Birthday Blues

[+ Reisr30]

This week I had a milestone birthday and have been feeling down about it. Not sure why but feel like things will be downhill moving forward and it re-enforced some feelings of loneliness that made me sad. Curious if others have felt the same way.

[Daverwr]

I feel that way on every birthday. Birthdays lately seem to be anticlimactic. Media always show birthdays as huge celebrations regardless of age. My experience is never the case. Because of that, I always get depressed. Well, more depressed than I usually am. It usually passes in a few days. It will get better.

[Guest]

Yeah, our family's not getting together for Thanksgiving for the 1st time, and it wouldn't surprise me if Christmas is out this year as well. Maybe I'll make some Turkey tacos for Thanksgiving. I'm leaving the next day to meet my Mexican medical student friend in Guanajuato. Pretty depressing not to see family. Maybe next year I can host Thanksgiving in my new house?

[+ Reisr30]

Yeah, our family's not getting together for Thanksgiving for the 1st time, and it wouldn't surprise me if Christmas is out this year as well. Maybe I'll make some Turkey tacos for Thanksgiving. I'm leaving the next day to meet my Mexican medical student friend in Guanajuato. Pretty depressing not to see family. Maybe next year I can host Thanksgiving in my new house?

Safe travels @Unicorn

[Luv2play]

My birthday was back in late May and like everyone, I am not getting any younger. In my case, I’m in my 8th decade so the urgency of celebrating while I can is strong.

 

I took stock of my own circumstances then and decided to ge ahead with having an escort visit me for the weekend, two overnights in all. It was wonderful, we did so much and the weather was glorious to boot.

 

We took precautions about how we were dealing with the virus before we met and these things are continuing, as I have seen him three more times for weekends or single overnights.

 

I realize this is not for everyone as our respective circumstances vary widely. Still, for me life is to be lived, not deferred. That vision on the horizon may just be that, a mirage.

[Islesguy]

This week I had a milestone birthday and have been feeling down about it. Not sure why but feel like things will be downhill moving forward and it re-enforced some feelings of loneliness that made me sad. Curious if others have felt the same way.

You think that's bad.l? I had a milestone birthday back in August and was supposed to have a multi day session with a hot escort in London that I planned and booked a year ago this month. Plane tickets, Airbnb, theatre tickets and all.

 

Instead, I decided I wasn't officially changing my age (doctor's appointments excepted) until I get to go. Thankfully, the guy was super understanding about postponing it and we had a short FaceTime chat on the big day.

[+ Charlie]

It depends on what certain milestones mean to individuals. To me, 30 was an anxiety-inducing milestone birthday, because I thought of it as the end of my youth and the beginning of middle age, the last chance to have some adventurous life. My 40th birthday was also a problem, because my friends and acquaintances were starting to die of an apparently sexually transmitted mysterious disease, so that part of my life seemed to be over. The 60th, on the other hand, was a wonderful release: I felt I no longer had anything to prove, and could relax and enjoy doing whatever I wanted. At 75, I finally felt justified to stop doing any kind of work that I didn't want to do. Other people, in different circumstances and with different expectations, experience milestones differently.

[+ Autumnal]

It was my 70th a few weeks ago. It was depressing partly because of Covid-19 - no party or visitors - but mostly because a number of friends in their early 70's have recently died (not covid). I came out of the worst of it in a couple of days, and the current events have pulled me back to the top. Hang in there!

[Guest]

This thread is pretty relevant, today is my birthday. I've reached that point in my life where I feel like giving up, that the best days are behind me. I don't ever plan on having another relationship and feel like my hook up days are over and that it's time to move on and enjoy other things in life. Sorry to be all gloom and doom.

 

I should feel lucky to be here and that every year is a blessing having lost several friends and acquaintances the past couple of years.

[RuffLeatherPig]

Always happy to offer a birthday cam show to the Birthday boys:) just hit me up

[+ Charlie]

This thread is pretty relevant, today is my birthday. I've reached that point in my life where I feel like giving up, that the best days are behind me. I don't ever plan on having another relationship and feel like my hook up days are over and that it's time to move on and enjoy other things in life. Sorry to be all gloom and doom.

 

I should feel lucky to be here and that every year is a blessing having lost several friends and acquaintances the past couple of years.

