Jamie21

That’s extremely unprofessional. If they are that late without a reasonable excuse and an apology then don’t hire them again. Unfortunately this industry does have a lot of amateur providers who seem to treat it as a hobby and mess their clients around.

Think I hit a nerve 😂

There have been intelligent replies but you haven’t understood them. When my interlocutor proves either unable or unwilling to engage in a reasoned discussion then I cease to engage with them at an intellectual level. The comment I made about wanker wasn’t for your reply either…it was to demonstrate to others who may be unfamiliar with British pejorative terms to demonstrate what a ‘wanker’ is. You could describe it as ‘someone who is frustrated by his inability to hire a provider to satisfy his sexual desires and who therefore has to resort to wanking to get release’.

And this is what we Brits call a wanker.

When people say “can somebody tell me etc”…..when someone does tell the person it usually results in the person rejecting the response because they don’t really want an answer, they just want their views confirmed. So, you’re right @Gadfly22 it’s reasonable to expect an almost instant response to any message. I suspect you will continue to send messages on the morning of the day you’re looking to hire, you’ll continue to get some late responses, and you’ll continue to be irritated by it. Happy hiring.

It certainly was interested in my leg. I wasn’t bothered by it sitting in its bed while I massaged the client but I wasn’t keen on the attention afterwards. Some people are very close to their pets and don’t like to lock them away while they have visitors. It’s fine as long as the pet is well behaved. I had another client who had a tortoise roam around the apartment while I was there. Very strange.

That’s familiar. Reminds me of the time a client told me his dog likes to be in the room during the session. It sat quietly in its basket as I did the session, watching me for what seemed like the whole time. At the end there was some cum on my shin and foot. As I got off the bed to go in the shower the dog quickly left it’s basket and licked at my leg. I suspect the client had trained him…

I agree with Karen … I take my phone everywhere with me so I can instantly reply to clients who might want me in the next 5 minutes. Oh…hold on someone is messaging……brb…. Ok that’s him serviced. Where was I? Oh yeah about clients needing 24/7 instant response. So I take my phone….oh another enquiry….brb Sorry about that, he wanted an outcall 20 miles away in half an hour. Just made it in time. Bit tired now as it was a long session. Sorry for delay in completing this post. Next client is in 5 minutes so I’ll be back later…. Ok that’s him done. Well actually we swapped places and he massaged me as I was too tired. I fell asleep on the table. I’m sure he had a good time as he’d left his load on my bum alongside payment. How thoughtful. Ok where was I? Oh yes I take my phone everywhere and as I write this I’m sitting on the toilet just responding to a client. I hope I don’t drop it dow *^%<#!’……. <error>

If you’re paying for my flight (first class) from London and my accommodation I’ll be there whenever you want 🙂

I insist they shower beforehand. And I check the area for suitability for rimming It’s incorporated into a massage move…I don’t say “ok spread your cheeks I just got to check you’re clean”…. It’s all done very discreetly. If there’s an issue I won’t go there. my Ad https://rentmasseur.com/JamieW although if he’s in Raleigh he might have a long journey….I’m in London 🙂

If you want a good massage then I’d suggest don’t hire an escort who massages. It’s likely the massage will be brief or not good. Not always of course, but massage isn’t the main purpose of the session. And don’t expect an escort service for a massage rate. It’s very difficult for me as a masseur who likes to include oral, rimming, prostate massage and kissing as part of the massage (these being a natural progression of sensual massage as a seduction towards release) to draw the line at where massage work ends and escort work begins. I’ve some regular clients where the session is now effectively both a proper massage and a sex session which is charged only at massage rates. My fault for letting that develop. I’m clear with clients about what’s not on offer as part of the massage but it doesn’t stop some trying unfortunately.

Don’t be embarrassed! Your reaction is really quite normal, some people would suppress it but it’s nice that you didn’t do that. It sounds like he doesn’t have a big ego, which probably even adds to his attractiveness. I have had a few clients who have behaved similarly. It’s extremely flattering and yet I do find it difficult when clients behave in this way. As long as they realise that ultimately what happens between me and them is a transaction it’s ok, but if they get the wrong impression then that’s a problem.

This. Ask for what you want, don’t expect it to happen by chance. Book the time with him.

The latest thing seems to be a subscription service. Pay $x per month to be a member or to receive discounts or faster service etc. Like Amazon Prime. Perhaps you could have clients subscribe to you for $50 a month? Call it JarrodDirect. If they’re a subscriber they get direct access to you via a special WhatsApp, regular emails from you including personalised action pics (am thinking suggestions for their next session), plus priority booking and discounts off products you endorse (dildo of your cock etc). If the subscriber messes around by cancelling sessions then they have to pay a higher subscription but regular clients who are reliable could pay the lowest rate and get a loyalty bonus. This subscription model builds loyalty in your client base and gives you a regular steady income. It also obviates the need to get deposits.

