soloyo215

I see the same in the younger generation. It's a sad thing that they seem to think that ones own body is something that should be hidden, or that nudity means sex.

Like with most-to-all of the terminology (aka slang) that we use in this subculture, there isn't a specific definition for it. I have used that terms to characterize providers, with both good and bad connotations, also former and current coworkers, past managers, religious people, contractors, family members, supporters of the political party opposite to my preference, computers, criminals on the news, and media and literature characters. I guess "pig" is some kind of multipurpose term used in different contexts.

I had never gotten a thrill by rejecting or telling people off, although I [definitely] do know how to do it when I feel that the situation merits it. I normally progress from polite no, to a firm no, to NO!, to... depending on the setting. I know that my approach can be, and has been, a problem with predatory men who still seem to think that a polite no is flirting, but soon they find that it's not. I also make sure that my body language matches my words of rejection. I do remember in the early days of social media, I learned about this couple who had in their profile: "We have rejected thousands of requests for friendship and access to our private pictures", as if that's supposed to be some kind of badge of honor. That made me change my profile to include "If you are one of those 'I'll block you if you are this, I'll block you if you like that' kind of people, do me a favor and block me. I have no time for your petty bullshit". Suddenly there were several profiles that "disappeared" (sure I was blocked), but there was also a noticeable increase in friends requests. I never understand that thrill of publicly rejecting people. Not sure I want to understand it either.

I guess it depends on how you word it in your profile. According to the Associated Bodywork & Massage Professionals website, Then they list a link to states and their particular regulations. That makes it illegal for anyone who doesn't meet the state requirements to call themselves a Licensed Massage Therapist. Keyword: licensed. Apparently is OK to just call yourself a Massage Therapist.

Sorry that it happened to you, but glad that you saw right through it. It could have been worse.

[Some] Scammers seem to think that sending pictures like that increase their credibility, where the reality is that it's one of the biggest red flags. Any person in their right mind will never send a picture of his child to a stranger.

I live part-time in NYC, and I have my own personal preferences, but I cannot speak for other new yorkers. I have a space where I can hose in an easy-access part of Manhattan (not midtown), but even with that I prefer to do incall. I have traveled to the other boroughs (except Staten Island) and to Jersey City. When I myself lived outside of NYC (in NJ), I'd still travel to the city, but within the boroughs. Additionally, I'm sure that there are others like me, part-time new yorkers. That's just what works for me. Some people prefer to treat themselves by having everything catered to them, including the provider coming to their place with all the necessary gear. My thoughts are that maybe a first time in NYC might not be as profitable, but if it gives you a clientele that in the future can be more stable, it might be a good investment, but that's a risk. NYC is certainly insanely overpriced (beyond expensive), and I can see how venturing there might not bring you as much profit, but I could easily see it bringing some better profit if you get to establish a clientele there, not an easy task, but not impossible either. I'm also the type of client who doesn't look for only body or porn fame, I do care about chemistry and personality, things that I know have made some providers without a muscular body stand out and get business. And one last thing, I think that people in NYC are quite accustomed to pay more simply because it's NYC, so I can't recommend or tell you that it's OK to raise your rates in NYC, but you wouldn't be the first one to do so (I do not know how good of a business practice that is, though). These are only my thoughts, not sure if they even address your questions. Best wishes.

Can't tell you exactly how, but I have managed to have [extremely] happy endings with masseurs who are bottom. Let them do their job, they know what and how to do things. They find a way for you. After all, they are the ones doing the work.

I have handled that the same way you did. Finishing up myself and pretending I didn't mind by not holding it against him, but still finishing up by myself.

The risk that i have taken in the past is relying on the word of the other person being on PrEp.

There are resources for the homeless, not the best, not great, but beggars should not be choosers (I say "should" because it's USA, after all). However, I wonder if you initiated the conversation with him via a website. If so, he seems to have money to maintain a profile, a phone and a computer to keep it up and running. And I know that there are public computer centers, programs that give technology access to the general public, and some are even in shelters for the homeless. However, to successfully run an escort business online, you need more than that. I know, not because I have been an escort, but because I have managed such technology access programs in the past, so there are constraints, rules, regulations, requisites and control over access and what type is "allowed". That makes me suspicious about the veracity of his reality. I'd be suspicious. Personally, what I'd do is see him in person. I have a very sharp BS detector, so I could determine if he's lying about being homeless and needing $31 for a meal (I know it's New York, but still). Though I agree of those being many of the reasons for homelessness, there are many other factors, and they don't necessarily have to do with the attitude of the homeless person. If that was the case, I should have been homeless for my entire adult life. I wouldn't vilify the homeless person. The "Incompatible with polite company" thing seems to be dictated by the person who has the power over finances and decisions around how the person should be living. Some people are victims, and some people seem to deserve being homeless by their own actions. I think that should be out of scope. Having the financial means to live doesn't entitle people to determine what is and isn't "polite".

