Paying for the Uber

[Doe Be Doe]

I have recently contacted several escorts that I have not met before. All were very nice, asked for a normal fee, and asked that I pay for their transportation to me and then back home. I have been using the same escorts for a long time and I never pay their transportation fee. Is paying for the Uber a new norm?

[+ harey]

Requesting Uber is not uncommon in my area, although I prefer if the providers are big boys and manage their own transportation. Perhaps this is a way to weed out flaky clients, because it’s money up front and the address is shared.

[MrMattBig]

Asking for you to call them an Uber from your account is not uncommon, as @harey pointed out could be their way to weed out flakes and have the client cover that overhead so they see more profit from the appointment fee.

 

If someone asks you to send them money to cover the Uber, extremely high probability of being a scam.

[thickornotatall]

I've always taken responsibility to get to and from work on my own. If an escort can't afford to pay for their own way not interested..I'd gladly pay for an Uber and deduct the price from my fee. In most large cities public transport is readily available for a nominal price..

[John]

I find that traveling escorts are generally the ones who ask for an Uber. I don't pay it and break off discussions as soon as the request is made. At the same time, I have never objected to a surcharge for an out call as additional time is involved.

[down_to_business]

Just like I have no desire to pay by the act as opposed to the meet, I have no willingness to discuss add-ons and fees. Set your rates (with uber transportation costs included) but don't break them down into add-on fees.. it's a turn-off. It's bad enough dealing with that shit booking hotels, rental cars, and airlines.

[marylander1940]

I have recently contacted several escorts that I have not met before. All were very nice, asked for a normal fee, and asked that I pay for their transportation to me and then back home. I have been using the same escorts for a long time and I never pay their transportation fee. Is paying for the Uber a new norm?

 

Uber them to you, they'll be happy you're treating them as gentlemen even before meeting them.

 

Asking for you to call them an Uber from your account is not uncommon, as @harey pointed out could be their way to weed out flakes and have the client cover that overhead so they see more profit from the appointment fee.

 

If someone asks you to send them money to cover the Uber, extremely high probability of being a scam.

 

Exactly! It's a way for both the provider and the client to know they're for real and not flaky. Considering so many clients complaining about no shows I think it's a great idea for him to know the guy is actually coming.

 

I've always taken responsibility to get to and from work on my own. If an escort can't afford to pay for their own way not interested..I'd gladly pay for an Uber and deduct the price from my fee. In most large cities public transport is readily available for a nominal price..

 

if you're deducting the price from your payment you're not actually paying for it.

 

You have used the same phrase before, very few times posters (clients and escorts) refer to their activity as "work". Technology and times do change! Years ago escorts had no iPhone and before not even a cellphone. Uber is a new tool for them, why not using it?

 

If a client wants someone ASAP and it's late at night he should pay for the Uber or even better Ubering the guy to him.

Edited April 17, 2021 by marylander1940

[newhudson]

This whole Uber thing is a modern development that I refuse to participate in. It used to be, for example, incall $300.00, outcall $350.00. Now it's outcall $350.00 (or more) plus Uber. I thought the reason for the extra $50 was to cover travel. I'm in NYC and we have a perfectly quick and efficient subway system which is faster, and immensely cheaper than getting around by a hired automobile. If the escort is too high-bred to stoop to the level of taking public transportation then he's too prissy for me anyway. If I'm really stuck on seeing the guy I tell him I'd rather give him a higher tip than give it to a chauffeur and risk him arriving late due to traffic problems and adding to pollution.

NYC subway is not very efficient

[filmbuff78]

I don't like to do it because they're using my account. If they cause any problems, damages, etc, I get the repercussions and the fallout. I have done it if they're traveling and want to do the session at their hotel, but are willing to make an exception to do an outcall if I pay for the Uber.

[Astorplace]

Wow. some of you guys are very stingy.

 

Considering escort rates have not gone up with inflation over the past 10 years or so, Paying a bit more for an Uber is not too much to ask for.

[+ RJD]

This whole Uber thing is a modern development that I refuse to participate in. It used to be, for example, incall $300.00, outcall $350.00. Now it's outcall $350.00 (or more) plus Uber. I thought the reason for the extra $50 was to cover travel. I'm in NYC and we have a perfectly quick and efficient subway system which is faster, and immensely cheaper than getting around by a hired automobile. If the escort is too high-bred to stoop to the level of taking public transportation then he's too prissy for me anyway. If I'm really stuck on seeing the guy I tell him I'd rather give him a higher tip than give it to a chauffeur and risk him arriving late due to traffic problems and adding to pollution.

