Jamie21

When clients book with me, sometimes months in advance, then it’s booked: I’ll be available and expecting them. At the time of booking the client gets my address, directions (or if it’s an outcall I just ask for their location), and all the info they need, and I tell them I’ll confirm all still ok with them the day before. This ‘day before’ confirmation is important because it serves as a reminder and ensures that I screen out anyone flaky before the actual day. If they don’t respond to the day before confirmation then I cancel it. If you’re having booking confusion with your masseur or escort then that’s a sign that they’re just playing at the job, they’ll be indifferent to you and it will probably be a bad experience. Don’t hire guys who are messing you around.

That might offer reassurance (someone with recent test results would appear to take their sexual health seriously) but of course even if the results are a week old they’re not any guarantee he’s free from any sexually transmitted disease. I think the best thing to do is protect yourself and not worry about what anyone else is doing or says they’re doing. Stay safe and rest regularly!

Whether or not he’s on Prep shouldn’t affect your approach. Prep protects him, not you. Nor should you take as definitive anything he says because you can’t prove he’s on Prep, you’re just taking him at his word and that’s a lot of trust for something so critical to your health. Because of my work I take Prep daily and I really can’t imagine why anyone doing sex work wouldn’t be on Prep unless they’ve a health issue that prevents them taking it. All of the guys I know who do similar work are on it. They also include it in their advertising. It’s free here in UK and I get tested regularly (also free) to ensure it’s safe for me to use.

Most clients don’t provide any of that information and that’s fine by me because I don’t need it. All I need to know is when they want, how long, and what their name is. I definitely don’t want a picture.

If anyone wants me to read any more posts in this damn sequence of replies about deposits (they have their uses), the colour (correct spelling 😉) of cars and whether providers are competitive (we’re not) then I’m going to require a deposit. A large one.

Oh no! The deposit question 😱… Here’s the answer: the provider decides his business model and the hirer decides whether or not to play it. You do you. The end.

Very few. Because they’re made with intent. If you plan something that far in advance you really mean it. Often they’re clients who are visiting London, they plan their itinerary and they want to know I’ll be available, hence booking the session then. If they left it to short notice then I might be busy. Occasionally someone who booked months in advance might change the day or time but that will also be done with a lot of notice. I find the bookings that happen on the day (as in “hey are you available this afternoon around 3?”) are much more likely to flake or mess around on timing because they’ve booked on a whim.

I’ve currently got a client booked in for end of June…and it was booked a month ago. He plans ahead!

There it is exactly. If I’m asked the question “what one thing do your clients want?” I’d have to say it’s intimacy and feeling safe (I know that’s two!!!) but you really can’t have intimacy if you don’t feel safe. Everything else flows from this. It’s essential that the client feels comfortable with you, they trust you and they feel approved of by you. Create that environment and then you can deliver other things.

They say it because they hope the provider will give them a free session, in the naive expectation that the provider will be keen to see a virgin. When clients send me that kind of message the meeting never happens. The genuinely inexperienced guys book the session then they tell me they’re not so experienced rather than opening the conversation with it.

Edinburgh probably more cultured if you’re going to Scotland. I’d choose Madrid, sexy, lots to see, culture, great cuisine.

I don’t think they’re all that bothered about fake pics, unless the pic owner complains. It’s quite difficult to police if someone is using pics that aren’t theirs. But I think having professionals using the app to sell services goes against their business model, and is unlawful in some countries so I guess there’s a legal aspect to it too.

The clients offering advice are often doing so from a position of ignorance about the business. Yes they might have hired, but that’s not a qualification to understand what it’s like to be hired. I’ve eaten fabulous meals in restaurants but I wouldn’t profess that that qualifies me to tell the chef how to run their kitchen. If offered the advice I receive it with grace, and ignore it. I’ll take advice from those who have walked in my shoes.

You’ll get banned, that’s inevitable! I wasn’t even advertising but my pictures probably implied that I was for hire (if I was posting the correct pictures of course 😏) and I’d get enquiries, and a few clients but someone must have complained because I got warned (which was simply an indication to me to be more careful / subtle) and then banned. If you solicit or buy on there you’ll end up banned. Actually think that’s fair enough, it’s not meant for paid gigs or hiring and there’s plenty of better places to advertise for that. The quality of clients I had from Grindr was low (unreliable/flaky). You’ll probably find the quality of guys you hire is similarly low.

There’s an oxymoron! I’m very exhibitionist. Having an audience is great fun. I’ve a client who is similarly into public displays who hires me to accompany him to a sauna or sex club and play with him exclusively in open areas. He loves it. I’ve also worked at parties to get things going and encourage interaction. I think there’s something quite liberating about having sex in a room full of still clothed people who are engaging in polite small talk over white wine and canapés! It encourages the more adventurous couples and singles to strip off and join in.

Not from me. Rate is same regardless of the client.

Ask the guy you hire for suggestions. Tell him what you like and use his expertise to structure it. For longer sessions I’ve included things like an undressing, shower together, obviously massage, a break for refreshments (snack, drink), gym session or workout, watch some porn (preferably mine 🤪), stretching/yoga. There’s loads of things you can do around having physical fun together too. You can also invite another provider for part of the session to mix things up if you have the budget for that. I’ve done sessions where it’s me with the client for the whole time but another guy joins us for part of it. I’d recommend that if you did that then it’s best for the two providers to know each other so that they’re comfortable together and can focus on you during the session.

Or vaguely notorious. That’s what I am.

Some clients are just notoriously vague. I think it comes with the work. I don’t like it, it’s frustrating, I agree with @Jarrod_Uncut . Some clients are just window shopping or indulging themselves in an ‘I might hire’ fantasy. I tend to work from a studio in central London. I don’t live there but I’m often in the vicinity and I see clients there or at their hotel or home if it’s reasonable travel distance. Many times I finish my day, make my way home or to do something else and a potential client will message “hi, are you available this evening?”. Too late…I left the studio. Had they asked earlier I’d have probably seen them. Others message about availability in coming week. I provide days / times and hear nothing back. Then they message on the day and ask to book. Too late! I made other plans or took another booking because they didn’t take their opportunity when it was there. What do these potential clients think I’m doing? Sitting around all day waiting for them to make their mind up? I’m sorry to have to decline them of course, but I do think that if you want a good experience with someone decent then it’s highly unlikely they’ll be available for you at the drop of a hat.

Thanks! He lived in London, we did a few films together. Initially when he hadn’t done the face reveal. He’s great fun and has his head screwed on so he’s obviously making a great success of his filming career.

I’ve collaborated with him a few times for my justforfans. He’s a great guy, good fun and really hot. I understand he’s travelling a lot doing collaborations and so is probably not available for escorting.

It would be massive! Dear @Vegas_Millennial Following your consultation with Dr Dick, he has prescribed a treatment for you of 5 sessions a week for 3 months with an NHS approved provider. Your first treatment will be on 3 June 2047. Yours sincerely NHS Sexcare

Not in UK though. Doctors here are free 😉.

Some become investment bankers because shafting their clients is a transferable skill.

Yes and then 30 mins on the Elizabeth line from LHR to my studio 😃