Real identies....

[GymGuy]

At what point after several successful and mutually enjoyable sessions is it considered appropriate for escorts and repeat clients to exchange real names? Curious as to what various people (both escorts and clients) think.

[hypothetically]

At what point after several successful and mutually enjoyable sessions is it considered appropriate for escorts and repeat clients to exchange real names? Curious as to what various people (both escorts and clients) think.

 

Depends on comfort/trust level between the escort and client, and if it’s mutual.

[big-n-tall]

It depends on the escort and how comfortable they are with the client. If you are comfortable with the escort just ask.

 

A few of the escorts I've hired, some of which are members of this forum, told me their real names immediately the moment we meet in person.

 

Some guys I have flown in I gave them the option of me reimbursing them if they bought their ticket or I'd buy the ticket for them. When buying a plane ticket for someone else you have to know their name. Most of them, without hesitation, game me their names. Once we met in person, they usually told me they didn't mind if I called them by their real names or stage names. I usually call them by their real names.

 

All the rest over time, they just told me on their own or I just asked. Of all the regulars only two I don't/didn't know their real names. One of which retired but he did tell me his stage name first name was his actual real name. I later found out his full real name when he sent me a gift in the mail just before he retired. The other I still see, but I call him Coach, not even by his stage name.

[+ DrownedBoy]

It's hard to keep your name private if you do in-calls (easy address lookup, name around the house, etc.). And thanks to intrusive apps like FaceBook, I've inadvertently gotten the names of some providers (they try to get you to friend anyone who you call). I prefer to pretend I don't know anything, and keep using preferred names, and ask the same.

[+ oldNbusted]

The way the question is framed makes it seem like this is a dating relationship, as in how many dates before you start being your true self, or something.

 

In my mind, there is no connection between having multiple successful sessions and divulging personal info. I think in this situation, each person is free to offer or withhold their personal info at their discretion, it's totally up to them and no one should have an expectation.

 

A client is not doing an escort some kind of favor by disclosing their real identity and an escort is not shady if they never do. I would never never never ask someone this. I can only imagine the firestorm if a thread were started about an escort who asked his repeat clients for personal info.

 

On the other hand, there are people here who don't have a nom de guerre, so they never have to decide when to out themselves. My point is that it's their prerogative and their prerogative alone. And it shouldn't have any bearing on the sessions.

[+ tassojunior]

Tell that to Mark Zuckerburg. He's sent me a half dozen "recommended friends" who are guys I've hired. And friends of theirs !! lol

 

I think Mark Z has a pimp fantasy.

Edited January 1, 2020 by tassojunior

[MrMattBig]

There should never be an exchange.

Each party is free to share personal information as they see fit.

With that being said, please remember that if someone asks your name, it's just to be polite and have something to call you by. It does mean your legal name and social is required lol. Same with asking about work. It's just polite small talk. Doesn't mean your work location s and hours are wanted lol.

Just feel I have to put that out there for those that I had to change a fill field on my website that used to say "name" to "name, nickname, or alias"??‍♂️?‍♂️

[+ bashful]

With the few guys I've met, I learned what I assume are their real names very early, before I even I wanted to.

 

One told me his real first name within 5 minutes of our first meeting. Two guys I contacted via email addresses in their Daddy's reviews sent me a response with completely different names. One told me it was his real name, the other, I never asked so just presume it was his real name. Another, during conversation at our 2nd meeting, and another, i found when I only googled his escort name.

 

I have always used my real first name.

[+ Charlie]

There should never be an exchange.

Each party is free to share personal information as they see fit.

With that being said, please remember that if someone asks your name, it's just to be polite and have something to call you by. It does mean your legal name and social is required lol. Same with asking about work. It's just polite small talk. Doesn't mean your work location s and hours are wanted lol.

Just feel I have to put that out there for those that I had to change a fill field on my website that used to say "name" to "name, nickname, or alias"??‍♂️?‍♂️

"Call me Ishmael."

[Westsideguy]

I thought this was strange. Bought a ticket for someone, so knew his real name. When we met I called him by his real name. He stopped me and said to call him by his stage name.

 

One guy I’ve seen many times accidentally told me his real name after several visits, while telling a story about his family. He then told me to please call him by his real name.

 

I always use my real first name.

[Guest]

And thanks to intrusive apps like FaceBook, I've inadvertently gotten the names of some providers (they try to get you to friend anyone who you call).

Tell that to Mark Zuckerburg. He's sent me a half dozen "recommended friends" who are guys I've hired. And friends of theirs !! lol

 

Jesus, has nobody heard of burner phones??

[FTM Zachary Prince]

I find it creepy when clients wanna know my “real name”. I use a chosen name for a reason. You’re hiring Zachary. Not the real me. The real me isn’t anywhere near as professional and selfless when it comes to sex. Zachary is a real fireball of a character. Calling me by any other name or expressing a desire to would take me out of the headspace that I’m always in when I’m “on the clock”. Not to mention trigger privacy concerns. And make me feel like the client is being invasive unnecessarily. I know a lot of you think you want the “real person” behind the escort, but you don’t. If that’s what you really wanted then you’d be on grindr or cruising in bars instead of hiring. If you want a professional experience then call Zachary for a good time. If you want my “real name” then go find me in a bar or at the gym and ask me for my name. You’ll get my name but you won’t get the experience that Zachary can give you, that’s for sure...

