ Irons.   He is an honest, down to earth caring individual.

[+ glutes]

On 1/21/2023 at 9:24 AM, arnemgreeves said:

They want money. They have little incentive to be hostile or negative, just like in any other business. 

Here's CB profile / name that says it all:

https://chaturbate.com/money_drainer/

(And he's kind)

Edited January 23, 2023 by glutes

[TJMS]

Gentlemen,

We are here for the same reason: to gather intelligence on providers so we can make reasonable decisions on which escorts to choose. We all have our own preferences. Par example, some of us may desire an ardent kisser, others may not really care about that aspect. So let us share what we know without making comments about each other that we may come to regret. I have not always done so  but will strive to do so. Cheers!

 

 

[+ purplekow]

On 1/22/2023 at 8:53 AM, arnemgreeves said:

I’m stating a fact. An escort isn’t a friend. 

Since when does kindness require friendship?   I have hired about 8 of the men listed above.  While kindness is not the first adjective I would use, they all have a gentle demeanor, open heart and a respectful nature.  Others I have hired did not.  

Actually, your demeanor on the board does seem unkind.  As a result, if you were an escort, I would not be tempted.  By the way, while all escorts are not your friend is a fact, the statement an escort is not a friend is an opinion and would only need one exception to not be a fact.  As I had a friend who I later found out was an escort, when I hired him unseen from a agency years ago, I believe your assertion should be reconsidered or at least not quite so dogmatic.   

Edited May 9, 2023 by purplekow

[FunGuyUS]

The absolute kindest for me is 

Marc_LarsenXL on Rent.Men

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