Jamie21

I find it difficult not to kiss. When one really gets into things and the client is passionate and responsive I just find it natural to kiss. Some clients will turn their head away indicating they don’t want to kiss but most just accept it willingly. It is of course extremely intimate, which is why there’s some who draw the line at kissing.

That’s not quite true though is it. The guys requiring a face pic are choosing you. These guys aren’t really escorts; they’re guys who have discovered they can monetise their sex life. Is that going to be a fun session?

One interesting one was being hired to go to a sauna. The client had used a sauna (bath house) a few times and was annoyed that no one would play with him. He wanted to get into some group action there and get DP’d. So he hired me to hit him up at the sauna and make this fantasy happen. Basically I had to turn up after he’d been in there for an hour, find him, act as if we’d never met before, and have sex with him so that it would attract guys to watch and join in and he’d get DP’d and have multiple loads. I did warn him it might not happen and he should hire two of us to be certain of it but he didn’t want to spend that much and he was convinced he’d get loads of guys if they saw him with me. It wasn’t entirely successful…The place was busy enough and I found him in the jacuzzi. I sat next to him and after an appropriate period of time we started kissing and playing. Another guy in there joined in for a bit but then the attendant saw us and told us off for sucking cock in there so we went to the steam room. I sucked the client in there but no one seemed interested in joining, plus it was too steamy and hot. We tried a few other places; cinema room, sauna, corridor but guys seemed only interested in me not my client which started to annoy him. I suggested we find a cabin and leave the door open while we fucked to see if anyone would join us. He was up for this so we found a nice cabin where lots of people walked by and it didn’t take long for a guy to come in. Unfortunately the guy who joined us just wanted to get fucked so I did him and then he left. Next guy was also a bottom so he didn’t stick around.. All we seemed to get was guys who wanted to get fucked so I left the client in there and went out to find another top for him. Eventually I found someone, took him back and we fucked the client but the guy wasn’t really into it and it didn’t last long before he made an excuse and left. I had to say to my client that trying to force these fantasies isn’t the way to realise them. His anxiety and demands were the barrier to him just relaxing and enjoying himself. I don’t think he really understood that.

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Quite a few lol. One of the more unusual ones is a boxing role play. I’m the coach, client is my boxer who I am massaging before his fight. He has ambient boxing sound playing in the background, wears boxing gloves, shorts and a box to protect his cock. I start to massage him, giving him tips on the fight and as the massage progresses we both get naked and I end up fucking him.

It’s almost a badge of honour now that guys never use condoms, to give or to receive. There’s the whole ‘breeding’ thing which I think drives this bareback dynamic. Plus extensive use of prep and doxyprep. Personally I don’t use them when I top and my experience is that very few clients ask me to use one. If I’m bottoming for a client then it’s up to him. I wouldn’t insist either way. In porn I never use them. Must admit I much prefer to bb, either way. Poop doesn’t bother me too much, just clean off and carry on.

Most of my clients are older guys, but by no means all of them. It’s a genuine range, youngest is mid 20’s oldest late 70’s. I don’t care as long as they are reliable, respectful and engage with the process.

Most clients ask me straight up. My advertising is also pretty clear about what’s included. Usually they say things like ‘how far do you go?’ or ‘is sex included?’ but of course this is possible in the UK because it’s not illegal to do sex work here. I guess those in the US might be more reticent to ask so directly. Sometimes those who haven’t seen my advertising will ask about ‘extras’ in a very awkward way…such as ‘tell me about the massage’ or ‘how does it work?’. This is more difficult to answer briefly, so I usually just say ‘most things are included except full sex which only happens if it feels right for both of us’. If you’re hiring a licensed massage therapist who only does therapeutic massage then don’t ask about extras. That would be disrespectful. But if he offers sensual or erotic then you should ask as clearly as you are comfortable with given the legal position and your own preference.

