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Never tried Instagram, but you can connect it to Messenger. In messenger, the rules are more relaxed, so you might be able to reach out to that person (if he's in Messenger too, of course). That's all I can think of.

Nothing really glamourous or charming. My story of my first hire involves admitting now that I have been hiring for quite some time, dating back to the 90s. Back then I didn't know it as "hiring", but I'm not sure what was my line of reasoning. I used to hang out at a cruising area downtown my town. I made good friends there. I was young, not dumb, but full of cum. As such, there were men who offered me money to get in their cars, which I rejected (and I made some of them feel like shit for offering me money, as if doing it for free was some kind of badge of honor). Then one day I found myself cruising and hooked up with this guy who looked hot. We had sex in my car, and then he asked me for "money for a haricut and to help my mom". I gave him money, but I didn't see that as a "hire". Later talking to my friends in the cruising area, I learned that he was a street hustler. Later I did get together with one or two of those men that I saw around that area, more knowingly about that there will be money involved. The end.

The issue with that is who is supposed to determine that, and how, exactly? What is exactly what makes people "not allowed to be seeing" nude? Personally I accept that not everything that I see in this world is going to be to my liking, but I don't think that I am in the position of questioning the existence or rights to do/be of whoever I don't like. I have been to nude beaches and I have no problem with people who I don't find attractive being there having fun. I just mind my own business. What should it be my business to advocate for not allowing them in the place? I also know that I'm noe exactly great to look at by some people, while others cannot get their eyes off me. So should they a "I like to look at these people only" section, based on one person't particular taste and idea of what nudism is supposed to be? How will that work? In fact, isn't nudism promoting the exact opposite of discrimintaing on the bases of what some people find adequate to look at? That is, not to mention that nudism does not equate sex. Just my thoughts.

Maybe because Gay Pride (now "Pride") has become a Disney parade and we are now an afterthough?

I'm not a provider, so I am not going to comment on anything regarding their side of the event. I have had excellent experiences with providers and non-providers, where I didn't cum and I was perfectly fine with it. Of course, the climax part is good, but not necessary. I don't think I care much for the provider coming. Just my reality

Trust your inctinct. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. There are some escorts who offer the "boyfriend experience", which I've never personally have had, so I am not going to comment on what that feels. However, based on what I have heard from others, seems like to some escorts, that situation is exactly what the boyfriend experience is supposed to be. To others is more intimate, meaning that the escort treats the client as his boyfriend in an intimate, not social, setting. My only concern is that I find hard to believe that the request is going to be a one-time thing. High chances are that lies have to be maintained, especially those presented in social settings where people are constrantly judging and inquiring. That might mean that, though on your end that might become a good cash cow, it will also mean getting sucked into somebody's deceitful social practices, which might involve escalation of what he might expect of you as his "date/boyfriend". On the client end, I have witnessed clients getting sucked into that boyfriend fantasy to the point that they have themselves and a lot of money, not ending well for either party. You (or your financial needs) decide your level of comfort with that, and you decide if that works for you short and long term. Based on how you seem to be doing, seems like you can afford the luxury of choosing your clients. Be well, and welcome back.

I see that it's in the best interest of both to have flexibility within reason, especially due to last-minute unforeseen events. Sometimes one of the parties can't be flexible, but when it's possible, I have no problem rescheduling or seeing the provider at a later time. I figure that forcing the provider to be on time when he has an emergency will harm the overall experience. Again, within reason, and what that means is up to each person to define. If it's a habitual thing, then it's a problem. However, I think that there shouldn't be any difference between any of the parties. The provider risks losing money, so I imagine if he has to cancel for a legitimate reason (not because he can book a more expensive client at that time), then it's reasonable to understand that things can happen that can affect the schedule.

I'm not completely sure what you or him mean by "the language of love". Sounds like an euphemism for horniness taking over, which might mean that certain previously established boundaries might be crossed out of excitement. At least that's how I interpret it. Hence, the questions. Just my thoughts.