 

Exactly. The extra for outcall should be to cover the travel expense.

[+ RJD]

Wow. some of you guys are very stingy.

 

Considering escort rates have not gone up with inflation over the past 10 years or so, Paying a bit more for an Uber is not too much to ask for.

 

Stingy? Don't charge more for outcalls and I'll pay for your travel. What's the purpose of the higher outcall rate? I'm all about compensating a companion for his services, but don't treat me like an ATM.

[+ RJD]

If a client wants someone ASAP and it's late at night he should pay for the Uber or even better Ubering the guy to him.

 

If a provider is making himself available and charging extra for the outcall, the time of day (or night) is irrelevant. If I'm paying extra for the outcall the provider can cover the travel.

[+ azdr0710]

Higher outcall rate, one could argue, is to only cover the extra time the provider spends getting to and from the meeting place, not transport costs.

 

The client is only paying for the provider's time, remember!!

[seattlebottom]

I always assumed that transportation expenses was the cost of doing business.

[MrMattBig]

ATL and other US metro areas might be affected by what's going on here in Vegas, Pandemic emergency declarations affecting ability to surge price and therefore affecting how many drivers are going to elect to drive and be available. Currently, if I can't get a ride from a friend back home from a late night outcall, i most likely won't accept the appointment, because I'll encounter the same experience of struggling to get a ride from ride share. So yes, time of day, and availability of public transport do matter (most services still have limited time schedules) @RJD . All this to say I'm one that takes public transportation everywhere unless for groceries, heavy luggage, or tight time schedule. However, I agree with @marylander1940 "If a client wants someone ASAP and it's late at night he should pay for the Uber or even better Ubering the guy to him."

I have someone who periodically hits me up when I'm in Socal who wants an outcall but by public transportation is effectively 2.5 hours away. Even if I'm slow, it's just not possible to go to him and come back for the one incall I'll have later at my location or get to him within his window of availability, which is usually early or short notice.

If someone wants short notice or ASAP outcall, which seems to be the majority of initial inquires at least, it should be the going gesture to offer to Uber/Lyft the provider there.

 

Either way, local transportation is still Covid affected, by limited time schedules and ride share issues, so both clients and providers I would hope have more patience and flexibility during these times still.

[newhudson]

If you can’t afford to give up an extra 20 or so to get that escort to you stress free, then you shouldn’t be hiring in the first place.

[marylander1940]

If you can’t afford to give up an extra 20 or so to get that escort to you stress free, then you shouldn’t be hiring in the first place.

 

Bingo! we're already hiring $!

 

An extra 20 (now that technology allows us) won't break the bank even if to those who hire weekly!

 

 

Wow. some of you guys are very stingy.

 

Considering escort rates have not gone up with inflation over the past 10 years or so, Paying a bit more for an Uber is not too much to ask for.

 

More like stubborn...

 

Sometimes I wonder if some folks are just jealous they didn't have Grindr, internet, legal sodomy, gay marriage, etc. growing up? Is like a love/hate relationship with young men and their lifestyle.

[HoleTrainer]

Asking a client to pay for transportation fees is normal if they are outside the scope of what is built into an escort's business model. For example, most of my business is incall at my place in SF, which is in the leather district, or outcall to clients who live within 20 minutes or less from me by car. I do charge an extra 100 for Outcall to cover my travel time and expense when I go to a client's place, because my Incall rate doesn't factor in that time or expense. But let's say that a client asks me to do an Outcall to a place that's 45-55 minutes away from me by car. Suddenly my $100 Outcall fee doesn't really feel like it covers almost 2 hours of travel time in addition to the appointment plus the cost of the Uber anymore. I'm definitely going to ask the client to pay for my transportation if they want me to travel that far to visit them. This "business model" factor is obviously going to be subjective to every escort, but it's nothing to take personally or get offended about if someone asks you to cover transportation costs. It only means that this additional cost hasn't been factored into their pricing structure already.

 

Besides this, if this is a client I have *never* met before and have no way of verifying as real/serious, it's very difficult to justify spending so much time and money out of my pocket to go find out. Frankly, most of us who have been escorting for more than a few months or years have had clients send us on wild goose chases to appointments that didn't exist. You only do that once or a few times before you become skeptical of traveling far for someone who you don't know. Asking a client to book an uber is a good guarantee that the appointment on the other end is likely real. Bored guys making fake appointments with escorts to entertain themselves aren't going to invest any money into their prank. And clients who agree to send an uber tend to be respectful, considerate clients who value my service. Some clients even enjoy sending ubers because at least that way they know the escort is going to show up, and exactly when!

