Heronero

One possibility is that they left the glowing review after their first appointment, and then subsequent appointments left the client feeling less than satisfied.  The only reason I raise this as a possibility is that I have had that happen to me but did not leave second, downgraded reviews because (in almost all cases) I couldn't really lay blame for my diminishing satisfaction solely on the providers. 

"ChatGPT, I want you to draw me like one of your French girls"

If the pics are AI generated then 100% profile is scam, I am wondering how these photos passed the verification of RM? I saw some profiles with verified photos but the pics are obviously AI generated or even like a cartoon. For those who don't know, you need to take a camera selfie photo with your name hand-written on a piece of paper for them to validate! 

I'm not sure how I feel about this.  I understand that the provider's time is worth consideration.  And, many a provider has been scammed or had their time wasted.
But, at the same time, the client is dealing with an unknown factor.  When booking an experience, a client doesn't want to end up feeling disappointed.  Many a client has been scammed.  They need to work through to make sure the provider is a good choice.
10 texts... hmmmm...  
I'm not sure how to quantify "serious" in this context.  Does it mean "if the client is booking" or "if the client is considering booking" or "if the client could be persuaded to book"?
I guess everyone has their own opinions.

I’m always serious when I inquire. This statement actually means “don’t contact me unless you will book me regardless.” 

As with so many of these questions there's no right answer and sometimes it’s about a providers preference, which of course should be respected, but the clients question also shouldn’t be seen as offensive.. My red flag is where when the response to such a neutral question results in anger or rudeness rather than a simple answer (I’d prefer no answer to rudeness).

Interesting flip to this.  I generally text asking if they have time today or tomorrow.  I started adding the tomorrow because I've had more than one scoff at same day availability. 
One guy told me he books at least a week if not 2 on advance.  
 
 

To repeat:  two months ago I asked about his rate and his general availability.  That is allowed. 
Assuming the beautiful man is still working, when my finances catch up, I will hire him.   
It's not like I fucking scheduled something and then flaked, or tried to negotiate a different rate, wise-ass.

It depends. A friend of mine did it and he found it led him into the wrong path of meeting people with bad intentions and into doing drugs. We talked about it and he told me he enjoyed the attention and the money but it took a toll on his health because of doing drugs. I helped him stop and now he is clean and has stopped escorting. 
I think it depends on your mental strength and your reasons for going into the work, and of course your age.
My friend was in his 20’s when he started and I think at that age you’re probably not mature enough to make sensible decisions. I started doing sex work when I was older and I think it helps to have some life experience otherwise doing sex work can eat you up. If you’re doing it to boost your self esteem then I think that can end badly because you keep needing a bigger hit if that makes sense. If you’re doing it because you enjoy meeting people and are interested in how they enjoy sex then that’s more likely to be sustainable. 
I’ve had only one bad experience with a client and I learned from that and from speaking with other sex workers about how to read signs and avoid bad situations. If you work professionally, with better quality clients and you keep it as only part of who you are then I think it’s a fabulous job. I love it.
I get to meet interesting people, make them happy, and I don’t have to sit at a desk or answer to a boss. Of course I still kiss ass….but it’s literally rather than metaphorically. Much more fun. 


 

Sometimes clients are a bit naive about rates, so the price comes as a surprise and then they say they can’t afford it. It’s just part of the business, I don’t mind them saying ‘sorry it’s more than I can / want to pay’ as long as they ask the price question early in the conversation. It’s very irritating when you agree a time / date and services etc and he asks ‘how much?’. I’ve assumed he’s read my website and has decided the price is fine…why get so far as to setting a time and the content etc only to decide you can’t afford it? 


 

I agree. I assume the same when providers don’t post rates, like they want the client to engage and then be more likely to book if they are already in a conversation, even if the rate is too high.
There’s nothing wrong with the client asking and saying sorry, I can’t afford it and you both move on. Clients ask questions all the time about stuff clearly posted to the ad. It’s just people being dumb, not reading it. That’s what people do. It’s just part of the biz. Politely respond and move on. Not everyone can afford you.
A few possibilities:
Providers may set rates differently for each client, both for good reasons and bad ones, usually bad.
Providers offer multiple rates for different levels of service and duration. For example, a BDSM session is X, vanilla full service is Y, oral only is Z. Massage or combination massage/escort is another rate. Maybe topping has a different rate than bottoming or vers play. Overnights and weekends may have their own rates. In that case the provider needs to know what the client wants before he can appropriately quote the rate or total fee.
Rate fluctuation based on travel city. Someone in San Francisco may be more likely to pay a higher rate than someone in Kansas City. Sometimes a provider feels this out, sometimes he knows what his rate is in different areas and doesn’t want to give the impression he is a certain rate across the whole country. The better ones maintain a constant rate regardless.

