MrMattBig

There is a difference between acting on interests blindly and describing them.
For example, " you available sir? Tight hole here waiting to feel that Mandingo black cock gape my hole." Versus, " saw you ad, are you available?
Verbal sub here into dominate black men and like to emphasis roles with language like Mandingo, bbc, and the like. If this could be you let me know."
Yes this is a service industry. Yes, if you can't stand the fire, get out of the kitchen. But hearing things phrased like the first example just rubs you the wrong way when you hear it enough, and when more times than not those inquires turn out to be fantasy texters or cheap, and than go on to demean you afterwards. I'm Hispanic, but I have experienced language like my first example with regards to kinks and bdsm often. When someone approaches me like the second example, it makes me horny. The first example makes me want a glass of wine, sit them down, and have a long talk with them about how to approach and talk to people.

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

You really are one of the best in the business Matt and I'm glad that you took the time you needed to do some self-care. Really happy that you are back though and hoping to reconnect soon. 

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

Hello everyone!
It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

To add some quick experience regarding check-in and availability to see clients:
I generally aim to check-in by 11am and available for appointments starting at 1pm.
During Covid and lower capacity, it's generally been easier to check in before posted check in times. Once you make some rounds, you start to know which areas of cities, and which hotels you can get away with getting in at 9:30am or have to wait til 2:30pm

Jim's on South/4th did it for me.

Contrary to some beliefs, eating in close proximity will not create another bowel movement (no need to worry about the chicken salad you had at noon when you are bottoming at 3pm.) If it something you may be sensitive too (extra cheese pizza, chocolate milkshake, McDonald's) that's a different story, or if certain medications are affecting or digestive system. Keep in mind though that when you do eat, it triggers your digestive system to work to expel what it is currently working on to make room for the next thing. So while it may not be necessary to fast for 12 hours, if it makes you feel more comfortable and confident bottoming, continue on. I find 12 hours is within an average, so to be safe maybe push a few extra hours.
Here's a time table of mine to keep in context.
 
If I have a 6pm appointment to bottom, I'll make sure I don't eat past midnight the night before, and have my first meal around 1pm the day of.
 
Using large volumes of water when cleaning helps to not need such a strict time table, but if for whatever reason you are going to stick to small volumes, a time table like this would be the safest route.

At least for me, the issue is with you using such hatefully connotative language such as "rather repulsive". Its just slang/cultural language. If it doesn't make sense to you or is stupid, that's fine, but no need to feel repulsed by it. Not to say your homophobic, but to me that's the same type of mental processing that leads to homophobia and other prejudices in our culture as a whole.

It is always nice to have a client forward a forum about you to you. I wonder what would have been said if RMan did not respond.
 
I never have told anyone of my "restrictions" I honestly do not have any. I actually love to kiss... I find it rather rude to text or call me and say "Do you like to kiss?'' without a carried conversation. There are better ways to find the answer to your question. I am not a toy so do not treat me like one. I give everyone the common curiosity and respond no matter how rude they come off. Till this day I have not had one client that did NOT repeat or intend on meeting me after our first date. The way my personality is I like to have good time no matter what the situation is and I wouldn't be a male escort if I was a very restricted or rude person. Also being bi has nothing to do with anything, I enjoy both men and women. Rather or not I am gay, straight, or bi does not make me more or less. It only means I enjoy my meetings with clients, no matter who they are. It does not matter if I am on RM or BP. The tone of voice in text is subjective. If you would like to get a better gauge of the type of person I am, I do have brief public meet and greet options available for those who would like to do so. Needless to say you will get a short and curt response if you come off rude or ask me what is on the menu.
 
SMH some guys forget they are talking to real men...

Don't fake it, embrace it?

Answers to this question may vary.
My point of view and opinion : any amount above the session rate is appreciated.
Even better than tips are longer sessions in the future, regularly booked appointments, offers to meals or events, etc.
 
If an amount is to be referenced, I would say 20-60$

Answers to this question may vary.
My point of view and opinion : any amount above the session rate is appreciated.
Even better than tips are longer sessions in the future, regularly booked appointments, offers to meals or events, etc.
 
