How to ask for kinks? (Man scent, verbal humiliation)

[Idreamofweny]

I’m strictly bottom but I like to eat a clean muscle ass.  Other than that, the armpits/ balls could be so ripe there’s visible steam coming off them LOL. I love to bury my face in the smell of a man’s testosterone and worship it.  I would obviously bathe as requested.

In addition I just like the way a man smells all over like the neck, behind the ears, the chest, etc.  This fetish is extremely important to me, how could I ask for it?  Like day or day and a half with no bath? (Even 2 days?)

I also like to be degraded, verbally humiliated while I am sniffing a guy.  To me that makes sense because only a f@gg@t would want to sniff balls.  So telling me what a f@gg@t I am seems the natural next step.

I don’t have much experience with escorts. Only done it a couple of times.  But both times, even though the sex was hot, I went away feeling like I didn’t get my actual fantasy.  I’m not bad looking and pretty fit so I can find sex.  But if I am going to pay for it, then I want a certain experience. I just don’t know how to have the conversation.  Both of the escorts I tried in the past said in the profiles they were into domination, so I didn’t feel like my requests were far fetched. 

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

"If you're coming to me directly from the gym, please don't shower.  The smell of a muscle man after he works out really turns me on".

 

[+ purplekow]

I find the best way to get what you want is to ask directly without hesitation.  "Hey, when we get together I love a sweaty man smelling man with a clean edible ass. And while we are together, I like verbal degradation.  I do not mind being called a faggot or a cocksucker or a pussy boy and a low life scum sucking piece of shit.  The fouler the better.  Can you do that?"

Some may opt out but I am sure there are plenty of guys who could call you things you can't imagine while their manly sweaty body dominates you/.   

Ask and you shall receive.  

Edited August 23, 2022 by purplekow

[Jamie21]

Just ask. They’ve heard it all before. Honestly they’ll prefer to know exactly what you’re into. It saves all the guess work during the session. And use your own words, describe it in the best way you can, especially the details. It’s the details that are important. 

I have a massage client who likes me sucking his toes, but it has to be done when he’s on his back so he can see, and I need to make eye contact. Toe sucking in any other way doesn’t do it for him. I only hit on this by chance because he was too embarrassed to ask me since he thought it was a silly thing to be turned on by. It’s definitely not silly, it’s just normal and everyone has these kind of things that get them going. So tell your guy and they’ll be delighted that you felt confident and comfortable enough to ask. If they aren’t comfortable doing it (unlikely) then you can find someone else. 

[MscleLovr]

5 hours ago, purplekow said:

the best way to get what you want is to ask directly without hesitation

This was always my approach as a client @Idreamofweny

 

8 hours ago, Idreamofweny said:

I just don’t know how to have the conversation

Escorts can be great…but they are not telepathic. On a first date, they cannot fathom your innermost desires. Just tell them what you like. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

As others have said here, just be straight forward.  Don't sugarcoat it.

Alpha-beta play, findom, worship and verbal are the kinds of things you need to spell out for a guy.  A good escort doesn't need the script, but he also probably wouldn't mind knowing where your line in the sand is.

... And if you want that line pushed way fucking forward 👍

Edited August 23, 2022 by BenjaminNicholas

[pubic_assistance]

Neither of these fetishes are on the outer realm of fantasy play. Both are fairly common.

Just first you want a profile that mentions "kink friendly" or "domination play"

Then, as mentioned here by a few of the other gentlemen, just ask.

Remember they are paid for their time, not their service, so simply share that you are "into" these fetishes and ask if they "SHARE" your interests.

Then make an appointment to "get together".

Keep the specific details of such an encounter in private - in person verbal conversations.

Most importantly, never be embarrassed to discuss your turn-ons with a professional.  They can either provide or not. Generally speaking no one is going to judge. ( And if anyone does...they need to find a different profession ).

Edited August 23, 2022 by pubic_assistance

[Jamie21]

16 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Generally speaking no one is going to judge. ( And if anyone does...they need to find a different profession ).

