SoFlGuy

Like most every issue/question with a provider, I just prefer honesty.

All things being equal I choose a gay provider first.  Although I have learned that having a gay provider doesn't guarantee a great time and hiring a straight provider doesn't mean it will be a bad experience. 

I've met Lucas numerous times over the years but found him increasingly unreliable and erratic. I finally stopped contacting him after his erratic behavior and unreliability. He was very sweet and nice at first but that has changed unfortunately. At least that has been my experience. 

An incredible flake---ghosting in the middle of a texting exchange and I wasn't the only one.

Yes, it isn't in his favor for sure, and that can be considered a strike 1 for me.  
Some other negatives for me include the following that have come up in our messages to set up a meeting since I initially posted here:
1.  I already mentioned his rate is high for me (but still doable).  BFE is 600 (massage is 400 and overnights are 2k).  For me a true BFE has to include kissing and he confirmed that is off the table.  Strike 2
2.  He requires a deposit up front (20%) to book the appointment.  Strike 3
3.  I did ask for his OF page, which he did provide.  It is $50/month, which to me is more than I believe I have ever seen and more than I would ever pay.  Of course he can set the rate at whatever he wants but just seems a bit off to be so high (for me at least).  He did acknowledge that the rate is high but gave some strange reason that it is in the process of being taken down so that is why it is so high.  
Anyway, 3 strikes and he's done.
 
 

There is nothing to say. I live in Manhattan where there are some truly beautiful supermarkets with lovely graphics, a couple of extra staff people on the floor, great prepared food, and enticing graphics throughout that are very successful businesses. These stores sometimes charge SUBSTANTIALLY more for food staples than simpler stores nearby.
I know my personal budget -- and I know where I buy what I need. No need to engage the business manager in the store that charges more with discussions about pricing policy. If a store's pricing is not profitable, a store will change it or go out of business. There is nothing to say.

I've met him twice, including an overnight - and highly recommend.

On a serious note, in almost five year of pursuing this hobby - using primarily Rent.men in at least four countries - we've never had a legal issue. We do what @pubic_assistance and @BuffaloKyle have suggested, which is stick guys who are well-reviewed and have been mentioned on here. Occasionally, someone will not have been discussed here, but if they have what seems like a lot of legitimate reviews on RM, we'll go ahead. We've had a couple of duds but overall our experiences have been good to great. 

I am 100% honest in my stats listed on my client page. If a provider does not want to meet with me due to my age, height, weight, cock size, etc. I'd rather hire someone that wants to. There are plenty of options!

Interestingly I am reading the diaries of Captain Robert Scott from the time of his last ill fated expedition to the South Pole. New Year’s Day in 1912 was a Monday. He died before the spring but his diaries were discovered 8 months later in his frozen tent alongside him and his two companions. 
 
The diaries were turned into a book produced in two volumes entitled Scott’s Last Expedition which I inherited from my grandfather through my father. He acquired a first edition in 1913 when it was first published. A gripping tale. There is an entry for almost everyday of the expedition until the day he died, when he wrote his last words. 

All the best wishes!   Busy holiday period as always,   but a great time,  busy New Year's Eve with clients and a great start to 2024
Many positive wishes and a great year!

one more thing to consider - lots of victims of these type crimes do not report to police.  they’re embarrassed & afraid.  
I’ll bet this was not the first time this guy did this to unsuspecting clients and/or app hookups.  The crime is too brazen & methodical for the first time.  He was on RM in Miami with the old profile for at least 6-8 months before he changed it in July 23.
One more reason to be extremely careful who is hired and who enters the home.  My first scan of provider profiles when considering someone new is to take out the red flag profiles for personal safety reasons alone. This guy didn’t have any red flags & had good reviews on RM, nothing negative.  I think the the reason I didn’t hire him is because I thought he looked like a tweaker in some of the pics (the pics in the old profile were different & more conservative looking……but still there was something off in the eyes) and maybe there was drug use …..lt was just a gut feeling and now I feel like I dodged a bullet. Reality check ✔️
 

To all here on the site, many happy wishes for a wonderful holiday!  Thank you to those who have become my friend!  Appreciate all.

I don’t look at client profiles. I just don’t find it necessary because the client usually tells me what I need to know when they book. I’m not bothered by what they look like either so I don’t need a picture. 
I think that sometimes clients don’t fully understand what they like so they’re unlikely to put it in their profile (or they’ll be shy about stating it in their profile) so this is why I’m not taking much notice of profiles. 
In my experience what happens is they find out what they like through a series of sessions with you. You introduce them to things they weren’t previously aware of. Thats why they’re coming to a professional: to be taken on a journey they’d probably not take on their own. So whilst I like to know a little about my client I don’t want to know a lot. 
However, I do keep notes of what clients like so that if they come back I know what works for them and it makes a better session. That’s the best thing to do: explore with them and pay attention to what they like so you can recreate it next session, but keeping things fresh with small tweaks and surprises. I think a good mix is 80% familiar tried and tested content and 20% new or different things. 
 

