Nightowl

I prefer a man with a fedora…

My first hire was a masseur I found on Masseurfinder. I had no idea what a “gay” massage was but I took the chance and set up an appointment with the hope of finding out. When the day arrived I nervously drove 40 minutes to his home, where he greeted me warmly at the door and led me back to his massage room. I’d had many massages at spas and hotels in the past but I knew this was going to be different when he instructed me to undress but didn’t leave the room, just watched me strip down. There was no draping offered so I lay on the table, fully exposed, and he proceeded to give me one of the best massages I have ever had. I wasn’t sure what to expect but was hopeful that it wouldn’t be strictly therapeutic. It wasn’t. His hands explored areas that are usually off-limits and when I turned over, obviously aroused, he gave me the first happy ending I’d ever had from a man. I remember that, as things progressed, his shorts disappeared and I felt his erection near my hand. At that point, I just fondled what I could reach and explored areas within reach. Over the course of several years, oral and MT became the norm. I probably visited him a dozen times and each time was incredible. Unfortunately, he is no longer working but I’ll always remember him as the one who got me hooked on erotic massage and gay sexual exploration.

If you only want to receive oral, who cares that you’re a top?

Although a lot of the discussions on CoM aren’t exactly general…

Shaved balls and shaft, and a trimmed bush are fine. Totally bald—ugh—too much like a child.

I thought that looked like Massachusetts

I’d add totally shaved pubes and a Prince Albert to that list.

Welcome! I’ve learned a lot from the guys on this forum. Some of it’s even useful!

I’ll be in York in a few months and would like to see someone while I’m there. Can you share any details about your session? If you’d prefer, DM would be fine.

I use my own first name and my real phone number, and truthfully answer any questions they may have of me. I’ve noticed, though, that most providers don’t ask me much, either because they’re not interested or are being discreet. Like you, everyone I have hired has been a decent person and I’ve never regretted sharing information about my personal life. I sometimes wish they were more interested in me as a person but I understand why they are keeping distance between us. I don’t usually share much until we’ve met a few times and built up a level of trust, but once that is there I am fairly open. When they start to open up, particularly if they bring me into their home, I share freely.

If you told him you weren’t feeling well enough to work, that should have been enough. If he doesn’t care about his own health he should still respect that you care about yours.

You did the right thing. You could also have told him you felt like shit and didn’t want to work.

half teaspoon of raw sugar, splash of heavy cream.

His RM profile is gone.

Doesn’t surprise me at all.

Men are turned on by woman-on-woman action but women of the wife variety are not turned on by man-on-man action. Definitely a double standard.

Do your research. Check his reviews, ask guys here on CoM to see what they know, find out whatever you can about him. Maybe you found a hot newbie who’s just entering the business and doesn’t know how to set his prices. And if you end up hiring him and it’s a good experience, share the details with the rest of us!

Did that a year ago. Not gonna waste my time again.

Ageism is alive and well here on CoM. I complained about it over a year ago but was ignored.

I had the same experience. He asked no questions and required no explanations. All I had to do was request it. My age was enough for him.

He’s worth it.

The first time I hired a masseur for a sensual massage I didn’t know the rules and let my hands explore whatever parts of his body were in reach. I apologized later on for being grabby and he said he would be insulted if clients *didn’t* fondle him. I didn’t take it as license to grope anyone else but it certainly put me at ease with that particular masseur.

You could try Hims.

Skill is the driver for me. Young, old, it makes no difference to me if he knows what he’s doing. My arousal comes from what he does, not what he looks like.

Weekdays, midday.