Mugs from cities I've visited.

From a NY Urology clinic: From UCSF Medical Center (Q&A pamphlet for patients): It is a risk, it can also be minimal, but they cannot eliminate the possibility of it occurring.

Kind of. I have gay friends, some for decades, but what we have in common is that we're not that much into "the community", if can call it that. What I see in the newer generation of the community is as much hate and discriminatory behavior than the conservative side shows, so to me is quite off-putting. In my experience, many gay men don't feel very comfortable with me due to their judgemental, biased and stereotyping attitudes, not to mention how abrasive I become when they rub me the wrong way. I'm not going to change, and they're not going to change either, hence, I only have a handful of gay friends.

I have made concessions, and I do, but not because of how they do in bed. I might know what they are willing to do as per their profile, but not how they do it until I have already hired. I have hired people outside of my taste in physical attributes, and have gotten great experiences, but sadly, the opposite is true too. I have hired within my preference in physical attributes and have gotten quite disappointed with the overall experience (wrong attitude, wrong approach, unprofessional and bad performance). That said, there are certain things that are a no-no for me. I have a type, but that doesn't mean that I cannot be flexible, or worse, put down or criticize those who don't share my taste. I am open-minded when it comes to what providers have to/can offer.

I got curious and found out that Trimix is a medication that is prescribed in the United States, and like any medication, should be taken as per directed. However, there are risks of Peyronie's disease over time. Each person can make their own decisions, but it's highly recommended to be informed when doing so.

Making a medication that is expected to be available by prescription only (at least in USA) available to a client on request sounds a little dangerous to me. I'm not sure I'd trust taking anything like that in that setting.

I love how people detach from their own poor decisions. "The drugs followed me", "-You were selling drugs at the time", "-I was in the drug industry". He's a piece of self-entitled garbage.

At that height, he's definitely closer to God than me.

I don't think that all providers will have the same reaction. The provider who blocked you (basing this on the premise that your COVID was the reason for doing so) did not do the right thing. He should have thanked you. The same goes for other exposures. There's this rather interesting effect, that directly telling a person about exposure to infections make them reject you, but those are the same who have no problem sticking their tongues in my ass. Not sure why that's the case, but being clear and direct about certain things involving bacteria and viruses has had that rejecting effect. You did the right thing, and in my estimate, most people, not just providers, will be grateful that they got the heads up about exposure to diseases.

I've just said "Welcome to the club. Be safe". I try not to judge (unless that person has been brutally abusive towards gay men), and I understand that people have their own path in life.

I'm around your age, but I'm not "jealous" of the younger guys who now can use PrEp. The community has changes, and the way the newer generation socialize is completely different. One of the most interesting thing that we had in the 70s and 80s was the in-person interaction. Devices with two-dimensional depictions of people, and poorly spelled words accompanied with emojis will never replace the fun that we had back in the day. It has its conveniences, but come at the expense of losing the interpersonal. It's different today, so I personally don't feel any particular way about it.

Considering that he's from one of the most homophobic eras in all of Latin American society, I'd say he managed his gayness really well. Sad how he was tricked into giving all his rights to his low life lawyer. Good that he was able to get them back. I saw the Netflix documentary on him. It was great.

I think it depends on who and the circumstances, as well as the intent. If you are mentioning another provider in a conversation, that's different from revealing details of the provider that might hurt him or his reputation. I avoid talking about other providers, and when I do, I've never given names. Providers, mostly in the massage business, sometimes make recommendations of other providers. I don't care for 4-hand massages, threesomes or things that involve more parties that the one person I hire, so imagine that other providers might be mentioned if there are suggestions or inquiries about those services. In general, when I feel like I want to mention a person, I frame it by first asking questions (general, but related questions) to the provider, and I integrate what I want to say or ask as part of it. That way it doesn't look like there could be an intent.

"Eyes up here, buddy". At least that's what that arrow says to me. Thanks. I'll reach out for details, if you don't mind.