socurious Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 My friend had an awkward experience recently and he asked me to tell him what was it about because he still can't understand. I cannot neither but I hope you guys help me find out. He met this older hot porn actor and after having sex with him, my friend mistakenly gently slapped the man in the face while kissing like you would do in gay foreplay. The lover turned into a whole different person basically like the hulk. He was very upset at this and asked my homie to leave the aparment in an very nasty way. My friend felt threatened as hell and proceed. He couldn't believe what was happenning. The man ended up slamming the door behind him telling him to not come back. What do you think it happened? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DynamicUno Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) It seems the older hot porn actor didn't feel like a slap in the face was acceptable gay foreplay, and decided your "friend" should leave before he crossed another line with him. Edited November 21, 2022 by DynamicUno Noting that the older porn actor was an older hot porn actor. socurious, + augustus, lehigh and 10 others 5 6 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 asking for a friend?!......did you post earlier that this involved you and then delete that post? + glutes, Luv2play, + Lucky and 5 others 5 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ jeezopete Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, nycboi said: my friend mistakenly gently slapped the man in the face while kissing like you would do in gay foreplay. Wait….How is slapping someone in the face while kissing considered foreplay, gay or otherwise? I would’ve been done at that point too. And how does one mistakenly slap another in the face? Edited November 21, 2022 by jeezopete Added second question socurious, lehigh, Danny-Darko and 4 others 1 1 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, nycboi said: ...my friend mistakenly gently slapped the man in the face while kissing like you would do in gay foreplay... No, I wouldn't. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what happened. What's the non-obvious part? Edited November 21, 2022 by Unicorn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted November 21, 2022 Author Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, azdr0710 said: asking for a friend?!......did you post earlier that this involved you and then delete that post? Why are you even doing this and why is so important to you whether I delete a post or not? So rude and random. I tell you man... Edited November 21, 2022 by nycboi + Vegas_Millennial 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ jeezopete Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 30 minutes ago, nycboi said: A gently slap in the face while looking into the eyes and kissing is indeed a universal macho gay foreplay. Nope + nycman, + Tygerscent, BonVivant and 9 others 1 9 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CuriousByNature Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 Even though your friend thought it was acceptable behaviour, for whatever reason the slap seemed to have triggered something in the other guy. I imagine slapping someone in the face could be considered quite offensive, especially if it came unexpectedly. We have the information you have provided about the context from your friend's perspective, but the perspective of the other guy is something we can only guess at. I'm not sure that the other guy necessarily over-reacted. If he was used to that sort of foreplay, then I could see it as an over-reaction, but we don't know if that is the case. He may have been acting quite reasonably if the slap had triggered something particularly upsetting or disturbing to him. The mixture of lust and violence (even in the form of a slap) is not going to be received positively by a lot of people - especially if they don't know each other super well. Perhaps your friend can reach out to this person, apologize for the slap, and hopefully the other guy will let him know why he reacted so strongly? socurious, + Tygerscent, + jeezopete and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 40 minutes ago, nycboi said: A gently slap in the face while looking into the eyes and kissing is indeed a universal macho gay foreplay. If you say otherwise then you belong to a different tribe and that's not too bad. Or maybe you are likely a lesbian. Or maybe I just suck at elaborating well. No... No, I'm a Lesbian. That's it! 😄 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maninsoma Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) I've seen porn scenes where the top slaps the bottom's face during sex. I know I wouldn't like that, but obviously some guys do. I've never seen a scene where there is post-orgasm cuddling where someone slap's the other guy's face. Now, maybe that happens frequently and I just don't know about it because most porn scenes end quickly after the cum shots. It still seems like an odd thing to do post-orgasm, when most people are more in relaxed mode, not hyper aggressive mode. I'd say its a mistake in general to slap someone unless you know they enjoy that. Not everyone wants to be treated that way. There is no "universal" behavior in this regard. I had a wannabe macho gay coworker in the 1980s who liked to greet me by punching me lightly on my shoulder. After the second time he did that (the first time I simply told him I did not want to be hit), I told him that I didn't want to get him in trouble but that I would file a complaint if he kept punching me. As a victim of childhood violence, I don't want to be hit by someone because he thinks it's a "bro" behavior or some other such nonsense. Edited November 21, 2022 by maninsoma correct typos + Summerson, + Vegas_Millennial, + jeezopete and 3 others 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LookingAround Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 A slap in the face while kissing is not acceptable. I’d have thrown you out too. Oops I mean your friend lol cany10011, Deadlift1, DWsoccer and 11 others 4 1 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ sniper Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 A slap in the face in Western culture -except maybe people knowingly engaging in S&M -is a sign