If an amount is to be referenced, I would say 20-60$

Well $60 on $300 is 20%, I think it comes down to personal tipping habits, some 10% is their norm, others it's 50%. Even outside of industry norms (dining, nail salons, etc) some stick to their own habits. You do you regardless, I'll happily accept a larger tip from anyone ?
 
Blank checks too!...well I digress now we are into findom territory

Me, I understand cold feet, changing your mind. I hire girls once or twice a year so I get it. What I don't understand is the self centered nature of communication or lack thereof nowadays. Like others have pointed out, it permeates other industries besides sex work. "How long you in town for" or "I'll get back to you" 99% if the time means this isn't happening from their end. I'll usually give cancelations a free pass as far as consideration for another booking. But when someone says they will follow up and doesn't, or when I ask if a certain time will work or ask what their availability is and get no response, if someone does that a second time it's usually a blacklist from me. Just communicate upfront, not that hard.
 
I have someone in Boston who has hit me up at least a half dozen times inquires but an appointment doesn't materialize. But I would meet with them in a heartbeat if it ever does. Why? Because they have communicated upfront about their situation.

Answers to this question may vary.
My point of view and opinion : any amount above the session rate is appreciated.
Even better than tips are longer sessions in the future, regularly booked appointments, offers to meals or events, etc.
 
If an amount is to be referenced, I would say 20-60$

Possibility of a Lakers v. Nets Finals matchup would be wild!

Me, I understand cold feet, changing your mind. I hire girls once or twice a year so I get it. What I don't understand is the self centered nature of communication or lack thereof nowadays. Like others have pointed out, it permeates other industries besides sex work. "How long you in town for" or "I'll get back to you" 99% if the time means this isn't happening from their end. I'll usually give cancelations a free pass as far as consideration for another booking. But when someone says they will follow up and doesn't, or when I ask if a certain time will work or ask what their availability is and get no response, if someone does that a second time it's usually a blacklist from me. Just communicate upfront, not that hard.
 
I have someone in Boston who has hit me up at least a half dozen times inquires but an appointment doesn't materialize. But I would meet with them in a heartbeat if it ever does. Why? Because they have communicated upfront about their situation.

Me, I understand cold feet, changing your mind. I hire girls once or twice a year so I get it. What I don't understand is the self centered nature of communication or lack thereof nowadays. Like others have pointed out, it permeates other industries besides sex work. "How long you in town for" or "I'll get back to you" 99% if the time means this isn't happening from their end. I'll usually give cancelations a free pass as far as consideration for another booking. But when someone says they will follow up and doesn't, or when I ask if a certain time will work or ask what their availability is and get no response, if someone does that a second time it's usually a blacklist from me. Just communicate upfront, not that hard.
 
I have someone in Boston who has hit me up at least a half dozen times inquires but an appointment doesn't materialize. But I would meet with them in a heartbeat if it ever does. Why? Because they have communicated upfront about their situation.

Asking for you to call them an Uber from your account is not uncommon, as @harey pointed out could be their way to weed out flakes and have the client cover that overhead so they see more profit from the appointment fee.
 
If someone asks you to send them money to cover the Uber, extremely high probability of being a scam.

ATL and other US metro areas might be affected by what's going on here in Vegas, Pandemic emergency declarations affecting ability to surge price and therefore affecting how many drivers are going to elect to drive and be available. Currently, if I can't get a ride from a friend back home from a late night outcall, i most likely won't accept the appointment, because I'll encounter the same experience of struggling to get a ride from ride share. So yes, time of day, and availability of public transport do matter (most services still have limited time schedules) @RJD . All this to say I'm one that takes public transportation everywhere unless for groceries, heavy luggage, or tight time schedule. However, I agree with @marylander1940 "If a client wants someone ASAP and it's late at night he should pay for the Uber or even better Ubering the guy to him."
I have someone who periodically hits me up when I'm in Socal who wants an outcall but by public transportation is effectively 2.5 hours away. Even if I'm slow, it's just not possible to go to him and come back for the one incall I'll have later at my location or get to him within his window of availability, which is usually early or short notice.
If someone wants short notice or ASAP outcall, which seems to be the majority of initial inquires at least, it should be the going gesture to offer to Uber/Lyft the provider there.
 
Either way, local transportation is still Covid affected, by limited time schedules and ride share issues, so both clients and providers I would hope have more patience and flexibility during these times still.