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I remember him from years ago. Back then, he had a very good body (having recently been on the US gymnastics team IIRC). We had a very nice, vanilla date and I guess he would, in today’s parlance, be best described as a short king.

Bless you, @Charlie As long as you have a strong and comprehensive memory, you can (like me) reflect on and enjoy again the wonderful times you had in the past.

I agree. It’s fundamentally a question of trust. I had a boyfriend who was a model; he had a superb physique and travelled regularly for work. Whenever anyone at our gym asked me if I ever worried or was jealous about him having sex with others when away from home, I used a variation on this theme as my response: “he always comes home to me and to sleep in our bed”. Put simply, people lie and/or dissemble. The boyfriend I mention above made all the running in our relationship. He told others I was his boyfriend and he told me he loved me. We were living together for over 12 months before I found out that, apart from the modelling work, he was an ultra-discreet escort. We had a painful and tearful discussion, and we persevered. My advice to the OP would be to sit down and frankly discuss your concerns and fears. You should not assume anything. Ask about how you can safeguard your sexual health in future…and get fully tested now if you’re uncertain. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries (or ‘red lines’) if that’s what you want, eg no overnight dates with clients or certain events are sacrosanct and his presence with you is non-negotiable.

That would be an excellent extension to the offerings on Prime 😎

That was intemperate of you. Let’s call it a rookie mistake. You wait charmingly until you’re given expensive jewellery. Then you delete any online details.

As @Rudynate noted, this constitutes a powerful attraction. I also saw that you’d had 5 overnights and several multi-hour bookings with him. So my guess is that you have a considerable emotional investment in the relationship. Yet your precise needs - which you explained clearly - are not being met. What I could not discern is whether he brought you to orgasm every time. FWIW I had something similar with a guy years ago. He was an Adonis (notably goodlooking, working as a model, with a superb physique) who had a submissive streak and liked to please. He was perfect for me as I really enjoy the BFE, topping energetically and being sucked off to completion as a session ends. The similar ‘problem’ was that he would rarely climax. And I also like to see my guys climax. I’m selfish so it’s not essential, but I find it thrilling to have my partner climax. As I enjoyed his company so much (overnights and weekend trips), I spent considerable time exploring when he could and did climax. Note that we talked this over in private when relaxed (ie when my needs had been met). It became clear that it was more of a psychological problem. For instance, he could not pee in public or in front of other men. He felt shame. Over time, the ‘key’ was for me to hire another fit muscleboy. The final part of a session would be, after I’d unloaded, that the two hot guys masturbated while physically separated. Sometimes I’d hold my guy from behind and stroke his cock; sometimes I’d let him stroke himself. The other muscleboy would shoot first and then my guy would climax. Another successful stratagem exploring his ‘shame’ was to tie him up (which he loved). Sometimes this was a prelude to spanking him; sometimes I edged him in a leisurely session. If you are still invested to some extent, and decide you’d like to salvage what you can, I’d urge you to have a conversation with him about how and when he does climax successfully. If, as you state, you just want to move to seeing him when he’s around (no trips, no multi-hour bookings), I’d write a polite text saying how greatly you enjoyed the previous dates, but now you will want to see him just for an hour when he happens to be in your city.

I saw it at the weekend, on a large screen with very good sound, amid a well-behaved audience of fans. I enjoyed it greatly. It was tremendous fun. I particularly admired how they incorporated aspects of the original classic film; the filming of those scenes was inspired. I was also surprised that the acting of Cynthia Erivo was so good. My only small quibble is that we didn’t see enough of Jonathan Bailey’s physique in the love scenes.

I enjoy giving a light spanking before topping, especially if it’s to a muscleboy with a bubble-butt. I love getting my cock worshipped fully but initially I had a provider who didn’t like the taste of cum. So I had to concentrate on pulling out before climax. It was very frustrating for me. So on later hirings, I decided to speak about it in advance. I simply related how I wanted to get oral to completion, and not have to worry about pulling out. I offered some flexibility by saying I didn’t care if a guy swallowed my load or not. Luckily I met a couple of muscleboys who were skilled oralists. Each of them told me they enjoyed pleasing a top by swallowing loads.

This really resonated with me. Currently I have a friend in his 40s (expert corporate lawyer) being made redundant by a very profitable multinational. This too resonated. I have a good friend in his mid-60s who doesn’t save and doesn’t realise how financially reckless he is. I’m very concerned for him but he rejects advice.

They’re indeed professional photos, taken by the great NYC photographer of male bodies R1ck D@y. Yes, they’re a couple in real life. I just happened to see their IG stories. I can’t recall precise details, but I think putting real names here is prohibited. I can’t help with any info on how well they perform (either singly or as a couple) but they both have good ripped physiques.