Happy Birthday!?

[PetetKsfo]

First, Happy Birthday to everyone about who mentioned he is having a bithday.

I know it is a pretty unusual period of time right now.

Doing someting nice for yourself though is always important, especially for a birthday, and especially now.

I would of course say to treat yourself to a massage/escort appointment if you're comfortable doing that now.

But even something like a walk to a beautiful place, treating yourself to a nice dinner (even if it is takeout) or buying yourself someting special. You always deserve a moment to celebrate yourself.

Please feel free to message me as well to chat

Peter

[MikeBiDude]

I applied for Medicare online yesterday....so yeah THAT birthday coming up early 2021! Age doesn’t slow me down a bit, only a number!

[+ Pensant]

This thread is pretty relevant, today is my birthday. I've reached that point in my life where I feel like giving up, that the best days are behind me. I don't ever plan on having another relationship and feel like my hook up days are over and that it's time to move on and enjoy other things in life. Sorry to be all gloom and doom.

 

I should feel lucky to be here and that every year is a blessing having lost several friends and acquaintances the past couple of years.

Happy Birthday! Just think, posters from all over the world now know it’s your birthday and are thinking about you!

[+ WilliamM]

I applied for Medicare online yesterday....so yeah THAT birthday coming up early 2021! Age doesn’t slow me down a bit, only a number!

I know you take long walks, but can't always hit the gym because of your very important jobs

[+ Reisr30]

Happy Birthday!?

Yes Happy Birthday @Woofiecmh ?

[nomad]

Totally understandable and natural. Covid has made us all a bit more isolated than usual. Find a way to do something for yourself to make yourself happy. Doesn't have to be grand. I remember calling my best friend in high school who I was one of my great true loves. Straight who loved me enough to help me lose my gay virginity with. It was the height of AIDs and having random sex freaked me out. Lived out the dream of most gay guys to have sex with their high school crush. Just wanted to hear his voice. His wife hated my guts and thought I was the devil incarnate and asked him to cut off communications with him for the sake of their kids.

 

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[Sixty]

Turning 75 in DEC and hope to meet up with my favorite, at my place, for a weekend if all is better.

[+ purplekow]

When I turned 25, my medical school roommate told me it was all downhill from there. He was 28 at the time. He was right, It has all been downhill since 25 but it is downhill like skiing a double black diamond,...fast, heart stopping, a bit dangerous, taking a lot of skill to maneuver and ultimately thrilling when you do not know what is around the next turn, This grand run of a life is the only one we take, no time to think about what was since that is all behind, only time to think about what is ahead, plan your attack and ski on the edges.

[marylander1940]

I love celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

 

As long as I'm able to have sex, exercise, take long walks, etc. life is worth living!

[+ sync]

I've never regretted growing older, considering there is only one other alternative.

[+ Charlie]

When I turned 25, my medical school roommate told me it was all downhill from there. He was 28 at the time. He was right, It has all been downhill since 25 but it is downhill like skiing a double black diamond,...fast, heart stopping, a bit dangerous, taking a lot of skill to maneuver and ultimately thrilling when you do not know what is around the next turn, This grand run of a life is the only one we take, no time to think about what was since that is all behind, only time to think about what is ahead, plan your attack and ski on the edges.

I thought I hit the bottom of the slope at about 50, and since then it's been mostly cross-country skiing.

[+ azdr0710]

Didn't realize it was my birthday on the special day last month until about 1pm. Went and celebrated at a fantastic Italian deli while visiting a friend in New Jersey. Nothing like it out here in the desert!

[Mo Mason]

I was actually very close to composing a post just like this three weeks ago when I turned 40. It hasn't been an easy milestone for me... I'm having a difficult time shaking these feelings of sadness and regret. I almost feel like they're going to be with me now, permanently. I hate it so much.

[Luv2play]

I was actually very close to composing a post just like this three weeks ago when I turned 40. It hasn't been an easy milestone for me... I'm having a difficult time shaking these feelings of sadness and regret. I almost feel like they're going to be with me now, permanently. I hate it so much.

Buck up. The best is yet to come if you approach it with a positive attitude. Experience counts for a lot and will help you navigate the 40s, 50s and beyond. You can have a blast if you want to and will it for yourself.