[Guest]

I always give my real name upon meeting. If the escort doesn't want to give me his, that's his prerogative, but it seems rather silly to me to be using fake names. I suppose if I were married or in a monogamous relationship, there'd be the danger of blackmail, but I've never even heard of escorts using blackmail to earn their living. If that was something that happened with any frequency, I'd think I'd have heard about this happening--here, for instance. Can anyone reading this string give one example of how they've gotten into trouble due to revealing his real name (especially his first name only)? I personally sometimes compliment or refer to my partner while being intimate "Oh, yeah, Kevin, that feels really good!". It seems silly to say "Kevin" if the guy's name is Eric. I personally prefer using real names, especially first names. The last name is only necessary if I'll be buying air tickets, etc.

[Rudynate]

I assume it's one of the rules the escort game, and that's that. Several escorts have volunteered their names, but I don't ask.

[hypothetically]

I always give my real name upon meeting. If the escort doesn't want to give me his, that's his prerogative, but it seems rather silly to me to be using fake names. I suppose if I were married or in a monogamous relationship, there'd be the danger of blackmail, but I've never even heard of escorts using blackmail to earn their living. If that was something that happened with any frequency, I'd think I'd have heard about this happening--here, for instance. Can anyone reading this string give one example of how they've gotten into trouble due to revealing his real name (especially his first name only)? I personally sometimes compliment or refer to my partner while being intimate "Oh, yeah, Kevin, that feels really good!". It seems silly to say "Kevin" if the guy's name is Eric. I personally prefer using real names, especially first names. The last name is only necessary if I'll be buying air tickets, etc.

 

However you want to spin it, the person you hire someone to be and the person they are outside the confines of your arrangement do not correlate. It may seem "silly," but it really is necessary for some escorts to mentally check in and out by using something as simple as a fake name. Blurring the lines of professional and personal in this industry isn't healthy for everyone.

[+ peterhung85]

Everybody has his own level of comfort when it comes to privacy. Both parties should be respectful to that, so the answer highly depends on what you & your choice of companion decide to share.

[Guest]

... It may seem "silly," but it really is necessary for some escorts to mentally check in and out by using something as simple as a fake name....

OK. So if you use your real name, you'll just go nuts! That makes sense...

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[+ Pensant]

Generally, I and the provider share names fairly early on. Never had an issue in years. I do know that some have gone on Zillow to check out the value of my houses!

[hypothetically]

OK. So if you use your real name, you'll just go nuts! That makes sense...

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Thats not what I said but if that was your takeaway....you’re simple minded. Congratulations.

[MscleLovr]

IME escorts generally use a “working name” to avoid the attention of the tax authorities as well as avoid complications with clients. As well, of course, for the reasons spelt out by @FTM Zachary Prince and @hypothetically.

 

When I hired, I always used my real name but I left it to the escort to decide whether or when to tell me his. Once trust was established, they usually did.

 

Can anyone reading this string give one example of how they've gotten into trouble due to revealing his real name

And to answer the rather dismissive post by @Unicorn, Yes. I know of 1 escort who was stalked by an obsessed client and of another escort who had his daytime job threatened by a bitter ex-client. And I know of at least 2 clients who were threatened by a bitter, now retired, escort.

[hypothetically]

And to answer the rather dismissive post by @Unicorn, Yes. I know of 1 escort who was stalked by an obsessed client and of another escort who had his daytime job threatened by a bitter ex-client. And I know of at least 2 clients who were threatened by a bitter, now retired, escort.

 

And things like that happen more often than people think. There is zero benefit to giving a client your name, there are, however, disadvantages to doing so. Even if only a first name, it's a small world. A name and a verbal description go a long way for someone trying to put two and two together.

[rvwnsd]

At what point after several successful and mutually enjoyable sessions is it considered appropriate for escorts and repeat clients to exchange real names? Curious as to what various people (both escorts and clients) think.

It depends on the individual. Some escorts have told me their real names when we met and others never did. I don't take personally an escort's choice to/not to share their real name.

[sexymonk]

Everybody has his own level of comfort when it comes to privacy. Both parties should be respectful to that, so the answer highly depends on what you & your choice of companion decide to share.

I agree to peter. I met this gem but never crossed my boundary unless he wanted me too! Lol. Up till now that never happened. To be honest I only want to know about a person a bit if I genuinely care for that person. Otherwise in this big world we see daily hundreds of people and don’t care to know each or of them. Anyways, I like to know a bit about a person if I feel connection and feel closeness. Also, I feel knowing a bit is getting to next level of connection of friendship! Also people will tell their name here if they have trust! So earning trust is big thing in any connection!

Edited November 28, 2019 by sexymonk

[Cannon]

I never give my real name unless they need it to purchase a plane ticket to travel to them....In which case i’ll acquiesce and share my real name .....otherwise, its not necessary for them to know my real name, or for me to know theirs.

 

At what point after several successful and mutually enjoyable sessions is it considered appropriate for escorts and repeat clients to exchange real names? Curious as to what various people (both escorts and clients) think.

[FrancisCA]

Same response at Cannon but now thinking about it...I kinda wished I used my real name. I created a fake name cause I was in college and was paranoid about people finding out! Now I really dont mind but im too far into my Escort name to change it now