AntonGraza

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GCQabjg0M2c
Jackson Browne - In the shape of a heart
 

Let’s exam how a high end car dealer works on a client to buy a car; he sets you up with a test drive, and also allows you to take it home, so can integrate the car into your life, build desire and want. 
Side note-car dealers….they are kind of predatory by nature (applied with my 4 inch brush)
Kris, if you checked him out, there is a 99% chance the same was done for your background.   Pre - lock down maybe he only saw you as a new client and was going to ask you to be a “business”client.  
But, maybe after some 12+ months of self-refection On his life, he then felt “comfortable” sharing THAT aspect of his life  and wanted to go into the friend Plus category, and went BIG and really wanted to impress you.   You also had similar Covid time get together thoughts about him; your responds - actions( in a similar way) was purchasing the shirts, the Hotel room, stocking it with items….  You both were similar in approach to this meeting.
As the events of the evening progressed, he may have  became conflicted in some way and told a dumb creative lie.   You are 52 and have had more time-emotional experience to draw on.   What if you are the first guy he has really fallen for?   Now what?
Again, the creative story did not make sense, but he could have painted himself into a corner and panicked.
What were you hoping for?  A guy-friend to hang with, talk about things in your life’s that are most likely part of “normal” conversations and an occasional sexual experience? That is rare find.
Call him up, meet at a neutral place to talk and be honest and get it all out on the table.
Life is short and opportunities are fewer as we get older.  
 
You both sound like teenagers with massive crushes on each other and are post thinking of what did it all mean.
PS  the younger generation does not call-text back   You have to make the first move. 
The Pollyanna perspective….,😊  

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

And maybe he just really likes you.?. Over analyzing can ruin a good thing. 

Let’s exam how a high end car dealer works on a client to buy a car; he sets you up with a test drive, and also allows you to take it home, so can integrate the car into your life, build desire and want. 
Side note-car dealers….they are kind of predatory by nature (applied with my 4 inch brush)
Kris, if you checked him out, there is a 99% chance the same was done for your background.   Pre - lock down maybe he only saw you as a new client and was going to ask you to be a “business”client.  
But, maybe after some 12+ months of self-refection On his life, he then felt “comfortable” sharing THAT aspect of his life  and wanted to go into the friend Plus category, and went BIG and really wanted to impress you.   You also had similar Covid time get together thoughts about him; your responds - actions( in a similar way) was purchasing the shirts, the Hotel room, stocking it with items….  You both were similar in approach to this meeting.
As the events of the evening progressed, he may have  became conflicted in some way and told a dumb creative lie.   You are 52 and have had more time-emotional experience to draw on.   What if you are the first guy he has really fallen for?   Now what?
Again, the creative story did not make sense, but he could have painted himself into a corner and panicked.
What were you hoping for?  A guy-friend to hang with, talk about things in your life’s that are most likely part of “normal” conversations and an occasional sexual experience? That is rare find.
Call him up, meet at a neutral place to talk and be honest and get it all out on the table.
Life is short and opportunities are fewer as we get older.  
 
You both sound like teenagers with massive crushes on each other and are post thinking of what did it all mean.
PS  the younger generation does not call-text back   You have to make the first move. 
The Pollyanna perspective….,😊  

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Let’s exam how a high end car dealer works on a client to buy a car; he sets you up with a test drive, and also allows you to take it home, so can integrate the car into your life, build desire and want. 
Side note-car dealers….they are kind of predatory by nature (applied with my 4 inch brush)
Kris, if you checked him out, there is a 99% chance the same was done for your background.   Pre - lock down maybe he only saw you as a new client and was going to ask you to be a “business”client.  
But, maybe after some 12+ months of self-refection On his life, he then felt “comfortable” sharing THAT aspect of his life  and wanted to go into the friend Plus category, and went BIG and really wanted to impress you.   You also had similar Covid time get together thoughts about him; your responds - actions( in a similar way) was purchasing the shirts, the Hotel room, stocking it with items….  You both were similar in approach to this meeting.
As the events of the evening progressed, he may have  became conflicted in some way and told a dumb creative lie.   You are 52 and have had more time-emotional experience to draw on.   What if you are the first guy he has really fallen for?   Now what?
Again, the creative story did not make sense, but he could have painted himself into a corner and panicked.
What were you hoping for?  A guy-friend to hang with, talk about things in your life’s that are most likely part of “normal” conversations and an occasional sexual experience? That is rare find.
Call him up, meet at a neutral place to talk and be honest and get it all out on the table.
Life is short and opportunities are fewer as we get older.  
 