That’s two different areas. In UK terms those places aren’t close to each other. You might get London based guys prepared to go to Windsor but it’s less likely you’ll get them to go to the Cotswolds (they’ll charge more to travel there).

Always best to ask them if you have a definite preference. I describe my role as vers top. It’s because I usually top. It’s assumed I top because I’m hung (that assumption is a whole different subject!) but I’m happy to bottom if asked.

I wasn’t complaining about the scheduling issues. I turn down business and it’s fine, that’s not my problem. My complaint was the enquiry that doesn’t end with either of ‘I’m booking’ or ‘thanks but no thanks’. You’re just left hanging. Thats unacceptable. Sometimes those guys ask again months later…guess what. I ignore them.

Every opinion matters. But only mine is right of course.

Yes that’s the solution. This week I’ve said no to 4 clients who wanted fairly short notice bookings because I wasn’t able (or in one case inclined) to meet them. One guy asks for a short notice meeting every few weeks and every time I decline. It’s like a game. However this week 3 clients have messaged to ask my availability and I’ve replied with a positive answer to all of them. All of them have then gone quiet - no reply. No ‘thanks but my plans changed’ or ‘I’d like to book’ or anything. They just ignored me. This is why guys like @JB_Studio38get irritated. There’s a significant enough number of ‘clients’ who simply view providers as not really deserving of respect or consideration. It’s what happens in this industry and I find it unacceptable. Those guys behave badly and it needs to be called out. There’s no excuse for it. And before anyone says providers behave badly yes they do and that’s also unacceptable. What I’m talking about is clients because that’s my experience.

Personally I don’t follow up with my clients because I want to respect their privacy. Some are seeing me on the down low and I’d never want to cause them a problem by following up after their session. If they send a message after with any kind of feedback then I’ll reply of course but I won’t do it unsolicited. I try to entice them back by giving a great service rather than spamming them. If they really want to come back then they’ll message me.

It is also very hard to change yourself though! But easier than changing the world. I still want to fix things I don’t like in the world of course, but now I catch myself before I charge into the fray and I let it flow around me. Their problem not mine.

I’ve asked for deposits twice. In 8 years of working and many many clients (4 figures). In my early years I had a few out calls that were wild goose chases. The kind where the client is all keen etc until you reach their place and then they ‘disappear’. Now I’m wiser and I can see the red flags and avoid these time wasters. Both occasions I asked for a deposit were 4 hands sessions where the other provider was travelling and I wasn’t confident the client was legitimate (but I was sufficiently confident to accept the booking). I can accept the time wasted if my judgement was wrong but I’d feel really bad to get the other provider into a flaky client situation, hence I asked for the deposit. Both times the client paid the deposit no trouble, and turned up, so all was good. Like @josh282282says, I just factor the cost of the occasional flake into my pricing and I do as much as possible to mitigate against the time wasters. It’s just sensible good practice to do this. It’s easier to adjust yourself to the world than it is to rail against the world because it won’t behave as you want it to.

I sense you haven’t been on here long? 🫣 I agree with you on flaky clients. Many of the dilettante types are just getting off on the enquiry. Honestly the number of ‘hey are you free today / tomorrow etc’ to whom I respond but who then simply go quiet is astounding. What do they do?… Get bored? Lose their phone? Forget they asked?. Why ask me, get a reply and then ignore it? I’ll never understand that. Or the ones that message with ‘hey’ and then silence….what’s that about? Trying to see if I’m real? Same day requests are annoying if I can’t do them because it feels like income foregone but I’d rather they ask me because sometimes it works. This is a service business, you do need to be a bit flexible to clients requirements, within what’s reasonable for you. If you want the predictability of a 9 to 5 job….go and do a 9 to 5 job. I certainly wouldn’t do that! I love the variety of the job. I don’t see many scams, it’s mostly impossibly pretty females sending me direct messages on X. If only they looked at my X they’d see its full of gay porn. They’d get more chance of me falling for it if they send me some hot topless guy asking about a collab. That I’d probably reply to 😂

I do massage on the bed (especially if the clients room is too small to fit my table). Even a single bed is ok. Personally I prefer to give massage on a table because the bed is too soft and not ideal for a good massage but needs must. As for hotels…they don’t care. I’ve seen clients in some of the top London hotels, both with and without my table. Often the client meets me in the lobby because sometimes you need a key to use the lifts. Otherwise they just give me their room number and I meet them in the room. It’s all agreed beforehand.

