Jamie21

And how are you to know? Well you seem to have answered your question…you’d know by their actions. If it turns out they really did mean the relationship has turned from a business relationship to a friends relationship then the line “I hope you consider me one of your friends” is not manipulative. It’s unfortunate you’ve had bad experiences when that has happened and I can understand your wariness.

Unless it’s genuine….

Not for me. I don’t think it makes much difference. I found making friends difficult before doing this work and it’s the same now that I do sex work. I have a small group of close friends some of whom know what I do and a couple who don’t know the full details (although they know a little). It doesn’t impact the friendship. Making new friends is always difficult for me and I guess there’s a concern over them being critical of what I do for work. But generally I’ve not found people to be disapproving of it, actually they’re usually intrigued and interested. I guess it depends on the social circles that you move in and mine generally tends to be with more liberal minded people generally anyway.

That’s a difficult one. Clients make a few visits, the sessions go well, we chat and get to know each other. Some then consider themselves ‘friends’. But I don’t, it’s work, they’re a client. I’m glad we get on well (that’s kind of the idea anyway….it’s not just sexual) but they’re definitely not a friend. Only one client of mine has become a friend and once that happened I stopped charging him and he stopped booking. Now we are friends, we do different things together as well as sexual things but he’s not a client. No money changes hands. As soon as you start to give discounts to ‘friend’ clients things become difficult. Who is a ‘friend’? What’s the criteria? What if they talk and discover one has a preferential rate? When I started doing this I was given advice by a friend who was a successful sex worker: he said to never discount. Set your rate and stick to it. Once you start discounting, for anyone, it’s a slippery slope. It’s excellent advice.

Although if you have a board, there’s probably a Remco that decides your pay rather than it being exclusively your decision. You do make my point however…I’m the boss in my situation and I decide my pay (my rate), just like you do. Therefore I don’t discount because that’s then someone else deciding my rate. I could afford to do it for less, I’m in the fortunate financial position….but why should I reduce my rate just because some people can’t or won’t pay it?

Read my blog ‘The Z to A of sensual massage’ on my website for that! 🙂

Why hate you for that? It’s correct. I’m doing it for the money (presumably that’s why you do your job too, or do you voluntarily take a pay cut if your boss thinks you weren’t up to his expectations last week?). I set my rate and I’m not reducing it because someone can’t afford it. The market works very well (it’s almost perfect, there’s very little government regulation, no monopolies, no cartels, clear information) and providers can join it quite easily so I’d say the prices nicely reflect the supply and demand. Browse your providers and pay his rate if it’s what you want. If it’s out of your price range then you’re in the wrong shop. OK so I enjoy the work and so I hope that comes across as I do it, and I want repeat business so I make sure my clients have a great time (and that I’m easy to book and polite to deal with when doing so - that’s just plain courtesy and should work both ways), …..but ask yourself the question: would the meeting happen if you weren’t paying? Perhaps it might, perhaps it might not but we really don’t want to contemplate that too hard because it’s going to let daylight in upon magic.

True, but it’s my Ford Focus so I decide what value it has for me. If it has the same value for you, then we have a deal.

Let me add….before anyone points it out…I don’t consider myself a Ferrari!

I want a Ferrari but I want to pay Toyota price. It’s not fair that the Ferrari dealer expects these prices. No wonder they don’t sell many Ferraris. Their loss I guess. 😉

Honestly you never know these days…some of the requests I get!

Yes that’s the post penetration mouthwash 🙂

And just as invasive

I always confirm with the client the day before. Just in case…

No that’s not right, maybe I wasn’t clear. I’m very happy to discuss requirements. What I’m not happy to do (because it invariably goes nowhere) is to engage in sex chat. There’s a difference. One is establishing what the client wants and agreeing whether or not I’m ok to do it, and the other is just a fantasy that the client has no intention of seeing through, he’s just getting off on the chat. From experience I can quickly tell when a discussion about requirements etc becomes sex chat. I close down the discussion at that point.

100% correct. Ask directly for what you want. Don’t chat about it. If clients want to chat about the session they never book. Waste of time.

Blowing the masseur is all part of the experience in my massage. I don’t upsell it. Not all clients want it but if they do, then they’re most welcome to have a good suck and if it leads to a mouthful that’s fine too. I’ve one regular client who likes to start the massage that way. I think some masseurs will consider cuming in the clients mouth an extra and charge more for it. I don’t because I like to make the massage flow nicely, and many clients fantasise about a great massage that turns more sexual. So it’s a proper massage and with sexual acts included. That’s the difficulty of having a menu type price list with massage. The massage gets very erotic because the intention is to seduce the person on the table, slowly but inexorably building the sexual tension up to a climax. As the massage goes on the touch becomes increasingly intimate and to have to stop and discuss a rate change part way through kills the spell. So I discuss what they’re comfortable with beforehand and the only thing that would change the price during the massage is if my client asks for more time, or if they want to top me.

I’m more concerned about the poor people in Ukraine. There’s war again in Europe and people will be killed, made refugees and their country ruined and it’s all happening close to home. I hope the people of Russia rise up and rid themselves of Putin who has reduced the country to a pariah to feed his ego.

Seems fine to me. How would I know if the client has asked other providers unless he tells me, and why should he tell me? If he’s got a specific time he wants and I’m not available or I don’t respond in time that’s no problem to me. I get plenty of enquiries that I can’t do for one reason or another, usually because the client asks last minute. I don’t expect a client to come to me exclusively before checking other guys availability. This is a competitive business; here’s my rate, my availability, my service…if you like it great! If not good luck to you in finding someone else. Just be polite and respectful.

I’ve been hired to be watched with another guy. It’s great if my client likes to watch before becoming involved himself. It works best though if I’m performing with another sex worker that I know. We can put on a good show because we know what each other likes, it’s more realistic. But if the client engages us separately that’s fine too as long as I know what the arrangements are beforehand. I wouldn’t want such a thing to be a surprise. Other times I’m hired by a couple to massage and have sex with one of the couple while the other watches. The voyeur / exhibitionist (and indeed the cuckold) aspect for many couples is a big turn on. I enjoy those sessions because the group dynamic adds extra interest.

I get hired because of my size, some clients just like taking big cocks.

And don’t hire off Scruff. A proper provider wouldn’t advertise for business on there.

I advertised on masseurfinder…well I tried to advertise but they declined me because my advert was too explicit. I think they don’t want sensual/ erotic masseurs advertising on there. Rentmasseur is a better platform and I’m able to describe my service properly on there.

Agree it’s too risky / complicated to schedule when other escorts or masseurs are included. I only work with guys I’m familiar with. If a client asks me to join a session with an unknown escort or masseur then I say no.

I went to one of Brandon Anthony’s yoga sessions a few years ago when he visited London. A friend wanted to go so I agreed to go with him (against my better judgment). It wasn’t good. The location changed a day or so before the session. The new location wasn’t large enough for all the participants so we were squeezed in. There was a bit of yoga but then it was basically a toss off your neighbours session. It was funny watching the scrum to get close to the hot guys in the room…a strict ‘pecking order’ arose so that all the non hot guys were at the edges and the hot ones around the middle. It was curiously neither a proper yoga session nor a sex party, leaving you dissatisfied if you wanted to find an orgy and dissatisfied if you wanted to find a naked yoga workout. I like both but not something that is neither.