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The only thing limiting you is your own creativity! I like to encourage clients to imagine what they would want for longer sessions. Massage, working out together, playing video games, shopping, meals, Jamie’s bathhouse idea…the possibilities are endless. Then of course there’s always the simple cuddle and conversation approach, which is always nice.
Clients vary in their sexual and non-sexual needs and desires. What works for one client in an hour may work better for you in two. You might enjoy quick (and perhaps multiple) rounds, or going for a long stretch at a time with a lot of buildup, and perhaps some breaks, or alternating back and forth between activities. Some clients really like extended edging, for example, which takes a considerable amount of session time.
Sometimes things change in a session. You thought you wanted one thing, but emotionally and physically you feel like doing something else in the moment, so you pivot, and that’s ok. A good pro Iwill roll with it. The most important thing is that you’re getting the experience you want and that you’re satisfied, no matter how long or short the session. The key is to know yourself well enough to budget enough time, which gives you the emotional space to fully enjoy the experience. These things cost a lot of money. You want to savor it.
There is no one-size-fits all. You’re in total control of the session and responsible for communicating your needs to your provider. Doing so maximizes the value of your hiring time.

At least Beancounter’s obituary won’t read “He savaged the reputation of a man who had once been his friend, waiting until he was dead and couldn’t answer back.” 

@Big Don Weho……I’m somewhat numb reading everything you wrote.  I’m only sure of one thing.  You will not be writing my obituary.   

I DEFINITELY made sure my session with MuscleVIP was an outcall after reading about the jealous boyfriend.

What upsets me MOST is being confronted with another client of the escort leaving, just as I get there. That totally pisses me off. I don't know why, but it really does.
 
Or cum stains from a previous session still on the escorts body, as we get started. Seriously, please wipe yourself off.
 
Or the jealous boyfriend of the escort waiting outside, in the hall way, while we are in session. Happened to me with MuscleVIP - DutchPR.
 
Or pictures of girlfriend, wife or kids in full view.

Yup I did…..and just….WOW….!!!

Not every provider needs to offer every service. Sounds like overnights may not be a good match for you, and that’s fine. 
 
Kevin Slater 

I don't understand this paragraph:
"Then there's the openly blatant con artists. One guy, I was purely willing to hire, but I thought it reasonable to ask him why 3 of his 15 RM reviews were bad. He told me he was insulted by the question. Luckily, he was honest enough to cancel the session before I would have."
If you read his reviews and were concerned that 20% of them were bad, why contact him at all?  If it's because you wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, wouldn't there be a better way to approach the question than basically putting him on the defensive with the demand to explain himself?  Perhaps your perception that he was a "blatant con artist" came through and that contributed to his feeling insulted by you.  I would have been insulted as well.
As to the rate question, I don't think it's insulting or rude for someone to ask for whatever he wants just like it isn't rude of clients to decline to pay more than they think is reasonable.  What is rude is either person copping an attitude because they didn't get what they wanted from the other person.

This reads like an infomercial.

That’s it. But money isn’t the only reason, it’s part of the story yes but there’s also the fun of meeting people and the thrill of the work. You can’t do it for long if money is the only reason. 

You do understand what a job is, right?
Kevin Slater

Problems with racism occur right here on this very forum. You can absolutely believe that we experience it in work. 

@nycmanI am with you.
A  high-pressure, language-challenging expensive dinner date for the first meeting?
I am not a judgmental person. But that is some freaky-ass shit. 
😂
 

I always have fresh bottles of water or canned seltzer for visitors. One brazilian escort told me he was once drugged and would never take a drink from anyone. 

I hooked up with New Jersey bodybuilder Nick T a few years ago and it was amazing. I asked him to work out and not shower before we met - I’m big into natural guy scents. Some of the session highlights - he laid on top of me, pressing his sweaty body against mine, and let me feast on his massive muscle butt. I still remember how it smelled and tasted. Kissed his handsome face too. One of my favorite hires - quality muscle and a nice guy to boot.

I've had the opportunity to work (or play, depending on how you look at it) with other escorts. I found it prudent to lay out the difference between a threesome and a voyeur-centric session as many times things can naturally turn into the former. At no fault of the client, but if rates are to change based on a pre-arranged session type, it should be adjusted in short order. It has never been an obstacle and the clients have understood.
With voyeur-centric sessions, I have offered the client my dedicated work phone to snap photos that I would in turn edit to watermark, remove face/other details that myself or the escort I'm with wishes to have removed. A bit of a personal touch.

Yuppers. Very interactive.
 

 
They were at the top of my list. Was about to book them when they were visiting here a few years ago but in our text convos I asked if race is an issue, to which the response was they're only into caucasians. Moved on.

I believe payments should always be in cash unless otherwise noted. Its a huge pet peeve of mine if someone asks to pay electronically after the appointment. I never ask prior, but feel I need to put a disclaimer in my ad to avoid more electronic payment as its becoming more prevalent. I couldn't believe it last month when a client paid me in paypal and then hes like "you're reallly first name - last name I've seen your facebook". LOL not a way to build rapport. I also had a client realize I knew his brother after paying me on paypal and he freaked out.
 
CASH IS KING!

Definitely overthinking things. If this is a fantasy: "they are just pieces of meat lying there for me to perve over" ....it's fair game. Actually anything is fair game as long as it's consensual. Escorts are in business to provide a service to their clients and help them live a fantasy. If as a client you want to get what you want out of the experience, it is incumbent on you to clearly communicate what you want. And then do a little homework to be sure they will deliver. If you communicate nothing before or during the experience, your provider will be befuddled, feeling around in the dark as it were. Suggest you clearly communicate the scenario you are looking for as part of the selection/booking process, you will have fewer disappointments. Good luck PS this hobby IS objectification, that's the point so try not to fret about it.

