Hlparx

He is very laid back and very sweet.

Trying to hire a provider for services they advertise by contacting them is perfectly normal. Following up or asking again is also normal, especially if they haven’t got back to you from the first time you reached out.
If they haven’t got back to you by the second or third time you reached out, it’s safe to say move on. It’s good business for a provider to respond within a reasonable timeframe, even if it’s only to say, “sorry I am booked up for the day you requested, but here are the next times I am available”, something like that.
No response past a reasonable timeframe might indicate they are already overwhelmed with business and don’t need/want yours. Or they’re poor communicators, or flaky, or any number of things you probably don’t want in a provider anyways. It’s a bad sign. If they can’t do you the courtesy of responding, you probably shouldn’t hire them. Keep in mind sometimes it can take hours or the next morning for a provider to respond. Days without a response is unacceptable.
Here are some scenarios that a provider might choose not respond to: Demanding dick/ass/nude pics, especially if the provider is not an escort, or if all of these are posted publicly online. Writing impatient or angry remarks in all caps because the provider was working and did not immediately respond to a text within minutes. Rude or disrespectful comments, racist/sexist and similar remarks. Incomprehensible texts. Texts that seem like someone is drunk/high (it has to be pretty bad for that to shine through over a text). Texts in a language the provider doesn’t speak. Texts asking the same questions over and over, that the provider has already answered. Unreasonable requests, for example: asking a provider to travel hundreds of miles away within a few hours, for a 1-hr appointment, with no previously planned travel arrangements. If you’re communicating something that’s a big red flag to the provider, that may be the reason.
Any of the above merit some response, even if it’s a brief statement saying the provider can’t/won’t see the client. A lot of providers just don’t have the patience or emotional willpower to do this, however. Not a good excuse, but it happens.
Some known clients are blacklisted for being violent, not paying, or for other legitimate reasons. Sometimes it’s best for a provider to not to engage at all with someone they know is problematic based off the lists or other intel telling them the client is bad.
If you’re being normal and reasonable and the provider is not responding, it’s their loss. You’re paying, so that’s lost business for them, and an opportunity for the client to seek out a more reliable, responsive provider who wants their business and is willing and able to work hard to get it.
‘Stalker’ may not be the best operative word for what I think you mean. When I hear stalker, I think someone is going out of their way to invade my personal space, find out where I live, where I work (i.e. at a day job), research and track down my family, unearth sensitive personal information, threaten me, follow my movements in public, harass me, and so on. Same goes for harassing over text, or being aggressive, not respecting ‘no’ for an answer, demanding things, trying to contact me after being blocked on multiple platforms, and similar obsessive behaviors.
If you’ve reached out multiple times with no response, and you’re not ticking any of the red flag boxes, you’re definitely not a stalker, but I would seriously consider hiring another provider. Professionalism and respect are the minimum a client should expect in a good provider.

I’ve never sent any happy birthday / Christmas etc texts to clients unless they sent one first to me and in that case then I reply in kind. I don’t like to send unsolicited messages. 
It’s a nice idea though if clients are open to receiving such marketing. Maybe I’ll add a box to my booking confirmations…something like:
”If you would like to receive texts or emails with offers and information please tick the box. Your data will not be sold or used by any third party or for any other purpose than to inform you of products or services that may be of interest to you”. 
Then I can draft a template text or email for my mailing tool to generate the messages to my clients. Something like:
Dear [Big boy / Pumpkin / HungDaddy] have a great [21st, 50th, 103rd] birthday! I hope your [massive / fun sized / PA adorned] cock is getting plenty of action on your special day 🍆💦.
***(Select 1, 2 or both as appropriate depending on client’s preference)***
1 My [mouth / bum ] is available for your attention with a special offer of 20% off this weekend. Buy the ‘both holes’ package and get an extra 5% off!
2 My [cock / tongue / right arm😱] is available to service you this weekend with 20% off pre sale prices. Buy the ‘ass to mouth’ special and get an extra 5% off! 
Terms and conditions apply. Availability subject to demand. 
If you wish to opt out of mailing list please complete the form hidden at the bottom of my website and send two forms of ID not including your password or drivers license.
Best wishes 
[Jamie / J 😘 / Your Masseur]
 



 

 

Here’s some prior discussion about him under a previous profile name.
 
