Njguy2

Perhaps looking at this routinely beaten dead horse discussion this way will help put things into perspective:
Like gridlocked political parties, you're probably not going to sway the other side with your point of view.
So...  Why waste your energy?  
You keep doing whatever works for you.  Don't try to control what other people do or don't do.
If you can follow these rules, life becomes so much easier.

^Thank you for the sarcasm 😊
Anyone that has ever lived with one or more roommates understands the natural limitations on hosting incalls.
I have had few problems seeing Spanish only clients and I only know words and phrases. I wonder how this is so different the other way around. We have translator apps and such which can get the basic messages across. 
Regarding rates, it’s a matter of what they are delivering. Seems irrelevant that they are from a different place or have limited English skills. If the guy is good, pay him what he is worth. Should you be unwilling to try a provider lacking reviews here or elsewhere, move on to the tried and true guys you know will deliver. 

Jesus christ, the sturm und drang on this thread.
Pay a deposit, don't pay a deposit...  It's your personal call.  You do you.  Whatever makes you comfortable.
These posts- pro or con- aren't going to change the entire industry.  Yet we keep on mastrubating.
 

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I've known someone who went through this.  The scarring on his legs was awful.  He said the pain was immense and that his surgeon said a lot of the people who go through this end up with pain pill addictions.  
Height is one of those born-with things I'm very, very thankful for.  It's served me well.
I'd agree in this instance that just because you can doesn't mean you should.
 
 

In my experience, that is just all across the entire gay universe, not just in this industry. Dismissive, undecided, full-of-it assholes are found everywhere in any industry that is service oriented. What I'd suggest is that is a person has wasted your time in the past, don't continue wasting your time entertaining him or trying to make a point. There's absolutely no gain on your part by doing that. Personally, I don't have to have the last word in every interaction. I can ghost, ignore and move on without having to explain things to people.
That same thing happens in dating and trying to meet people online. For example, last year I met a person online who was going to coincide with me in Barcelona. I proposed to meet and share a drink at a bar. I thought it will be great to meet a friend in person during vacation. We agreed on a date/time/place to do that (he actually suggested the place). The time was 10pm. I showed up at 10, he was nowhere to be found. I still had a great time, I shared with other people I met right there. Left the place about an hour later. The next day (get this), he told me that he was there at 8pm and left at 9pm, and went back to the place at 11:30pm. I'm sure he's a grown up man, so I don't have to explain to him what 10pm means or how time works. I just moved on. When he saw no reply from me, a day or two later, he sent me another message wishing me a good trip. Who knows what was going through his mind that he decided to purposely stand me up like that. Don't know, don't care, the important part is not to waste time entertaining people's games.
Another time was some guy I was dating way back when. I had something to do on a Saturday at 2pm. I told him that we can talk before 2pm or after 4pm, that I wasn't available between 2pm-4pm. That was before the popularity of mobile devices, so I had an answering maching at home. When I came back home at 4pm, there were about ten messages from him, getting nastier as they progressed, and they were all left between 2pm and 4pm. That last of those messages said things like "Why are you doing this to me?" Again, I didn't waste time entertainning nonsense. I was done with him right then and there.
Our word and your time are valuable. I personally do not get involved in arguments over other people's nonsense. Not having the last word is not as important as my own wellbeing or my valuable time.

Ha. Exactly.  When I buy bread I don’t think, gee, I should pay more because they had to build an oven. That implicit in the price. 

My doctor must rent an office and pay a staff. Should I tip him?  No: He charges for that in his fee. And so does your masseur. 
But, again, it’s your money. Give as much of it away as you like.   

holy cow, this is nothing new!!.....I don't know why the OP is so miffed!.......supply-and-demand......Econ 101........charge what the market will bear........consumers have a choice!

If someone is willing to suck your dick or take it up the . . . they can ask whatever price they want. Some will pay. Some will not. The market will decide. It’s clinical.  

I agree with others on wrapping up and getting out of there. Good on you for writing a review.
It sounds like the OP scenario was for an escort. The following is in response to @KensingtonHomo’s comment regarding masseurs.
Regarding the BJ, it’s perfectly reasonable for anyone to charge you for sex work (and that is what it is). It doesn’t matter who is giving or receiving. It’s all the same.
Massage has an appropriate rate for it depending on your local market. If we had no boundaries on what we will do for a massage fee, every massage would essentially be underpriced sex work, or overpriced massage. We certainly have the latter available with the $200+/hr massage guys all over. The former you will find masseurs not charging extra but being picky about what they do with whom.
If you don’t want them to be picky, pay for the services you want. If what he quotes you is too much, pass. Don’t expect a masseur to give it all away for free to anyone who asks…for a reasonable massage fee. When he does, be a gracious client and tip him generously.
Giving the option for extras, in my book, is fine. Nobody is begging you to suck their dick as if you’re doing them a big favor. The service is about YOU and making YOU happy, whatever it looks like for YOU.
Big caveat here. Upselling is unprofessional. If you (client) are asking for extras and the masseur quotes you, no harm done. He has every right to say no or offer additional services for a fee. If he suggests or offers without any indication from you that you want extras, take it as a sign of unprofessional behavior and move on to better providers. Find them right here on CoM.

In a heartbeat......
However, acrobatics were not part of Bozo's regular circus routine. Bozo's specialties were seltzer-shpritzing and dwarf tossing.
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Maybe it’s a spa with 28 men 

Your reply is very kind, heartfelt, and empathetic, but I don't believe the OP is the one who is mentioned in the story.  There is a link to the story at the bottom of his post to a NY Post article, and that has the name of the article's author. 