You both sound like teenagers with massive crushes on each other and are post thinking of what did it all mean.
PS  the younger generation does not call-text back   You have to make the first move. 
The Pollyanna perspective….,😊  

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Let’s exam how a high end car dealer works on a client to buy a car; he sets you up with a test drive, and also allows you to take it home, so can integrate the car into your life, build desire and want. 
Side note-car dealers….they are kind of predatory by nature (applied with my 4 inch brush)
Kris, if you checked him out, there is a 99% chance the same was done for your background.   Pre - lock down maybe he only saw you as a new client and was going to ask you to be a “business”client.  
But, maybe after some 12+ months of self-refection On his life, he then felt “comfortable” sharing THAT aspect of his life  and wanted to go into the friend Plus category, and went BIG and really wanted to impress you.   You also had similar Covid time get together thoughts about him; your responds - actions( in a similar way) was purchasing the shirts, the Hotel room, stocking it with items….  You both were similar in approach to this meeting.
As the events of the evening progressed, he may have  became conflicted in some way and told a dumb creative lie.   You are 52 and have had more time-emotional experience to draw on.   What if you are the first guy he has really fallen for?   Now what?
Again, the creative story did not make sense, but he could have painted himself into a corner and panicked.
What were you hoping for?  A guy-friend to hang with, talk about things in your life’s that are most likely part of “normal” conversations and an occasional sexual experience? That is rare find.
Call him up, meet at a neutral place to talk and be honest and get it all out on the table.
Life is short and opportunities are fewer as we get older.  
 
You both sound like teenagers with massive crushes on each other and are post thinking of what did it all mean.
PS  the younger generation does not call-text back   You have to make the first move. 
The Pollyanna perspective….,😊  

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

As a kid who hadn't even started school yet I loved watching Batman and Robin. I loved that show and seeing them interact. I especially liked the fact that Robin lived with Batman and the age difference.  Then came Wally from Leave it to Beaver reruns from the late 50's (I was too young to know they were reruns) when Wally was in high school in the later episodes. And then after as I grew a little older I started liking all the young TV Dads of the early and mid 60's and the older teenage sons. Of course it all clicked when puberty hit and I stared noticing the high school guys on the school bus and in the neighborhood and then a crush I developed on my hot single 26 year old gym teacher who wore nothing but skimpy gym shorts, tight t-shirts, tennis shoes and a whistle! Then in 5th grade he taught us Sex Ed, then I started having all kinds of fantasies about him since I had discovered masturbation. I fought it though till my mid 20's. I grew up in an environment where that wasn't acceptable in any way. I had to move far away from my family, friends and community to realize this was who I was and nothing could be done to change it. I had to learn to be happy with my sexuality.

I wish we wouldn’t attack each other on this thread. Disagree, sure. But we don’t need to berate each other.
 
I think the CDC is prematurely loosening restrictions since we’re still shy of the 70% vaccination rate needed for herd immunity. I also live alone, have been isolated for over a year, and am terribly touch-deprived and depressed. So I finally took a calculated risk two weeks ago with a masseur I trust, and I pseudo-quarantined myself for a few days to make sure no worrying symptoms emerged.
 
At this point, each one of us needs to gauge how much risk he is comfortable taking on and proceed accordingly.

I'm really happy for all the Americans who can now go maskless without as much concern. We're still not there yet up here in the barrens of Canada. But I got my first Moderna jab this morning, so I'm partway there... though shot #2 may not happen for another 3 months or so. But there seems to be light at the end of this long, dark tunnel.

Now I can’t get this song out of my head
 

It was really good

At times the reverse can also be the case. I've worked in organizations where the immediate work environment was pleasant and productive, but the blundering bozos at the top ruined it for everyone.