I agree that there are differences, but at the end, even with those differences, bottom line the client does not get what he expected was paying for. I think that the most important thing is the unsatisfactory experience. I do not pay up-front, period, even when I'm a return client. So far, it has worked for me, and yes, the one or two times I paid up-front I got ripped off.

They come from a camera, or Photoshop (or similar) software, or AI-generated. Smart remarks aside, I think they are combination of all. I once worked creating websites for dominatrices, and I did some of the photoshoots myself. Some were screenshots from recordings, and some were a combination, enhanced in Photoshop. Yes, there are guys who don't seem to care, and in my opinion, that's how it should be. Besides, it's no different than people who voluntariliy post their nude pics online, and they do it for free and for fun. Some people are the ones who make a big deal out of displaying our bodies, which is how we are in nature. About pornographic, sexual images depicting sexual acts, same thing. Sex is as part of the human experience as everything else.

You should not be embarsassed, IMO. Did you display any discomfort? If yes, then the masseur should have asked the second time if it's ok. I look at it this way: Precum is as natural of a body process as it is farting, and I'm sure that the masseur might prefer wiping precum than smelling farts. I had a masseur who did that, but in his case, I think he did it because he wanted to touch my penis. The reason why I can confidently state that is that I don't precum; there was nothing threre to wipe. I didn't feel violated, and I actually felt good to be liked, and he didn't try anything else after. I wanted a therapeutic-only massage that day, and in all honesty, he looked good, but I wasn't attracted or interested in him. So yes, it can be a hint to let you know that he's willing to offer more, but it can also be just part of the process. If you want to see him again, will you feel comfortable inquiring about it, maybe expressing how you felt? I don't see much wrong with talking about it in a provate session.

I agree with this. Especially this being an unrecognized (legally speaking) profession. I've heard of Mr. Number that uses the phone number that the client uses as the means for client identification. I believe that the proper use of that type of communication can be useful for providers in terms of personal safety. That is, if/when used ethically. One of my providers mentioned that he knows of more than one provider who have posted negative information about a client in an attempt at keeping them, so they don't go to other providers (shady bitch!). So the same issue that we have with review of providers might exist in review sites for clients. All we all can do (IMO) is reduce risk as much as possible. No tool is going to be immune to being misused and exploited. Just my thoughts.

It's not an evolution. I reject the new flag altogether. It's company and marketing based, doesn't make sense at all, and above everything, it does not represent me. End of the story for me.

Thank you for your replies. Didn't know. I'll try the suggestions. The masseur was great in every aspect of the event and he deserves a stellar review. That policy makes it difficult for the provider to receive a review, and especially makes it difficult for the client to give a bad review since trying to contact the bad masseur after the fact might not be an easy task.

Is there a new policy from the rentmasseur website that one has to communicate with the provider via their site in order for them to accept a review? I reviewed a masseur I hired last night and my review was rejected, and the reason it stated is "No communication between masseur and client via RentMasseur". First time I see this. Did I miss a change in policy? I haven't used that website in a while.

Foreign Terrorist Organizations? Well, I'm glad for the warning, but let's not forget that in the USA we now have this history of Americans opening fire in public, shooting strangers. It's a little bit of a presumptuous assumption to issue a warning only around foreign threats. Gay Pride in my town got disbanded and since then there have been attempts at re-defining and redesigning it, and the result has been having a bunch of kids walking around like an unattended kindergarten. So I have no interest in attending "Pride", the new version of what used to be "Gay Pride", as it's not compelling at all. The larger picture, IMO, is that historically Gay Pride has always come with a high risk of attacks. It's 2024 now and we are not supposed to expect it, but risk has always come with marching, at least that's how it was back then. The commercialized, Disney-fied version of the march that we have today might not make the connection with the risk that involves marching to celebrate us, but those who remember history do know well that risk and threats have always been present. Or have people already forgotten how the whole thing came about in the first place?

