Jamie21

Definitely this. Don’t be judgmental. It’s actually a privilege to have people share their most intimate and private desires with you.

Thank you @RadioRob for the suggestions on signature. Mine is now updated 🙂

Just ask. They’ve heard it all before. Honestly they’ll prefer to know exactly what you’re into. It saves all the guess work during the session. And use your own words, describe it in the best way you can, especially the details. It’s the details that are important. I have a massage client who likes me sucking his toes, but it has to be done when he’s on his back so he can see, and I need to make eye contact. Toe sucking in any other way doesn’t do it for him. I only hit on this by chance because he was too embarrassed to ask me since he thought it was a silly thing to be turned on by. It’s definitely not silly, it’s just normal and everyone has these kind of things that get them going. So tell your guy and they’ll be delighted that you felt confident and comfortable enough to ask. If they aren’t comfortable doing it (unlikely) then you can find someone else.

I think people don’t notice the signature messages. Lost count of the number of times I get messages from guys asking for my website when it’s just there on the bottom of my posts 🙂

Yes! And add “student discount”, “definitely interested” and senders of dick pics.

Most have masseuses. They’re there to extract money from tourists. Beware.

Send me £200 and I’ll tell you 😂😂😂😂

If they’d previously agreed to meet at that time and then at the very last minute they announce they’re late, as if the lateness only just that second happened (like are they outside the client’s hotel room door and suddenly they’ve got to douche or do their hair or whatever?) then that’s just unprofessional.

It’s called GoodEscort. I’m on it. It uses same software as this site too!

I agree. I’m very careful about my sexual health. I test regularly and am aware of all risks and signs. It’s guys who don’t work as a sex worker who I find to be more ignorant about these things, and therefore more risky. Some of them play around but never get tested which is just being irresponsible.

Or come to me for sensual massage training. I’ve seen over more than 700 clients of all genders, sexual orientations, ages and body shapes. It does take time before you feel like you really know what you’re doing and then a client comes along who challenges all your assumptions and you learn more! If never ends.

It’s like going for a walk without a map. You might end up somewhere lovely, you might end up lost and waste a lot of time. Just be aware that when you embark on the journey that it could go anywhere so have low expectations, high curiosity and an open mind.

It’s a common mistake. Jamie He, Him, Masseur, Wielder of Cock.

I had a client book and then change his mind because of concerns over the pox. I’m vaccinated but he was still too anxious to go ahead, so he cancelled. If he was going to be too anxious that’s fair enough, he wouldn’t enjoy it fully, but it’s a shame he feels like that. My view is that there’s always a good reason not to do something. Sometimes though we put things off until a better time but the better time never comes. My instinct is to say yes first and then think rationally about why not. Be careful, but not to the extent that you don’t experience life because of the perceived risks. The right time is always now because tomorrow might never come…..Except of course if you’re booking a massage because I encourage people to book ahead to ensure availability!

If you like him just take him at his word and enjoy the time. He probably does expect you to pay for meals and other entertainment but if you’re ok with that then go ahead. Do what you’re comfortable with, it seems he enjoys your company so go with it.

Hi @jetlow I just checked your rating. You’re a 9. Well done.

If you’re in the dark, ask! No decent masseur would object to that question. Yep, pandemics suck… but on the other hand I suck too and that’s much more enjoyable.

When I retire from sex work there’s a book to be written. Names and locations will be changed to protect the innocent…sorry, the not so innocent 🙂

He’s messaged again…more pics. Is calling me ‘mate’. So it’s obviously not a gay sex situation he’s looking for 😂😂

Yay! Starts to book flights…. Although @Redwine56as I’m British it will be an orderly queue that forms outside the hotel 😉.

So do I!! I’m keeping with this one because it’s quite entertaining. My sideline to sex work is writing. I’m gathering plenty of material from my exchanges with him. If the meet goes ahead I reckon it will be an interesting one.

I change the towels every time using fresh towels. Also put paper on the table. But latex gloves? No, I couldn’t massage wearing latex gloves. There’s no feel, no connection. I’m vaccinated now so feel more confident to give massage. Being a sensual masseur I do get tested every 3 months at least, and am on Prep so I’m used to managing risk. This pox is just another risk to manage.

You’ll be pleased (in an ironic way) to hear that I'm currently engaged in a conversation by text with a prospective client. The ‘conversation’ has extended over a few months (big gaps between his responses, sometimes they’re instant, sometimes a few weeks pass), and I think I’ve answered the same question at least 4 times. I’ve also given my website twice, declined to offer a discount twice and sent a pic. He’s still thinking about it. I guess it doesn’t take me long to tap out a quick reply but it is tiresome, and if he does eventually book (I give it 10% chance) I know exactly what the session will be like!

A forensic search would rather detract from the ambiance of what I’m trying to create! But I know what you mean. I do discreetly check for things already (having asked at the start if the client has any conditions or injuries) by visual checks when he or she is on the table- things like eczema or varicose veins (can be bad for massage) and of course I discreetly check my clients bum before rimming and his cock before I’m sucking him. Now I have to be on the lookout for pox too! Joking aside you can notice a lot of conditions on clients. Moles that need checking, spine curvature, misalignments, lumps etc. I have suggested to a couple of regular clients that they get moles checked out. It’s all part of the service!

That’s the problem when the line becomes blurred. If he’s a friend there should be no charge. If he’s charging you it’s not a friend situation is it? (even if he’s discounted his rate). It sounds like you need to regularise the situation with him: friend or client but not a ‘bit of both’ because that can’t work. I had a client become a friend. I stopped charging him. It was too awkward to charge. I told him, the situation is different now so I’m not charging you. It saved us both any difficulty. He remains a friend.