 

... And the casual racism

My cousin passed the bar exam but chose NOT to stay in this field, for he became disillusioned with it.  Perhaps the same applies to the man in question.

Ugh! You’re right!!! A missed opportunity 😢
But maybe Face Sitting is a whole new genre of sex work? You have Escorts, Masseurs,Porn stars and now…Professional Face Sitters (not to be confused with the Professional Face Shitters which is a whole separate body). One miss type into Google could get you in the brown stuff inadvertently.
I do think face sitting is something that needs to be learned. So there’s merit in your face sitting school idea!
It reminds me of a situation I had with guy one time when I was filming a porno. We’d done a fair bit of topping a bottom guy (I was filming with another top) and the next scene we had was the bottom would sit on my face. The bottom had been heavily used and I guess we’d pumped a lot of air in….(no one had cum yet). As the bottom squatted over me, his hole an inch from my face he let out an almighty long and loud fart. I simply couldn’t continue from laughing so we had to stop and take a break while the bottom got all the wind out of his system.
It could, I acknowledge, have been much worse (as in the mistype above…) but it’s one of those things that should be taught to professional face sitters: check your face sittee (the receiver of the ass) is ok with a bit of blowback before you go down. That would be lesson 1. Lesson 2 is let him breathe a bit occasionally….
 
 

In no particular order:
Anthony_Montano DanielXXL Willonly Eli_Bliss JulienXXLTOP

Are you asking clients? Because it’s in ‘ask a provider’ 🙂.
First time I did an escort session was, looking back on it, hilarious and I’m grateful for the client who was really understanding.
I’d agreed to meet him outside house no. 8 in his street. But I misunderstood the instructions and knocked on the door at no. 8 which was actually the house across the street. Obviously he wanted to check me out and didn’t want to give his real door number to me until he saw me. Fortunately no one was home at no.8
Then when I was getting showered before we started I didn’t shut the shower door properly and his bathroom floor got filled with water. He was ok about that saying he should have told me about the door thing. 
In my excitement at my first client I left home without my wash bag which had my massage oil, lube, condoms etc in. So I had to ask my client if he had any oil and condoms. He opened a bedside drawer and provided all the necessities…
Afterwards I forgot to ask him for payment. As I was leaving he said “don’t you want paying Dick?” (Dick was the ridiculous ‘nom de plume’ I’d decided on for my escort career but I soon dropped it because guys would call and say “hi is this Dick” and I’d instinctively say “no it’s Jamie” and they’d say “oh sorry wrong number”). 
I think he was amused by my puppy like enthusiasm and naivety. He gave me a nice tip but didn’t hire me again. 
Then, when I got home I realised I’d left a thong I’d worn at his place. I really hope his wife didn’t find it…
I’d say if you hire a newbie provider then be like my client and be understanding. He enjoyed my enthusiasm and I’m sure he had a laugh to himself afterwards. If he’d been an arsehole about my faux pax I’d probably not have continued with doing the work. 
 

The mind is very complex.  Trying to force it in one of 2 labels based on sexual activity can lead to unnecessary stress and self-loathing.  Homosexuality is indeed stigmatized since the beginning of time and self preservation will coax someone to avoid being labeled as such if allowed to do so.  I admit that there are those that fit this category, depending on where they are in their own self-acceptance.  Sexuality, though, is too varied to be simply categorized as a straight or gay act.  "I am a man and if I get fucked in the ass then I am gay whether I admit it or not." "I am a woman and if I eat pussy then I must be gay; therefore if it's impossible for me to be attracted to a man, and if I do so, I am denying my own sexuality." Yet there are men who likes to be pegged by a woman with a dildo, or by a trans woman with a dick.  There are women who has had sexual encounters with another woman, and still identify as straight and ultimately prefers men.  There are Bi men who equally likes to be with both men and women.  I am not discounting that there are homosexual men who have not accepted their own sexuality because of societal norms and pressure, but I believe that is not always the case. And, If it is less traumatizing mentally for someone to participate in a sexual activity without being forced a label because of its societal implications, then so be it.  I don't think it is necessary to define someone else's sexuality just because it fits nicely in a box. Perhaps it's the other way around, that if homosexuality wasn't condemned as much, more straight men would explore these sexual acts like women do, without being labeled. 
(Please do not take this is an affront to anyone else's statement but a healthy discussion on the topic.)