I can’t comment on whether this is a recent phenomenon. Years ago, however, I was close to 3 working guys for several years. Each of them mentioned to me that at some point clients (and men seeking to be) had been rude or mean to them. One even remarked that I’d be “shocked” if he told me in detail how badly some men behaved. As a general observation, I’d say that public manners have worsened in recent years. I’ve noticed this even in Spain which always prized good and gentlemanly behaviour in public.

Interesting thread and observations @PhileasFogg I too like younger men. I’ve always enjoyed the ‘boyfriend experience’ and longer dates allow me to explore and deepen the relationship. I agree with the three characteristics listed, especially the third. I want intelligent conversation at dinner and over breakfast. Getting a young person’s perspective on current affairs and politics is of great interest to me. I’m somewhat vanilla sexually in that I truly enjoy being a top and I’ve no interest in kink. In my 20s, I enjoyed dating goodlooking young men aged 21-35, with fit, muscled bodies. Over the successive decades since then, my tastes haven’t changed at all. I still prize handsome muscleboys and jocks, especially if they have a compliant nature and like to please. My “focus has evolved” on the physical front: I no longer set great store on fucking; I still want a passionate engagement (kissing & cuddling); I value a skilled cocksucker and I delight in a guy who swallows my load.

Interesting thread @RyanDean Thanks for posting; I’d no idea this existed on TikTok

I think that’s an instance of bad auto-correct. IMO it should read “Def NOT safe if misused”

This is ‘a blast from the past’. He must be in his mid-40s by now. I saw him once about 20 years ago. He was an attractive man but, as I recall, he did very little on film. An acquaintance told me he had a date with him; the date was disappointing. I too recall that he went to jail but I don’t remember the details.

To answer the OP’s question: I would never discuss this with a stranger. Indeed, @purplekow I wouldn’t discuss my sexual history and prior dating experience on a first date with anyone. I’m not there to answer a volley of questions. I am interested to learn what interests they have, what motivates them and how they take pleasure in life. I do consider over-sharing to be a modern malaise. For me, the best answer was given earlier by @nycman I too believe in honesty within a relationship and I’ve always made ‘full disclosure’ to my various partners over the years.

On this scale, I’m a 5

Possibly he was wearing just sneakers and a jockstrap? Possibly he was fully clothed but with the addition of custom knee-pads? Possibly he was bare-chested, kneeling and making the acquaintance of another man? The possibilities are endless…

I love a cutie…but I lust for a hottie

No disrespect @Ali Gator but in my view, you’re being too cheap. And the only person who will suffer here is you. You’ve dreamed and thought of this man a lot. Now he’s available and you put obstacles in your own path. I feel you will bitterly regret not taking the glorious opportunity offered to you.

You forgot to state how often you include in your diet some of “all the cute guys” you mentioned earlier…😎

I feel you should shop daily @Luv2play. A heathy body can best be maintained by a varied diet of fresh produce. 😎

I’d like to add ‘my two cents’ for the OP. If your date doesn’t find you attractive @DMonDude - or if you fear that - ask him to focus on the features of Benjamin Franklin that they will soon be fondling. A lot of working guys truly like him, and some even find him readily arousing.

I’ve had similar requests for help and expert advice over the years. If I barely know someone, I tend to smile and give a very brief response. If a person persists, I comment that ‘it’s complicated’ and ‘it’ll take me time to research (or answer) so I’ll have to charge’. That deters most. If someone does insist, I say ‘I’ll have to consult my diary and I’ll need an immediate large retainer’ Once I met a great young man for what was a terrific first date. He’d done a little research on me and at the outset, enthused about my work and asked me various questions as he wanted to make a career in this area. I answered politely but briefly. Then I deflected by saying “ there’s so much to talk about, so let’s talk over coffee afterwards. I want to spend our time together by getting naked and seeing how compatible we are”. I felt then that I’d handled it well. He performed as agreed and we were both happy. He didn’t offer me coffee later and we didn’t discuss his career plan further. It was a great date but no repeat. Other times, people I like and know have asked for help and I’ve obliged. It’s easier with people I know but don’t like: I simply say ‘unfortunately, I have to charge’ and I’ve named a fee of 6-10x what I’d normally charge.

There may be tough days ahead of you @SomethingFun but for what it’s worth, I feel you’ve made the right decision. Now get yourself a good (aka aggressive) lawyer to handle the divorce. In the future, you and he might be friends as @PhileasFogg suggested but give yourself plenty of time and space first. And don’t rush into a second marriage even if you suddenly meet a great-seeming man.