I tend to think that not really. The reason for that is that at this point in the political environment where we are, people are just polarized, and what happens is being used to just reinforce what they have already chosen to believe, and act accordingly. So people who hire will continue hiring, people who judge and don't hire out of their beliefs of morality will continue reaffirming their preference in their beliefs and actions. As a client, lately I have been watching what I spend, and that includes hiring, due to inflation. I believe that is a more influential factor that might or might not be related to the current political climate. All business are influenced by the overall economy, some for better, some for worse. Just my thoughts, not law.

I'm so sorry that you have gotten such horrible responses or no responses. Some people are just cruel. Other than that I'm afraid I don't have much more to suggest. I wish I could. Best.

Reliability, veracity of what he puts in his profile around his description, his pictures and the type of things that he offers, location, availability in space and time, a general sense of personality and attitude. Sometimes the provider offer additional information (i.e. additional services for additional charges). No different than when you hire other people for other type of work. I inquire things that pertain to the expected service. There are the universal precautiuons to take in terms of personal safety, but there's the possible added risk to this being an arena that is not necessarily regulated or legal (in some instances, some places, and certain things). Websites, profiles and forums like this have made it a little less risky because of the access to information about providers that we can have available.

In that respect, no. The setup and the behavior of the masseurs I've hired have always followed good hygiene and safety measures. There was only one time when the masseur recommended for me to proceed with the massage even when I mentioned that I was feeling sick, and later here in this forum I learned that it's not recommended to get a massage when you're sick. That has been the only less-than-ideal experience I've had. I never hired that masseur again. Besides, the same applies to pretty much every event where you are in contact with other people's bodies, a great example is dance clubs and bath houses.

I don't think that you are being unreasonable. That policy is. I have seen suggested gratuities, and now those suggestions are starting at 20% (I saw a place suggesting a 30% tip!), as if we are mandated to tip people and they are entitled to demand tips. That's not what tips are for or about. Tips are optional, period. Just because servers depend on tips to make a living doesn't mean that we are obligated to tip. It's not a requirement. I would have placed in a review mentioning that bad policy, or contacted the restaurant directly to complain about that distasteful and pushy policy of trying to force people to tip. Probably you might not be the first person to complain about it.

Looks like it's just a redesign to make it responsive to mobile devices. Not much difference in terms of the interface. It hasn't fixed the issue with sorting. When I choose to sort by distance, and then I choose the type of massage, it leaves the sorting by distance. So nothing new, nothing impressive.

Looks AI-generated, especially the top right one. Never seen that ad, but thanks for sharing. I'll know if I come across it.

You're not hideous (as far as I know 🙂 ). The masseur is an asshole in the way he handled that. I don't believe something spooked him, he might just be the kind of asshole who caters only his own preference instead of being professional and cater the intended public (within reason). If things were the way you posted them, I don't see any bad action on your part. I have known and met many gay men who are that self-centered and careless about what other fellow gay men feel or have to go through, and are quite dismissive in that way. Fortunately, that's not represenatative of the larger provider community. Unfortunately, in the recent years the field has gotten saturated with many people wanting to make money or just have fun and get paid for it, hence, a growth in unprofessional behavior from many providers. Additionally, the concept of "ghosting" has become a thing in recent areas. The same is happening with people looking for work, getting interviews, and at the time of the offer they get ghosted. That seems to be a thing that is common to see in many other industries too. I encourage you to look for another provider. Also, this is the perfect place for you to mention that provider by name and share your bad experience, so others don't have to go through the same unprofessional event. Sorry that happened to you.

The way I see it, it's a combination of chemistry, hygiene and preference. Personally I don't do the exact same thing with different people because of those things. I care about those things and will not do what doesn't feel right, even if in other instances I've enjoyed it. That doesn't mean that I am willing to do everything there is to do out there, but when it comes to certain practices I consider what I crave at the moment in combination with the above-mentioned.