 

There was definitely a time when I was less likely to ask for uber fare. Back when uber was really cheap and it was easier to eat the cost in my Outcall fee. Back when public transportation didn't feel like a petri dish for infectious diseases. But we're not living in those times.

 

These days I've started asking most NEW clients who want Outcall to book my Uber/Lyft or send an advance deposit. But I generally also tell them that if they plan to repeat with me that I will handle my own transportation in the future, since we will already know each other. I generally prefer to arrange my own transportation anyway and the entire reason I ever ask anyone to book it for me is purely as a test to ensure that I am not being sent on a wild goose chase with a new/unknown client.

[Guest davebk]

My issue with sending an Uber is that I want anonymity, and don't want to link the hiring to my personal info. So I avoid the Uber thing but, depending on the exchange, will often offer to add a sum to the rate. I see that Outcall rates were higher to cover transportation costs, but I now think the outcall rate is more about the time the escort takes to go back and forth.

[Skip]

This sure is a cheap crowd. Treat a guy right and they will usually treat you right. Yes, there are exceptions and prima donnas but a lot of these guys are just working for the money, either to get over a rough spot, supplement their income from a low paying job or getting through school. Sending cash for an Uber.. could be a scam but sending an Uber from your account, that's like one of the posts, separating the flakes from the real customers. Before the pandemic I had an apartment in NYC for weekends. I walked a lot, I used Uber a lot, I NEVER took the subway. Treat these guys right and they will treat you right. Treat them like sleazy low lifes and they will live up to your expectations every time.

[+ RJD]

This sure is a cheap crowd. Treat a guy right and they will usually treat you right. Yes, there are exceptions and prima donnas but a lot of these guys are just working for the money, either to get over a rough spot, supplement their income from a low paying job or getting through school. Sending cash for an Uber.. could be a scam but sending an Uber from your account, that's like one of the posts, separating the flakes from the real customers. Before the pandemic I had an apartment in NYC for weekends. I walked a lot, I used Uber a lot, I NEVER took the subway. Treat these guys right and they will treat you right. Treat them like sleazy low lifes and they will live up to your expectations every time.

 

I don’t consider paying a guy $300+ for an hour of his time as treating him like a lowlife or being cheap. And let’s be honest, there are millions of people out there working for their money, getting over rough spots, supplementing income of a lower paying job, and getting through school. None of them get paid that rate for their time, nor do they have their transportation paid for them getting to and from that second job to supplement their income.

 

Now, if you’re hiring someone who isn’t local, he should absolutely be compensated for his travel, but I’m not paying someone a higher outcall rate plus their transportation if he’s a half hour away. Last year, I hired a California provider for a weekend, bought his airline ticket, and flew him to me. I see a NY provider regularly and pay his transportation costs to me. That’s understandable and expected. My daily transportation costs for my job are on me. If I need to travel for work, I expense the travel to my employer.

 

I find it interesting that providers want clients to understand they’re running a business and want it to be treated as such, until, for some, treating it like a business isn’t advantageous to them.

[marylander1940]

This sure is a cheap crowd. Treat a guy right and they will usually treat you right. Yes, there are exceptions and prima donnas but a lot of these guys are just working for the money, either to get over a rough spot, supplement their income from a low paying job or getting through school.

 

Yes, some might do it for those reasons but others do it as a career for years and just love it!

 

Sending cash for an Uber.. could be a scam but sending an Uber from your account, that's like one of the posts, separating the flakes from the real customers. Before the pandemic I had an apartment in NYC for weekends. I walked a lot, I used Uber a lot, I NEVER took the subway. Treat these guys right and they will treat you right. Treat them like sleazy low lifes and they will live up to your expectations every time.

 

I couldn't agree more with treating others right up front specially if we want them to make it look like a real date.

[D21howie]

I have paid uber fees for my clients. I had paid for plane tickets for my clients.

[+ FrankR]

It really depends on the facts and circumstances. It also depends on how you ask. If you come across like an entitled brat - then no. If you ask politely and you're not 50 miles away - the answer is probably yes. I am more likely to agree to an ride at night than I am to agree to one during the day. ?