Never forget that just because you cannot afford it or are unwilling to pay it doesn't mean someone else won't.
There is indeed a hammer for every nail.
The public pearl-clutching over rates, by some, is amusing.  

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You mean the Lexus NX350h.
First, use the industry Black Book (not Blue Book) to see what a dealer has paid for the car wholesale.  That's where you start negotiations.
Don't let a salesperson know too much, too quickly- They'll ask if you're leasing, financing or a cash buyer.  Don't set this in stone until you get a price you agree with. 
Never buy the first visit to the dealer.
Always be prepared to get up and walk out.
And if you walk out, make sure you leave with the salesperson's final price quote on the car (drive-out price) and that he has your phone number.
End of the month is always better to buy than early or mid.
Bottom line, you don't really negotiate.  You wait them out until they hit the (realistic) number you want.  If the model isn't a massive seller, you're more likely to win playing the long game if you can stand it.
Note:  Don't try this with a Porsche.  I learned that the hard way.

I’ve learned that you need to set boundaries doing this work. It’s easy, and tempting to take clients at any time, even changing your plans to accommodate a client.
Unfortunately that’s a recipe for dissatisfaction because you fail to make time for important things. Keeping fit is an important part of the job, just as making time for yourself. It’s not a 9 to 5 job (thankfully) but that doesn’t mean you work anytime 7 days a week.
I carve out time to go to gym, see friends etc and I generally won’t cancel those things to see a client, especially if it’s a short notice booking, which a lot are. 

I get where you’re coming from, but off the top of my head…
Guys who are serious about the gym often like strict routines. It’s how they achieve amazing results. Some even see the gym as a job, it’s part of the work that enables them to be successful in everything else, including escorting. 
Maybe he has a trainer booked and can’t reschedule every time a possible client expresses interest. 
 
Or he has enough clients already, so doesn’t need to upset his routine to take an extra one. Not everyone wants to maximize.
 

Is this a question or a complaint?

Am I overinflating its use?

I enjoyed Down Low. Not an Oscar film, and it doesn’t red to be. It’s a fun ride without having to appeal to everyone. Dark, irreverent, bitingly funny, and full of heart at the same time.
Zachary Quinto plays the repressed younger-middle aged man perfectly. And who doesn’t enjoy more screen time with him ❤️?! His character reminds me of some of my clients.
Lukas Gage brought so much comedy. I really enjoy when a film takes me past what situations I think the characters can get out of, and then goes even further, such that I am forced to suspend my disbelief and sense of realism and embrace the comedy for what it is, and the richness of the characters moreso than the plot or any sense of realism.

For me, the decision was made for me last year, when my mother decided to move from Portland to Coeur d'Alene ID- an EV would require a recharge for the 450-mile trip, while a hybrid could do that in just one tank of fuel. So, my next car is gonna be, instead of a Ford Mustang Mach-e, a Maverick hybrid pickup. Sure, not nearly as much fun, but the 43MPG is a compelling argument- even with the low electricity prices here in the Northwest.

On a typical vacation trip here in the west, it is not unusual for me to drive 350-400 miles in a day, so range anxiety is definitely an issue for me, especially since I'm unlikely to know much about the charging stations where I am headed each day.

I do not play a doctor on TV but I am one in real life..   If you want to be totally safe, continue to be abstinent.  If you want to be as safe as you can reasonably expect to be, start Prep for at least two weeks and be faithful about taking it.  Do not start it until you are sure you are going to proceed as there is no reason to subject yourself to potential side effects if you are not committed.  
As to finding a man, go to RentMen and go to the listings for your area or the largest area within a reasonable travel for a weekend.  Look at each of the photos and read the comments.  Once you have narrowed down the field, come here with a list and ask for recommendation.  I suggest looking at all the ads as you never know what might strike your fancy and if you use the checklist, that man may have been passed over. 
As to the event itself, the first time I met with a man, my story was very similar to yours.  It is not a unique tale, n fact, it is common enough to be considered mundane.  So once, I got to the hotel and the escort arrived,. it took a bit of encouragement to start to do anything and once I got started it took all the willpower I had to stop.  Did not get to anal on my first encounter, nor my second encounter, which took place the next night nor my third encounter, which came two days later.  I then arranged an overnight while I was away on a trip and I finally had the time and was relaxed enough to try anal, as a top.   Many many men later, I decided to try bottoming and found it was not for me.  It took about 5 encounters to even get to the point where I was actually entered.  Word to the wise, do not become inpatient and just blurt out "just push the fucking thing in". I got what I requested but not what I wanted when I did that.      
You may have very specific requirements for the men you want to see at this time, but that will change and broaden as time goes by.  So consider being a bit less specific about what the man looks like and more about what kind of person he is.  For most of us here, the intellectual connection more than compensates for any perceive physical traits that the person may be missing from you checklist.  
My best advice, as opposed to Curious ByNature, do not wait for the perfect man and the perfect time or you may find that there is no perfect man nor perfect time.  But once you start to appreciate and accept your desires, almost any time can be the perfect time and you just need to allow your partner to be the perfect man.  If not, move on to the next one.  

I blacked out midway through the op. 
Does anyone have a Cliff's Notes version available?
But seriously... This is the emailed information you send to the escort. Keep being specific and see what/who you end up with.
Trial & error means you're going to have to learn to take the good with the bad. 
And stop focusing on trying to prove your sexual partner is on PrEP. You're a big boy: It's on YOU to take care of you.
 
Best of luck 👍