Jamie21

Most have masseuses. They’re there to extract money from tourists. Beware.

Send me £200 and I’ll tell you 😂😂😂😂

If they’d previously agreed to meet at that time and then at the very last minute they announce they’re late, as if the lateness only just that second happened (like are they outside the client’s hotel room door and suddenly they’ve got to douche or do their hair or whatever?) then that’s just unprofessional.

It’s called GoodEscort. I’m on it. It uses same software as this site too!

I agree. I’m very careful about my sexual health. I test regularly and am aware of all risks and signs. It’s guys who don’t work as a sex worker who I find to be more ignorant about these things, and therefore more risky. Some of them play around but never get tested which is just being irresponsible.

Or come to me for sensual massage training. I’ve seen over more than 700 clients of all genders, sexual orientations, ages and body shapes. It does take time before you feel like you really know what you’re doing and then a client comes along who challenges all your assumptions and you learn more! If never ends.

It’s like going for a walk without a map. You might end up somewhere lovely, you might end up lost and waste a lot of time. Just be aware that when you embark on the journey that it could go anywhere so have low expectations, high curiosity and an open mind.

It’s a common mistake. Jamie He, Him, Masseur, Wielder of Cock.

I had a client book and then change his mind because of concerns over the pox. I’m vaccinated but he was still too anxious to go ahead, so he cancelled. If he was going to be too anxious that’s fair enough, he wouldn’t enjoy it fully, but it’s a shame he feels like that. My view is that there’s always a good reason not to do something. Sometimes though we put things off until a better time but the better time never comes. My instinct is to say yes first and then think rationally about why not. Be careful, but not to the extent that you don’t experience life because of the perceived risks. The right time is always now because tomorrow might never come…..Except of course if you’re booking a massage because I encourage people to book ahead to ensure availability!

If you like him just take him at his word and enjoy the time. He probably does expect you to pay for meals and other entertainment but if you’re ok with that then go ahead. Do what you’re comfortable with, it seems he enjoys your company so go with it.

Hi @jetlow I just checked your rating. You’re a 9. Well done.

If you’re in the dark, ask! No decent masseur would object to that question. Yep, pandemics suck… but on the other hand I suck too and that’s much more enjoyable.

When I retire from sex work there’s a book to be written. Names and locations will be changed to protect the innocent…sorry, the not so innocent 🙂

He’s messaged again…more pics. Is calling me ‘mate’. So it’s obviously not a gay sex situation he’s looking for 😂😂

Yay! Starts to book flights…. Although @Redwine56as I’m British it will be an orderly queue that forms outside the hotel 😉.

So do I!! I’m keeping with this one because it’s quite entertaining. My sideline to sex work is writing. I’m gathering plenty of material from my exchanges with him. If the meet goes ahead I reckon it will be an interesting one.

I change the towels every time using fresh towels. Also put paper on the table. But latex gloves? No, I couldn’t massage wearing latex gloves. There’s no feel, no connection. I’m vaccinated now so feel more confident to give massage. Being a sensual masseur I do get tested every 3 months at least, and am on Prep so I’m used to managing risk. This pox is just another risk to manage.

You’ll be pleased (in an ironic way) to hear that I'm currently engaged in a conversation by text with a prospective client. The ‘conversation’ has extended over a few months (big gaps between his responses, sometimes they’re instant, sometimes a few weeks pass), and I think I’ve answered the same question at least 4 times. I’ve also given my website twice, declined to offer a discount twice and sent a pic. He’s still thinking about it. I guess it doesn’t take me long to tap out a quick reply but it is tiresome, and if he does eventually book (I give it 10% chance) I know exactly what the session will be like!

A forensic search would rather detract from the ambiance of what I’m trying to create! But I know what you mean. I do discreetly check for things already (having asked at the start if the client has any conditions or injuries) by visual checks when he or she is on the table- things like eczema or varicose veins (can be bad for massage) and of course I discreetly check my clients bum before rimming and his cock before I’m sucking him. Now I have to be on the lookout for pox too! Joking aside you can notice a lot of conditions on clients. Moles that need checking, spine curvature, misalignments, lumps etc. I have suggested to a couple of regular clients that they get moles checked out. It’s all part of the service!

That’s the problem when the line becomes blurred. If he’s a friend there should be no charge. If he’s charging you it’s not a friend situation is it? (even if he’s discounted his rate). It sounds like you need to regularise the situation with him: friend or client but not a ‘bit of both’ because that can’t work. I had a client become a friend. I stopped charging him. It was too awkward to charge. I told him, the situation is different now so I’m not charging you. It saved us both any difficulty. He remains a friend.

Yes I guess that’s true. London market is different. But I do get a lot of enquiries that don’t follow through. People saying “I’ll book next month” and “I’m thinking about it”. I’m not charging deposits to enter into a discussion with me. I’m fine to talk about the session with potential clients as long as it doesn’t become protracted or turn into a sex chat line service. Often they just want reassurance about coming because they’re nervous and inexperienced so it’s not a problem to me to help those guys.

I’m vaccinated now, they said wait a couple of weeks for full effect. I was told the risk is greatest by going to sex clubs or parties where you’ll be touching or having sex with lots of people. The risk from having a massage with a vaccinated masseur is much much less. So I’ll be avoiding sex parties for a while but I’m still seeing massage clients and am being even more careful about keeping things clean. People can make their own evaluations of risk but I want to do as much as I can to reassure clients.

In the past few years I’ve seen over 600 clients, I can recall about 4 that no showed. It’s very rare, and in my view not worth the disincentive that a deposit will provide to potential clients to apply a deposit policy. If my experience of no shows was worse then I’d consider it. I have occasionally (around 3 times) asked for a deposit if the booking is involving a lot of travel for me or if I have experience that the client is flaky. As for providers not showing up, you’ll get that if you engage amateur providers.

A lifetime. Start now. Keep going.

I learned at intimacymatters.co.uk and from other masseurs and courses. Then by trial and error. Still learning, always will be. Learning the massage techniques is relatively easy. Learning the business is more difficult. Learning how to really understand your client’s needs is the most difficult part of all. It’s also the part that makes all the difference and is absolutely the most interesting and rewarding part of the job. Focus on that.