How about “The Lobby” for the category housing The Lounge and The Cabana?

For me, the last 2 1/2 years have been a nightmare of family health issues, death of my partner, being forced to move house, and the job turning sour due to the Covid pandemic - the business was classified as "emergency service provider', so no time off, and staff having to self-quarantine at random times. Thought I'd be able to make it to 67, but now I have a count-down pad in my cubicle, with 172 weeks and counting till I hit 62 and say byebye to working in Oregon, and retiring to Flt Lauderdale and my Ukranian boyfriend. The money's gonna be a little tight at first, but trading cold rains and anarchist craziness for drinks at the beach and a warm soul next to me in bed needs to come about much sooner than later.

I'm hoping to retire at 60, if my finances appear to be in order for me to do so. It isn't that my job is absolutely horrible, but I so sick of the level of incompetence where I work that I really want to get away from where I work. I may end up working part time or just doing volunteer work after I retire -- I certainly don't intend to just sit on my ass full time -- but to not have a 40 hour per week commitment and to not have to do 75% or more of the work on a two-person team will feel great.

Thank you Orin and RadioRob for your time and resources to keep the site running. Not an IT guy, will there be any issues moving from a .net to a .org regarding security and big brother?
 
Anton

Absolutely not. In terms of access, there is nothing different in terms of security or in terms of what big brother can see/do. We'll eventually have both domains. But for now, until we get control of DNS, I have a redirect in place on Daddy's server to push everyone over here. Once we have control of m4m-forum.org's DNS itself, I can have it come directly here.
 
Eventually both domains will just work equally with no difference.

I drive a Kia.... is it wrong? ?

but......but.......but he loves to "explore boundaries"
 
and he promises to leave you yearning for more! That might sound correct!!
 
Man we can be a cynical bunch.

As I have gotten older I lean more towards men. However, I do consider myself bisexual. I wouldn't need to turn straight.

I drive a Kia.... is it wrong? ?

Hey Fluff - Sorry you are having aches and pains.
As for the 23 data, it was not set up to generate data under ISO 17025 testing methods and be a medical diagnosis provider. You are doing the right thing, seeing various specialist and gathering data.
Try to stay off the computer and looking at medical diagnoses. I know it is hard, but there are SO many articles that are generalized, with the pertinent information not explained very well. Get your own tests and listen to your experts.
I am a big fan of PT, they fix me up, tell me what movements-activities will result in pain/ problems, and help me adjust my life into these new parameters. When I hit a year or two over 40, I noticed I had a marked decrease in flexibility and could not "iron man" weekend warrior -work for long periods of time like I once had and bounce back pain free.
Try not to worry and let us know how you are doing.
Take care - Anton

Hey Fluff - Sorry you are having aches and pains.
As for the 23 data, it was not set up to generate data under ISO 17025 testing methods and be a medical diagnosis provider. You are doing the right thing, seeing various specialist and gathering data.
Try to stay off the computer and looking at medical diagnoses. I know it is hard, but there are SO many articles that are generalized, with the pertinent information not explained very well. Get your own tests and listen to your experts.
I am a big fan of PT, they fix me up, tell me what movements-activities will result in pain/ problems, and help me adjust my life into these new parameters. When I hit a year or two over 40, I noticed I had a marked decrease in flexibility and could not "iron man" weekend warrior -work for long periods of time like I once had and bounce back pain free.
Try not to worry and let us know how you are doing.
Take care - Anton

Hey Fluff - Sorry you are having aches and pains.
As for the 23 data, it was not set up to generate data under ISO 17025 testing methods and be a medical diagnosis provider. You are doing the right thing, seeing various specialist and gathering data.
Try to stay off the computer and looking at medical diagnoses. I know it is hard, but there are SO many articles that are generalized, with the pertinent information not explained very well. Get your own tests and listen to your experts.
I am a big fan of PT, they fix me up, tell me what movements-activities will result in pain/ problems, and help me adjust my life into these new parameters. When I hit a year or two over 40, I noticed I had a marked decrease in flexibility and could not "iron man" weekend warrior -work for long periods of time like I once had and bounce back pain free.
Try not to worry and let us know how you are doing.
Take care - Anton