Unfortunately a lot of these unprofessional providers live chaotic or on the edge of chaotic lifestyles. They’ll manage to show up for you a couple of times and it’ll be fun but eventually they’ll let you down because ‘they have to’. They didn’t mean it (they rationalise to themselves), their need is more important than yours (they tell themselves) and they definitely maybe mean to reimburse you (they tell you) but somehow it never happens and time moves on. Their life becomes more chaotic and they forget. The red flags for these guys are always there: irregular replies, indications of drug use, unpredictable behaviour etc but they look hot and are enticing so you overlook it all and get drawn in. Hire professional guys, it’s much better for your sanity and your bank balance…

Yes and the model has more to lose by having their IG banned or suspended so they’ll be very careful about even responding to requests to meet. I direct all such enquiries to my linktree which has info on how to contact me for discussions like that. OF is the same, and one definitely doesn’t want to engage in any kind of meet up discussion on there. Unfortunately naive clients do sometimes send such messages and I guess they assume the answer is a ‘no’ when they get a bland or no reply when the reality is they just don’t understand how to play the game….

Mainly the aesthetic. They have to be longish mid way between ankle and knee, the right colour and enhance the calves. I’ve got large calves which the socks enhance. It’s all about the details 😂

Don’t DM on instagram. Especially don’t mention paid meetings or anything similar on there. Instagram will ban suspend or ban the model’s account if they discuss such a thing on there. You’d need to move the discussion off instagram if you wanted to discuss hiring him. Similarly on Onlyfans: they will ban or suspend any creator discussing meets. I get guys messaging me on both my IG and OF about meeting and it’s difficult to respond to them directly. Best to contact guys for meets via their X / Twitter (they don’t care!) or via his contact number which you’ll find with a bit of simple research if he’s open for business.

I do that! But they have to be sports socks.

When you do sex as work (whether that’s escorting/massage or porn) it can become difficult to cum. So often you’re trying not to cum because ‘it’s not time yet for the film or the client …you get used to not cumming. In addition sex becomes so normal and commonplace that you become desensitised to some extent. I expect this is probably the reason he was trying to set expectations. I always try to set expectations with clients, we’re human. Things don’t always work. Some clients can have quite unrealistic expectations of an overnight (although to be fair those guys never actually book…they just talk about it). Overnights are more about companionship than endless full sex and cumming. It’s about chatting, cuddling, bathing, eating, watching tv or porn together, going to the hotel gym, kissing in the elevator, holding hands at the bar, kissing him passionately while he’s pinned up against the corridor wall, visiting a local sauna together, hiding under the duvet sucking him off while he phones his partner 🫣, showing him how your new prostate massage toy works, walking out of the bathroom in nothing but a leather harness and jock just as room service has wheeled in dinner…. (Ok so some of these may be autobiographical 😂). What I mean is these kind of longer sessions are about connecting much more deeply than is possible in a shorter 90m session. Tbh I prefer to do them as an afternoon rather than overnight. They work really nicely as a 2pm to 8pm or something like that because it’s sexy to have afternoon fun while everyone else is working, there’s no sleep involved (I like my sleep uninterrupted!) and somehow it feels more illicit. Day use hotel rooms make such a thing possible.

Too much hassle to prep every time! I don’t bother doing it with regular clients who I know are bottom. Plus the majority of my clients are bottom because I’m hung and that attracts the bottoms😂. So I basically assume they’re not interested in my hole unless they say or imply otherwise when booking.