Jamie21

Yes exactly. There’s practical considerations. Occasionally I get a client who, during the session, indicates a desire to top me. It’s possibly something they hadn’t considered beforehand or they had considered it but were too embarrassed to ask in the ‘cold light of day’, but now here in the moment they desperately want to top me. I have to say ‘no sorry not possible this time because I’m not ready’, which takes a bit of heat out of the moment unfortunately. I don’t mention extra charge for it at that point although I recall one client who in the middle of the session, when I’d said he couldn’t top, say to me he’d pay whatever I asked. I said ‘no, it hasn’t been agreed beforehand’ but he kept asking and offering more money. I told him he’d need to book another session for that but he never did. I’m sure that it was more to do with the power dynamic in the moment of him buying something he couldn’t have than him really wanting to top me. I’m totally fine to bottom for clients but only if it has been discussed beforehand so that I can be prepared and so that I can charge the correct rate. If I’ve been bred by a client I sometimes douche afterwards to clean out. No risk of leakage then.

Or maybe he was desperate 😂

Best to cancel. If you don’t feel well you won’t enjoy the massage, especially if you have a temperature. I don’t mind clients cancelling if they’re unwell. may have mentioned this before but I had a client turn up one time with broken ribs. How he expected me to massage him I don’t know…(he did say “can you just do my bottom half…so actually perhaps I do know what he wanted 😂). I had to send him away to come back when he’s better. Apart from anything else I don’t want to injure him or make things worse.

I’m told to get lost sometimes but I think that’s different?

Yes you’d never find someone from Scotland or Wales speaking with an RP accent unless it was taught to them. RP is not something you hear much these days. When Her Majesty was alive you’d hear it in her Christmas speech but that’s about it. The BBC used to require presenters use it but that’s long gawn 😂. My accent is a London accent. There’s lots of different London accents. Indeed you can go a few miles down the road in some places in the UK and the accent will be different. British people can tell where you’re from quite accurately by the local accent ….but more importantly it’s also a sign of class: very important to know what class the person you’re speaking to is so you can offer tea in the correct way.

Most of the time I don’t bottom but if I am going to then I use a shower attachment if it’s a filming session or I if know the top is big or I’m at a party. I then use a bulb about half hour before just to be confident really. Otherwise if he’s smaller or it’s a quick one then I just use the bulb. I agree with @Funguy it’s a problem if water goes too deep when using the shower. I insert and count to 5 to avoid using too much water. That usually works ok. Diet also helps. But even with a tried and tested routine sometimes things still go wrong!

I hope I have the pleasure of meeting you @Vin_Marco… (spoken in a cut glass English accent 😉).

I have no jewellery whatsoever. No rings, no chains, no watches, no ear rings, nose studs or PA. Since I carried a phone I’ve never seen the point of having a watch, unless it’s some kind of health device to measure physical performance. I used to have a gold chain with a gold cross. I’m not religious so I don’t know why I had the cross but it looked nice so I wore it on the chain. Many years ago I was at a sauna (yes, that kind of sauna). At that time I was very inexperienced (honest!) but on this occasion I hooked up with a very attractive older guy who shall we say introduced me to bottoming. Up to then I was always 100% top. Anyhow, this session with the guy happened in a fairly dark cabin. Normally I prefer to see (and be seen ha ha) but he was insistent we shut the door. I won’t describe the sex because that’s not the point but suffice to say I got introduced to taking it. After he had left I spent some minutes alone in the cabin. At this point I realised I no longer had the chain with the cross on. I felt around in the gloom in case it had fallen off but I didn’t find it. So I opened the door to let more light in: still couldn’t see any chain or cross. Outside I couldn’t find my suitor either. I assume that either I’d lost the chain before going in the cabin with him or he took more from me in that session than I had bargained for.

It works better if you’re new in a small town. All the locals, bored of the same pictures coming up on their grid suddenly see ‘new meat’ 😂. When I used Grindr (before I was banned- thankfully) it was useful only when on holiday to somewhere new. Otherwise it’s definitely a time waster.

If on an outcall to a hotel, walk in as if you own the place. Look like you’re absolutely meant to be there. Understand where the lifts are (elevator to those who don’t speak the King’s English 😉) so that you’re not wandering around looking lost. Also know where the most discreet place to sit is if you’re requested to wait in the lobby, and know where the toilets are so that you can freshen up before meeting the client. If it’s a new hotel to you then it’s useful to scout the place out beforehand should the opportunity arise.

Thank you for educating me! I thought I was experienced in this industry but perhaps not… And I really appreciate the lack of a picture. The one in my mind is enough.