I’d agree and say it’s not expected in London.
I had toe curling sex with an escort in London.  When I got back
to my hotel I realized that in my post-coital euphoria I had forgotten
to tip him. I texted and asked for his Venmo/PayPal info so I could
send him his tip.
He genuinely thought I was joking. 

Not a provider, but in general, tipping is a US-only phenomenon so I’d venture to say it’s not the norm for massages in the UK.

Then there’s the situation where 6 inches is advertised as 8…
Inflation isn’t just a monetary problem. 

I've met Asian gentlemen who would challenge this belief.

My operating principle is that the provider is entitled to ask what he wants and the client is entitled to accept that or not. I see two guys regularly and our relationships are of 6+ years duration. One established his price and I always pay that and never haggle or ask for a discount. He is scrupulously honest, one time telling me that I inadvertently overpaid him by $20 so to deduct that from the next time. Another time I dropped some bills on the floor and he texted me afterwards telling me he found the money and would return it when I saw  him next. The other guy has refused payment in the past and told me he doesn’t really care if or how much I pay him. I always try to treat him very fairly though out of my respect for him and the connection we have established. I don’t know what either of these guys charges others and I don’t really focus on that. 

You joke, but there is a non-negligible chance of something similar.  In which case I'd be happy to amend the report.
Kevin Slater

I think this is correct.  I’ll also add that “discounts for hot” are a myth that certain sex workers encourage as a sales tactic.  I’ve seen ads in the past where the worker suggests that there’ll be a discount for hot, a certain body type, or hung, but given that the worker doesn’t have a listed rate, a client has no way of telling whether he’s getting a discount!
Also, given the number of guys on Rentmen I who also have Grindr or Scruff profiles for recreational use, I doubt that there’s much motivation to discount for a “hot client” when there’s ready access to whatever they consider “hot” at their fingertips.

I think this is correct.  I’ll also add that “discounts for hot” are a myth that certain sex workers encourage as a sales tactic.  I’ve seen ads in the past where the worker suggests that there’ll be a discount for hot, a certain body type, or hung, but given that the worker doesn’t have a listed rate, a client has no way of telling whether he’s getting a discount!
Also, given the number of guys on Rentmen I who also have Grindr or Scruff profiles for recreational use, I doubt that there’s much motivation to discount for a “hot client” when there’s ready access to whatever they consider “hot” at their fingertips.

This thread is enlightening as to some of the personalities here.
I wonder if some of you had to attach personally identifying info, whether you'd be so brazen with your talk of what someone should charge for their services.
Always remember: Escorts are human beings who have financial obligations just like you.  You don't get to set someone's rate or tell him why he should charge less, but you do have the choice of being a decent person and respectfully declining. 
Don't be a prick.  It's not all that difficult.

PM me for my experience. Overall pretty good. 

While we often use price as a proxy for quality, that’s not always the case.  I live in a mid-sized West Coast city.  Since I started hiring in 2019, most guys that I’ve hired here ask for at least $250 with $300 being the standard.  I hired a hung, handsome, ginger muscle top in 2019 who asked for $200.  I had a fantastic time.

While we often use price as a proxy for quality, that’s not always the case.  I live in a mid-sized West Coast city.  Since I started hiring in 2019, most guys that I’ve hired here ask for at least $250 with $300 being the standard.  I hired a hung, handsome, ginger muscle top in 2019 who asked for $200.  I had a fantastic time.

Cole Blue (sometimes known as Cole Miller) is a new obsession.  Not my usual type, but something about him.  A pic of him unshaven: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/FhOWR0BXEA4X_yF?format=jpg&name=large

I’ve met him.  Will PM you.
He is stunning.  Insane shape too.

I’ve met him.  Will PM you.
He is stunning.  Insane shape too.