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Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! 
A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client. 
 

I am honestly lost.......what am I reading 😅

Flattery will get you everywhere…

I find these tend to get arranged on Sniffies app. Guys book a hotel room, advertise their presence and that they’ll be taking loads, and then of course they wait in the room, ass available and receive the loads. Usually they have a buddy available to make sure the tops are organised. You don’t want them to hang around after shooting, or to take too long, or to cause a commotion in the hotel. The rule is, turn up, wait in line if necessary, get yourself close, and then ensure you dump it in him and then leave. I’ve done a couple of these (hired as the buddy to a bottom and to leave the first load to get him started). It’s important to find a good location, advertise it, and of course be patient. 
Alternatively you can sign up to be a mare at a horse fair event. 

I find these tend to get arranged on Sniffies app. Guys book a hotel room, advertise their presence and that they’ll be taking loads, and then of course they wait in the room, ass available and receive the loads. Usually they have a buddy available to make sure the tops are organised. You don’t want them to hang around after shooting, or to take too long, or to cause a commotion in the hotel. The rule is, turn up, wait in line if necessary, get yourself close, and then ensure you dump it in him and then leave. I’ve done a couple of these (hired as the buddy to a bottom and to leave the first load to get him started). It’s important to find a good location, advertise it, and of course be patient. 
Alternatively you can sign up to be a mare at a horse fair event. 

But I neglected to mention that I always bring 2 paper bags on the date. One for his head, if I’m unpleasantly surprised and one for both of us if he’s REALLY ugly. 

I find these tend to get arranged on Sniffies app. Guys book a hotel room, advertise their presence and that they’ll be taking loads, and then of course they wait in the room, ass available and receive the loads. Usually they have a buddy available to make sure the tops are organised. You don’t want them to hang around after shooting, or to take too long, or to cause a commotion in the hotel. The rule is, turn up, wait in line if necessary, get yourself close, and then ensure you dump it in him and then leave. I’ve done a couple of these (hired as the buddy to a bottom and to leave the first load to get him started). It’s important to find a good location, advertise it, and of course be patient. 
Alternatively you can sign up to be a mare at a horse fair event. 

I find these tend to get arranged on Sniffies app. Guys book a hotel room, advertise their presence and that they’ll be taking loads, and then of course they wait in the room, ass available and receive the loads. Usually they have a buddy available to make sure the tops are organised. You don’t want them to hang around after shooting, or to take too long, or to cause a commotion in the hotel. The rule is, turn up, wait in line if necessary, get yourself close, and then ensure you dump it in him and then leave. I’ve done a couple of these (hired as the buddy to a bottom and to leave the first load to get him started). It’s important to find a good location, advertise it, and of course be patient. 
Alternatively you can sign up to be a mare at a horse fair event. 

Yes, I have a standard reply and adapt it to fit their questions. It definitely matters how I reply because I want to give them a good impression that I’m reliable and professional. Some clients just ask ‘hey I saw your ad’ or even worse ‘hey’… I don’t bother to send much of a reply. Those guys are usually not serious. I’m amazed at the number of guys who just go quiet after I’ve replied: them: ‘Hey’, me ‘Hello’, them……nothing. What are these guys doing? Checking my number is real? Does a reply freak them out? Or those who ask about a date & time, I reply with a ‘yes I can do that’…and then I hear nothing back. What’s that about? 

I find these tend to get arranged on Sniffies app. Guys book a hotel room, advertise their presence and that they’ll be taking loads, and then of course they wait in the room, ass available and receive the loads. Usually they have a buddy available to make sure the tops are organised. You don’t want them to hang around after shooting, or to take too long, or to cause a commotion in the hotel. The rule is, turn up, wait in line if necessary, get yourself close, and then ensure you dump it in him and then leave. I’ve done a couple of these (hired as the buddy to a bottom and to leave the first load to get him started). It’s important to find a good location, advertise it, and of course be patient. 
Alternatively you can sign up to be a mare at a horse fair event. 

Yes, I have a standard reply and adapt it to fit their questions. It definitely matters how I reply because I want to give them a good impression that I’m reliable and professional. Some clients just ask ‘hey I saw your ad’ or even worse ‘hey’… I don’t bother to send much of a reply. Those guys are usually not serious. I’m amazed at the number of guys who just go quiet after I’ve replied: them: ‘Hey’, me ‘Hello’, them……nothing. What are these guys doing? Checking my number is real? Does a reply freak them out? Or those who ask about a date & time, I reply with a ‘yes I can do that’…and then I hear nothing back. What’s that about? 

Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! 
A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client. 
 

Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! 
A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client. 
 

Don't be embarrassed... lots of guys like spanking.