I may be naive here but what is a bumpkin? (Asking myself do I really want to know?)

Good question! I recall one time with a client who had just finished douching when I arrived. I half expected there to be a problem because of that…and indeed there was. So we just cleaned up and he said he’d do another douche. That didn’t help either! It has also happened to me when bottoming for a client so I’m totally understanding of the challenges. I think a good rule to have is to douche early enough because if you’re preparing just before the appointment it’s probably too late. There’s lots of advice on here about that kind of thing so I’m not going to repeat that here. What I will say is that ‘shit happens’ so no one should make a big deal about it. Usually if it’s just a little bit I clean off and carry on (but I’m not doing any rimming after that!).

Oh…I have leg month. Is that enough?

Keep records. Date, time, what the client liked (and didn’t like), what happened etc. Just brief notes, so that should the client book again, possibly years later, you know what gets them going. All GDPR compliant of course (for the non European’s that’s data protection rules 🙂). When you see lots of clients over time it’s easy to forget some or become muddled up with who is who, even to become a bit blasé about things. But to some clients, if they don’t hire very often or especially if it’s their first time, their experience with you is a milestone and they’ll remember it vividly. If they come back then you really want them to feel that you remember them. Usually the notes are enough to remind me….’ah yes, he really likes head massage and he was going to the theatre after our booking: I’ll include more head massage and ask him if he enjoyed the show’.

Never initiate contact with a client. The first contact is always down to the client and any messages sent are in response to client questions or requests. I always assume that the client wants 100% discretion from me. Similarly if you see a client in public do not initiate contact, nor show any signs that you know them. Let them initiate any contact.

Kenny Rogers! 👍….so while we’re on Kenny, you’ve also go to know when to walk away, and know when to run. That’s about knowing when to decline a potential client.

I’ll chip in with mine. Treat each client as an individual, make it an intensely personal experience.

No decent masseur should require a face pic. If he’s asking for one then it’s a sign he’s not going to be any good. Move on to a professional.

I guess the divorce is usually more expensive than the wedding.

Yes this happens to me too. Especially if I get really close, and then go all the way back to being semi, and start again. That kind of edging is a good thing to practice to be able to control when you cum. I make porn films so it helps me to cum at the right time in those. I agree. It seems to me to be a sine qua non of being a provider that one would provide oral. Obviously everyone is entitled to decide their limits but it’s like being a taxi driver and not turning left. I mean, why would you do sex work but rule out something like that? If you’re doing massage then it’s understandable to me to possibly draw the line there, but not if you’re doing escorting. Most of my work is massage and I find it hard to resist not to provide oral! I see it as an integral part of the massage, although I do have had clients who specifically request no oral (I think this because of concerns over catching something more than them not liking it). It’s always worth checking with him, either by explicitly asking or by positioning your lips on the head and seeing if he invites you to go further!.

I’ve no problem with it. It’s quite an attractive thing to see, especially if you have been sucking and when you stop and lift your head there’s a string of pre cum connecting you to the cock. I understand the anxiety about a client cumming in your mouth when you didn’t expect it but that’s something that one can usually anticipate!

I don’t show my face on the Onlyfans, which does impact on the number of subscribers but that’s ok, I get plenty of subscribers and the revenue is welcome. I’ve got a back catalogue of over 100 films on there so it’s kind of a passive income to supplement my other work. I’ve never done any drugs, and I don’t see clients who are wanting to use drugs (they can use poppers).

I don’t have much of a sex life outside of work! I agree with @Simon SuraciDoing sex work does indeed make your recreational sex life difficult. I recognise all those reasons he cites: The feeling of thinking “I could be being paid for this” is a strong one, as is trying to keep ‘fresh’ for client meetings. Sometimes I go to sex parties and that’s an opportunity for ‘off the clock’ sex which is nice but still there’s the feeling that it’s ‘work’. I almost said to one guy after a hookup at a party “how would you like to pay?” 😂. One of the motivations for going to sex parties is because of the opportunity to meet guys who are keen to be in porn films I make, so even that is motivated by work. Doing sex work definitely changes your sex life.

He did! In the end it worked out ok and he apologised. We had a good session and he left happy (minus two loads 😂). In his case it was genuinely because he got caught out by demonstrations in London. I’m glad I gave him a chance. I think it’s impossible to work in a customer facing industry and completely avoid either inconsiderate clients or scheduling foul ups. For the many good clients who are great to see you’ll get a few who are trouble, and a fair share of time waste enquiries. That’s the way of life and whilst you do all you can to minimise the incidence of bad ones they only serve to put in contrast the majority who are great.