of contempt, not something playful. The only time I slapped someone in the face while getting it on was when he without warning bit hard on my nipple, and I was decidedly not being affectionate. + nycman, Luv2play, + Tygerscent and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) Consent is sexy. In my view, certain things require at least a brief discussion before you assume your partner is ok with them. A list of things that I talk about first is: Hitting of any kind including spanking, hair pulling, hard nipple biting, and choking. Spitting in the face. Felching. Tickling. Degrading talk. Kissing. With the right partner, I can enjoy almost all these things and will ask for the ones I’m feeling depending on who I’m with. Under no circumstances will I ever agree to be tickled or have my load spit back in my mouth. I communicate that clearly with every partner I’m about to engage with whether I anticipate them going there or not. I remind partners and escorts that I’m about to go in for seconds and thirds with to make sure the space is safe enough for me to enjoy them. I don’t wait for someone to tickle me to stop them because then I’m waiting for it go wrong instead of enjoying what feels good. Once I had a much older man I was playing with refuse to honor these limits after agreeing to them. I threw him out after the second violation. In my opinion porn isn’t a blueprint for how sex with another human actually goes, so my advice is not to assume your partner will be comfortable with something you’ve seen on screen. Edited November 21, 2022 by Coolwave35 nate_sf, + Tygerscent, cany10011 and 3 others 3 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ glutes Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) Heck, I am waiting for this hot older porn actor to turn into a good looking guy that makes eyes at your friend. Or this older porn star is really a lawyer! Gosh, I love reading fiction. (KrisParr! KrisParr!) Edited November 21, 2022 by glutes + Tygerscent, socurious, + Vegas_Millennial and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ nycman Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 (edited) Yeah…… Before I engage in anything the might even come close to aggressive behavior, I have a very frank discussion with my partner about safe words and acceptable behaviors. The more naive ones laugh at me, and I have to explain that even though my “rough” play is generally “mild” by gay standards, you never know when you’re going to accidentally trigger someone. If you’re not adult enough to engage in that simple conversation with me, then your not old enough to ride this ride. I want a safe sexual space where we both can recover from such an accidental event. As you’ve experienced, it can be very unsettling for the aggressor as well. I’m sorry this happened to you…errr…your “friend”. Chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on. Edited November 21, 2022 by nycman + Tygerscent, + Summerson and + jeezopete 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 2 hours ago, nycboi said: It was NOTHING like that at all (very likely that I'm not even using the right choice word). It was a light, sexy and playful "touch". Omg my English... How do you know? You weren't there. I'm assuming you're being truthful in your story. 😁 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 4 minutes ago, Unicorn said: I'm assuming you're being truthful in your story. 😁 We are? Ok. My friend thinks that all of us should take responsibility for our own stuff, whether it’s good or bad. When my friend took responsibility for his own actions he had better sexual interactions with everyone. My friend. + Vegas_Millennial, + nycman, + Summerson and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Todd Jenkins Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 6 hours ago, LookingAround said: A slap in the face while kissing is not acceptable. I’d have thrown you out too. Oops I mean your friend lol And your little dog, too!! + azdr0710, caliguy and + nycman 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ friendofsheila Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 14 hours ago, jeezopete said: Nope +1 socurious 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coriolis888 Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 Please All, and You Will Please None Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted November 21, 2022 Share Posted November 21, 2022 13 minutes ago, coriolis888 said: Please All, and You Will Please None Did your friend say that? + Summerson and thomas 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CuriousByNature Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 @nycboi I empathize that your friend's actions led to a big reaction from the other guy, whether rightly or wrongly. But the consensus amongst posters seems to be that your friend shouldn't have assumed that even a gentle slap would be okay with everyone. Perhaps this will be a learning experience for him, and one that did not end up being too costly in the long run. It may be that he just has to admit to himself that it was an unfortunate choice to have made, and then move on to better future experiences. + Vegas_Millennial, samhexum, + Coolwave35 and 4 others 4 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 Is your friend or his escort of Western culture? Some cultures may tolerate physical abuse more than others. What might be acceptable in other parts of the world might not be acceptable in Western culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nate_sf Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 Slap on the ass, sure that can be fun. Slap on the face, hell no. + Coolwave35, socurious and + Vegas_Millennial 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socurious Posted November 22, 2022 Author Share Posted November 22, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Vegas_nw1982 said: Is your friend or his escort of Western culture? Some cultures may tolerate physical abuse more than others. What might be acceptable in other parts of the world might not be acceptable in Western culture. No, no escort. It was a hookup with someone that does porn and escorts. You can DM for more. Edited November 22, 2022 by nycboi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.thumb.jpg.a4b7b4d91bd664eeb371f7462361b829.jpg)
Recommended Posts