this issue can largely be avoided by posting hourly rates on the various platforms designed for providers.  If a provider makes the choice to use social networking sites that prohibit provider ads, then don’t be surprised by the troublesome “clients” that come through on those platforms
 
not posting rates on RM, masseurfinder, etc is my pet peeve because it forces me to ask the question - and with recent price increases in major cities, it does make a difference in my decisions: $300 is a yes, $500 is a no.  I’m not a rate negotiator, but it seems like smart advertising to state clearly if rates are non-negotiable or if the provider is open to some sort of discount situation such as multiple hours, military, etc   
I feel like small subset of providers avoid posting hourly rates in the hope of engaging the client and then persuading/guilting them into a meeting.
why not just post the rates and make it clear ? I’d also suggest making it clear if the provider can host and a general description of the environment (downtown luxury hotel, etc).  The idea is to answer basic potential client questions and thus, avoid unnecessary interaction w the provider.  

That works for some, but not all private photos. It seems that the advertiser can specify whether he wants premium members to see the photos or whether everyone (including premium members) has to ask for a password.

I think you probably are. You won’t get him to respond to questions like that. He’s focused on your pleasure. Anyone doing this work with any degree of success will be able to give you the impression he’s also enjoying it, to the extent that you wouldn’t be able to tell whether that’s genuine or not. 
Also, one of the main reasons guys do this work is because being hired is a turn on in itself. Simply by you hiring him, and enjoying what he does for you is what gets him going. I know that’s the case for me, if a client is having a great time then that is exciting for me. The more my client is enjoying himself then the more I enjoy it. Clients ask ‘do you like x or y or whatever’ and the answer is ‘if it turns you on to do it then yes I like it’ (within reason of course!). 
So I think you’ll find it futile to ask what he likes, because you won’t get an answer. The best way to feel that he’s enjoying it is to relax and enjoy yourself. You’re the client after all. 
 

 

For starters, providers should answer directly the basics like rates, location, travel, and hosting info. There is no reason to be coy or indirect about those. Bad on them if they won’t send basic info upfront. That’s a sign of an unprofessional or inexperienced provider.
As far as what the provider wants (compensation) or what will get him off, this question isn’t particularly fair to ask. He’s providing a service to YOU, not a service to himself. He may not be into doing a certain thing you want, or maybe he likes it generally but doesn’t enjoy it with you specifically. You don’t want to know this, and he doesn’t want to spoil anything by sharing that fact with you.
It matters not what theoretically will please him. It only matters what he is willing and able to do for you for a specified fee. If he’s good, he will make it seem as if he’s into it regardless of whether he actually is. That’s what you’re paying for. No amount of money will guarantee that he will genuinely be into anything with a certain client. He could make something up to make you feel like you’re scratching his itch, but at the end of the day it’s a coin toss at best whether he will actually genuinely enjoy a certain act with a certain person at a certain place at a certain time.
Since you’re paying for him to do what you’re into and meet YOUR needs, the question is irrelevant. You’re basically asking him to lie or make something up. Sure, he can generally be into a certain thing. If there’s genuine chemistry, all the better, but you can’t guarantee that chemistry occurs by specifying certain acts!
It’s ok to ask “can we do xyz?”. It’s annoying to ask a provider “What are you into?”. Save that for hookups. To successfully hook up, both sides have to genuinely be interested in one another and the activities they discuss. The currency there is reciprocity. Both parties genuinely want to engage. The reward is purely mutual satisfaction.
You’re trying to apply these same principles and logic from a hookup to a paid service. The incentive for your provider is compensation. Period. Not mutual satisfaction. If there happens to be some mutual satisfaction, it’s a bonus. At the end of the day, the provider is concerned with meeting YOUR needs and getting compensated appropriately for doing so. To pretend like he is doing this because he wants to on his own free time is an illusion.
The relationship is inherently one-sided. You can keep asking the “what are you into?” questions, but you’re asking him to bullshit you. I recommend focusing on your needs and not trying to manufacture imaginary reciprocal desires. His needs are compensation, plain and simple. If you can hold up your end of the agreement, the rest is irrelevant. Let him do his job by meeting your needs and making it seem as though he’s into it regardless. It’s your responsibility to engage the fantasy. Suspend your disbelief, as it were. He can’t do that for you. He can only put on a good show for your entertainment. That’s what you’re paying for.

Okay cool. Thank you!

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Not trying to be difficult but I am puzzled by your post.  
Isn't making a deposit (money paid in advance of a meeting) equal to paying upfront?  
In both cases, the provider has your money prior to the two of you getting together.  

I guess I'm slime🤷🏻‍♂️

It is funny how the creator of this debate invites people to be specific, "love it if you called them out and posted who it was' and yet he was very ambiguous about his horror stories. 

Look again. His rentmen profile states HIV negative. (Not that you should believe everything you read in profiles)