For me to lay on while he’s busy with his tongue 😉

I provide everything, whether hosting at my studio or an outcall. Sometimes on outcall I’ll ask the client to provide a towel.

I’m always surprised at the complaints over pricing. If you can’t afford it don’t buy it. No one is forcing you to buy the service.

I’d rather know the truth if it’s that they’re no longer horny or they have cold feet. It’s usually evident when they book the session that they’re booking when horny or are anxious / exploring so when the ‘inevitable’ “sorry I’m sick” message comes through I’m not surprised. Signs of booking when horny: - Lots of pictures sent (of cock or ass). - sex chat as part of the booking. - requests for all sorts of activities. - requests for pics / videos of me (beyond what’s on my website). - and the classic “it’s a surprise for my wife” scenario which I always decline anyway before anything gets booked 🙄 Signs of booking when anxious or exploring: - “I’ve never done this before”. - Questions about discretion and sexual health etc (more than what is on my website). - detailed explanation about why they’re booking (which is actually quite helpful to know if the session does actually happen). If any or all of these are present in the booking then I know with 90% accuracy that he will ‘call sick’ on the day (or the day before in response to my day before confirmation message). I’d rather know the real reason but it makes no difference to how I respond. The horny booker is given one more chance, the anxious booker is asked next time they make contact (if indeed they do try again) to be 100% sure they’re ready and I try to reassure them I’m not going to be horrible!! The anxious/ inexperienced clients are sometimes the most pleasurable to help so I try to be understanding. Everyone starts their journey at some point and I like to be the person they choose to do that with. So they get more latitude about booking.

Everyone does silly things when they think with their cock.

Sometimes yes. In the sense that I begin to think can I do this next year, in five years or beyond? How should I adapt? While I enjoy the work I’ll continue doing it (and as long as the phone keeps ringing). I like being non conventional. I like not having to answer to a boss. I like the people who work in the industry. So there’s lots of reasons to stay at it and few to leave. I agree with @Kevin Slater work life balance is important. I have that and it’s worth more than money. I can spend hours reading, go for a walk, sit and have a coffee in a cafe and watch people, write for fun and use the gym when it’s quiet (honestly that’s so nice not having to wait to use a piece of equipment while someone sits there on it looking at their phone!).

Well as you appear to have made your mind up you’ll never know what he thinks will you!

Not much…and this is possibly why: I’m very careful about initiating contact with clients after their session. I assume people want discretion and not to have their provider send an unsolicited message…even if it is to say “thanks for the tip”. Golden rule…never contact clients unless they have contacted you and expect a response. Your guy was probably being discreet for you.

I can only speak for myself and I’m not insulted by the absence of a tip. I’m delighted to receive one of course but it’s never expected. In fact what makes me more happy is a message afterwards from my client saying they enjoyed the session or a good review on Rentmasseur and best of all if they come back as repeat clients. Those are the biggest indications for me that I’m doing something right, not a tip (but they’re always welcome!).

Great advice 🙂. I like the direct question approach for work. If it’s a work situation directness (without being rude or coming across blunt) is much the best approach, both on the part of the hirer and the provider. I made the Grindr mistake when I was new to the work… I’ve wised up since! Clients who hire through apps are generally not the kind of client I’m after. Those won through recommendation or via my advertising or website are those who have generally made a more considered decision to hire.

Happened to me. I was on Grindr for non work purposes although I hardly ever used it unless I was travelling: It seemed to be useful for a hookup if I happened to be in a new place. I guess being ‘fresh meat’ in a new town makes you more interesting so I’d had a few nice encounters but I never found it worthwhile to use mainly because I try to keep my sexual energy for my work. Most of the interactions I’d had on Grindr were from time wasters or guys I wasn’t interested in or solicitation from professionals. There was a time on the app when these pro profiles had a kind of diamond symbol as code that they were pro’s without having to say so explicitly because that would have banned them. Of course it was clear from their opening conversation that they were looking for business. I think it’s ok to do that as long as you’re clear up front that it’s a paid service (Grindr could enable this and take paid adverts from pro’s but they won’t because I guess it wouldn’t be lawful across all jurisdictions). Anyway, I always ignored the professional approaches and I engaged with interesting approaches from other guys….interesting as in those that engaged in some conversation as opposed to just saying “accom?” or “fuck now”…that’s just boring. I need some chat foreplay! Anyway someone from one of these chats recognised my pics from my adverts and asked me about work. I answered him with details and linked him to my website. Unfortunately he got annoyed at having to pay my rate for a massage when I declined to discount it. He reckoned that if I included sex as part of the massage then I could do it free or cheaper because “if we hooked up I’d have fucked him anyway”!! I told him massage was my work and if he wanted to hire me professionally then he’d have to pay my rate. That pissed him off and he complained to Grindr so I got a ban. Annoying. So I now never use Grindr.