Definitely this. Don’t be judgmental. It’s actually a privilege to have people share their most intimate and private desires with you. 

[Idreamofweny]

Both profiles said they were into domination, but guess I should have asked more questions before meeting?  Bc after meeting both said they weren’t into verbal.  I know there are different interpretations, but not sure how you can be dominated silently LOL.  Guess I’ll be more specific if I do it again, but most of the ads say they don’t want a bunch of conversation or questions.  Nearly every ad.

[TorontoDrew]

4 minutes ago, Idreamofweny said:

Both profiles said they were into domination, but guess I should have asked more questions before meeting?  Bc after meeting both said they weren’t into verbal.  I know there are different interpretations, but not sure how you can be dominated silently LOL.  Guess I’ll be more specific if I do it again, but most of the ads say they don’t want a bunch of conversation or questions.  Nearly every ad.

It's tough.  Make sure to send a long first contact with everything in it.  If they are any good they'll understand.  If not, you're better off without them.  It may take a while.  Good luck finding what you're looking for.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I am very upfront, and open about the fact that not all escorts have or will do what I'm asking for. I don't force the issue. Even then, I get the occasional brat who calls me weird.

Screw them. I like being dominated and humiliated, and if they don't want to kick a guy around a little, they just passed up easy money.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Bottom line, you gotta lead with with the important stuff.  Make yourself crystal clear.

Worse case, they don't reply.  You've lost nothing.

Best case, he puts his bare foot on your neck to hold you down while fucking you from behind.

 

Go get em' tiger

[Jamie21]

8 hours ago, Idreamofweny said:

but most of the ads say they don’t want a bunch of conversation or questions.  Nearly every ad.

What they mean is they don’t want to engage in ‘polite’ chat. Some clients think it’s nice to start a conversation off and kind of slowly build to the request. Don’t bother, all I want to know is when you want to come and the duration, plus your name. Those clients are serious and will get a reply. The polite chats that start with:

”Hi”  

”How are you?”

….are a waste of time and are ignored.

Also those who ask questions that can be answered by looking at the guys profile are annoying and pointless, such as:

”Do you do out calls to xxx?”

…..and we have the ‘sex chat’ questions which get deleted immediately:

”How big is your cock?”

…and the window shoppers also get deleted:

”What’s your best rate?”

Those kind of conversation are 99% certain to be a time waster. No one will engage much with that kind of thing. 

Put your request right up front in the first message. “Hi, I’m into xxxxxx and want to book a session with you that will include that. Is it something you do?”. 

If they don’t answer it’s probably a “no” but if it’s in their repertoire then you’ll get a reply. Take it from there. 

[muscmtl]

11 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Bottom line, you gotta lead with with the important stuff.  Make yourself crystal clear.

Worse case, they don't reply.  You've lost nothing.

Best case, he puts his bare foot on your neck to hold you down while fucking you from behind.

 

Go get em' tiger

Agree. Always do.  But then always get "noooooooo"

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 8/22/2022 at 6:27 PM, Idreamofweny said:

I’m not bad looking and pretty fit so I can find sex.  But if I am going to pay for it, then I want a certain experience.

Probably avoid telling the provider that you're attractive don't need to pay for sex.

I am average, obese, and still find plenty of sex I don't pay for, so being self-described "attractive" is irrelevant.  I usually give the provider a photograph of myself in advance so they know whom to expect at their door.  But this way they also know I am a big guy in case some of them have a weight limitation for their massage table, sling, or whatever.  I usually request an hour massage in advance of the kinky stuff when communicating in advance, because that's my enjoyment when paying for service.

 

Edited August 24, 2022 by Vegas_nw1982

[Jamie21]

1 hour ago, Vegas_nw1982 said:

Probably avoid telling the provider that you're attractive don't need to pay for sex.

It’s a red flag. It usually precedes a request for a discount. No decent provider cares what you look like. Just be clean and healthy. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

5 hours ago, Vegas_nw1982 said:

Probably avoid telling the provider that you're attractive don't need to pay for sex.

Yes. Providers will tell you that themselves.