I need oral sex!!  For me, a fuck is not finished until somebody swallows, (preferably me) so all things "cum"  are really critical to my full enjoyment of sex. (I really love CUM) I was too shy to ask a provider or lover to cum in my mouth for many years fearing he would judge me. When I did ask a few times, I did not get much encouragement so i just did without the taste, consistency  and  satisfaction that is basic to me getting off. (I really  love CUM). Now I specify that I expect his cum in my mouth at first contact, and if he says  no, which still happens, i try some where else.

I don't know why it embarrasses me, but I like a lil' spanking before receiving. Somehow it loosens me up, both physically and mentally. 
Shhhh! Don't tell anyone. 

There are endless opportunities for conversation in my experience.  It is funny though.  Yesterday, my guest and I went snorkeling between the tectonic plates in 35° temps.  He indulged me in that side trip with apprehension.  He LOVED it!  As an accommodation to him embracing the plan, I made sure we were covering every thermal lagoon we could fit in.  We also did a 6 mile hike to get inside a volcano.  My 60+ yr old a$$ was the oldest in the group and nothing slowed us down.  We talked the whole time and enjoyed interacting with the other hikers.
If you view this arrangement as travel companionship with side benefits, it usually makes the side benefits more gratifying for each of you. 

Ok as someone who is a provider and performer in porn let me give my perspective:  It can happen, and be quite unexpected. It’s certainly happened to me on occasions when I’ve been with clients and when making porn.
We’re all human and can have off days (or just be tired from a sequence of clients). It’s also happened with guys I was filming with when they couldn’t get hard. It’s actually more common than you might realise, especially with guys who have sex professionally. I know guys who inject their cock with trimix before a film shoot because they want to be sure of getting hard. 
The most important thing is to understand how best to react to it if the guy you hired isn’t hard. You shouldn’t make an issue of it. Try something different, do some massage or stretching together, focus on touch, intimacy and breathing. You’ll find as soon as you remove the expectation that he should get hard then more than likely he will get hard. But if you make a big issue about it then you can be 100% sure it isn’t going to happen. 

You learn fast. It’s 100% the route to sustainable success. Most months over 50% of my clients are returning clients. 
 
There’s also truth in this in my experience. I’ve collaborated with quite a few of these ‘A list’ guys and whilst I wouldn’t say they’re not nice, they were perfectly friendly towards me but it was definitely a ‘performance’. That’s fine, it’s filming porn, you’re creating a fantasy and it’s perfectly possible to perform for the camera but I’d say if you’re hiring them then they’re probably not going to be doing much work to make you feel great. To some of these guys it’s simply enough to look amazing: they don’t think they need to do much for you. 

No I don’t agree. Some guys are really anxious to go to a bath house (sauna) alone. They want someone to go with who will show them how to behave there and who they can walk around with to get comfortable.
If you’re exploring your sexuality or if you’re not conventionally good looking (or you think you aren’t attractive) then bath houses can be intimidating. It’s therefore helpful to have someone who will accompany you and spend time with you there to build your confidence. I’ve arranged quite a lot of sessions at bath houses with my clients. It’s sometimes to take someone who’s never been, sometimes it’s to help guys who want to have sex in public but who want to do it with someone they are attracted to, sometimes it’s to pretend I’m their boyfriend. 
I think in @ThrowawayAccount’s situation he didn’t get a very empathetic provider. He was clearly too anxious and it seems like there wasn’t much communication between the two of them about expectations. Someone with more patience and understanding would probably have behaved differently to him. It’s a lesson for guys hiring: choose carefully. I’ve had a few clients who seem to be far too anxious to relax despite me trying to help. I think some of these guys are still trying to work out things and they have misguided ideas about sex. They don’t need an encounter with a sex worker at that point, they need a counsellor or someone to help them get over the issues they have about their sexuality. 

Age and body type don’t matter (obviously they need to be over 21) to good escorts / masseurs. Those who decline clients who don’t fit their ideal are not proper sex workers. They’re just monetising their sex life. It’s a very different thing and as a client you’ll notice the difference. 

Wow does ‘proper’ mean something different where you are @Vegas_Millennial? I didn’t realise that. 
As a Brit I use ‘proper’ in the correct way because I speak ‘the King’s English’ …the standard, correct and educated form of the English language. 😉. But if the client wants it I can also do proper cor blimey London cockney…just like Dick Van Dyke 🤪. 

Mine are real!  (There’s free to view clips on the Pornhub link 😉)
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Probably relevant to note that viagra and cialis are enablers IF arousal occurs.  They aren’t an elixir for lack of arousal, but they certainly help.

I’ve had this happen with providers before as well which is why I now always have viagra and cialis on hand just in case they need it. I totally understand that it happens and isn’t a big deal as long as the provider doesn’t try to charge you full price and/or is able to make it happen eventually in one way or another that satisfies the client. Patience and a good attitude goes a long way towards helping resolve that problem