A good personality goes a long way. I’ve had sex with tons of guys that I wasn’t particularly attracted to because they had a cute face, or a great sense of humor, or were interesting or I wanted them out of my apartment. 

When you are selfish and do not care for others, why should others love you and take care of you? It is sad how some posters generalize their miseries to everyone.
I have an extended family. Every single elder has been taken care of. My mother, 85 y.o., is the last living matriarch in one of my family brunches, and not only myself and my siblings are making sure she has a happy and safe life, but also an army of cousins. I have many friends back in Argentina who have not abandoned their elders. And it is not a cultural thing. I have several friends here in the US, who care deeply for their parents in their 80s. 
I do believe that we reap what we saw. 

It has a lot to do with being comfortable with yourself, and specially, with being in the right place at the right time. No one is denying that as we age, our value in the sex market goes down. But going down does not mean going bankrupt. 
Also, as we age, many of us switch to living mostly indoors and with less social contacts. This is a key for your hooking up prospects. When I am in DC, as I refuse to get involved to anyone in my job, I do not hook up as often as when I am in vacation. Once I am in the streets, and out, and hanging out, poom, the candidates show up (again, in a lower amount than they used to do when I was in my prime time.) 
I feel specially fortunate to find myself hanging out with porn stars in some of my trips. You would be surprised the opportunities I was able to catch, just because I was there. 

I have met Jay numerous times over the last couple of years. He's an amazing guy who never disappoints. He's incredibly sexy and skilled at what he does, as well as a kind and sweet personality. He radiates great energy when you are with him. 

I have met Jay numerous times over the last couple of years. He's an amazing guy who never disappoints. He's incredibly sexy and skilled at what he does, as well as a kind and sweet personality. He radiates great energy when you are with him. 

First, I want to thank @Charlie for bringing up a difficult topic that most of us would just rather avoid. Unfortunately, I’ve seen the results of ignoring this topic. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t end pretty. Planning and open honest discussions are everything. 
For context, I have an older brother…useless. Two nephews….both very kind, both very useless. 
The best advice I can give is to work closely with an estate planner to ensure you have the resources available to provide care for yourself. As always talking with your accountant and lawyer about these things is a good idea. They’ve seen hundreds of scenarios (the good, the bad, and the ugly) play out over their careers. Listen to them, even if what they’re telling you sounds harsh and/or unpleasant. They know what works, and what doesn’t work.
Also, make sure everyone around you knows your exit plan. It’s different for all of us. So far, knowing I have an escape hatch, has brought me great calm and helped me survive life’s inevitable rough spots. As they say in disaster planning: during a disaster, nothing will go the way you planned, but at least you had a plan
Finally, go out of your way to engage with people younger than you. Yes, this can be incredibly difficult. You will have to endure listening to them talk about things that you find banal and/or that to which you can’t even remotely relate. You will worry about your relationship being a "burden" on them. They will have to endure listening to you bitch about how much you hate getting older (hint: don’t do it. No one cares and they will start avoiding you if you do.). Be exceedingly kind, generous, and patient with them. In other words, be the friend you want to have. Nothing more, nothing less. At first it may feel strained or artificial. Do it anyways. Bonds develop over time. Most of us sell ourselves short on what we bring to the table for a younger generation. The friends I have watched "grow old gracefully" were the ones who mastered this step most of all. 
On a funny note, the other day I was musing out loud about this topic with my trainer. He unexpectedly piped in with “don’t worry about it bro, that’s what you have me for". I shot back with "I’m talking about the hard part, like having someone to wipe my ass, not someone to count to ten at my bedside". His response?…"the only hard part is going to be keeping you from grabbing my ass while I’m wiping yours." We both had a good laugh and got back to the work out. He’s not my Plan A, but it’s nice to know he wants to be there. 

First and foremost as useful as this forum is it's a small fish in a big pond. Not every provider masseur or client knows it exists. Of those that do, it's probably a relative small number of those that hire. So just because someone has a lot of reviews on RM doesn't mean anyone here has met the guy.
Secondly, there are a lot of lurkers on this forum who don't post for whatever reason. They just don't feel comfortable possibly speaking up about someone being asked about on the forum. Also some of the members can get overzealous in the defense of an escort and may make potential commentators fearful of, well... commenting.
Thirdly, some escorts actively try to keep from getting reviews. They'll ask clients to not make comments or reviews for any number of reasons.
There is no prohibited list or at least not one I'm aware of on this forum.
Ultimately some guys will just fall through the cracks even if they seem popular on RM.

We all have people who we desire and some who we have a chance to meet.  But this kind of obsession is unhealthy when that object of desire makes it clear they are not interested and you can't let go of the fact your opportunity has passed. Mourn the loss and move on with your life before the disappointment consumes more of your time than it's worth. 

Incredible weekend last week.   This one is a little different with the 80's disappearing,  replaced by chilly temps and less than advantageous  weather outside.
Normally very active outside,  but spending a few minutes with the beagles and some great gym time.    Will be working too.
How is your weekend looking?

After watching Dahmer, the only precaution I take now is to stop watching Ryan Murphy shows.