$500 for an hour with a straight ( but flexible ) steel roofer. Worth every penny. I came across his instagram and thought fuck it, nothing ventured nothing gained so I discreetly DM'd him. One of the best experiences I've had.

If you notice ZERO pics without facial hair, then it is absolutely NOT okay to ask him to shave just for you. That is selfish as well as insulting.
 
Being older than advertised or even less in shape than advertised is forgivable, but altering body hair suggestions is a major foul.

I have just seen this topic. I still don't want to believe it...
 
It was 2009, San Francisco, and my first ever review was published on Daddysreviews by a long-standing member here. I had no idea what this site was so I went to check it out and shortly after my cell phone rang. A gentleman introduced himself as "Daddy" and told me that my review got published on his website. He asked me a few non-intrusive questions that were geared towards finding out whether the money I make through this means is being invested for my future. Again, and I must emphasize this, he did that in the most non-intrusive way as one possibly could have. I felt that he just genuinely wanted to ensure that I am on the right path to creating financial independence for myself in the long run. We covered a few other aspects of the industry and he offered me a helping hand in case I ever needed a piece of advice.
 
Soon after my first published review came the second, third --- 20th, and 30th, and my business has exploded and I was full of quality inquiries. Surely, providing a great service doesn't hurt but without the ability for people to research their next "date" on a platform like his, how would anyone know about my abilities?
 
But business (while obviously in our lives is key) was truly NOT what Daddy was all about. He was in it to help people. Genuinely.
 
I had the pleasure to meet him on numerous occasions at a variety of restaurants and many times at his apartment in Las Vegas. We even met during the pandemic (the chair was waiting for me at the entrance to sit on) while he distanced himself from me by being in front of his computer on the other side of the apartment and we were both wearing masks. The "HOW" never really mattered, but every meeting with him was always highly insightful and entertaining.... and very genuine. Many of you probably didn't get the chance to truly know who was behind this nickname/website and I am very grateful that I had the pleasure of conducting more than just superficial chit-chats with him.
 
For those of you who don't know, he was a computer whiz and had incredible talents at forensics and used to be retained as a forensic expert in multi-billion dollar lawsuit cases back in the day. This speaks volumes of the in-depth knowledge he had about certain fields in computers.
 
Talking about talent, he used to be an escort himself (waaaaaaaaaaay) back in the day. He wasn't always overweight and was rather hot. He told me so many funny stories about providing services in LA/Beverly Hills to some of the Hollywood elites. They were extremely entertaining stories.
 
He never cared about the money. He went as far as to flat-out decline highly lucrative promotional/marketing/advertising offers if he disagreed with how the company conducted its business in the gay world, whether we are talking about advertising practices, treatment of others, or the mission the company stood for. He was a principles guy, yet - needless to say - non-judgmental.
 
Every time we talked - without an exception - he had his "routine" questions:
- Are you happy?
- Do you put a certain percentage of your money aside and invest it?
- Do you take time out to have fun and enjoy life too?
 
This should tell you about the type of person Bill was.
 
(With names redacted), he showed me all kinds of escort inquiries where the guys offered him free sessions in exchange for promotion/bad review removal/self-review postings. He NEVER abused his position and always maintained his integrity.
 
He was a big fan of Latin guys with muscles and cute butts. Who can blame him, right?! Yet... never ran out of compliments for me when we met.
 
We talked about a few side projects of his too. Some of you may not know, but a few years back he was running a website that was teaching the transgender community about proper accessorizing / makeup / wigs and how to start out. He was also running it on his own dime and received no compensation for it.
 
On my last in-person visit during COVID, we actually started discussing either a joint business venture or a certain promotional opportunity about a website that would have served as an extension of DaddysReviews. We have never finalized the details and sadly, that will not happen anymore. It would have been great to work with him I am sure.
 
I just want you gentlemen to understand how this person sacrificed most of his life to help our community. He never asked for anything in return and I know exactly how much of his life he sacrificed for others. He changed my life, and probably many of your lives I am certain or the very bottom line, his work made your life a little easier in this crazy world.
 
I hope that he is in a good place now, his contributions, his helping hand, his guidance, and the amount of care and love he put out for all of us will be remembered (at least by me) for a LIFETIME.
 
When @Cooper reached out to me, I was shocked to hear that I was probably the only person who knew his address. He was so loving, welcoming and open that I thought he kept company often times at his home. I also would like to take this opportunity to thank Cooper for taking immediate actions and for keeping everyone posted. I am so truly sorry it ended this way. :-(
 
THANK YOU BILL/DADDY/GUY FAWKES WITH ALL MY HEART! ❤

I wish I had a solution, but if I go out with friends with limited means, I let them chose the restaurant. It may not always be my choice, as I prefer and don't mind spending more for memorable experiences, but I'm good as long as the company is nice and genuine. It's also not always good to pick up the bill in those places as it makes the relationship very unequal, and I don't like that either. For travel, I usually travel with like minded friends who have similar budgets and tastes in hotels and restaurants... so we haven't had much issue there.

My session with him is the only one I’ve ever cut short and walked out on.

He was in vegas twice. Both times I inquired with him since he is so my type. Each time I just got a hunch not to pull the trigger. Glad I listened to my gut.
 
His buddy joey sullivan was an awesome encounter when he came to vegas last spring. Great hire and would totally hire him again.